https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Tue, 21 Apr 2026 12:49:33 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized/page/2#post-1239057 Thu, 01 May 2014 20:19:56 +0000 Vicki 1239057@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, I think you are truly brave and a much braver woman than I am, because I saw some bathing suits on display and I simply shook my head and walked on, knowing that it's not something I want to try on or buy, ever. &nbsp;The silver lining for me is that I'm more like a cat and I really don't like water or water sports and I'm not inclined to sunning either. &nbsp;So, it all works out.</p> <p>If you are one of those who love the summer and outdoor activities, you've got lots of great suggestions here from other forum members and I know you'll find something that fits your purposes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized/page/2#post-1238862 Thu, 01 May 2014 16:14:19 +0000 April 1238862@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, I just received this one from Zappos and, fearing the worst, was pleasantly surprised by the camouflaging effect of the draping in the front, as well as the "sleeves": <a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.zappos.com/badgley-mischka-solids-wide-strap-draped-front-maillot-wine">http://www.zappos.com/badgley-.....illot-wine</a>&nbsp; </p> <p>I went with the "Pacific" but there are multiple colors.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized/page/2#post-1238799 Thu, 01 May 2014 15:31:54 +0000 texstyle 1238799@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Okay, so I have a suggestion - why not just try on swim suits first *without* a mirror? Then, ONLY if they *feel* really good, bother to look in the mirror? If it doesn't feel good, take it off and move on without looking. </p> <p>I know I repeat it a lot, but the way a clothing item feels on my body is so important to me that I've begun doing it this way as much as I can so that I'm not swayed by a pretty color or style if it's not going to feel good wearing it for hours.</p> <p>And most swimmers have very muscular thighs, right? So maybe looking at the brands the professional swimmers buy would help? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized/page/2#post-1237724 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 15:24:50 +0000 Ledonna N. 1237724@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>ok breathe deeply.&nbsp; Maybe the ones you tried on were not the correct ones for you.&nbsp; I personally wear male swim trunks because they give me a modesty factor that I love.&nbsp; Even when I buy swimsuits&nbsp; for my young one I also buy a pair of swim shorts for her I love the coverage of these shorts.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized/page/2#post-1237414 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 06:07:46 +0000 Ornella 1237414@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You simply tried the wrong ones.</p> <p>And guess what - think of the life without YLF. Maybe you'd settle for&nbsp;some of those in desperation thinking one surely should have worked, but now you know there are <b>better things out there</b> and the right one <b>for you</b>&nbsp;is waiting for you.</p> <p>Onwards and upwards ;-)</p> <p>*<i>raising my glass of wine&nbsp;to celebrate YLF with you</i>* </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized/page/2#post-1237384 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 05:10:59 +0000 catgirl 1237384@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Have you looked at Athleta? They have swim pants that look like running capris! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized#post-1237380 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 04:50:35 +0000 Kristin SF 1237380@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>For some reason, my lap suits from TYR and Speedo are like sausage casings. I always figured they were designed that way to make you more hydrodynamic - faster swimming, right? </p> <p>I size up and struggle to pull them on for the first few months, then they always stretch out nicely. Eventually.</p> <p>Have you also looked at Athleta? They have nice bikinis that were actually pretty flattering, and I used 2 as a lap suit (surprisingly) all last summer.</p> <p>Good luck - and size up! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized#post-1237352 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 04:06:45 +0000 Carla 1237352@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just got back from masters swimming an hour and a half ago! Still have the goggle eyes to prove it. Speedo endurance with the fly back is my choice. Have two that I alternate between. They last forever. I just close my eyes and put the suit on, then the cap, then the goggles. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized#post-1237350 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 04:05:22 +0000 rae 1237350@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, if you feel that way and you are a runner, then what hope is there for me?? I'm sure you look great and you just need to find the right suit. Not that that's easy. I usually buy mismatched overstock separates and blame it on selection... o_0 </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized#post-1237349 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 04:04:12 +0000 Aziraphale 1237349@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like Tracey's idea. Wine first, try on suits second. :-)</p> <p>Seriously, though, I think we pretty much ALL feel your pain. What IS it about women's bathing suits? They pinch and squeeze, making flesh look fleshier, or else they stretch and sag. So annoying.