https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 08 May 2026 20:09:34 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress/page/2#post-104001 Sat, 31 Oct 2009 02:47:41 +0000 Kathleen 104001@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>In a way, I admire the confidence of women who chose to dress like this. However, the first thing I think when I see a woman wearing something like this is, well, let's just say it is NOT at all polite. I do like the material and the color is basic black, always a favorite. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress/page/2#post-103906 Fri, 30 Oct 2009 15:09:09 +0000 anne 103906@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I always think of a joke my friend told me at high school - that shaved legs in a women in winter means she is having an affair.</p> <p>On the uniform thing, although I too was surprised by this topic at a primary school, it is perhaps explained by an older finishing age in my state of Aus. Currently the oldest girls would be nearly 13 when they finish - next year where an adjustment to the school starting age will impact that year some will be 13 1/2 (my own daughter will be one such eventually as she is the oldest in her class).</p> <p>The school uniform at the school has a range of items; a dress, trousers shorts, skorts, long or short sleeved polo shirts, and tracksuits as well as sports skirts (that they are thinking of restricting to just being worn for sports, instead of at any time). My daughter wears non uniform items with it too - she often wears a long sleeved top under a uniform top or dress or leggings under a skort or skirt.</p> <p>Khris, I have met a number of home schooling Mums in the last few years and many of them are some of the most interesting, creative, vibrant and enthusiastic people I know, who seem to have the energy to give a lot to the community as well! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress/page/2#post-103868 Fri, 30 Oct 2009 07:13:47 +0000 RoseandJoan 103868@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>LOL, it could be 3 below zero outside but the boys at secondary school would say 'the only reason for wearing thick ugly tights is unshaven legs'. To this day if I wear opaques I think of lack of grooming! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress/page/2#post-103827 Fri, 30 Oct 2009 04:09:48 +0000 Angie 103827@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>YES! They were SO itchy and I'm allergic to some wool. I got away with the nylons for a while though. And I could also wear knee-high socks :0) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress/page/2#post-103826 Fri, 30 Oct 2009 03:57:56 +0000 marianne 103826@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, I remember that phobia of yours, Angie! Our tights weren't part of the uniform, it was just too cold for anything else. I really hated the wool ones - they were ITCHY. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress#post-103822 Fri, 30 Oct 2009 03:50:50 +0000 Angie 103822@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Food for thought, Alecia.</p> <p>High five, Shana! </p> <p>Khris, home schooling is *such* an incredibly foreign concept to me, I cannot begin to string a sentence together about it. </p> <p>Marianne, my school uniforms were hideous too, but they were fabulous uniforms! Does that make sense? I also never had problems with it. In fact none of the kids did and the parents certainly never did. But I will NEVER wear thick casual tights again because of it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress#post-103813 Fri, 30 Oct 2009 03:23:21 +0000 marianne 103813@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I missed this earlier, and I have nothing constructive to add, except that I love the idea of school uniforms. It would be awesome if public schools here adopted it (I know, I know it won't happen). I also wore a uniform through most of my school (except in the last grade), and even though it wasn't that attractive, I never had problems with it... well, except in winter when it was cold and we had to wearextra thick tights and it was kind of cumbersome. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress#post-103787 Fri, 30 Oct 2009 02:49:23 +0000 Alecia 103787@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm late to this interesting discussion but I have seen some of this in action and I just don't think it looks good or is sanitary. People have "no shirt, no shoes, no service" policy but it's find to have your butt and whatever else on the booths and seats? Eww. </p> <p>Earlier this week, I attended a women's conference down in LA. I was really shocked by the number of women wearing these shirts a la dresses. Seriously, that's what it looked like that they were wearing shirts and had forgotten their pants. </p> <p>Last year there was a homeless woman walking down the street by my office in her shirt without any pants. The shirt was about the length of these dresses. It was fascinating to watch people's reactions because it wasn't short enough to show her underwear but it quickly became clear she was in just a shirt. It took a minute for it to register with people but when it did they were clearly bemused. People's reaction appears not to be the same when someone is attempting to work the latest fashion. Interesting. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress#post-103785 Fri, 30 Oct 2009 02:47:34 +0000 shana 103785@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Angie, I agree 110% In elementary school my uniform was a blue plaid sleeveless drop-waist jumper that was mid-thigh length over a white shirt. In middle school it was a black plaid kilt that was probably a few inches above the knee worn with a white shirt and in high school it was a ink blue dress with a peter pan collar. In highschool the length of the dress was supposed to touch the ground when kneeling but in the winter many girls wore sweater tights and you could see the hemlines rise significantly, especially among upperclassmen!</p> <p>I wonder if my attitude has something to do with the fact that I have two boys. Of course, I'll have to see if my judgement changes when my boys start bringing girls home in another 10 years or so! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress#post-103779 Fri, 30 Oct 2009 01:21:35 +0000 chewyspaghetti 103779@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Even homeschooled kids?? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress#post-103734 Thu, 29 Oct 2009 21:42:10 +0000 Angie 103734@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>*chuckle*</p> <p>Julie and Anne, when I wore a school uniform in secondary school, it had to touch the ground when you knelt down! So knee length it was, but a few inches above the knee was totally acceptable too. In primary school (up to 11), our little uniform skirts could happily rest mid-thigh no problem. I wholeheartedly believe that ALL kids in the world should wear a school uniform. It’s brilliant for so many reasons. Topic for another day :0) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress#post-103637 Thu, 29 Oct 2009 15:12:43 +0000 anne 103637@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Julie, it surprised me a bit too - but the principal had lots of support to do something about it. It is mostly the older girls. They haven't quite worked out what the policy will be, but they are sensitive to issues of people growing out of uniforms etc. It is a government school with quite a demographic range. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress#post-103602 Thu, 29 Oct 2009 07:21:15 +0000 RoseandJoan 103602@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anne, I have never heard of skirt length being discussed as policy for that age group. When I was at primary school over the knee skirts where a necessity to allow for free running at play times. Due to school uniforms being expensive and the rate of growth at that age I imagine a my skirts did become too short.</p> <p>At secondary school there was a very strict dress code, your skirt could not be more than 2" above the knee, it had to be navy and had to be box pleat. As a result we all wore the ankle grazing styles (1989 - 1994) Angie is now fearful of, we where the only school in the district to adopt this length. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress#post-103569 Thu, 29 Oct 2009 01:53:13 +0000 anne 103569@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Interestingly the whole issue of skirt length is being debated at my daughter's primary school (up to 12 years) which is new territory for me. There is a lot of support among the parents for a policy that skirt length being longer.</p> <p>BTW this thread has introduced a new word to me! (ie the word you are all using for what is being revealed) Presume this is just a synonym for crotch? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress#post-103517 Wed, 28 Oct 2009 17:49:47 +0000 Srujana 103517@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think the pictures on the site may be a little misleading? I remember being in high school, where school policy was that hemlines could be no shorter than the point which your fingers reached on your thigh when you were standing straight with your arms at your sides. Now, on me, that's a pretty much mid-thigh length. I never wore anything remotely that short in high school due to my upbringing, and I very rarely wear such pieces now, but it came to mind when looking at these pictures.</p> <p>In the frontal shot on the website, it looks as if the models fingers hit her hemline, which would make me believe its mid thigh....but in the rear shot, the dress barely covers her bum. Either way, I think this dress is way too short for decent non-models to wear...and I agree completely with the hygiene issues of sitting anywhere in such a piece of clothing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress#post-103474 Wed, 28 Oct 2009 13:59:47 +0000 shiny 103474@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thinking about this some more.... in high school, during the early 80s, nobody ever wore minis - of any length. It was all about the praire skirt. I was an exchange student in europe in my junior year. My host sister was a seamstress. She took a pair of my jeans, and turned it into a "mini" skirt... which was only about 2 inches above my knee, and very cute! I wore it my senior year and was thrilled to be on the cutting edge of fashion... because shorter hemlines caught on a few years late in the US.