https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 22 Apr 2026 23:04:38 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1678156 Sun, 12 Jun 2016 16:05:37 +0000 Jenn 1678156@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love Beth Ann's advice. And I vote you spend your last two summer by on items on some high-end gear that makes you feel invincible at the gym. </p> <p></p> <p>And please keep us informed on your 5p French purchases! I finally have my basics in place after the two seasons, and am going to be switching over to this purchasing strategy for fall, now that my wardrobe is in better shape. So looking forward to "less but better."</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1678020 Sun, 12 Jun 2016 06:17:16 +0000 Sal 1678020@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes I agree with everyone else - and if your colleague makes any similar remarks again I would advise her that you find it inappropriate for the workplace. &nbsp;</p> <p>Personally I try to never really talk about weight whether people have put on weight or lost it, unless I really know they have been following a healthy diet/exercise plan and trying. &nbsp;</p> <p>Rock on Shedev and save your money for something cool when you see it!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1677990 Sun, 12 Jun 2016 03:30:58 +0000 Beth Ann 1677990@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I sometimes say to myself: &nbsp;"It is not an obligation to be thin, or young, or decorative for anyone. It IS my obligation to use the strength of my body to contribute something of value to my community."</p> <p>I swear some workplaces are more like reality TV shows! &nbsp;Walk proud! &nbsp;You're strong and capable and a couple of inches more or less isn't going to change that! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1677939 Sun, 12 Jun 2016 00:55:10 +0000 Style Fan 1677939@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>How rude!&nbsp; I can't believe what some people say.&nbsp; I am so sorry that happened to you.&nbsp; Nothing wrong with gear.&nbsp; That is what I wear most of the time.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1677929 Sun, 12 Jun 2016 00:15:13 +0000 Suz 1677929@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That is so RUDE! I don't know what gets into people. So sorry that you've had to deal with that. As for sitting out the trends, that makes sense if nothing tickles your fancy. I'm with UmmLila -- live in gear and get good workouts in and do your best to stay away from thoughtless and unkind people.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1677928 Sun, 12 Jun 2016 00:09:02 +0000 Diana 1677928@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ugh, what is with all these awful comments people are getting lately? i think our interest in style always waxes and wanes and its natural some seasons to not be into it. Kind of liberating actually. </p> <p>Your summer plans sound great! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1677919 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 23:19:45 +0000 Anonymous 1677919@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry to hear that people are making mean comments to you. I have to work alongside a toxic coworker, so I know what it's like. Chin up, and cheers to you for exercising and setting goals for yourself. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1677901 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 22:46:18 +0000 Barbara Diane 1677901@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry you are going through this.</p> <p>I say it's okay to not buy new items, &nbsp;even to fill the holes. I don't really want to spend much more time looking for what I thought I needed.&nbsp;I figured that as long as I don't go naked :), and I have decent choices, I'm okay. I'm just a little bored, and I wanted a casual lightweight breathable dress, but I have long ones, and tops, and crops/capris, and I've gotten through some really hot weather already, so, it will work out if I don't add a thing. Although I might look because Nordstrom 10X points is tempting.<br />And I can almost feel NAS in my bones.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1677824 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 20:13:23 +0000 annagybe 1677824@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Urgh, coworkers.<br /> Just carry on &amp; be your rocking self. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1677739 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 16:09:39 +0000 rachylou 1677739@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree, lisap. It's even a little weird how fast we're supposed to make fashion changes these days. When I love something, I want to love it for a long time. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1677730 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 15:55:03 +0000 Anonymous 1677730@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>People are so weird lately! &nbsp;You know, I think it's totally "normal" and even ok to not be down with current trends. Sitting a season out can be kind of liberating - I remember doing that often back years ago when which colours were offered at retail seemed to be more limited. Anyways - go for it, work out, get re-energized, and don't even worry about what's in or not and come back for the fall season feeling better. &nbsp;This is where our own story gets to be told - wear what is really you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1677645 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 12:24:20 +0000 Helen11 1677645@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So I had to look up Krav Maga......man, your co-workers better be nice to you in the future!<br /> I agree with Carter, if you're not inspired by the summer fashion then roll your budget over to Fall. Or invest in really great gear. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1677623 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 11:42:25 +0000 Gail 1677623@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Rude rude rude. Good luck with your work outs and embrace your exercise gear for the summer ! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1677562 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 06:50:32 +0000 rachylou 1677562@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>There you are, shedev! </p> <p>There is seriously an abusive atmosphere going around these days. My girl workchild jokes about emotionally beating me down - except it's true. She's a black cloud of doom. People need to stop mistaking depressiveness for humour and straightforwardness.