https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25 Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 26 Apr 2026 15:03:50 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25/page/2#post-2411526 Sun, 26 Apr 2026 14:48:01 +0000 JAileen 2411526@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Have I mentioned how many times people at my mother’s retirement home have asked me if I’m new there? &nbsp;I just laugh. &nbsp;I am old enough to live there, after all.<div>&nbsp;<div>I have several Tommy Hilfiger cotton button up shirts, including two that are paisley. &nbsp;I love one and the other one I try to make myself wear. &nbsp;I&nbsp;don’t know why I don’t care for it. &nbsp;Does it look like my mother would wear it? &nbsp;No. &nbsp;&nbsp;I should just donate it, but I keep thinking I’ll have some use for it - sun protection out gardening, for example, so I still have it.</div></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25/page/2#post-2411525 Sun, 26 Apr 2026 14:23:51 +0000 kkards 2411525@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><a href="https://youtube.com/shorts/1_ysZRyrhIw?si=fiefwgjKw6WXtkFS" rel="nofollow">https://youtube.com/shorts/1_y.....jKw6WXtkFS</a></p> <p>I watched this a couple of days ago and went back this morning to watch it again. It’s nothing new, and nothing Angie has not said to us, but it’s worth hearing again and from a different perspective </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25/page/2#post-2411520 Sun, 26 Apr 2026 13:49:10 +0000 Irina 2411520@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, ”the 30 year old, narrow-hipped, boobless build that seems to make these things look cool and intentional” comment will stay with me for a while.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25/page/2#post-2411512 Sun, 26 Apr 2026 12:08:08 +0000 Janet 2411512@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Bella, you get me! </p> <p>It’s getting harder to find the sweet spot where effortless doesn’t look sloppy and thoughtless, and applying a little more effort and detail doesn’t look overly-styled. </p> <p>Lisa, I love your inspiration pics too! But I feel like I can dress like that in the cooler months! Cool jacket, denim, tee, etc. it’s when the weather warms up I personally feel less confident. Denim and jackets no longer fly once our heat and humidity emerge. So I find myself needing to try other strategies to feel like myself. A few years ago, skirts with casual tees and chunky sandals seemed to be my solution. But increasingly my skirts are going unworn and I’m pivoting to (currently trending) wide-leg pants in light breezy fabrications. I’m also feeling fortunate that cropped length tops are trending, as long as they are just slightly cropped and not midriff baring. Of course, this makes me wonder what will happen once these things look “dated” in a few years and I’ll still want to be wearing them. LOL</p> <p>I think this style struggle is more pronounced with big seasonal changes, when our comfort zone lies in layering to convey personality. I kinda wish I lived in a climate with 50-70 temps all year long! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25/page/2#post-2411508 Sun, 26 Apr 2026 11:22:34 +0000 bella 2411508@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Janet - you don't know how much this resonated with me:&nbsp;</p> <p>"Sometimes I’ll put on an ensemble that recalls something I’ve seen on one of the style YTers, usually a simple tee and pants, and think yeah, minimalist and modern, baby! And then I look in the mirror and think I look shapeless and matronly. I don’t have the 30 year old, narrow-hipped, boobless build that seems to make these things look cool and intentional,"</p> <p>It really doesn't help that I work with university students, who are truly amazing in every way. I feel extremely lucky to be exposed to their energy, enthusiasm, vitality, curiosity but also it reminds me that youth is moving away from me a little bit with every cohort. It is a challenge to look effortlessly chic.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25#post-2411507 Sun, 26 Apr 2026 11:09:45 +0000 bella 2411507@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like this look actually!&nbsp;<br />But I am in the same boat as you are. I want to update my jeans collection and tried on more than 10 pairs at Zara, MNG and Mavi. I also ordered a bunch of jeans from a local online retailer. It was a dreadful experience, total bust!</p> <p>Like you, every few years I think I need more patterned tops in my life. But then as soon as I commit to one, I realize I really am not a pattern person (excepting swimwear, maybe?)&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p>I am glad that you shared your thoughts, though. Reading Angie's as well as others' viewpoints was helpful.