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YouLookFab Forum » Topic: Incorporating colour https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 17 Apr 2026 15:28:17 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 <![CDATA[Search]]> q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php Stagiaire Fash on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour/page/2#post-2085021 Sun, 15 Dec 2019 10:47:15 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2085021@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Well, I like it, but then again...<a rel="nofollow" href="https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/30x30-in-chilly-florida">https://youlookfab.com/welookf.....ly-florida</a> (pic 1) zakuro on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour/page/2#post-2085020 Sun, 15 Dec 2019 10:41:07 +0000 zakuro 2085020@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <div>Great that you all like these, though these are not actually skirts:P I watched a youtube video where someone put a sweater over a dress and thus it turned into a skirt. The blue floral one is a summer dress actually. The red and patterned one are actually singlets that I have dieted out of. I just tucked them into my pantyhose and pulled my sweater over. </div><div>I can’t quite tell if it looks weird or not. The fabrics are kinda thin and I’m worried it will make it look obvious that it isn’t a skirt. Or maybe its just me who is hyper-aware that I’m wearing a singlet as a skirt:P (I probably looked real funny putting this on, lol!) I’m trying to learn how to sow, so I was planning on redesigning these into scarves or something, but maybe they’ll be skirts instead:) </div> I saw a youtuber who wore a lot of plaid/pattern skirts with knits, and I quite liked that look, so maybe I’ll look for something like that. However… I do have a flared plaid, and it makes me feel like I look like a schoolgirl. At 30+ that just looks… kinky?:P What do you guys think? I don't want to be one of these people who dress inappropriately for my age:P I’ll definitely look for more dark and light neutrals. I got some white items, and I do like camel, navy and burgundy:) A camel coat is something I kinda want but I feel a bit sheepish about it. My culture is a little negative to dressing up, so I feel like I attract a lot of attention to myself just by wearing a skirt or a coat, instead of the typical sports clothes. But Stockholm huh?:D Best advice I can give is to wear shoes that are resistant to water. So suede type of shoes(like I’m wearing) might get really wet depending on the weather. Also, wool socks. Gift from heaven:P Hope you have a great time:) Stagiaire Fash on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour/page/2#post-2085019 Sun, 15 Dec 2019 10:37:14 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2085019@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <div>#1 in your latest round made me smile. I'm known to like pattern mixing. </div><div>But I disagree with you that you "should" add xyz to your wardrobe. You started out saying you wanted to add more color. If that's because you like color and feel "blah" without it, then go for it! But if it's because you saw something that said color is the thing to do, then I'd say hold back. You have a great sense of style and a feel for how to dress your body. If minimizing your top is a goal, there are strategies you can read up on and use for that. Same goes for any other goal. But adding things to your wardrobe, or making things your goal because someone else says they should be, sounds to me like a recipe for heartbreak and continued dissatisfaction with your closet. </div> SarahD8 on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour/page/2#post-2084963 Sun, 15 Dec 2019 00:37:51 +0000 SarahD8 2084963@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Oh gosh, I love all three of these looks in your most recent post zakuro! You are a natural at pattern mixing. Looks warm and cozy with plenty of interest. You asked upthread which Scandinavian country we are visiting -- Sweden (Stockholm). And now, inspired by you, I'm contemplating adding a merino wool mini skirt to my suitcase (my main footwear will be tall black boots similar to the ones you are wearing in these pics). Suz on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour#post-2084956 Sun, 15 Dec 2019 00:21:38 +0000 Suz 2084956@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ You are making winter style look great! These are super outfits for cold and snowy climes. (I'm another Canadian, so I get the frustrations of bloggers wearing high heeled sandals with their puffer coats!)  Looks to me as if you have lots of neutrals.  Dark neutrals include black, navy, charcoal, chocolate brown, dark olive green and sometimes burgundy (depending on the person).  Light neutrals include: light grey, white or ivory, camel.  