https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 26 Apr 2026 18:56:00 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support/page/2#post-1268660 Tue, 03 Jun 2014 23:48:10 +0000 Mo 1268660@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>:) &nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support/page/2#post-1268579 Tue, 03 Jun 2014 22:29:49 +0000 rachylou 1268579@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ok, now that's what I call brilliant, Irene! I like it </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support/page/2#post-1268550 Tue, 03 Jun 2014 22:09:23 +0000 Irene 1268550@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just an update on my life: today I faced the clouds with my best smile and my not so good qualities as a singer. I would say I was the happiest one at the restaurant today, since everyone was kinda upset that there was not much work to do and that they were bored. I, however, went through my ten hours shift singing to myself and laughing randomly. It paid off. I even got hit on by a super cute guy in the tube :)</p> <p>AND I got called for an interview for a job at Clarks. Not ideal, but let me have my fingers crossed.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support/page/2#post-1268175 Tue, 03 Jun 2014 14:26:38 +0000 catseye 1268175@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>While if this job is so demanding that you cannot work on your dream at all, then I would consider quitting. I would just think really carefully how long you can survive on your savings before you give notice. You alone can decide whether a job like this in London is worth staying for. You may also want to set a deadline on how long are you going to try to make it in London.&nbsp;</p> <p>I am not sure what industry you want to break in, so&nbsp;I cannot give advice on how to do that. But unpaid internship is sometimes a&nbsp;way to get into a line of job.&nbsp;</p> <p>Good luck! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support/page/2#post-1268014 Tue, 03 Jun 2014 09:41:30 +0000 Mander 1268014@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I worked in a restaurant for many years as an undergrad.&nbsp; At first I felt really bad about having to take a job there, because it seemed so remote from my intellectual interests.&nbsp; But, after a few months of getting into the culture of the place, it actually ended up being quite fun.&nbsp; Many of the staff were long-term employees (and later became part owners, as it was a family-run business that expanded) and they were all quite close-knit.&nbsp; We had a lot of fun on the job, and a lot of social interaction outside work.&nbsp; Even though I was mostly just running the cash register and clearing tables, it was a nice counterpoint to my studies.</p> <p>I'd say give it some time for you to settle in and develop the right skills.&nbsp; Even if the customers don't talk to the staff much at the moment, that could change.&nbsp; And, well, when you do find a better job that's in your chosen field, you won't feel bad about leaving this one with relatively short notice.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support/page/2#post-1267975 Tue, 03 Jun 2014 07:52:25 +0000 Ornella 1267975@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Irene, I'm happy you started this thread because it prompted yet another outpour of the YLF wisdom. There is so much each one of us can take from this thread - so thank you.</p> <p>I thought about you a lot over the past few days. One thing that I wanted to&nbsp;add is that you've been at the job for only three days at the time of starting the discussion. Isn't it maybe too early to know the job is&nbsp;not for you? It may be just initial reaction that this is not exactly what you imagined and also natural&nbsp;resistance to the change of what you know as your usual/typical&nbsp;work environment?</p> <p>I am by no means saying you should not dream big, nor I think I have to spell it out for you. But, for now I think you could think in terms of adapting. Give it time. Let it be. Honestly, this may be your once in a lifetime chance to observe yourself in an unfamiliar circumstances and the learning experience you could not have predicted. It is true, what does not break us, makes us stronger. How - well, it will only become obvious to you&nbsp;sometimes in the future.</p> <p>Think of this as unlikely, but useful,&nbsp;investment in your career. There jobs and then there are&nbsp;jobs, everyone you come across in the future&nbsp;should appreciate a person who is not afraid of getting on with things. You made a brave move, then you made the best of the circumstances you've found yourself in -&nbsp;while keeping an eye on your actual goal.