</p> <p>In college, I did wear short hems to parties and clubs, but never as short as this. </p> <p>With that said!</p> <p>Does anyone remember the short-shorts that were worn in the late 70s early 80s?? GAH!!! Hooters shorts. I remember my sister had a pair that were so short, her cheeks fell out. (But at least with shorts you don't have to worry about cocha showing).... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress#post-103449 Wed, 28 Oct 2009 05:12:47 +0000 RoseandJoan 103449@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Shana, you do raise an interesting point, I can see on the club scene this type of dress may be viewed as acceptable. I guess we all have our personal boundaries on what we consider to be appropriate.</p> <p>I have already mentioned that as a teen and in my very early twenties I would short skirts. I learned that a longer length was more flattering for me through trial and error. However I think my shortest skirt, discounting beach wear, was 17 inches, much longer than the hem lengths of today.</p> <p>I actually really like how this 19 year old had styled her mini<br /> <a href="http://www.graziadaily.co.uk/stylehunter/archive/2009/10/08/style-hunter--soft-focus.htm" rel="nofollow">http://www.graziadaily.co.uk/s.....-focus.htm</a></p> <p>I'm not against minis' per se but do believe there is a point where a hemline becomes indecent. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress#post-103393 Wed, 28 Oct 2009 02:08:02 +0000 shana 103393@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm going to play devil's advocate on this one :</p> <p>The average consumer is probably not going to be as long-legged and tall as this model. </p> <p>I also find that the catalog/online shots can be very deceiving and are often highly stylized so in reality the dress might actually be longer. </p> <p>What Shiny says really resonates with me. As a teenager, I used to dress like a Puritan, partially because of my strict upbringing (which included all girls private school in which we wore tunics and bloomers for gym class) and because it was my version of goth (ha, ha). Anyway, once I hit 21 or so, I did a 180 and started wearing really, really short skirts and did this for a few years (no choocha revealing though as I usually wore tights/hose). Though I had an abundant bosom, I mostly wore very high neck tops so I compensated a bit for all that exposure. And you know what, I am glad that I did what I did then. No regrets for me and I'm glad I had a chance to wear those short skirts then while I still had a pretty hot bod!! </p> <p>Anyway, this dress would be totally inappropriate for most but I could totally see a 21 year old wear this with some opaque or funky patterned tights to wear out to club to go dancing. Without the hooker heels of course! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress#post-103298 Tue, 27 Oct 2009 14:32:44 +0000 chewyspaghetti 103298@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've noticed this trend toward the super short skirts. DD has dance costumes that are longer than that (and they come with matching little shorts to wear). The other trend that I can't understand is what I can only describe as hooker heels. Do you ladies know what I am talking about? The platform high heeled shoes that are everywhere? Those used to be seen only on working girls. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress#post-103297 Tue, 27 Oct 2009 14:20:20 +0000 Kristen 103297@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mac, that's exactly the blog! That topic always cracks me up. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress#post-103286 Tue, 27 Oct 2009 11:11:30 +0000 shiny 103286@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm with Maya on this - the thought of women sitting on the subway with naked tush squicks me out too. Mac, thanks for that link, I had a laugh. And Angie, you crack me up!!!</p> <p>While I would NOT allow my teenage daughters to wear a dress like this, I am okay with them wearing minis provided they pass the bending/sitting test, which this one wouldn't.</p> <p>Otherwise, I suspect I may be more permissive than most moms. My girls are generally modest to begin with, but the way I look at it, youth is squandered on the young... hee hee. When I was that age, I didn't have the confidence to wear certain clothing styles. Now I'm too old for them! I don't want my kids to get unwanted attention but I also don't want them missing out on enjoying their youth - including experimenting with certain styles - while they can. But it's a balancing act. There's a big difference between a tasteful display of youthful shoulder or leg, and a tacky one. So for example, if my DD wants to wear something short like this, I don't tell her "over my dead body." Instead, I point out that her underwear will show when she sits, and then steer her towards a mini that's more tasteful, and suggest that if she's showing her legs, she might consider covering up more on top. Etc. </p> <p>Somewhat