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25#post-2411501 Sun, 26 Apr 2026 08:25:15 +0000 Bijou 2411501@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry you are feeling this way, because of course you look fab, but understand your feeling of frustration, it is great that you are analysing the reason you feel the second outfit is not right for you. It is so tempting to change things up, but sometimes a 'refresh' doesn't work. Alternatively, it can take a few wears for me to actually feel myself in a new item. I was like this the first time I wore wide leg jeans after many years of skinny jeans, now I cannot imagine wearing skinny jeans again!</p> <p>Feeling good in patterns can be tricky, perhaps you are a solids person through and through. I know that leopard print, lace items and embroidery are patterns that I always come back to. I have some florals and stripes, but I need to be careful, I can get enthusiastic in store only to find them languishing in my wardrobe unloved and unworn.&nbsp; </p> <p>I love your comment that YLF is a safe place to be honest, I always admire your candid observations. I know you don't like photo 3, but what jumped out at me was how beautiful your eyes are and how your hair, eyebrows and light make-up showcase your eyes.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25#post-2411499 Sun, 26 Apr 2026 06:39:11 +0000 VioletMyra 2411499@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I too can ignore the pigmentation; the more than 100 hairs a day I lose each time I do my hair, BUT what I can't ignore are my balding eyebrows! The brow pencil shading is no longer enough &lt;sigh&gt;. Best wishes to all. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25#post-2411495 Sun, 26 Apr 2026 04:34:47 +0000 kellygirl 2411495@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think you look put together in both of these. The joggers and clogs looks great. Polished and sporty. I also really like the floral outfit on you but I think I enjoy florals more than most... I hope you can figure out a way to incorporate it and make it feel more like you. It's a nice break from neutrals. I would pair it with something that would toughen it up - like boot cuts or BF jeans.&nbsp;<br />I've enjoyed reading the comments here. It's refreshing to read about the joys of aging especially when I see so much reverse aging on social media! I can commiserate with the thinning hair and how efficient my body has become in holding on the every pound for dear life! Little annoyances but it could be worse. That's my work motto too.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25#post-2411494 Sun, 26 Apr 2026 04:25:21 +0000 Firecracker (Sharan) 2411494@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><div>This thread is so interesting, and even inspiring. What a warm and thoughtful set of responses. I couldn't really come up with an answer to your dilemma. Then I came back and found all of this commiseration and insight.&nbsp;</div><div>I'm going to try to remember (with my increasingly faulty memory) kkards' advice: one "not-me" thing in an outfit at a time!&nbsp;</div><div>I have also come to realize that if an outfit doesn't quite feel like me, I may be able to solve it by adding denim, if it's not already there.&nbsp;</div><div>You've got lots of good responses, here, LJP, and I'm touched to read how you feel about the forum as a community of friends where you can be comfortable sharing your frustrations as well as triumphs.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25#post-2411492 Sun, 26 Apr 2026 04:10:31 +0000 slim cat 2411492@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I can relate to the mixed feelings about floral prints in some way. I love printed pieces - more like graphic tees, ikat prints, mix of geometrical and some floral ( in moderation ). <br />I have floral printed linen jacket that I used to wear regularly couple years ago that I stopped wearing last year - it feels a bit too much ( too sweet, too safe and maybe not me anymore ). I've got instead cotton/linen jackets in completely different prints - one has Parisian street print, one - imaginary city, and one - close to the ikat print in my fav colors ( blue, navy, aqua ). I thought I needed solid tops to go under those jackets - they didn't feel right on me ( wearing subtle printed tops/graphics instead ).&nbsp;<br />You feel yourself in solid pieces - with some details ( maybe sporty elements ) and the sweetness of floral print is just not you. I like the suggestion of focusing on texture and some restrained color in accessories - fun new project .<br />The changing skin is on my mind as well ( since like 18 months ago - lol ). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25#post-2411479 Sun, 26 Apr 2026 01:44:31 +0000 Indigoprint 2411479@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a group of wise women here in this safe space.<br /> Lisa I love the way you styled the sweats. Would you be comfortable in other colors styled that way? I could see you in oatmeal with a different jacket or that lovely mustard color or olive green?