&nbsp;</p> <p>One more thing. You mention you could go back to Barcelona and get a better paid&nbsp;job any time. This is something that gives certain weight to how you feel about things. The way I interpret it - deep down, you know there is a rather safe&nbsp;Plan B if things don't work out in London. You know even now that you don't have to do what you do where you are, but can do what's more aligned with your qualifications and abilities&nbsp;- although&nbsp;somewhere else. It's possibly an inner conflict. Perhaps you feel like you're settling for less unnecessarily. I'm saying this partly from personal experience, my husband and I moved a few times&nbsp;in the past, but we almost always had an option if things did not work out as planned. This changes things a lot.</p> <p>You have every right to feel unsatisfied, but give it some time. I agree you should not do any soul-sucking job, but I believe there is so much you can take out from this. At least you can now compare two different scenarios and how you feel about them: being where you are with no job you want or any job at all, or being where you are and doing something/anything while searching for what you want.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support/page/2#post-1267918 Tue, 03 Jun 2014 04:27:51 +0000 Gaylene 1267918@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hmm, I'm going to go against the grain here and suggest that you leave the job if you are truly unhappy with it. Stumbling around half-heartedly going through the motions isn't fair to your employer or fellow workers--or to yourself. If you don't feel like making the effort, I'd say the situation looks like a losing proposition for everyone.</p> <p>For what it's worth, I've worked at similar jobs where my stamina was more important than my brains. I think that working these kinds of jobs teaches you a lot about yourself and others, but I also think that this kind of learning only happens when you take pride in being able to cope with the challenges of this kind of labour. If you can't take pride in your work, I think it destroys your soul--and no pay cheque can compensate for that.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support/page/2#post-1267869 Tue, 03 Jun 2014 03:20:11 +0000 Jeanie 1267869@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh gosh I feel for you. &nbsp;I had a waitressing job once and I was terrible at it. &nbsp;It did keep me in shape more than any other job I've had.&nbsp; I just stuck it out until I found the next job. &nbsp;I think it would be a great networking opportunity if you get the chance to know your customers. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support/page/2#post-1267762 Tue, 03 Jun 2014 01:53:00 +0000 Stuti 1267762@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>When I came to America (as MD) from my country I worked in sandwich shop. Only person open to close at 10pm. Owner was super proud to hire a physician and I was happy to have money to afford fees to pay for ECFMG test and eventually able to practice in this country.</p> <p>Exactly like Suz etc said give yourself deadline. Whatever that is acceptable to you and move on. </p> <p>My deadline was set by ECFMG so it was easy so much time to study, give test and start residency. Good friend of mine was in retail (jcpenney) and other at gas station filling tanks in NJ.</p> <p>I think just go on aiming for what you always wanted. There's always speed breakers in life or road but other side is slope to give momentum.</p> <p>Didn't mean to write essay. Just sharing experience that was big blow on ego if you ask me but is a great story to share with my kids and teach them value of hard work and that no work is inferior - it's just different kind. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support/page/2#post-1267412 Mon, 02 Jun 2014 18:49:41 +0000 rachylou 1267412@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's interesting, Irene. I'm mainly a writer now, although I've also done editing. But either way, with *brain* jobs - there's a lot less interaction than one might hope for (everyone always has to go off and think in some corner somewhere), and they're very bad for the brain. The brain was not optimized for sitting. I'm not entirely sure I can do the brain job without the physical job - which provides a lot of illumination for the brain job while the brain job provides nothing for the physical job. Plus I might add, the physical job actually makes something for me to eat.</p> <p>I mean, I do a lot less thinking with writing than with baking. Also, I have to tell everyone there's a lot of thinking that <i>ought </i>be going on with dish washing. </p> <p>But dish washing can get lonely. That's very true. So easy to just zone out and get isolated. You have to know how to shake that off too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support/page/2#post-1267376 Mon, 02 Jun 2014 18:01:07 +0000 Anonymous 1267376@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maybe think of this as an opportunity to stretch yourself in new directions. Manual labor can strengthen your body and your mind, if you allow it. It's amazing how mentally tough you can become when you're pushing yourself beyond what's comfortable. If all the skills Rachy mentioned don't come naturally to you -- challenge yourself to become better, learn more, and make the most of what's in front of you.