Then there is red, which some (including me) consider a neutral in itself. :)  zakuro on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour#post-2084951 Sun, 15 Dec 2019 00:04:40 +0000 zakuro 2084951@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I also think I’m “yin,” in terms of style. If I try more masculine styles like boyfriend jeans I feel like I look like a man:P Again, thank you all for so much encouragement and advice:) I’m still taking notes on things I should try from this tread, so I got a pretty long list:D There have been several mentions of neutrals, and I guess I don’t have a lot of those. I got a light grey dress but the smallest sign of sweat and it shows very easily so as a former pretty big person who would sweat a lot; that is a terrifying colour:P But I guess I should add neutrals to my “I want something like this in my closet-list.” I had this weekend off, so I’ve been playing around with my wardrobe again after watching a youtube video. Does anything look strange to you guys? It's the same all round except the bottom here. Anonymous on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour#post-2084562 Fri, 13 Dec 2019 10:54:00 +0000 Anonymous 2084562@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Welcome! Lots of good advice here, and you definitely look fit to me too! Since you have a lot of darks, Imogen's blog actually had an article about low contrast outfits yesterday <a href="https://insideoutstyleblog.com/2019/12/6-ways-to-make-low-value-contrast-outfits-more-interesting.html" rel="nofollow">https://insideoutstyleblog.com.....sting.html</a> What about adding more mid tone neutrals, like brown, grey and olive? Dreika on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour#post-2084553 Fri, 13 Dec 2019 08:39:41 +0000 Dreika 2084553@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Another welcome from me as well. And if you don't mind, would also like to add that to me you look beautiful and fit in the pics you posted. Your BMI is in the normal range for a reason - you are in the normal range. Not saying that to understate how you feel but rather to lift your spirit up a bit.  You've got plenty of brilliant advice already, what I could add is that if you feel self conscious in bright colors, you could try brighten up your dark neutrals with light neutrals. Dark blue, black, or dark gray tops with beige, camel or light gray bottoms for example. That way you're still in the neutral palette - calm, not drawing attention - but your outfit would be lighter overall. A pop of bright color could be added in small doses - a belt accentuating your waist, or earrings (you mention that you don't own colored ones atm but maybe you could add a pair in your list for future purchases?). The beautiful blue dress that you have could be paired with knee high boots in light gray or camel color instead of the predictable black. For more streamlined look you could wear tights in the same color as the boots - this look is quite on trend right now.  Fit wise - why not try the so on trend high waist trousers with wider legs? I think they are made for your body type - the wider hems will balance out your shoulders and overall the outfit might feel more balanced to you. Plus, it will give you variety when mixed with the skinniness. Even if you don't have much color maybe a variety in the silhouettes will make you feel better about your wardrobe. Jenni NZ on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour#post-2084397 Thu, 12 Dec 2019 19:08:46 +0000 Jenni NZ 2084397@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Welcome from me since I didn’t reply earlier! You look gorgeous to me, lovely soft curves. It may be too early in your style journey, but you might enjoy the Kibbe thread and quiz that Torontogirl has got going at present? Kibbe talks about “yin” ( softer, more feminine) and “yang” ( more angular, dramatic) and you look quite “yin” to me. nemosmom on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour#post-2084356 Thu, 12 Dec 2019 16:08:30 +0000 nemosmom 2084356@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ The denim jacket and white in your scarf in #3 really lighten up your outfit! Maybe adding other medium washed denim would help? How about your denim jacket with the lace top in #1? Aquamarine on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour#post-2084295 Thu, 12 Dec 2019 13:12:32 +0000 Aquamarine 2084295@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ You’ve received really good advice here. I want to add that your blonde hair is a light color in your overall look! Maybe start adding some lighter footwear to bookend (check the forum and past blog entries for examples...Angie has posted advice on this many times). And then try adding one more lighter or colorful item (scarf, jewelry, topper, etc.) and you can have your base of dark, slimming, comfortable-to-you looks with added lightness to ease your way to more color later if you want. Stagiaire Fash on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour#post-2084168 Wed, 11 Dec 2019 23:25:16 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2084168@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I know we are supposed to be commenting on style, but my first impression at those pix is that this is not the “overweight” borderline BMI body I was expecting! 