<br /> I feel your pain with the floral. It's beautiful and I think it looks Fab, maybe play around with other bottoms? <br /> For me, my bad is stripes. I love them and they fit my style but if they are too contrasty it's not pretty. I have just recently figured to use them as an under layer with just parts peeking out....cuffs, shirttail. Maybe that could work for you?<br /> I always feel unsorted in season transitions. It's like I forget how to wear my clothes. Also influenced that my Fav seasons are Fall and Winter, so I dread going into Spring/Summer. <br /> Do you follow Signe at <i>uselessdk? </i>I like her content. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25#post-2411471 Sun, 26 Apr 2026 01:07:50 +0000 Ket 2411471@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Omg I love your inspo style photos!! You say it’s how wish to dress. Why not?? I bet you would look sooooo utterly fab in it! </p> <p>I agree with everyone else here: your floral outfit is fabulous on you! You look super chic. You look far more trendy and chic than me, that’s for sure! In the best way ever! </p> <p>And I love you in wide leg crops! I hope you’ll try more wide leg pants. And your inspo styles. Nudge wink </p> <p>Love the cat! Sorry they’re being so spunky and disruptive. Our cats can get a wee naughty at times. :} I feel it’s a cat thing lol! </p> <p>Oh our beautiful fabbers! Their advice is all so wise and wonderful. You’ve gotten great insights. </p> <p>“southern retirement complex resident” ha! I chuckled with laughter reading this. Not at you!! No, I was laughing because I struggle with that same thing. I used to live in South Florida and it is a thing I call it “retirement home”. I can’t put my finger on what it is; it’s not every floral shirt. It’s certain lines or styles with certain florals. There are even some outfits that feel too mature or too “retirement home” on me. </p> <p>FWIW, I’ve been going through a style shift myself. After all the toxic mold and hitting my 40s, I felt lost. Last summer my summer wardrobe didn’t please me or feel “me” at all, despite all my initial excitement and careful planning. I realized as much as I admire Dolce Vita, resort wear, and Dolce &amp; Gabbana styles, it’s not what I feel good wearing. I’ve slowly worked out what feels good to me. It’s dressing for what brings me great joy —vs what I felt I *should* be wearing. If that makes sense?? Ive had to try things out. And I’ve payed attention to what I’m really drawn to. So far that’s boho, modern luxe (think Victoria Beckham), modern outlander, 1970s and 80s, and some vintage and artsy stuff. That’s what I love. And I’m so far finding ways to make it really work and feel good on me. </p> <p>So, maybe releasing “florals for summer” as your summer style and leaning into black and minimalism is better and a happier place for you. I think black in summer is very chic. I actually wear a fair amount of navy, black, and solids in summer myself. I do get the struggle with distancing oneself from work. That said, I like Angie’s thought to make your weekday style and what you love a continuous thread into the weekend. That is what I’ve done and it’s mostly worked in my previous career seasons. </p> <p>Skin. If you ever want to discuss anti-aging skincare, let me know!! I’m doing light and medium at-home peels from Platinum Skin Care. I’ve also switched all my skincare to PSC too. (Their products are very concentrated and high powered.) I’ve seen their customers reverse a lot of sun damage, lines, etc. It takes time and consistency but you do get results. My skin is really improving! My forehead lines are nearly gone. My skin is even, brighter. My melasma and sunspots are fading. I know I’m only 43, but I’m seeing ladies in their 50s and 69s get results too. </p> <p>Hair. Have you had your thyroid fully checked (full panel, not just TSH)? The thyroid can downshift as we age. Low thyroid causes thinning hair. As does declining sex hormones. I’m personally a big proponent and user of hormone replacement therapy as well as peptide therapy; peptide therapy has given me my life and body back. (And it’s not just for the elite; it’s very accessible now.) Just throwing this all out there. No pressure. You maybe have explored these already and feel it wasn’t for you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25#post-2411468 Sun, 26 Apr 2026 00:25:31 +0000 LJP 2411468@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Suz - and Sal - good point about florals in general being hard to wear . And I couldn’t agree more that they one thing when you’re young , but another when you’re older ( hence the Florida retirement village moniker , lol) . I have never worn prints . I’m the opposite of Suz in that I don’t wear stripes , absolutely no polka dots , gingham , tartan and plaid ( except in a coat ) , and even moody abstract prints don’t appear in my closet . I cannot remember why I bought this shirt - probably thinking it was something I “ should “ like and be able to style . </p> <p>And another good point , Irina , about the start of a season feeling wobbly , as it were . I’m now on my phone so will reserve further replies until I’m back home with a laptop . Here are 2 photos I saved from a current fav blogger ( she’s based in the UK ) . THIS is how I wish I dressed . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25#post-2411467 Sun, 26 Apr 2026 00:03:30 +0000 Sal 2411467@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Florals - agree are tricky!&nbsp; I wonder if they go from being for a young person to being for suddenly a much older person....Maybe they are just too hard in your 50s and 60s.....The only florals I am wearing now are in the midi dress (which I do still enjoy) and the floral adjacent prints in the blouse (squiggles) and wide leg pants (paisley)&nbsp; All my others are in the holding zone or gone.....</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25#post-2411466 Sat, 25 Apr 2026 23:44:25 +0000 LJP 2411466@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jaime - you make me laugh . I was going to reference Florida but didn’t want to offend anyone , lol. Maybe I’m too open and frank here but as much as I struggle to be a perfect member and all cheerleader - y , this is where I feel comfortable talking personal appearance . I know I’m not everyone’s cup of tea though . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25#post-2411463 Sat, 25 Apr 2026 23:40:01 +0000 Janet 2411463@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I relate very much with the responses you’ve gotten here and agree that the outfits you post look perfectly current and not at all “retirement village” but I totally get the feeling! </p> <p>Sometimes I’ll put on an ensemble that recalls something I’ve seen on one of the style YTers, usually a simple tee and pants, and think yeah, minimalist and modern, baby! And then I look in the mirror and think I look shapeless and matronly. I don’t have the 30 year old, narrow-hipped, boobless build that seems to make these things look cool and intentional, LOL. </p> <p>I think at this phase of life, we have to rethink some of our styling instincts. If I can bring some tension or edge into an outfit, I feel much better about it. Especially if the outfit is mostly light in tone or containing multiple colors. Prints are definitely more of a stumbling. Lock for me lately than they used to be! All of a sudden, many of them feel like too much. I’ve given away a few printed tops for this reason, and have been very selective about any new prints!</p> <p>The aging skin stuff is hard. I try not to look at my neck anymore, yikes. It’s pretty dramatic. And to make matters worse, I seem to have acquired a new tendency towards eczema—a patch right on my neck where the texture is already making me self-conscious. Part of me wants to live the rest of my life in scarves and turtlenecks, LOL. </p> <p>And then I remind myself that how I look now is the youngest I will ever look, and being healthy is the most important thing. </p> <p>You look fab. Period! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25#post-2411461 Sat, 25 Apr 2026 23:38:21 +0000 LJP 2411461@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lest I sound like a self absorbed twit , can I share how profoundly appreciative I am of my health , strength and mobility ? Every single day in my job , I can help people financially , emotionally and physically . I work with members who have critical illnesses , devastating mobility issues , poor social and community supports and am struck every day how lucky am . My job has given me more empathy and strength than I knew I had , and I’m so grateful for that . When I whine about hair and skin and how fat I look , I hope it’s received in the manner it’s intended : between friends . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25#post-2411460 Sat, 25 Apr 2026 23:37:47 +0000 Suz 2411460@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I want to add here that (in my opinion) florals are <b>hard</b>!! I mean they are the hardest of the patterns. Even those who like florals tend to be quite particular about them. They must be dark and moody to be ok. Or they must be abstract. They must be large scale (or small, or medium.) They must be two colours only -- or a lot of colours, or tonal, or strictly black and white. Or strictly in blues, or reds, or pinks....I could go on.&nbsp;</p> <p>I wear stripes, tartans, and checks and <b>some </b>animal prints, paisleys and florals. Of these patterns, florals are <b>without question</b> the pattern I will tire of the fastest. A gingham check or a subtly striped shirt might remain a favourite for a decade. A floral? Unlikely. </p> <p>I just put an abstract floral linen shell <b>UNWORN</b> into the donate pile because I realized that in the time between buying it -- end of season last year -- and now, I had tired of the pattern. At the time I bought it, I thought it was the best thing ever.