https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 09 Apr 2026 14:08:29 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet/page/2#post-1132645 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 13:50:38 +0000 Janet 1132645@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I notice bikinis have come up a few times in this discussion, and I just had a brief conversation the other night with a 32yo woman who is maybe, maybe a size 0, probably more like a 00. She was talking about not wearing bikinis anymore, and I think I shocked her a little when I said I still wear them, even though I'm several sizes larger than her and I'll be turning 49 this year. </p> <p>I explained that context to me is more important than age. I took a one-piece swimsuit with me on a beach vacation a few years ago, along with my only (at the time) bikini. The one-piece never got worn because once I got to our destination, I realized that all women there -- regardless of age or size -- wore bikinis. I would have stood out more covering myself in a one-piece than baring my pasty white tummy in a bikini. Even though I now sport a couple of small laparoscopy scars on my belly, I'll still wear bikinis when I'm in a place like that. But at home, in our swimming pool, with our friends and neighbors, I stick with a one-piece. I'm more comfortable that way. </p> <p>People have some funny notions of what "a certain age" looks like or dresses like. I've been told by some 20-somethings that I don't dress like a 40-something, and I guess their frame of reference is how their moms dress, because I know I'm not way off the curve or anything. I suppose it's true most middle-aged women are not wearing blue leather moto jackets or turquoise cowboy boots, and I'm totally fine bucking that norm. But then, I don't see many 20-somethings wearing those things either. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet/page/2#post-1132631 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 13:37:53 +0000 viva 1132631@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great thread! I crossed the great divide last year (now 50) and am thinking more about my clothes than ever. Sometimes the question is, is this look too young? I do think there is a line somewhere that I need to be careful about, especially because I am so drawn to shifts -- that can go twee pretty quickly. And I may have worn my bikini for the last time. I think that's done. But in general, I am asking: is this my style? YLF has helped a lot with that. I realize that my style is not defined by age at all, but I do want a certain cohesion in my look that I might not have cared about so much when I was younger. BTW, BF jeans are my style and are a much loved item in my closet. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet/page/2#post-1132562 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 11:25:21 +0000 Deborah 1132562@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Here here! &nbsp;Im not yet 50 but it's not that far off. &nbsp;Brilliant resolution! &nbsp;I have also decided this is the year I stop worrying about 'the age thing". &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet#post-1132510 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 08:06:54 +0000 Lyn D. 1132510@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great new year resolution!<br /> Lack of BF jeans where I live is pretty much across the board.<br /> I wear mine after discovering them on this forum and then finding them in a city Gap store.<br /> I don't consider my age (50 plus) but rather what suits my casual lifestyle and taste. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet#post-1132492 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 07:32:55 +0000 Kiwibird 1132492@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Echoing all that's been said above. &nbsp; I'm on the wrong side of 60 and am having more fun with fashion now (and did in my 50s) than any other time in my life&nbsp;because I'm dressing how I want to and not how I'm expected to - and feeling pretty good about myself. &nbsp;I know what I like and what feels good and if I like a "younger" trend I just adapt it to my style. &nbsp;Go for it Spoff - so glad to hear your rocking those boyfriend jeans!! &nbsp; I've got a couple of pairs, one's rather fitting, the other is baggy but I love them. &nbsp;Here's what this 60+ year old&nbsp;wore to work the other day - wonder if the age police would approve??? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet#post-1132450 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 06:10:50 +0000 Beth Ann 1132450@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I turned 50 last summer.&nbsp; At this point, I realize I have to decide more carefully which voices and messages I wish to take into my heart.&nbsp; I love YLF because I not only hear positive, honest and thoughtful messages, but I can see other forum members finding style and confidence and learn from them.</p> <p>So glad you've found your own best voice! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet#post-1132428 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 05:19:33 +0000 karymk 1132428@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am about to turn fifty so I get you. &nbsp;I started to hear that dumb voice too, when I have always had the confidence and body to do what I want. &nbsp;</p> <p>The question you should ask yourself is, "Is this my style?" &nbsp;instead of "Am I too old for this?" &nbsp;</p> <p>YOu don't want to look mutton as lamb and neither do I. &nbsp;I think if you are on YLF, read mags and look at Pinterest there's no way that is going to happen to you.