&nbsp;I've studied an awful lot of bodies over the years&nbsp;(life drawing classes), and I've come to the conclusion that women of all shapes and sizes look better naked than in a bathing suit.&nbsp;</p> <p>As it happens, I need a new suit myself. I have two reasonably flattering bikinis for the beach, but I always feel like a complete berk wearing a bikini to the swim pool with my kids. I think this time I'm going to go for the bust-squashing Speedo style, and I'm going to try not to care. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized#post-1237347 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 03:58:09 +0000 Anonymous 1237347@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry to hear nothing worked out for you.&nbsp; I don't think many people look good in fitness style suits.&nbsp; Have you thought about the unitard suits or a shortie wet suit?&nbsp; The shortie wets suits are nice because they have a zipper.&nbsp; They also have some cute wet suit style swim suits.&nbsp; I'm thinking about this one.&nbsp; <br /><a href="http://www.amazon.com/dp/B004ZGE1ZU/ref=wl_it_dp_o_pC_S_ttl?_encoding=UTF8&amp;colid=14WPFZZI0CJKT&amp;coliid=I34BG2CUQGJKQR&amp;psc=1" rel="nofollow">http://www.amazon.com/dp/B004Z.....#038;colii</a></p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized#post-1237336 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 03:40:01 +0000 Suz 1237336@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I totally agree about lap suits. And listen -- if you think <b>YOU</b> are squished down to nothing, imagine how it looks on a flat-chested person. If I could persuade myself that I looked "gamine" or "sweetly boyish" or something, that would be one thing. But no. I look like a middle-aged woman with a flat chest and ugly knees&nbsp;wearing an extremely unflattering suit!!!&nbsp;</p> <p>I am actually considering a Speedo "recreational" suit for real swimming. I didn't try it yet. (Shudder). But it has some boob support and some ruching in the front. I couldn't find it on the website yet but if I try it this week I will show you/ let you know.&nbsp; </p> <p></p> <p>ETA: Zappos has it:&nbsp;<a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.zappos.com/speedo-shirred-tank-one-piece-indigo-blue">http://www.zappos.com/speedo-s.....ndigo-blue</a></p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized#post-1237324 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 03:22:45 +0000 sarah 1237324@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think that lap suits are the HARDEST, at least at my age. First of all, why are they all cut so darn low in the back? It is SO unflattering and reveals everything that shouldn't be. Second, my newly developed sagginess in the chest is accentuated in lap suits in the worst way. I've actually take to lap swimming in my <a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.landsend.com/products/womens-carmela-one-piece-slender-suit/id_191482">Lands End suit</a> that has some support, because otherwise I look awful, and it's pretty comfortable. I do have one Speedo suit with a bit more coverage in the back that does ok.</p> <p>I got it a few years ago, but it's a bit like this one:</p> <p><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.zappos.com/speedo-conservative-ultraback-one-piece-w-princess-seam-nautical-navy">http://www.zappos.com/speedo-c.....tical-navy</a></p> <p>Good luck, I totally get where you are coming from. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized#post-1237309 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 03:06:15 +0000 Thistle 1237309@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What MaryK said!!&nbsp; And I so know the pain of swimsuit shopping, especially when I have to shop by bra size :(</p> <p>Wine first next time!</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized#post-1237295 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 02:57:35 +0000 Caro in Oz 1237295@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sharing your pain Janet - I buy 2 of the same suit when I find one just so it will be twice as long before I need to&nbsp;go through the process again. Agreeing with the others it is the clothes or the swim suits to be precise </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized#post-1237286 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 02:45:56 +0000 Janet 1237286@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I know, MaryK, right? </p> <p>I am reminding myself that these are lap swimming suits, so they don't have to be THE most flattering suits ever. But it is nice to feel and look halfway presentable when I go do laps at the gym too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized#post-1237281 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 02:43:43 +0000 Sveta 1237281@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, I am sure you are too hard on yourself. You are a gorgeous woman, curves and all!&nbsp;<br />Swimsuit shopping is hard - there is not much for disguising what you think is not looking as good as you hoped - but i am sure it is not as bad as you think it is.<br />In any case a glass (or two) of wine will not hurt &nbsp;- and then maybe try them on again and who knows what can happen...:-) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized#post-1237277 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 02:38:04 +0000 MsMary 1237277@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just remember all those pictures they&nbsp; have on Pinterest about How to Have a Beach Body:&nbsp; 1.&nbsp; Have a body.&nbsp; 2.&nbsp; Go to the beach.