&nbsp;I have a regular 'ol office job now, where I'm supposedly valued for my intellect&nbsp;but I honestly sometimes miss the so-called "less challenging" jobs that I had&nbsp;in the past. They toughened me up, that's for sure.&nbsp;It's why I seldom feel I can complain about the ennui of my white-collar job.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support/page/2#post-1267329 Mon, 02 Jun 2014 17:22:35 +0000 Irene 1267329@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you all for the support and/or advice.</p> <p>Just to make things clear, I never said I was 'overqualified' -though I am, in the sense that you don't 'need' a degree to bartender and you do need a degree to do what I've been doing (actually you don't really&nbsp;need a degree, but they will ask you to have it anyways).&nbsp;</p> <p>What I am saying is that it is not the kind of job that would make <i>me</i> happy (I don't think so, at least). It does make may other people happy, I am sure of that. <b>And to answer to rachylou's questions:</b> I suck at all those things. I'm trying my best but I am slow, and clumsy, and make a mess all the time. And I want to learn how to do things better. I never said it was an easy job for me. I never complained about how easy it was. I have actually always admired waiters and waitresses because theirs&nbsp;<i>is</i> a difficult job. I'm just used to working with my mind/brain as opposed to working with my hands and body. And even then, I hated it when I had to work on my own for long periods of time, because I need human interaction (which I haven't been having while washing dishes for hours).</p> <p>And, sadly, there's not much talking between customers and waiters in this café, to be honest. I wish it wasn't that way, but it is, I don't know exactly why...</p> <p>I've reached the conclusion that this job is as good a thing as I can have right now, and that I have to make the most of it. So I'll smile my way through it, sing to myself when nobody talks to me (ehem, kinda been doing that already) and wear comfortable shoes.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support#post-1267319 Mon, 02 Jun 2014 17:02:28 +0000 rachylou 1267319@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hmm. I think you should stick it out. Also, I like Ornella's A, B, and C.</p> <p>I have two jobs - one that requires a degree (technical writer) and one that doesn't (baker) - although admittedly they're both <i>professions</i>. Anyways, I suggest to you that sustaining interest and staying awake is a <i>skill</i>. Jobs don't keep you alert; you keep yourself going. And this is your opportunity to develop this skill.</p> <p>Also, I must be lovingly blunt. I doubt you're overqualified for <i>dishwashing</i>. You've only been on the job a few days. If you're bored, you probably aren't doing the job. There are many things you're not doing or not doing very well. With the dishwashing: Do you know the safety and health rules? Are you following them? How do you mix sanitizing water? How long is it good for? What temperature should the water be? Do you know the proper procedure and setup of the sinks? Do you know how to restart the water heater? Do you have the timing correct? In what order should dishes be washed? Have you cleaned the underside of the sinks? Have you cleaned the bathrooms? Have you replaced the soap and towels for the hand sinks? Is the floor around your sink dry?</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support#post-1267269 Mon, 02 Jun 2014 14:34:02 +0000 Mo 1267269@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm not sure I'm the one to offer any insight. &nbsp;I actually enjoy the bartending job 90% of the time. &nbsp;Sure, it has it's drawbacks, but I've been a deskbound office worker and that was so much more mind numbing than I could have ever imagined. &nbsp;And not moving my body physically was a huge, huge drawback. &nbsp;<br />I was the honor roll student with the very high IQ, won the spelling bee, did 12th year math in 9th, etc, etc. &nbsp;But I never went on to higher education. &nbsp;I did not have a clear goal as to what I was going to school for, and I do not enjoy the busywork of the education system. &nbsp;I love to learn. &nbsp;But papers and homework and in particular any 'group' assignments leave me cold. &nbsp;It's not that I'm lazy. &nbsp;It bores me. &nbsp;<br />Anyway, all that to say that intellectually I am probably what most would consider 'above' waitressing. &nbsp;But I have to tell you, just a month before I moved back to FL this last time, I had 2 guys at my bar for hours. &nbsp;One was a college professor. &nbsp;We talked for hours. &nbsp;About everything. &nbsp;It was great. &nbsp;And I got paid to do it! &nbsp;The job is more than serving. &nbsp;It is interacting with others, studying human nature, making connections in your community, even. &nbsp;I met my BF of 14 years at work, actually. &nbsp;Best connection I ever made!