1 nice long over lean. Can’t see the lace in the pants, but I’ll take your word for it. That’s a very clean look. An easy way to add more interest, if you want to, would be to swap out the leggings for one of your other dark colors. 3 This is my favorite of the batch! Love the various layers you’ve got going on & that tough jacket with the skirt. zakuro on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour#post-2084152 Wed, 11 Dec 2019 22:44:26 +0000 zakuro 2084152@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <div>Picture-time! I'm feeling really self-conscious uploading these, but you have all been so wonderful!:) Also I got poor lighting(I recently moved) so you'll have to excuse the quality. </div><div>I struggle with feeling confident with how I look, and I think some of the problems with my wardrobe is that I try to hide away my body, or at least the parts I really don't like. But at the same time, hiding them makes me feel more confident... Weird:P I really prefer dark on top, but with only black pants in my closet maybe I should look for non-black pants... </div><div> </div><div>But anyway; the first picture is probably my most colourful go-to-outfit, and I wear it a lot. My pants here have a sidepanel with lace, and the singlet is lace so I figured they'd be good together. </div><div>The second one is my dark blue dress that I don't know what else to wear with... And the last one is something I kinda put together after playing around for a bit. You can't tell from the picture, but I put a dark blue merino wool sweater underneath. Its too cold to wear right now, but maybe as spring arrives. I often struggle with what to wear with that particular skirt. </div> nemosmom on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour#post-2083184 Sun, 08 Dec 2019 15:40:08 +0000 nemosmom 2083184@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I don't have anything more to add to what others have already said, but wanted to extend the welcome! You are in the right place! Janet on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour#post-2083181 Sun, 08 Dec 2019 15:17:48 +0000 Janet 2083181@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Hello and welcome! You’ve already gotten lots of great advice but I just wanted to say take it easy on yourself. I would wager that none of us here on this forum — even the ones with a very finely honed sense of their own style — arrived at their personal style quickly. I’ve been participating here for almost nine years, and I feel secure in my style now, but I feel like it’s taken lots of trial and error and experimentation. The key is, as Angie often says, to have fun with the journey. Be kind to yourself, and get rid of anything in your wardrobe that you don’t like or makes you feel bad. Try collecting images of outfits that appeal to you — perhaps Pinterest might be useful? When I have done that in the past, clear patterns emerged in what I like and what I want to emulate. Good luck! Stagiaire Fash on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour#post-2083176 Sun, 08 Dec 2019 15:02:35 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2083176@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ You say colorful pendant, I say Kendra Scott. <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.kendrascott.com/jewelry/categories/necklaces/">https://www.kendrascott.com/je.....necklaces/</a># Carla on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour#post-2083170 Sun, 08 Dec 2019 14:19:47 +0000 Carla 2083170@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Angie espouses dressing the body you have now (with love) - so don’t postpone having fun with fashion until some future date when you might reach some projected goal. Being happy now is more likely to support your long term goals anyway. zakuro on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour#post-2083158 Sun, 08 Dec 2019 13:23:00 +0000 zakuro 2083158@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <div>SarahD8 – may I ask which country you are going to?:) </div> Blue top, burgundy topper and dark pants… The only thing I think I’m missing out of those are a blue top. And thanks for the tips about Diana and Rachylou, I’ll check that out:) I saw the capsule tip further up, so I started making a list over things I think I might want that has different color or texture than what I already own. On it is a slightly long knitted sweater in light/medium blue, a sleeveless blouse in a pattern with color and/or a satin-ish finish in a solid color. Maybe