</p> <p>But Krav Maga sounds fun... I pass by a cool looking Krav place on my way for donuts... Lol </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1677551 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 05:48:51 +0000 Brooklyn 1677551@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Unbelievable that people would make these type of remarks. Try not to take it to heart. Good luck with your program. Try to have fun with it. If it's fun you are more likely to stick with it. (And in athleisure you'd fit right in here in Australia!) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1677530 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 04:10:53 +0000 Jane 1677530@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm also stunned at what people say, particularly to strangers and work colleagues. </p> <p>Don't be too hard on yourself. Take care. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1677529 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 04:08:26 +0000 deb 1677529@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So wrong of those individuals to make those comments. I am sorry.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1677528 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 04:06:04 +0000 Maneera 1677528@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ignore those idiots!!! Even if you have gained a bit of weight, it's absolutely no one's business but your own! It's good you have started working out more aggressively (can you please pass-on to me some of that motivation!!)</p> <p>Plus Athleisure is such a growing trend, you're going to look right on-trend wearing gear all through summer! </p> <p>Good luck, Shedev. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1677524 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 03:33:38 +0000 BrieN 1677524@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Some people try to dig a hole under you to make themselves seem taller. </p> <p>Remember though that people who are positive and happy and who feel good in their own skin don't say junk like that. They just don't. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1677513 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 02:55:43 +0000 UmmLila (Lisa) 1677513@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This summer seems very boho prep, neither of which is your scene. Just go for the exercise gear. It's kind of fun to have a shadow style completely unlike what your usual look is.</p> <p>And yeah, it's rude for anyone to comment on anyone's appearance in a negative way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1677512 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 02:52:05 +0000 Eliza 1677512@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi Shedev! You have made decisions about where you want your focus to be now. Sometimes a fashion season goes by without grabbing us and other priorities take over. It's good to hear from you.</p> <p>What is with these people? Makes me want to "politely" shame them into being gracious. Hang in there! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1677500 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 02:04:34 +0000 carter 1677500@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A Summer in gear sounds fabulous! Maybe you just ditch the last 2 Summer items and apply the money and/or item allotment to F/W. With my in-laws in Cleveland, I keep hearing how fab the weather's been. As I sit here and choke down 97! Anyway, enjoy your Summer and ignore the idiots. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1677497 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 01:48:36 +0000 Aida 1677497@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry to hear about your coworkers, goodness. I think it's entirely appropriate to tell the supervisor how you feel about her comment. Also a bummer not to be finding clothing that jives with your aesthetic. At least your wardrobe is in pretty good shape! And fall is right around the corner. It sounds like you've got a great plan to get back to feeling better. Don't over do it and we're happy to hear updates from you along the way </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1677495 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 01:41:01 +0000 Angie 1677495@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Shedev. I'm sorry. It's beyond me how rude people can be sometimes. Sounds like you've got it all under control. WELL DONE, and don't be a stranger.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1677489 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 01:23:24 +0000 shedev 1677489@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If she does it again, I plan to just tell her how I feel as politely as I can muster.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1677487 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 01:19:28 +0000 Caro in Oz 1677487@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>How rude!! I always find it hard to believe people think they have the right to make these kinds of comments - especially people in a supervisory role. Big hugs :)&nbsp;</p> <p>Sounds like you have things under control, enjoy your summer! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1677486 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 01:15:39 +0000 JAileen 1677486@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What is with people these days?! She sounds thick in the head. Can you report her to HR? Only if you're leaving, though. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-still-lurking#post-1677483 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 01:05:11 +0000 shedev 1677483@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm just not that into this summer's trends. It's really crushing my fashion mojo. I'm still reading a lot of posts and occasionally commenting. I'm trying to resist the urge to move on to fall shopping. I still have 2 items of my summer 5 to pick out. </p> <p>My other issue is that I'm not loving my body right now. I've had a coworker comment twice about me becoming thick. I don't think she is trying to be mean, but we aren't buddies and she is in a supervisory role so I find it inappropriate for her to be commenting on my weight. Another coworker commented on how I'm putting on weight. This one was absolutely trying to be mean. We just don't like each other. Although we work for the same company, we don't work in the same location. So I rarely have to see her. But I can't deny that I have put on quite a bit of weight.</p> <p>I'm keeping a food log on my fitness pal, and I've started a pretty aggressive strength training program. I've also joined a gym that has Krav Maga, bootcamp, and kickboxing. I plan to train pretty aggressively until I start grad school in October. I'll likely be spending my summer in exercise gear.</p>