https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-it-a-faux-pas-to-wear-same-mog-dress-to-two-- Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 24 Apr 2026 09:11:07 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-it-a-faux-pas-to-wear-same-mog-dress-to-two--#post-1262882 Wed, 28 May 2014 06:04:13 +0000 Parsley 1262882@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think that the idea of a wedding as a production and spectacle rather than the celebration of a marriage&nbsp;&nbsp;has gotten way out of control, and the emphasis on the colors, and everybody matching approaches ridiculous at times.</p> <p>Maybe I'm just a practical type. When I got married, my best friend had recently been in her sister's wedding, so she already had a bridesmaid's dress. It wasn't what I would have chosen, but to save her from buying another dress I just had my other attendant, my&nbsp;sister, get the same dress. It just didn't matter that much!</p> <p>But obviously for a lot of people everything surrounding weddings is a hot button issue, and it's nice to be sensitive to others' feelings.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-it-a-faux-pas-to-wear-same-mog-dress-to-two--#post-1262871 Wed, 28 May 2014 05:45:14 +0000 jennifer 1262871@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Often weddings have different colors and locations . It really may not be appropriate.<br /> Example Bride #1 chooses jewel tones ,tuxes and a evening church wedding. Bride #2 chooses a destination beach wedding ( daytime) or a afternoon garden wedding. What might be appropriate one time of year ( satin,heavy silk evening length) might be inappropriate or a misery to re-wear in another situation,no matter how lovely the dress . I think the portrait situation is pertinent too ,I don't think I'd want my mom in the same dress she wore at my brother's wedding ( especially since it didn't last). That's something else to consider - if you wear the same dress to both weddings and one stays together and the other splits or is bereaved ,then the pictures of the groom's mom with other guests will be similar and could be painful to the one who divorced/ bereaved. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-it-a-faux-pas-to-wear-same-mog-dress-to-two--#post-1262787 Wed, 28 May 2014 04:06:40 +0000 anne 1262787@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't know if it is a faux pas, but if she can afford it - I'd go for different dresses. This is a response based on my feelings not any logic though! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-it-a-faux-pas-to-wear-same-mog-dress-to-two--#post-1262596 Wed, 28 May 2014 00:36:29 +0000 rabbit 1262596@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Here's a completely crazy thought. &nbsp;Have the dress professionally dyed to another color (assuming it's not dark). &nbsp;There are various places you can send a dress to in order to have that done, and there are usually quite a few formal examples on their websites.</p> <p>Personally I'm in Claudia's camp, and find the cost of weddings really hard to comprehend in general -- I went the thrifted vintage&nbsp;route with my own wedding dress and my husband's duds, don't remember what my mom wore.</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-it-a-faux-pas-to-wear-same-mog-dress-to-two--#post-1262447 Tue, 27 May 2014 22:36:23 +0000 Echo 1262447@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Except the photos are often side by side, either in the mum's album or on the mum's wall. Additionally, while this might not seem entirely rational, I wonder if one son might feel slighted that the mum wore something new to the previous wedding but not to his.&nbsp;</p> <p>I'm not sure it is an etiquette issue, but still, two weddings for one's own children might be occasion enough to buy two dresses. It IS all about the bride and groom, and they may or may not feel it would be important for her to wear something different, but they would surely never TELL her that if she asked. Overall, I think it just avoids more issues to wear something different.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-it-a-faux-pas-to-wear-same-mog-dress-to-two--#post-1262437 Tue, 27 May 2014 22:27:45 +0000 Angie 1262437@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm not sure. It depends on what her&nbsp;kids say. </p> <p>I would have wanted my Mum to wear something different to my wedding - and she did.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-it-a-faux-pas-to-wear-same-mog-dress-to-two--#post-1262432 Tue, 27 May 2014 22:21:42 +0000 JAileen 1262432@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My brother got married about three months after I did (in the early 80s). My mother wore the same dress to both of our weddings. It was a really beautiful and expensive dress and looked lovely on her. No one thought she should have done otherwise. In pictures it's easy to tell the weddings apart because the brides and grooms are different people! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-it-a-faux-pas-to-wear-same-mog-dress-to-two--#post-1262332 Tue, 27 May 2014 20:33:27 +0000 Parsley 1262332@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Not only do I not think it's a faux pas, I think it's a sensible and very reasonable thing to do. Personally I would be thrilled to have a chance to wear my beautiful dress a second time! What a waste it is to only wear a nice dress once!