a colorful scarf:) I am traveling to Turkey, hence the frantic planning, so maybe I can find something there:) Light gray is also mentioned here, and I do have a dress in light gray, but it is one of those motivational clothes that I own and want to fit into:P And it is not a forgiving color either so I’m kinda self conscious about it. And yes, once my life gets a little more stable, I’ll continue loosing weight. Not sure what my goal is yet:P I see long pendants are suggested, and I quite like those, but I can’t wear the really long ones that passes below the chest, cuz they end up bouncing off my chest and whacking me in the face, lol! But I also like to make stuff like this, so maybe I’ll try that. I could make whatever I want. Gigi mentions a coat in color. I am really dying for a red peacoat... I was really planning to reward myself with one once I lost the weight I want to. Though I can never seem to find one in the stores here though, most people don’t wear those here, just sporty winter jackets. But I travel quite a lot so I can always find one abroad I guess. Again, thanks for all your help, I’m even making notes, lol:D Oh dear, gotta cut this short or I’ll be late for work:O Gigi on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour#post-2083123 Sun, 08 Dec 2019 04:36:31 +0000 Gigi 2083123@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I know the feeling of having a wardrobe that is primarily dark for the winter months. It seems like retailers don't offer very many bright colors, which makes things difficult. I am nodding in agreement with a lot of what I have read above. The easiest way would be to try adding some jewelry. Maybe you could buy two pendants: one large one, which will break up the long expanse of color since you are wearing a lot of solids, and one smaller daintier one, which you could use to fill in the space in your V-neck sweaters. I'm not sure whether colorful pendants will be easy to find, however...I think most are in gold or silver. Rose gold might be a little off the beaten path, though. Maybe think about a warm coat in a colorful hue? Maybe red? Or even a light cream color? I know that cream is not "colorful," but last year I got a cream puffer to wear in the winter, with faux fur, and I felt so good putting it on every day (until it started leaking feathers and I had to return it! ack!). It really helped cheer me up in the sea of black outerwear. You could also look for colorful or patterned winter accessories: mittens, hats, scarves. You wear these frequently, so having them in lighter colors will be a lot of bang for your buck. I would play around in your closet and try mixing some of your items. Mixing different styles (like tough and girly) can create some of the most interesting outfits! I know you said that you don't feel that the slender YouTubers are helpful, but have you tried analyzing the outfits that you find pleasing to determine all the reasons WHY they are pleasing to you? Those elements are sometimes transferable, no matter what the body shape. For instance, you might find a particular color combination pleasing. Or you might find the small details (cuff trim, buttons, etc.) pleasing. Or you might find a particular pattern (plaid, houndstooth, etc.) pleasing. Then you can try to put together the same kinds of elements in your own wardrobe. SarahD8 on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour#post-2083092 Sun, 08 Dec 2019 00:55:03 +0000 SarahD8 2083092@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Hi zakuro and welcome! I’m in the midst of planning a travel wardrobe for a trip *to* a Nordic country so I feel your pain...trying to figure out what will be comfortable, warm, and versatile— without ending up with a suitcase full of dark neutrals (by which I mean black, charcoal gray, navy/ink blue, and dark brown). I like the sounds of where you are headed with texture (faux leather/lace) and style (leather jacket/unicorn tee) contrasts. You might get some inspiration from posts by Diana who is really good with mixing textures and also Rachylou who is the queen of zany contrasts (I mean that as a compliment!) Runcarla has great advice upthread about building and then expanding a capsule of a new to your wardrobe color. A couple of things that occur to me- *i am also blonde and I find that light to medium gray can be a great strategy to lighten up outfits a bit, it’s equally versatile as black or white but can be less overwhelming on people with lighter/more delicate coloring. *for incorporating color into your wardrobe, I think scarves are great. Also practical for filling in an open neckline like a v neck to keep warm. Not sure if you are planning to continue your weight loss journey but they will also fit across multiple sizes. Maybe you can find a scarf as a souvenir of your visit to your friend’s city! Stagiaire Fash on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour#post-2083022 Sat, 07 