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized#post-1237274 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 02:37:19 +0000 TraceyLiz65 1237274@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This truly is the worst for most women. Perhaps you should do it in reverse and have that glass or two of wine first. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized#post-1237271 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 02:34:49 +0000 Angie 1237271@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, all you need to do&nbsp;is model your cozzie for hubs and he'll be all over you. And if you model it for YLF - we won't stop telling you how killer fab you look in that suit. xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized#post-1237269 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 02:32:01 +0000 annagybe 1237269@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Last time I went swimsuit shopping, I dragged Amy along. We had lunch and wine beforehand. That allowed us to laugh at the really bad ones. For the record I need boob support.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized#post-1237268 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 02:30:43 +0000 Sarah A 1237268@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>How frustrating!</p> <p>Love the board shorts rash combo for outdoor fun, but yes not for actually swimming laps. I have and like the Finals Funkies (&amp;Funnies). I am sure they are a spin off to the Dolphin Uglies as a poly based long wearing suit, but because the Doplhin cuts dont do me any favors I prefer the Finals. Some are 90% poly and some 80%.. the 90% wear better. I get tons of compliments on the fun patterns. I usually wear a 36 and ordered 38s based upon the reviews and am happy with the fit.</p> <p><a href="http://www.swimoutlet.com/the-finals-funnies-c1173//" rel="nofollow">http://www.swimoutlet.com/the-.....es-c1173//</a></p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized#post-1237267 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 02:30:11 +0000 catgirl 1237267@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is why I bought four of the $9 swimsuits that I found in Florida. And they were only JFE. Never again will I deal with the misery that is swimsuit hunting. Hugs. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized#post-1237262 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 02:26:01 +0000 CocoLion 1237262@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Agree with Suz -- it's not you, it's the clothes.</p> <p>Plus -- a&nbsp;good spray tan, cover-up and/or sarong go a long way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized#post-1237256 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 02:22:36 +0000 Janet 1237256@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>PS You all are the best. Thanks for commiserating and making me feel better. I guess it's a rare woman who loves swimsuit shopping, huh? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized#post-1237254 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 02:20:47 +0000 Janet 1237254@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Rash guards and board shorts are awesome but not so much for lap swimming. </p> <p>I haven't gone near my bikinis yet this year. Hubs is talking about a beach vacation at some point, so I need to psych myself up for that. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized#post-1237252 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 02:20:24 +0000 cciele 1237252@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh no Janet! I know the feeling. I think trying on swimsuits is one of the greatest dressing room (even in your own home) headaches a woman can experience!</p> <p>I do like a rash guard -- they are cute and give good sun protection.&nbsp;</p> <p>But I've noticed in some places, most women wear bikinis. Women of all sizes, shapes, and ages. This has made me accept my body a bit more and I have ventured out in a bikini -- very limited venturing, but still. One step at a time... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized#post-1237249 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 02:18:06 +0000 kellygirl 1237249@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Janet, you have a gorgeous figure! The swimsuits are failing you. You will find the right one. Fwiw, I tried on a bunch and then decided just to keep my old suit and cover it with a rash guard.</p> <p>Eta: Oh, those kind of suits. Those can be horrific. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized#post-1237247 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 02:17:09 +0000 Janet 1237247@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Aw, you're sweet, Suz, but it's not only the clothes. As active as I am, my body never looks toned. It sucks.</p> <p>Swimsuits for serious swimming are really tough to fit on a body that does not look like an athlete's. The least offensive one was a TYR that at least managed not to pinch at the leg openings (this is one of my biggest problems with swimsuits, and sizing up just leads to a too-long torso and baggy butt) -- and it mashed my boobs completely down. Maybe not such a bad thing because, yay, support? </p> <p>Clothes are so much easier. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-traumatized#post-1237244 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 02:15:31 +0000 Suz 1237244@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have also adopted the board shorts/ rash guard outfit, but it doesn't work for actual swimming so well. It's good for MOTG playing around in the water with kids/ friends.&nbsp; </p>