https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 22 Apr 2026 23:11:00 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/3#post-1679283 Wed, 15 Jun 2016 11:04:32 +0000 jenanded 1679283@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am another INFP... and we are only 1% of the population. My DH is INTP so 'perfect' introverted match. I have just resigned myself to the fact that we just enjoy life by being alone. We work with a lot of people so need time alone and that is just it. I must function E as people always think I am highly extrovert... how funny that there are so many Is... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/3#post-1678293 Sun, 12 Jun 2016 22:53:54 +0000 Janet 1678293@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like being around extroverts too -- they bring me out of my shell, while also taking the pressure off of me to act the part of the outgoing one. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/3#post-1678290 Sun, 12 Jun 2016 22:48:52 +0000 catgirl 1678290@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Aw Sarah, you and your boy were so much fun - maybe next time not the Hard Rock though! Sending extra hugs. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/3#post-1678146 Sun, 12 Jun 2016 15:30:29 +0000 SarahTheWhite 1678146@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Love this, Janet! I'm also an INFP. I love that there are four or five of us just in this thread! I even have trouble being on a forum like this when my real life gets too overwhelming... </p> <p>Special shout out to Una - I do like being around talkative extroverts. It takes the pressure off of me of trying to fill in all of the silence myself. I do like to talk too, if people ask the right questions... I also appreciate extroverted friends who make the effort to plan things. I find the logistical planning exhausting, and I also need to recover quietly after social interaction, but I very much appreciate the social time and spending time with friends and family! So we introverts need you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/3#post-1677905 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 22:51:56 +0000 Barbara Diane 1677905@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Stay in or go out? Both.<br />I can get stuck inside and find it hard to go out. But once I am out I almost never regret it. But often I need to recharge afterwards.<br />And where I am going and how crowded/loud it is are big factors.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/3#post-1677731 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 15:57:02 +0000 rachylou 1677731@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maybe I'm even more extroverted than I think. I can't learn. My mom tells me not to talk to neighbors and I keep doing it. I have met the craziest people this way...ahaha! But I don't instigate. Is it really my fault?</p> <p>Story: I ran into the husband back of us. And he was *like,* is your mom that sweet little Asian lady I see watering her cacti? I was *like* eh... My mom hates you! She tried to tell you that with the two breaths she's ever spared you. Lol! In my mind of course. Who else could it have been...but sweet? No. Lol!</p> <p>Secret of extroverts #2: Maintain iron wall of delusion </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/3#post-1677614 Sat, 11 Jun 2016 10:51:24 +0000 Jeanie 1677614@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like going out but do need a lot of down time afterwards. &nbsp;I think getting out feeds our souls in a different way than staying home. &nbsp;I usually think that even if I am having a hard time making myself get out of the house I will feel better for having done it afterwards. &nbsp;And I like having a reason to dress up! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/3#post-1676617 Thu, 09 Jun 2016 19:55:33 +0000 unfrumped 1676617@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ja, this is me. Added to the fact that I&nbsp; work a lot of nights and weekends. That's why if I overbuy or over-dupe going-out clothes, &nbsp;I am way into the imaginary lifestyle issue. It's much more important to&nbsp; have just a few road-tested, "love" , seasonally-appropriate FFBO's for going out and just grab, go, repeat. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/3#post-1676612 Thu, 09 Jun 2016 19:43:15 +0000 catgirl 1676612@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>LeDonna, I was waiting to hear from you - I would have bet on you being an extrovert! I'm hoping MsMary chimes in. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/3#post-1676565 Thu, 09 Jun 2016 18:10:19 +0000 Ledonna N. 1676565@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am an introvert with extrovert tendencies.&nbsp; When I'm out I enjoy staying out.