<br />Speaking of, he started working at the bar with me about 5 years into us dating. &nbsp;He would leave his 6 figure 'real' job here in FL to make waiter's wages. &nbsp;How did he reconcile it? &nbsp;By doing the best he could at it. &nbsp;Highest sales. &nbsp;Upselling. &nbsp;Remembering what people drank who he hadn't seen in a year since their last vacation to Tahoe. &nbsp;And as a man in his 50's I'm sure the 'what is he doing this for?' question comes into play. &nbsp;<br />Lastly, after time, it became more than a job. &nbsp;It's a second family. &nbsp;There is a unique bonding of working with others in such a high stress environment. &nbsp;I left my 4 year, secure, office job with a fortune 500 company&nbsp;with benefits on purpose to become a waitress when I was 22. &nbsp;Never looked back. &nbsp;It was the best choice for me.&nbsp;<br />I would get the most out of it personally that you can and maybe you will meet someone that can help you along in your chosen&nbsp;career path. &nbsp;It is after all, free networking if you think about it.&nbsp;<br />&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support#post-1267262 Mon, 02 Jun 2014 14:21:15 +0000 texstyle 1267262@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've certainly had my share of crappy jobs back in the early days. I think the worst ones were the ones that felt mind numbingly boring and where I spent too much time alone (imagine working alone in the office&nbsp;as a leasing agent for a huge nearly empty new apartment complex on the edge of a very large metro city). It wasn't just boring, it was scary too.&nbsp;But many jobs can become pretty boring after doing them long enough.</p> <p>If I didn't really *need* a job and it was making me feel really bad, I might move on myself.&nbsp; But I thought originally you did say you really "needed" to find a job. I guess I think of the employer and wonder is it really fair to hold onto a job you don't want when they could be training someone who might have a dream of working in a café. But then again, if you need to be working - and you are doing the job well enough, maybe stick it out for a bit longer to see where your mind leads...</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support#post-1267162 Mon, 02 Jun 2014 12:04:58 +0000 Glory 1267162@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It is horrible when you hate the daily job! I would consider putting some time frames around it - that often helps me. Once you have the barista job perhaps work at it for a couple of months to see if it might bridge the gap for you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support#post-1267039 Mon, 02 Jun 2014 04:47:21 +0000 Gigi 1267039@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I admire you, Irene, for daring to go to London to pursue your career choice!&nbsp;</p> <p>I once had a job cleaning apartments. It was extremely hard work (like what you have described) and left me exhausted. At first I thought that it should be a nice change and I could give my brain a rest, since I was always in intellectual fields before. So this was an eye-opener for me, that working a job for which I am overqualified is NOT relaxing! I gained a lot of self-knowledge from it, and when my friends now say that they are tired of their stressful desk jobs and want to work as a stocker&nbsp;at Target, I tell them that they can try, but they will not be happy there! Of course, they don't believe me. That may be one silver lining to this job: you now know *for sure*&nbsp;that you will never be satisfied with a job that doesn't require a lot of you intellectually.</p> <p>I know that you are not saying that you are "above" this job. You are just saying that it is eminently not suited to your personality and training.&nbsp;I never did learn to enjoy my job cleaning the apartments. I eventually quit—it was taking a toll on my health (I was developing eczema). But to be honest, I really needed to let it go anyway, as it wasn't doing anything for my emotional health.&nbsp;Hopefully, as you get more familiar with the co-workers and the area and the city, the work will seem less unbearable, and you will be able to stick it out until something more suitable comes along.</p> <p>I went back to an old post of yours and saw that you are looking for work in publishing, but you think perhaps they don't want you because you are not a native speaker of English. Have you looked for jobs that are called "production editor"? Those jobs are more geared toward managing a project (i.e., overseeing the steps but not actually doing the steps yourself)&nbsp;from manuscript to finished book, so the nonnative speaker thing might not be as big a deal. Working as a production editor can be very helpful, because you get to see each of the steps in creating a book. Many people move on from there to a more specialized area (I was a production editor for years but now am a copyeditor), but at that point you will have some experience that will help you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support#post-1267006 Mon, 02 Jun 2014 03:24:52 +0000 Anonymous 1267006@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My crappy job was cutting up chickens, hundreds of them. Then there was selling encyclopedias door to door. Think of yourself as doing research for a book. Everyone has a story and you may want to start collecting them. If nothing else you'll have some good stories to entertain your friends and family. Later in life you may look back fondly at this experience. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support#post-1267003 Mon, 02 Jun 2014 03:23:52 +0000 Echo 1267003@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Although you are over-qualified for this job, I agree that it not only pays the bills (not that that is a pressing need right now), but it gets you into contact with other people. I've done some of my most important networking in service-related jobs.</p> <p>But the point I really wanted to make was that I think a person needs to give a job at least a few weeks an maybe even a few months before they decide to leave. That is, unless there are horrible working conditions or illegal activities or abusive situations, etc. There have been jobs I thought I hated until I was there for a while and got to know my coworkers better. I had a job driving pizzas while in University, and I despised that job for a long time. And now I look back on it fondly for all the people I met and experiences I had.</p> <p>So no one can say that you should or should not stay at this job; only you can make the right choice for you. I just think you should give it a fair shake before you leave, especially given the benefits of the job. Stay for a while and then think about whether you would miss it if you left - your answer might surprise you. You will find a job in your area that is a better fit, but until then, the one you have might not be so bad.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support#post-1266940 Mon, 02 Jun 2014 01:52:34 +0000 DonnaF 1266940@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't think anyone has suggested that you stay at this job for the long haul and/or give up your dreams.&nbsp; You have been very, very fortunate that your prior jobs have been pretty good; as you can see, most of us have not been that lucky.&nbsp; It sounds good that you will be moving quickly to the front of the house; meeting customers may lead to your dream job.&nbsp; You never know who that customer may know or have gone to school with, etc.!&nbsp; Plus, they may be more willing to interact with you since you are not a native Londoner.&nbsp; Your schedule leaves you three days for interviews which I imagine would be sufficiently flexible for most prospective employers. . . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support#post-1266826 Mon, 02 Jun 2014 00:00:32 +0000 ironkurtin 1266826@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm with Irene. Asking for help and surmounting obstacles is both hard and necessary no matter what world we live in. Belittling someone's struggles because they aren't as horrible as someone else's? Not helpful. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support#post-1266824 Sun, 01 Jun 2014 23:57:22 +0000 annagybe 1266824@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Technically, claracluck this entire forum is first world problems, but yeah ok.</p> <p>Anyways, Irene. My major concern is that at least in NYC, the publishing world is shrinking. Magazines sales are dropping, books are difficult. But I understand that you have to at least try. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support#post-1266782 Sun, 01 Jun 2014 23:06:36 +0000 Irene 1266782@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, huh, wow. I'm sorry for being a frivolous ambitious brat who doesn't want to do just about anything after studying hard for six years, interning for nine months and working very underpaid for eight months. I've invested too much money and time on this to feel good about settling&nbsp;for something not quite. Will I work as whatever for a while because I actually believe it can be a good personal experience that will toughen me up and from which I will learn a lot? Absolutely. But don't expect me to feel grateful to have any job just because things are rough right now. We all take things for granted on our daily routines -at least those who&nbsp;have enough to be able to participate on fashion forums and pay for the internet needed to do that- and that's completely natural. I started working at 18 and haven't been unemployed for more than three months in a row. Ever. Yes, I've always taken work -and good working conditions- for granted, I guess I've been lucky in that sense. I don't take payment for granted though, but that's another story.</p> <p>I find it ironic that you mention 'first world problems' in a fashion forums where we ask about which bag would suit our outfit better as if&nbsp;our lives depended upon that.&nbsp;</p> <p>Anyways, I've been told too many times that I don't deserve this, shouldn't expect that or might as well just accept things as they are. And I've decided I'm not having any more of that, so this is all I have to say on this matter. I love myself enough to know I deserve something that makes me happy in the long run. Period. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support#post-1266710 Sun, 01 Jun 2014 21:41:21 +0000 claracluck 1266710@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>yes first world problems are difficult . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support#post-1266708 Sun, 01 Jun 2014 21:39:37 +0000 Irene 1266708@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Haha, love your little stories about my fictional life!</p> <p>Clara, while you are right that it is damn hard to find a job in London right now, and that I should feel lucky, it is also true that I came here to build a career in what I have studied and worked hard for. Yes, I know, sometimes there are rough patches in life, but I reaally don't want (and don't have) to settle for something I don't like (yet). I don't have children, I'm not in a serious relationship and I don't have that many responsabilities. I'm from Spain, there are NO JOBS there, but that's not why I came here. I came here because I've always wanted to and because here is where the industry I want to work in is biggest (and NYC). The Spanish recession never affected me, and I could easily go back to Barcelona and get a better-paid job there (that wouldn't make me happy either). So, I didn't come here for work (any work, I mean), for survival. I came here because I want to give my dream a go.</p> <p>That said, I'll suck it up and write a novel on my experiences as a tremendously clumsy barista. It will be a hit, I'm telling you.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support#post-1266642 Sun, 01 Jun 2014 20:19:21 +0000 claracluck 1266642@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>sorry I think your lucky to get a job at all in London when theres probably ten people who would kill for it, just saying........... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support#post-1266596 Sun, 01 Jun 2014 19:13:19 +0000 annagybe 1266596@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have had all sorts of crappy jobs to pay the bills. I've written parking tickets on campus, slung pizza, flipped burgers, catering, bartending. Numerous temp office jobs.<br />In some ways food service is less soul sucking than a lot of office jobs. I would rather be a barista than filing all day.<br />This actually sounds decent. Plus free food will help you save money. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support#post-1266523 Sun, 01 Jun 2014 18:03:32 +0000 kkards 1266523@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ornella: I remember this one customer that came into a coffee shop I used to work at ...<br /> Kim: But he wasn't just any ordinary customer at all, he was actually the best friend of Prince Harry!...<br /> Ornella: As the only girl amongst staff at the moment, I got these amused looks form my co-workers who noticed that he noticed me, while my hands were deep in the soapy water. Talk about timing!<br /> Laurinda: We got to chatting, and he invited me to a little cocktail party he was throwing...<br /> Runclara:" I accepted. Whatever am I going to wear?"<br /> Kkards: off to post an urgent request to my friends at you look fab....</p> <p>Seriously , you never know where one job will lead you. This isn't the end, it's not even the beginning, it's just a step forward. Hang in there. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support#post-1266474 Sun, 01 Jun 2014 16:50:02 +0000 rabbit 1266474@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Not much to add, I've had these jobs - movie theater concessionaire, dishwasher and server&nbsp;at a cafeteria, receptionist and switchboard operator,&nbsp;door to door canvasser, re-shelver at a library, litter scooper&nbsp;at a cat shelter,&nbsp;cashier at a video rental&nbsp;store (actually, that was&nbsp;the best job ever) throughout all my teenage and college years and in between other jobs in more recent years. &nbsp; Sometimes I've enjoyed it far more than a job I was 'qualified' for.</p> <p>The spiritual approach to it is work is work and service is service&nbsp;and it all has dignity, you can meditate chopping wood, ironing&nbsp;or washing dishes as long as you are in the moment and focused on offering your best to the task at hand.&nbsp;</p> <p>You also get to know interesting people with varied stories and backgrounds&nbsp;whose lives you might never have intersected with in other ways, and your mind is often&nbsp;free to wander once you are into a rhythm. &nbsp;With some work (if it's after hours or something)&nbsp;you can listen to music or books or pod-casts on your ipod. &nbsp; I worked in one kitchen where everyone sung while chopping the food so that the good energy would go into the cooking. &nbsp;It was GREAT food.</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/in-need-of-some-moral-support#post-1266442 Sun, 01 Jun 2014 16:16:08 +0000 Irene 1266442@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks all :)</p> <p>This is really hard for me, I think it's because I didn't experience these type of experiences when I actually had to (early adulthood) that now I'm just not used to this idea. And it's not like I'm that young anymore. But you're right that it gets me out of the house and pays my bills. Life is hard. As I said, I <i>am</i> too much of a sissy.</p>