&nbsp; It wasn't cheap, either, even on sale. I regret this, but someone else will be really happy about it.&nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25#post-2411456 Sat, 25 Apr 2026 23:23:17 +0000 Jaime 2411456@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lisa I always admire how frank you are in your posts. I am going to try to match your honesty.&nbsp;<br />I would get rid of the printed top. I laughed at the southern retirement home description but I get it - I have family in south Florida. Just avoid prints for now.&nbsp;<br />Skin, hair and body changes. Yes, I started life with quite thick hair so the hair thinning still leaves me with a lot but it isn't getting better. Pigmentation is a major issue for me and everything I try seems to make it worse. I gained weight with menopause ten years ago and it is still here despite my efforts.&nbsp;<br />Your current hair cut looks great and I like the red, fwiw.<br />My best tip is to look at women with visible signs of aging and great style - I follow some on instagram and it always gives me a boost. Sounds minor but for me, seeing stylish women my age and older is a great morale booster. One of the reasons I love YLF actually.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25#post-2411448 Sat, 25 Apr 2026 22:49:47 +0000 Irina 2411448@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Another point - I don’t know if it happens to you but I often find myself in love with some pretty print. I learned from my mistakes that admiring and wearing don’t always go hand in hand. Last year I purchased (and returned) a number of vintage looking printed cotton and linen floral button down shirts and even a dress. Loved fabrics and disliked it on me. Sad. But I have to feel authentic in my clothes. Do you feel like you in florals? Is it styling that bothers you or an item itself? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25#post-2411443 Sat, 25 Apr 2026 22:32:47 +0000 Lisa 2411443@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Pretty kitty!</p> <p>When I look at these outfits I see a soft casual style with some trendy elements, I'd never know that you were struggling with them.</p> <p>I think we've all been there with struggling with the changes that come with the blessing of aging. I know for me I am not a fan of my hair. It always looks like it's growing out, even though it's been YEARS since I've colored it. Any growing out color is long gone. I eventually learned that my natural "grey" pattern is heavily concentrated around the crown, which leads to the always growing out look. I also had a number of health issues that started to really impact my physical mobility and my overall shape, it was really depressing until I got educated and everything got back under control.</p> <p>There is excellent advice here already, I just want you to know you are not alone with your struggles and I wish you best of luck as you work through the journey.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25#post-2411442 Sat, 25 Apr 2026 22:27:42 +0000 kkards 2411442@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Grrr, I’ve lost my response twice now</p> <p>sigh. I can completely relate. &nbsp;I’ve also bought things that “aren’t me”, but hmmm, I bought them so something about them apparently appealed to me, and therefore is me.<div>Anyway what I’ve found is that the “not me’s” must be paired with the totally me’s. So the floral shirt, I’d pair it with my favorite jeans, or for you, maybe your favorite trousers. &nbsp;I think part of the issue is you’re trying 2 things you’re not 100% sure of together. &nbsp;Start small, get comfortable and then, maybe wear 2 “not quite me’s” together. &nbsp;Ha, who am I kidding, I really if ever wear 2 “not me’s” together. 1 at a time is my personal best. &nbsp;</div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25#post-2411438 Sat, 25 Apr 2026 22:16:11 +0000 Irina 2411438@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, cats are lovely! Sooo cute! My geriatric cat (16 years old) wakes me up around 4 in the morning. I fight him off for half an hour and then get up to feed him. He comes back to me for petting an hour later and very insistent! I basically don’t sleep in the mornings anymore </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25#post-2411437 Sat, 25 Apr 2026 22:07:32 +0000 Irina 2411437@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>As always, you are too hard on yourself. Dressing for a new season sometimes feel wobbly in the beginning, takes time for all of us to adjust to our summer wardrobes. Despite being a minimalist, I occasionally crave color or pattern but I usually reserve it for warmer months when it’s easier to style. I think your second outfit is ok, maybe you would like it to be edgier, which is harder to achieve with light color florals. The only thing I would change is probably try it with a collar under a jacket. Without a jacket, I see it styled with your cream bag and more refine shoes to create tension in the outfit.