related note: at H&amp;M this weekend I spotted some funky patterned leggings I thought DD16 would love (her birthday is coming up soon). Got in an argument with DH over it - he said something about what sort of mom would let her daughter wear that out of the house??? I tried to explain that they are an accessory - you wear them with a dress or tunic and boots. He asked would I wear them - and I said no, of course not, they're too wild. I would wear solid black ones though. However, the wild patterned funky tights are meant for the young. That's when we can get away with such styles! I did not buy them... now I'm wishing I had. DD would've known how to put them to appropriate use. Sigh. </p> <p>Do you ever wonder if it's not just the hormones, but that our daughters are somehow deliberately soliciting unwanted attention so they can learn how to deal with it and gain confidence? For example, DD16 wears some pretty outlandish get-ups (not trashy - more like unusual; I can't even describe her style! Goth, punk, lots of rocker, boho, euro, artsy... all mixed into one) - she has since middle school. It's almost like she wants people to raise an eyebrow. It's given her thick skin and confidence in her individuality. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress#post-103283 Tue, 27 Oct 2009 09:27:15 +0000 mummy2thea 103283@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>No way would I ever even consider a dress this short, imagine how uncomfortable you would be every time your tried to sit down. I would also lock my daughter up if she thought that this type of clothing was appropriate! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress#post-103276 Tue, 27 Oct 2009 06:52:21 +0000 RoseandJoan 103276@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I understand for teenage girls this type of look may be a right of passage, all of those hormones, learning the power of their developing bodies and boys may lead to some questionable choices. I know I had my fair share of too low tops and too short skirts so I would not be too harsh on the girls for wearing them. </p> <p>If Teah or Emmy ever dared to come down the stairs dressed in such a way they would be quickly sent to finishing school, or Granny as she is more commonly known for a lesson in decency.</p> <p>I actually wear allot more clothes than the dress to the beach.</p> <p>With regards to the homecoming Queenie, I wonder how many of the girls left the house with leggings under their dress which where promptly removed after arrival.</p> <p>Maya, all that I can say is ick!!!!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress#post-103273 Tue, 27 Oct 2009 05:54:46 +0000 LoP 103273@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I see college-age girls wear such dresses to school everyday on campus. It started last year, but it really picked up this year. Sad, but that's the new in thing to do seems like. I want to tell them they forgot their pants. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress#post-103269 Tue, 27 Oct 2009 05:37:53 +0000 Maya 103269@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Am I the only one that gets squicked out at the idea of sitting in any sort of public area in this so-called "dress"? Especially on public transportation. Uuurggh. I don't know what's worse: sitting on the subway in that dress, or sitting in the seat AFTER someone else sat in it with that dress. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress#post-103267 Tue, 27 Oct 2009 05:14:27 +0000 Angie 103267@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My tunics are longer. Oh boy. Not so fab. That's what you call a why bother frock. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress#post-103227 Tue, 27 Oct 2009 00:14:01 +0000 Queen Mum 103227@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>lol, the working corner! good one Marianna,<br /> my son came home from homecoming last weekend and said that several of the girls were wearing dresses this short. It's beyond me how they even were let in to the dance, let alone allowed out of the house. very sad... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress#post-103225 Tue, 27 Oct 2009 00:03:41 +0000 marianna 103225@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The length of that dress lacks any class, in my opinion. Might be convenient for working the corner though...</p> <p>The bow is pretty! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress#post-103219 Mon, 26 Oct 2009 23:41:32 +0000 JaneF 103219@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, that is short! I saw a young girl the other day in a dress that was similarly short, and she seemed absolutely oblivious that she was on the verge of flashing her bits to the world. I kind of admired her confidence. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-the-name-of-decency-how-is-this-a-dress#post-103218 Mon, 26 Oct 2009 23:40:13 +0000 Mac 103218@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><a href="http://daddylikey.blogspot.com/2009/01/dont-show-cha-your-chocha-volume-xvii.html" rel="nofollow">http://daddylikey.blogspot.com.....-xvii.html</a></p> <p>Maybe it's meant to be worn with tights underneath... ? </p>