Dec 2019 23:04:52 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2083022@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <div>I love the interplay of leather and lace in an outfit! Can you mix some of your other items the way you are the pants and singlet? There is no reason that contrast/balance couldn't be a hallmark of your style. Also, did you see Suz’s WIW post? A blue top, burgundy topper, dark pants. She looks fabulous. It sounds like your closet has the ingredients for that as well. </div><div>Looking forward to the photos! </div> zakuro on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour#post-2083017 Sat, 07 Dec 2019 22:57:38 +0000 zakuro 2083017@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Good to know I’m not the only one drowning in snow in here:D Ehm, what are dark neutrals…?:P I don’t have a lot of pattern as mentioned, most patterns are floral, animal-print or stripes which I am not a fan of. Hard to come by other things. So I mostly have solid colours which I think are making thins harder. But I do like lacy things. I’ve only recently started to mix different textures. I got this pair of pants that look like leather pants(they aren’t, just look the part), and I think it works well with a white, lacy singlet that I have because it is so feminine in contrast. I could also pair it with a knitted sweater if I could just find one that fit well. Which brings me to what I think is another challenge; I don’t have a particular style I stick with. I got tough things like leather pants and -jackets, but I also got floral, girly dresses and feminine blouses, I got geeky star wars hoodies, and t-shirts with bunnies and unicorns. How do I even mix these??:P My hair is mentioned and that is one of few things I’m happy with. Long, blond, think, wavy. Got a cut that works with it since it’s a little frizzy. I already took some photos to post as soon as I can, one got-to-outfit(which is also the most colourful one:P), two new items I recently got, and a dress that I really like. I guess I like too much to hide in my body in my clothes…:\ The one suggesting blue; I love blue actually:) Carla on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour#post-2082966 Sat, 07 Dec 2019 21:14:04 +0000 Carla 2082966@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Sounds like you have a foundation of classic items in relatively neutral colours. The best way to add colour (in my opinion ) is to select a favourite colour that makes you happy, and collect 4 items in that colour that you can mix and match with what is currently in your closet. I live in Canada, and to brighten my mostly dark outerwear I started a red capsule. A red beret A red cross body bag Red sneakers (when there isn’t too much snow) And a Red puffer coat Since my experiment worked out, I’ve added more red. A skirt A sweater A flannel shirt Interestingly, the more I wear colour, the less self conscious I feel about ‘standing out’. rachylou on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour#post-2082952 Sat, 07 Dec 2019 20:33:15 +0000 rachylou 2082952@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I was going to say, when one wants to add brighter colour, I feel the easiest one to start with is blue. In my mind, it’s the most universally accepted, least alarming colour... ! Helena on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour#post-2082925 Sat, 07 Dec 2019 18:28:13 +0000 Helena 2082925@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Zakuro, as a Canadian I feel your pain about the limitations of the weather. So many styling suggestions are perfect for northern California in early fall; not so much for Canada in December! I really think it sounds like you've got a fab base in place. Dark colours are indeed classic and very flattering! V-necks and wrap tops are stylish and classic. Simple jewellery is fab. Colour is not the only option for you. You could use several dark neutrals in an outfit to add some interest (I love black and navy personally) or work the contrast between black & white; a pop of white is just as effective as a pop of colour against a dark background.  I really like "nearly neutrals" - colours like deep burgundy or blush pink, that are not really neutrals, but are still really understated and mix really easily together, the way neutrals do. You could incorporate some textures, subtle patterns, or layers. A fresh haircut can work wonders if that is something you might need. Once you can start posting photos, you'll get much more specific and great suggestions, but in the meantime, is there a pattern you enjoy - maybe stripes, or plaid - or a texture? If I think about the outfit you describe - say a black v-neck sweater and black pants - I think you could add a black and white printed scarf and maybe white sneakers or boots and it would look amazing. You could do a cognac brown belt and boots to make it more casual and natural looking. Or make the pants black velvet. Lots of ways to build on it. You'll find this is a very flat-shoe-friendly forum and you'll see some fab outfits with sneakers - even dressier ones! White boots are another way many members make a really trendy statement against a dark outfit.  