&nbsp; I enjoy laughing and talking to people. I love learning about there story and where did they journey from.&nbsp; I enjoy talking to people virtually and IRL.&nbsp; </p> <p>I remember 3 or 4 years ago that I hated going out buy myself and I would sit in my car having to talk myself into going inside.&nbsp; Sometimes I will stay away from the world for a few days because it can be draining.&nbsp; Sometimes I just don't have the energy to be around people.&nbsp; A picture does not tell the whole story.&nbsp; Some days I will just drive around and be by myself.&nbsp; I just need to be quite and reflective.&nbsp; I do not really want to go out.&nbsp; I don't like to really be around people.&nbsp; When I go HOUSING (dancing)&nbsp; I say hello but,&nbsp; really don't talk to people.&nbsp; It is an ebb and flow. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/3#post-1676215 Thu, 09 Jun 2016 03:52:22 +0000 Colette 1676215@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I thought I was in the middle, leaning towards introvert. I took one of the test Suz linked and it turns out I must just be lazy because I'm an ENFJ extrovert. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/3#post-1675993 Wed, 08 Jun 2016 22:40:03 +0000 AviaMariah 1675993@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>ISFJ and HSP and I totally understand. &nbsp;At this stage in my life where I have small children I am bombarded with stimulation all the time I crave adult interaction but am also noise/touched out. &nbsp;When my kids go to bed I go to my room and hide. &nbsp;Even the TV noise is too much stimulation sometimes! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/3#post-1675918 Wed, 08 Jun 2016 20:50:40 +0000 catgirl 1675918@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>One of the joys for me of having this forced time to recover after surgery is all the visiting! So many friends have come over to walk with me or just chat, and it has helped keep my spirits up. I couldn't be happier considering the circumstances. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/3#post-1675769 Wed, 08 Jun 2016 16:26:36 +0000 Anonymous 1675769@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love the cartoon, Beth!&nbsp; That is me to a T.&nbsp; It's exactly what I was doing at the party where I met my husband (we are both cat lovers).&nbsp; I'm jealous you have goats, by the way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/2#post-1675743 Wed, 08 Jun 2016 15:23:58 +0000 Beth 1675743@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Extroverted introvert checking in! I'm not exactly shy and once I get to know you I'm wiiiide open, but small talk often feels excruciating to me and I tend to lose energy after a long time in big groups. I restore my energy and equilibrium by staying in and reading a book or watching a movie.&nbsp;</p> <p>It's so interesting how many of you say that it's difficult to get out and get going but once you do, you're having fun. I've always felt this way and it became more prominent after we moved out to the country. Now when we go out, I have to change out of my barn clothes, shower, do all the gussying up and then drive 40 minutes into the city for dinner. So often I'd just rather snuggle with the goats and work in the barn. But when we do go out, I'm always glad.</p> <p>Thought all of you introverts might like this: </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/2#post-1675565 Wed, 08 Jun 2016 10:42:16 +0000 viva 1675565@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Pretty sure I am INFJ. So much of this thread resonates with me. I am definitely an introvert, love my own company, am more comfortable listening than talking (which is why I love my work so much -- I am a professional listener!).&nbsp;</p> <p>Janet, I can so relate to your description of your husband and his boisterous family; sounds just like Michael's. We spend Thanksgiving with them, and at some point in the evening, I always slip away from the crowd and lie down alone in a dark bedroom to chill out. I just get overloaded by all the noise and static!</p> <p>And Lisap, I can relate to your party-throwing, to a degree. We hold one big party a year in the fall, and it's usually a lot of fun, but right before people arrive, I wish I could cancel it. What I really enjoy is the planning and the prep, but the anticipation of arrival is almost crippling, and sometimes even in the midst of the fun party, inside I'm thinking, "Okay everyone, time for you to go so that I can have my house back."&nbsp;</p> <p>I remember feeling incredible anxiety before the Boston YLF meetup, and then being amazed that I spent more than 10 hours with the group before heading back home. Sometimes group experiences are wonderful. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/2#post-1675469 Wed, 08 Jun 2016 07:44:14 +0000 Maneera 1675469@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>High Five, Angie! I'm another ENFJ. </p> <p>I'm not at all quiet but can enjoy quietude. I love to be in company and enjoy idle chit-chat but am veryyyy happy all by myself too. I'm usually the first one to initiate group conversations once I've gauged what conversation will become more stimulating within a particular group (sometimes it's about a recent event, sometimes a book or movie, or sometimes - it's to talk of some family member/friend the other person/people wil want to discuss). I entertain often (almost every week) in small settings where it's us &amp; another couple friend or 2. My husband will go into a shell if there are more people infront of him! </p> <p>Sadly, I work alone and have no human contact with anyone other than my husband on a daily basis. And he is introverted AND shy AND quiet :/ I get to talk to friends &amp; family everyday and that helps. Mostly, what keeps me sane is my deep deep love for books &amp; dogs, as I have more than enough to keep things interesting around here </p> <p>Like Una, I'm the "weird" one harassing friends to go with me drinking/dancing/shopping.....anywhere OUT! Most of my friends are homebodies too, so I'm quite good at doing all of the above all by myself too Though it's getting less frequent, and I sometimes fear my 'personality' type might have to transition too! I think I REALLY need to find ways to make more friends IRL. </p> <p>Oh, and to Janet's point....when I have to go out for something planned, I look forward to it all week </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/2#post-1675140 Tue, 07 Jun 2016 21:54:47 +0000 Style Fan 1675140@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I loved the book Quiet.&nbsp; I am an INFP.&nbsp; I am as introverted as they come.&nbsp; DH is more of an extrovert.&nbsp; We both worked with people.&nbsp; I was/am a psychotherapist and I also teach at the university.&nbsp; I love my work.&nbsp; My profession is apparently a good one for INFPs.&nbsp; Thank goodness I got that one right.<br />I enjoy one on one and small groups of people.&nbsp; I will talk to people on the street and that often happens because of Sophie.&nbsp; I don't do well in really large groups.<br />I like to socialize about once a week and then recover.&nbsp; DH likes once a day.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/2#post-1675070 Tue, 07 Jun 2016 20:38:08 +0000 kerlyn 1675070@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Another introvert here! &nbsp;I can be quite the hermit without my hubby around to drag me to social events. &nbsp;But I usually do enjoy them once there, and I find I need that type of interaction once in a while. &nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/2#post-1675045 Tue, 07 Jun 2016 20:20:03 +0000 Chris987 1675045@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Another&nbsp;introvert here,&nbsp;although I did the Briggs Meyers thing so long ago I can't remember what I was. Will have to look it up. The difference between extroverts and introverts that resonates best with me is that extroverts replenish their energy by being in social groups where introverts replenish only by being alone. I have learned over time that it's usually best to just suck it up and go to social things unless I really have a good reason not to, I almost always have a good time once I'm there, and if I don't go I feel kind of bad about it afterwards.&nbsp;</p> <p>&nbsp;I do find gatherings of more than a few people to&nbsp;be&nbsp;daunting and sometimes exhausting but I've learned to float around from group to group if things get overwhelming. People may think I'm&nbsp;taking time to visit with everyone but my motive is actually to isolate myself just a tiny bit for a few minutes </p> <p>Yeah noise is definitely draining and it gets worse as you get older and your hearing fades a little. My DH has permanent mild tintinitis&nbsp;in one ear and there are quite a few&nbsp;local restaurants he can't tolerate. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/2#post-1674782 Tue, 07 Jun 2016 14:07:52 +0000 anne 1674782@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes Brooklyn, restaurants are noisy here, and bars worse.<br /> Reporting in here from my bedroom with 12 people playing card games still at my house at 10:05! ! I'm slipping off to bed.<br /> Though actually I love games too but was putting my daughters to bed and missed the start . Also I doubt any if them have to get up as early as i do tomorrow. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/2#post-1674781 Tue, 07 Jun 2016 14:07:28 +0000 JAileen 1674781@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Being an introvert is not the same as being shy. See "Quiet" by Susan Cain, about introverts. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/2#post-1674672 Tue, 07 Jun 2016 10:33:29 +0000 Brooklyn 1674672@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Interesting that so many people are introverts. I am an introvert too. INFJ. I like socialising in small groups but virtually all of my friends (except my DH) are extreme extroverts. Because they are extroverts they love large groups and it is a constant battle to achieve more intimate occasions. They always want to invite more people! Like Lisa I much prefer to entertain friends at my place, where I can control the environment and the guest list. Also, restaurants here are SO noisy. Is that just an Australian thing? Honestly, I struggle to think of one restaurant that is suitable for a quiet night out on a weekend. Noise is so draining. So, yes, sometimes I don't want to go out either! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/2#post-1674589 Tue, 07 Jun 2016 05:58:34 +0000 Sally 1674589@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh I so understand you Lisa. I'm really outgoing but hate chitchat and find it draining. I don't even like going for a walk with another person...it's my time! My son is the most extroverted person you could meet so I find that hard. My husband is extroverted but much shyer than me. He loves people around but doesn't instigate conversation as easily. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/2#post-1674560 Tue, 07 Jun 2016 04:06:52 +0000 catgirl 1674560@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lisa, you are making me wonder if my friends want to kill me! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/2#post-1674399 Mon, 06 Jun 2016 23:52:29 +0000 Anonymous 1674399@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just to throw this back into the conversation, if anyone is still reading.....Large groups and loud gatherings , busy activities and people around me...don't make me as uncomfortable or awkward as they do just simply drain me. I find being yakked at - especially in close range (like in a car) totally draining and mentally exhausting. I think that' more typical of your "average introvert" than feeling socially awkward or shy. &nbsp;A couple of times a year I spend a few hours in the car with one of my best friends who has the same job I do - and within the first hour I am ready to both kill her and get out of the car. &nbsp;I am so exhausted just listening to her- and she is your classic extrovert to the max. And admits it.&nbsp;</p> <p>Anyways - as we've said on this topic before, it's important not to get shyness and introversion mixed up. It's not the same thing. I am the LEAST shy person around, but absolutely introverted. &nbsp;It's a fascinating subject indeed, and I think we've also commented on how on-line forums attract us introverts because we can interact on our own schedule - and via our own power. &nbsp;We can shut off the forum when not interested in mental input, and engage when we need it. &nbsp;It's a beautiful thing!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/2#post-1674360 Mon, 06 Jun 2016 22:31:01 +0000 Janet 1674360@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I somehow trained myself to function well in large groups, and to speak in front of large groups (one of my minors in undergraduate school was speech). Working in broadcasting helped, but I am still a nervous wreck before public appearances of any kind (giving presentations, or even going on the air again after a lengthy absence). </p> <p>People who knew me growing up would say "of course, Janet is an introvert!" To people who met me in the last 25 years or so, it's not nearly so obvious. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/2#post-1674351 Mon, 06 Jun 2016 22:06:32 +0000 Mochi 1674351@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like groups of three or four or so. Small, but I don't have to carry the full weight of the conversational response.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/2#post-1674347 Mon, 06 Jun 2016 22:00:09 +0000 Lyn D. 1674347@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Another shy introvert here!<br />Funny thing is that I can sing solo in front of a large audience, but put me with more than 1 person for conversation and I am uncomfortable. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-wanna-go-out-but-i-wanna-stay-home/page/2#post-1674281 Mon, 06 Jun 2016 17:47:43 +0000 Angie 1674281@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Pointing out that we have had these conversations before, and the forum is full of introverts! </p> <p>Marianna, great cartoon. Greg to tee. </p> <p>Janet, Suz and Diana, you function very well at large YLF gatherings. I'd never have thought you were introverts. </p> <p>JAileen, so glad you decided to come in July.</p> <p>High five, Una. </p>