&nbsp;<div>Your first outfit looks very you, sporty style is really great on you.&nbsp;<br /><div><br /></div><div>Oh, the aging hair, skin and pesky weight gains! I used to unintentionally loose pounds in 2-3 days due to stress all my life, basically until I turned 55. Now, I can’t intentionally loose 3 pounds in 3 months! Grrrrr! Retinol serums help to fight skin pigmentation but only a little. It is what it is. I do my best to care for my skin and thinning hair while enjoying what is left of it :)</div></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25#post-2411436 Sat, 25 Apr 2026 21:50:55 +0000 LJP 2411436@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ha - well I didn't realize I was so predictable in my annual spring freak-out. &nbsp;Point noted. &nbsp;Throwing money at the problem never works, does it?&nbsp;</p> <p>And one thing I have to say first is to Carla: yes, I've worn my hair the same way for decades. I have fine, thin hair , thinning very dramatically at the temples, crazy crown growth patterns and am not adept at styling . &nbsp;I do it the only way I know how, and don't have the time and wherewithal to experiment. I've taken every supplement, hair growth system, shampoo, you name it and nothing works .I know it's not always the most flattering - but I honestly don't have a solution. &nbsp;I've told myself that when I fully retire, I'll let it go and see where I can get with it. No colour, and no cutting for awhile. &nbsp;But until then, I'm kind of stuck.&nbsp;</p> <p>Suz, Debbie and Angie , Pat P , Dee - thank you ! &nbsp;And Suz, yes, I can see how we are opposites in how we react to our clothing. &nbsp; Adding colour and pattern though accessories is the best advice ever, and I can relate to it. &nbsp;</p> <p>The cats are driving me crazy. I'm headed over for the 3rd night there and am hanging on to my sanity by a thread. &nbsp;They demand breakfast at 6 am and then start chasing each other around and play fighting. &nbsp;And meowing randomly at the patio door. &nbsp;I haven't slept in 3 days. &nbsp;I forgot how idiotic cats are . &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25#post-2411434 Sat, 25 Apr 2026 21:48:06 +0000 Sal 2411434@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What lovely thoughtful comments above.&nbsp; I don't know if I can be so eloquent.</p> <p>I like the floral shirt outfit especially the floral shirt......but patterns can be picky.&nbsp; My holding zone is small but has patterned pieces I have gone off.</p> <p>Both outfits suit you well - but outfit 2 doesn't feel like how you want to dress any more.&nbsp; Having seen your wonderful chic work looks I can understand how you want to wear something different (esp in colour) but the weekend outfits are hard.</p> <p>The good thing is you probably don't need a lot because it's only two to three days a week.&nbsp; I'd start off with wearing and making some outfits from what you have and like in this weekend everyday capsule.&nbsp; And then shopping any gaps.&nbsp; Would you consider mixing in black joggers or work pants with lighter neutral tops in the weekend?&nbsp; Different shoes and tops would make the work pants look very different - ivories and olives and chocolates in tops and shoes with black pants would look good on you.</p> <p>I am looking for an elevated lounge/travel/weekend outfit at the moment and whilst there is a lot available I am struggling to find what I want - some of the prices are so high - and matching sets are so popular, but I don't want light pants and I don't suit lots of the gorgeous neutrals that are available......&nbsp; so I am sitting on my hands and wearing my old cargo pants and stretchy not quite leggings/not quite joggers - and a hoodie my husband no longer wanted....</p> <p>And yes grief about our looks and changes there is real.&nbsp; I can have that too but unfortunately right now my younger sisters are both having a really hard time right now (one a devastating relationship split, one a major health issue affecting her hair and appearance) so in comparison i feel very lucky.&nbsp; And my eyesight is getting worse so sometimes I can't see the pigmentation </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25#post-2411431 Sat, 25 Apr 2026 21:07:53 +0000 Angie 2411431@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Cute, kitty! </p> <p>I love that floral shirt on you, <b>LJP</b>! Fab botanical print! I remember how much you like plants and flowers so it's authentic. It screams SPRING - and is refreshing post a bitter Canadian Winter. In #6, you could be walking the streets of the Netherlands, about to get onto your bike for a grocery run. <b>I see a hip and practical Euro look </b>:)</p> <p>I must compliment <b>Suz </b>and <b>Debbie</b> on their very thoughtful comments! Very wise and supportive.