</p> <p>My body dictates what I can wear more than anything else. &nbsp;Yes, I have too much skin on my middle so I can't wear midriff tops. &nbsp;But if I was some saucy little 50 year old with a completely flat stomach I wanted to feature, maybe I'd do it!</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet#post-1132336 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 03:52:24 +0000 Firecracker (Sharan) 1132336@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great resolution! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet#post-1132331 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 03:47:26 +0000 Joyce B 1132331@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great post and great resolution. We all need to disregard the fashion police and wear what makes us feel happy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet#post-1132313 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 03:28:48 +0000 Catnip 1132313@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, I'm 50++, and I love my two new pairs of boyfriend jeans.&nbsp; It's probably a good thing I didn't know I'm too old to wear them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet#post-1132293 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 03:12:03 +0000 Gigi 1132293@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Way to go! I turned 40 last year and am *just starting* to wear miniskirts. And I really don't care what other people think. Some of us just get started a little later on the fashion journey--but it's a very subjective journey, and we really have to wear what feels "right." </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet#post-1132169 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 01:51:29 +0000 Suz 1132169@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm in the 50 plus crowd and I love my BF jeans! So glad you are planning to defy the inner critics.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet#post-1132064 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 00:10:47 +0000 jenanded 1132064@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great post! I am 51 next week and it is tweaking me a little harder than 50 for some reason. I am suddenly having more issues with what to wear that is both sharp and suits the fading bits if that makes sense... mmm... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet#post-1132051 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 23:57:12 +0000 jen 1132051@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Loved your post :)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet#post-1132038 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 23:43:00 +0000 Aquamarine 1132038@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Absolutely you can wear boyfriend jeans! There have been so many posts here on the different ways everyone has adopted the look for themselves and their lifestyle and persona. I think that's what is most helpful here...seeing the different looks modeled by women of all ages ands sizes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet#post-1132019 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 23:29:29 +0000 MsMaven 1132019@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I enjoy reading that blog as well. &nbsp;This reminds me of the way I found YLF. &nbsp;I Googled fashion for women over 60 and this site popped up. &nbsp;</p> <p>At the time I had the feeling that I was being subtly pressured into giving up style and fashion--this was the message I got when I went shopping. &nbsp;Now I'm happy to find myself in a whole group of "we're not dead yet!" stylish people. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet#post-1131990 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 23:09:31 +0000 cciele 1131990@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Right on, spoff! Love your attitude. I also have questioned some of my fashion choices (I'll be 49 this year), but as you say, You only live once! or YOLO, as&nbsp;the young kids say these days </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet#post-1131986 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 23:04:55 +0000 spoff 1131986@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This all started today with me over boyfriend jeans. Should I ? Shouldn't I ? Am I to old for that look?<br /> When I started surfing for age appropriate ways to wear them I came across the blog I mentioned .<br /> Her words really struck me and I too realized it had nothing to do with age . It was about personal preference and what I felt was appropriate for me. By the same token I knew that when others dressed in something I might not deem right for me ,it didn't make it a wrong choice. They had put time and thought into it ,and chose a look that worked for them and deserved the same level of acceptance I had just granted myself.<br /> By the way, I am rocking my boyfreind jeans right now and I feel fantastic! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet#post-1131966 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 22:54:12 +0000 Mo 1131966@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm going to side with Rachy here. &nbsp;I have a&nbsp;blush pink&nbsp;ruffle tank&nbsp;and a certain white, breezy, gauzy skirt that are giving my pause as I near 44. &nbsp;The 'too girly' thing, not necessarily too young. &nbsp;But 2 years ago I felt fine in both.&nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet#post-1131956 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 22:49:26 +0000 Susie 1131956@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>As a member of the 50+ club, I think it's wonderful that "older" women have more confidence in their style choices. And I agree that figure flattery is a better&nbsp;gauge than&nbsp;age when determining if one wears a particular style or not, like a bikini or an above the knee length skirt.&nbsp;</p> <p>But, for me,&nbsp;I still believe that age- whether 15 or 55-&nbsp;does play a role in determining what is most appropriate.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet#post-1131934 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 22:35:22 +0000 ClaraT 1131934@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What Carla said: Amen. I think personal style/shape etc. plus situation-appropriateness are better guides than age. Like it? Wear it and own the look! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet#post-1131924 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 22:27:37 +0000 Carla 1131924@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm starting to think a lot of 'what's age appropriate for 50 something' is really a question of what is appropriate. Period. Regardless of age. I still happily wear a bikini, and don't have a problem showing a little knee. And some things I might not think are appropriate (for me) would be entirely fine on someone else, and I don't think age would have anything to do with it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet#post-1131917 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 22:15:26 +0000 Greyscale 1131917@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am always in awe of women in Europe who age so fashionably. I feel like it's something Americans don't learn to do by default, though many of you are experts. One of my favorite things about this forum is seeing all the posts from people 10 or 20&nbsp;years older than me and imagining how my style will evolve over time. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet#post-1131908 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 22:06:48 +0000 Ingunn 1131908@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The great thing about YLF is that the discussions broadens the horizon and feeds a lot of new ideas about how to dress. I'm 45 now, and like Rachy, I am noticing a change in how I prefer to be perceived. I avoid anything overly sweet or twee, but that might of course be very different for others.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet#post-1131834 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 20:51:20 +0000 rachylou 1131834@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think you're right. We can really be suffocating towards ourselves in terms of fashion and age.</p> <p>On the other hand, I will admit to being 44 now and seeking, to some degree, to have some outer dignity by refusing to wear bows and peter pan collars and mary janes and puff sleeves - all things that I once had a great fondness for. It really has started to make me feel like mutton dressed as lamb, paper bloomers and all. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet#post-1131791 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 20:08:50 +0000 Isabel 1131791@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>HAPPY BIRTHDAY Elizabeth !!!</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet#post-1131472 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 15:19:38 +0000 Elizabeth P 1131472@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>And I hit 49 (for the first time), yesterday.&nbsp; Sounds like there are a few of us that need to make sure our fashion police are well behind bars, where they belong.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet#post-1131449 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 15:07:04 +0000 Aleta 1131449@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Go Spoff!! Great positive thoughts, I am with you all the way. &nbsp;I'm 54 next month, and mostly I don't concern myself with how my style choices relate to my age, but then I have generally&nbsp;been a modern classic dresser all my life so other than avoiding&nbsp;mini skirts I don't really feel anything much has changed. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet#post-1131437 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 14:54:33 +0000 Isabel 1131437@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I know that blog ! &nbsp;She is a lot of fun. &nbsp;I will also be fifty this year. I look at it this way, as long as it is mixed in with something that is "grounded", there are ways to mix in. &nbsp;I wouldn't shop at Wet Seal though. &nbsp; : &nbsp;)&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-not-dead-yet#post-1131389 Tue, 07 Jan 2014 14:25:03 +0000 Windchime 1131389@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hello, Age Twin! I'm glad you posted this, and I'm chuckling about "orthotics and rain bonnets." What an affirming New Year's resolution you've made! For me, too, one of many wonderful things about YLF is learning how to pull together attractive, on trend outfits at any age. There are loads of past-40 ladies on here who do this regularly and with panache. We are going to age--we can't stop that--but how wonderful to look good for the whole journey!</p> <p>I think we also have to be on guard to not let that inner voice stop us from trying other life experiences, too, but that's a separate topic.</p> <p>Later I'm going to look up the blog you referenced. </p>