https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-your-happy-place Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 24 Apr 2026 08:00:27 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-your-happy-place#post-830143 Sun, 27 Jan 2013 06:33:20 +0000 Mo 830143@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I do think the moving helped the most in the 'what do I really need' department. Also, taking away that which doesn't really sing to you is a relatively new thing for me.<br /> I used to only purge the obvious bad stuff. Now I purge the, ah it's okay but doesn't really do anything for my wardrobe stuff.<br /> Just this week I got rid of a BCBG skirt that was a tad too short, my maxi dress that was a tad too big, and a purple velvet jacket I realized my willow &amp; clay had essentially replaced. In the past I would have held on to all, thinking they would 'do' in a pinch.<br /> Removing impediments is so freeing!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-your-happy-place#post-830131 Sun, 27 Jan 2013 05:56:49 +0000 CocoLion 830131@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mo I know you mentioned this but I do think moving often has helped you reach this level of contentment. I think it's to do with the work you've done. Moving really forces you to edit and THINK about what you will need. Plus when you unpack you have another chance to sort and edit everything.</p> <p>I have a lot of space (frankly most of it unfinished) but I don't share it with anyone and I think it enables my situation. This means I'm not forced to limit myself as I should.</p> <p>Although I did bring 1/2 of a large outdoor garbage bag to the thrift shop today. Inspired by some of Angie's threads this week and yours! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-your-happy-place#post-830044 Sun, 27 Jan 2013 03:58:54 +0000 Suz 830044@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is wonderful news. In the past year I have really seen your wardrobe come together in a new way. Your clothes look good, and feel like "you" and now you can be at peace, just adding slowly and subtracting items as they no longer fit your needs. Brava!!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-your-happy-place#post-829831 Sat, 26 Jan 2013 23:02:09 +0000 cheryl 829831@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Way to go Mo! You have a lovely wardrobe that looks beautiful on you. I think the one buy a month will keep everything fresh and evolving for you to continue to be in a happy place! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-your-happy-place#post-829814 Sat, 26 Jan 2013 22:47:52 +0000 Caro in Oz 829814@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That's fantastic Mo. I felt that I was getting there then summer came along &amp; I lost it:)<br /> CL &amp; IG are right it is a state of mind - being in the right frame of mind to choose wisely for your lifestyle, to choose quality &amp; to wear the heck out of them as Angie says. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-your-happy-place#post-829604 Sat, 26 Jan 2013 16:43:40 +0000 Mo 829604@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks guys! And Mellllls, you are so right, too. I also am trying the once a month thing. </p> <p>I agree that much of contentment is state of mind. Part of mine was realizing I really don't need half as much as I thought I did, and also making much more thought out buys all last year. Great to reap the rewards </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-your-happy-place#post-829601 Sat, 26 Jan 2013 16:35:01 +0000 Mellllls 829601@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Im sort of there too, and have been there for awhile. At the same time, you don't want to get stuck, because ten at some point you may tire of all your clothes at once. So I have made a goal to shop once a month to refresh. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-your-happy-place#post-829597 Sat, 26 Jan 2013 16:30:23 +0000 Raisin 829597@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mo, I agree with everything, and feel the same! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-your-happy-place#post-829546 Sat, 26 Jan 2013 15:36:29 +0000 Janet 829546@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mo, that's terrific! </p> <p>I relate very much to Denise's comments. I don't buy much "stuff" -- until it comes to clothes and shoes. My eye is always stimulated by new and interesting items, but I'm also trying to channel that compulsion into exploring how existing items can be mixed and remixed rather than always seeking out the new. </p> <p>So interesting. This is learned behavior on my part, for sure. My mom was a big saver, not spender, but the one weakness she had was for clothes shopping. </p> <p>At this point, I don't want to *quit* shopping or SYC, I just want to be more mindful and smart about what I purchase. I'm getting there. I think I'm also ready for another round of closet purging. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-your-happy-place#post-829542 Sat, 26 Jan 2013 15:28:36 +0000 Irene 829542@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't feel like buying (clothes) anymore. Now I'm into make-up. I also had the perfume phase. I guess I'll be back on clothes-craving soon enough, but right now I'm enjoying my SYC, since I can indulge on other things. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-your-happy-place#post-829538 Sat, 26 Jan 2013 15:24:16 +0000 shedev 829538@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm really happy for you Mo. I'm closer to my happy place but not there yet. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-your-happy-place#post-829528 Sat, 26 Jan 2013 15:13:45 +0000 Beth Ann 829528@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm getting there. As a creative type, I love choices, so I've resisted the small wardrobe idea. However, I live and work with my family in a 1,000sq house and my budget is limited. Also, I think buying "items" instead of "wardrobe pieces" creates more style confusion on a grown woman than the teenage girl giving every trend a whirl. </p> <p>What I do have since YLF? A wardrobe that "works" in most life situations. Items that play with each other in lots of ways. Better fits, and just the beginnings of better quality.</p> <p>I'm on a shopping slow lane for a while, by choice, and I can pass by the "pretty good" and do without, waiting for the right thing.</p> <p>You have done a beautiful job of creating a refined, organic and peaceful style, Mo! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-your-happy-place#post-829522 Sat, 26 Jan 2013 15:04:53 +0000 Angie 829522@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>An inspirational point to have reached with your style! Well done!! Wear the heck out of your clothes and enjoy </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-your-happy-place#post-829512 Sat, 26 Jan 2013 14:39:47 +0000 cinnamon fern 829512@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yay Mo! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-your-happy-place#post-829446 Sat, 26 Jan 2013 12:17:43 +0000 Anonymous 829446@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You are so lucky Mo ,To be in your happy place. I have to admit to feeling a tiny bit jealous. At th moment I think I have a long way to go. You have obviously made a big effort to find your peace of mind. A lot of us get busy with so many aspects of our life that we neglect our style and it has the potential to have such a big impact on our sense of well being. I hope I can join you in the fullness of time, well done </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-your-happy-place#post-829444 Sat, 26 Jan 2013 12:08:44 +0000 Deborah 829444@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mo this is so good. I was drafting my thoughts on this same thing today. It's is such a good place to be...congratulations:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-your-happy-place#post-829375 Sat, 26 Jan 2013 07:35:39 +0000 Ingunn 829375@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I totally agree with Denise, to be content is a state of mind, and one can practice getting there. I love hearing that you are content, Mo, and I guess it is due to your conscious effort to edit your wardrobe to become what you need it to be? Making the right choices isn't easy, but you seem to be very able to define what you like and who you are, which I think is very important if one is to learn how to curate a wardrobe successfully. My experimentation with capsules has taught me a lot, and I think this year will be very interesting "wardrobe-wise". I know a lot more about what I want, what I like, and how to mix and match what I have to keep my spending under control. I am in a happy place right now, and hope to keep it up! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-your-happy-place#post-829365 Sat, 26 Jan 2013 06:51:02 +0000 Mo 829365@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Denise and Rae, good points about shopping to 'pass the time'. This may be a part of my current contentment with what I have. I am now back to work and have less of that spare time to pass that I've had. Coupled with more uniform wearing and less outfits daily. Interesting to think about.<br /> Marley and Isabel, Yay on loving what you have! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-your-happy-place#post-829362 Sat, 26 Jan 2013 06:40:48 +0000 CocoLion 829362@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think it is a spiritual thing to be content with what you have.</p> <p>I feel this way about many aspects of my life. My 22 year old car, for example. But my wardrobe -- I seem to be always editing/purging, and searching and buying. I'm completely not this way about other aspects of my life, just my clothes.</p> <p>The continuum between healthy pass time to distraction to obsession to addiction is a muddy one. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-your-happy-place#post-829360 Sat, 26 Jan 2013 06:32:29 +0000 Marley 829360@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mo - I'm with you. I have basically been on SYC for over 2 years now - buying very, very little - and only with gift certificates or B-Day/Christmas money when I do - and I am sooooo enjoying my wardrobe! I realize that I don't need near as much as I thought that I did - and I have become very, very picky about what I bring into my wardrobe! There have been a few times lately that I have looked in the stores (because I have some Christmas gift certs!) - but there is nothing that has jumped out at me that I am just dieing to have! I have come home empty-handed but happy - and it also gives me something to look forward to - who knows, maybe when the spring fashions land in the stores I'll see something that is calling my name - but for now I am very content and feel really good with my current wardrobe. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-your-happy-place#post-829356 Sat, 26 Jan 2013 06:26:37 +0000 rae 829356@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yay! Happy for you, Mo! I am sloooowly, maybe, getting there. I have a strong urge to shop right now for comfort/boredom/mental distraction, but I keep thinking of things in my closet that can be let go and that aren't quite perfect. As I get pickier, some of the past purchases reveal themselves as imperfect, and then I can hardly stand to keep them anymore. Oy! You are in a great place to not have this feeling and be really content. High five! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-your-happy-place#post-829315 Sat, 26 Jan 2013 04:34:33 +0000 Isabel 829315@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That is so great ! It is amazing to me that the journey is so hard, isn't it ? We know, I think, what makes us intrinsically happy and what we are attracted to , but applying it to the actual life we lead is traumatic ( almost, LOL ).</p> <p>I have been struggling with trying to choose 33 items for that last month or so. It finally hit me that I don't want to have all my accessories included, because I love them and they make me happy. And as I further culled my clothing ( especially the 15 extra camis that I really don't need ) , I realized that I too, love what I have and that it is very functional for my lifestyle. I am also not so sentimental or torn about donating something that just doesn't "quite ' work. I also have a very small "just in case " capsule. It feels good Mo !!!! Now , let's see how Summer goes....ask me then ! : ) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-your-happy-place#post-829300 Sat, 26 Jan 2013 04:18:01 +0000 Mo 829300@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I was pondering this all last week, before Angie's post this morning based on Jayne's happiness factor. I realized I have so much less desire to shop, I feel great in what I wear, and everything fits. I am content with my wardrobe. It only took a little over 2 years and a few relocations between opposing climates ;)<br /> Also, I am so much better with letting go of the 'so-so' items and I think that makes a huge difference in having a closet you love. Lastly, I finally had the penny drop on less is more, quality over quantity. That was/is my biggest hurdle yet. But when I dress, I love my choices, and always feel like I have another great outfit ready to go. Yay!! </p>