&nbsp; </p> <p><b>You are absolutely not the only one who feels this way! </b>W<b></b>hat you’re describing is something I see often with my clientele, especially during seasonal transitions and at moments when life - (or our bodies) - feel like they’re shifting. It can knock your sense of style off balance. Not that I think yours has been knocked!&nbsp;</p> <p>You KNOW I think you have a fabulous sense of style, <b>LJP</b>! You describe it clearly: minimal, modern, streamlined, sophisticated, and grounded in black. That’s a strong and coherent style foundation! The disconnect seems to happen when you try to create a separate weekend identity that doesn’t feel like an honest extension of that core. To <b>Suz's </b>point!&nbsp;</p> <p>Instead of splitting “work you” and “weekend you,” it might help to think of your style as one continuous thread, with slightly different expressions depending on the setting. Your weekend outfits don’t need to be louder, more patterned, or more colourful to feel different.<b> They can simply be non-athletic, light and earthy neutrals, solid, and less casual versions of what already feels like you.</b></p> <p>Your shopping experience also makes sense! Walking into stores without some sort of plan when you’re already feeling unsure can amplify that “nothing works and I feel invisible” feeling. <b>It’s not you, it’s the process.</b> Going in with a simple intention, like “I’m looking for one relaxed summer bottom that works with my existing tops,” can make a big difference. For example, you mentioned loving long, wide legs. That’s a great clue!! Explore that option.</p> <p>Lastly, we ALL have wobbles about&nbsp;our skin and hair changes as we age. My hand is up with you, <b>Suz </b>and <b>Debbie</b>! My skin is VERY sensitive so I have to cover up from the sun. My hair is thinning too, although I've always had fine hair. That’s real! And it can influence how we experience our outfits. When I have a wobble, I focus on small, controllable wins. Outfits that feel easy, polished, playful, on the dressier side, and attractive. Colours that lift my mood. Fabrics that feel good on my skin. Styling my hair in a way that works with the weather! And I build from there.</p> <p>We are never going to be as young as we are today! That - and your good health and great sense of style - deserves celebration :)&nbsp;</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25#post-2411429 Sat, 25 Apr 2026 21:03:59 +0000 Carla 2411429@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m the same as <b>Suz&nbsp;</b>- attracted to minimalist looks, but don’t feel like me without colour, and every now and then something wack-a-doodle. &nbsp;I&nbsp;accept that on any given day I’m going to switch up my style to suit my persona of the day.</p> <p>I’ve figured out that if I keep a few of those questionable purchases, rather than pass them along, it keeps me from repurchasing the thing. &nbsp;I keep the boho top, the Hawaiian shirt, the party shoes - even if they don’t get high wear numbers. &nbsp;They are in the closet when the itch needs scratching (which it does every year at around the same time) or else it acts as a reminder that I’ve already got the ingredient, and don’t need more.</p> <p><div><br /></div><div>If you want to be ‘seen’ wear a bright or unusual colour. &nbsp;Works every time. The folks who made minimal neutral coloured outfits popular adopted the style in part because they were celebrities who wanted anonymity! &nbsp;(CB, Jennifer Aniston, and the Olsen sisters are on record saying this!)<br /><div><br /></div><div>You’ve had the same hair style for as long as I’ve been aware of your presence on the forum - with the exception of changing up the colour. &nbsp;I figure it’s signature to your look. &nbsp;You could always ask some stylists what they would suggest for you, but it seems to me you have some distinct preferences and will go at your hair with your scissors once it gets longish - and ‘hate’ it if you go too short.<br /></div><div><br /><div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div></div></div></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/im-lost-lately-plus-wiw-424-25#post-2411428 Sat, 25 Apr 2026 20:51:41 +0000 Dee 2411428@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Outfit#1 comfy casual and very nicely put together, floral socks are adorable. Perfect outfit for house and kitty sitting.</p> <p>Outfit #2 I can see the quality of the pretty floral top, and you've styled it really well BUT I find once we label something as " retirement resident" or whatever its really hard to shake off that connotation.</p> <p>I'm nodding along with so much of what SUZ has mentioned referencing minimalism vs pattern and figuring out what your true preferences are. As for aging, ugh, yes, I can definitely see all the changes in my skin tone, lines around the eyes and mouth, weigh gain and sagging. I would love to have my younger features back but that's not going to happen so I'm trying to deal with it all the best I can. Hopefully, you'll find a way forward to sorting your style direction. </p>