zakuro on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour#post-2082903 Sat, 07 Dec 2019 16:56:11 +0000 zakuro 2082903@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <div>Wow, didn’t expect this many answers!:)</div><div>But yes, I am planning a trip to a big city for new years to visit a friend:) In the same breath I should mention that I am from a nordic country, so a lot of fashion advice simply don’t work here. I’ll see like a magazine that tips you to just put a denim jacket over your dress because the weather is getting colder and you’re good to go. I got snow to my calves in october:P </div> I think some of my problem is that I always think that if I get it in black/dark or maybe white, it will go with everything… So I got like one scarf that has color on it for example. No jewelry with color at all, just gold and silver colors. Another problem is that I don’t like to stand out and bring attention to myself, so I think that is where my fear of color partially stem form, this applies also for makeup. Plus black/dark makes you look slimmer of course. Lastly, I feel like there are so many things I cannot wear because of my body type(I’ve actually lost a lot of weight, but because I got on the crazy train last year I stalled in my weightloss, but at least haven’t gained). Someone mentioned turtlenecks for example. I only wear that when hiking in the snow because I feel it brings attention to my chest and that I got kinda broad shoulders. So I mostly only own V-necks(not low cut) and wrapover styles(where I need to wear a singlet under so my boobs don’t fall out…) Last, I hate high heels and handbags and don’t own this. Sorry I‘m weird:D I also work in healthcare so no long nails or polish. I see some mention bras; I only own minimizers. They also seem to be the only ones that fit me, others just stab me in the armpit no matter how many fittings I go to. Thank you all for such encouraging words and advice, both about dressing but also the site itself:) I was really lost and frustrated yesterday, so I really appreciate this! Unfortunately I also need to have been a member for 3 days and made some posts before I can post pictures:P Helena on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour#post-2082616 Fri, 06 Dec 2019 18:48:50 +0000 Helena 2082616@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ What kkards said - it sounds like a fabulous palette to me, and a great base to add some new colours or prints. I hope we'll be able to help you with some outfits! kkards on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour#post-2082594 Fri, 06 Dec 2019 18:27:26 +0000 kkards 2082594@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ 1st Welcome!  2nd Black, dark red, dark blue, dark green are colors! LOL 3rd i know this won't help for your trip, but nodding along with lisap re getting the foundations, hair, makeup and (maybe) glasses right 4th i'm a believe in interesting shoes, IMO they make the most basic outfit better.  if your comfortable, post an outfit or 2, we're here to help  slim cat on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour#post-2082553 Fri, 06 Dec 2019 17:26:42 +0000 slim cat 2082553@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Agree with everyone - personal preference -adding fun accessories. Everyone has a favorite thing like bracelet, earrings, scarf or bright nail polish, red lipstick.. It's ok to feel sometimes blue but don't let yourself go down the rabbit hole of the dark thoughts and despair.  Do things that make you feel better - treat yourself to fav cup of coffee, put your music on, watch some comedy, talk to a friend. Anonymous on "Incorporating colour" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/incorporating-colour#post-2082525 Fri, 06 Dec 2019 16:48:33 +0000 Anonymous 2082525@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Ah - I can feel your frustration just reading this. And I totally get it. I often dream of a breast reduction - but never go that far with it. Anyone I know who has had one looks exactly the same afterward , which makes me think they aren't the be-all and end-all. That said, I firmly believe in what  Angie espouses when you are at your wit's end :  a couple of really good, new bras. From a professional bra-fitter.  A haircut, and maybe a colour too.  Some new makeup.  A pair of statement earrings.  And perhaps one good blazer in a colour or pattern that will amp up what you own right now.   It's tough when you're feeling lousy about yourself = I know that situation all too well.  This is a pretty diverse group of people in terms of sizes, style preferences, ages etc - so hopefully you'll find some solid help here.