<br /> (Now if you were the bride and we were talking about re-wearing your wedding dress for a subsequent marriage that would be another story!) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-it-a-faux-pas-to-wear-same-mog-dress-to-two--#post-1262325 Tue, 27 May 2014 20:24:59 +0000 texstyle 1262325@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't think it's a big&nbsp;faux pas. I would probably try to style them differently and I guess I wonder about the color (sometimes MOG tries to match a color in the wedding), but otherwise, I'm not sure it would matter all that much to anyone else,&nbsp;or if anyone would even really notice with so much time between them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-it-a-faux-pas-to-wear-same-mog-dress-to-two--#post-1262322 Tue, 27 May 2014 20:21:27 +0000 Zibbets 1262322@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with Claudia. The pictures will rarely, if ever, be side by side.&nbsp;Nobody is going to open up the two albums and compare.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-it-a-faux-pas-to-wear-same-mog-dress-to-two--#post-1262319 Tue, 27 May 2014 20:16:36 +0000 Claudia 1262319@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>To me, there is something admirable, refreshing,&nbsp;and completely lacking in affectation about her thinking of&nbsp;wearing the same great dress to both son's weddings. What difference does it make if it appears&nbsp;in two different photo albums, really? She has a gorgeous MOG dress that she may never have another opportunity to wear any place else, which is sort of sad and wasteful when you come right down to it. So why not? If anyone from son #1's wedding attending son #2's wedding&nbsp;speaks negatively about it, well that speaks poorly on them I would think.</p> <p>I agree with ladywone, in that it's all about the bride and groom anyway.</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-it-a-faux-pas-to-wear-same-mog-dress-to-two--#post-1262314 Tue, 27 May 2014 19:58:37 +0000 Liz 1262314@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I know nothing about the fashion faux pas angle, but on the relationship angle, it seems that&nbsp;asking the bride puts her in a potential bind. If she really does care, how can she say No to her future MIL without coming across as selfish and demanding? If she and the new MIL have a good&nbsp;relationship already, it would be fine. But often things can be tenuous between a&nbsp;new daughter-in-law and mother-in-law. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-it-a-faux-pas-to-wear-same-mog-dress-to-two--#post-1262310 Tue, 27 May 2014 19:52:44 +0000 Ledonna N. 1262310@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Personally, I do not think it is a faux pas.&nbsp; If she feels comfortable I would say go for it.&nbsp; At the end of the day it won't even be about her it will be about the young couple being married. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-it-a-faux-pas-to-wear-same-mog-dress-to-two--#post-1262306 Tue, 27 May 2014 19:47:47 +0000 unfrumped 1262306@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I sympathize, since it can be so hard to find "the dress" for&nbsp;one wedding&nbsp;--and then to have to find another one! Plus sometimes we splurge and it can be hard to feel the investment can be recoup'd.</p> <p>Also, I feel as though we should sometimes take a step back and remember that many folks may have one special dress or suit they wore for everything--weddings, funerals, Sunday church, you name it ! So I don't like to make having "new" dresses seem like a requirement for life.</p> <p>Still, I think I would&nbsp;prefer to appear "different" in the family&nbsp;photos--sometimes that really&nbsp;makes mental connections for place and time--so would&nbsp;at least plan to start looking for a &nbsp;different dress if your budget allows, unless there's a fun family&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;thing going on--you know, it could be possible for someone to be wearing her "signature" dress everywhere as a style statement. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-it-a-faux-pas-to-wear-same-mog-dress-to-two--#post-1262290 Tue, 27 May 2014 19:13:28 +0000 jackiec 1262290@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Not a faux pas, but I agree the main thing is photos </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-it-a-faux-pas-to-wear-same-mog-dress-to-two--#post-1262288 Tue, 27 May 2014 19:11:54 +0000 Aquamarine 1262288@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Not sure of the etiquette here, but I would definitely ask the second son's fiancé. However, your friend should consider how she will feel looking at the photos from two different weddings if she is wearing the same dress. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/is-it-a-faux-pas-to-wear-same-mog-dress-to-two--#post-1262271 Tue, 27 May 2014 18:50:11 +0000 MsMaven 1262271@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Asking on behalf of someone else: &nbsp;Would it be a terrible faux pas&nbsp;(or even a minor one)&nbsp;if a mother of the groom wore a dress to her son's wedding this year and the again to second son's wedding next year? &nbsp;I have no idea what the etiquette is.</p> <p>I told her she should ask the second son's bride to be how she would feel about it. &nbsp;(It's a gorgeous dress, by the way.) </p>