https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-returned-my-christmas-gift-today Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Mon, 06 Apr 2026 18:39:19 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-returned-my-christmas-gift-today#post-1163672 Tue, 11 Feb 2014 17:05:56 +0000 Eliza 1163672@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My husband does want to create delight with a gift, and often hits the mark. &nbsp;If he misses it, I am pragmatic about not wanting to keep something that doesn't work and won't be used. I am not critical and if there is a bit more sensitivity than usual, I am apt to&nbsp;focus on what was right, own the pickiness, limited color wardrobe, etc.&nbsp;and any other reason as to&nbsp;why it didn't work, as some of my preferences are highly nuanced from most people's points of view. </p> <p>&nbsp;If I know something will be hard to find, we will often&nbsp;shop together. &nbsp;In fact, we went watch shopping in December. &nbsp;Much to his chagrin, I didn't find the right one, though we got close. &nbsp;I like him to see that even I can't always hit the mark and that I am happier waiting for the right thing than just having something to open on a specific date.&nbsp;</p> <p>Good luck! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-returned-my-christmas-gift-today#post-1163654 Tue, 11 Feb 2014 16:49:13 +0000 cuffcat 1163654@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hope it goes well for you. Maybe you could pick a new watch together? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-returned-my-christmas-gift-today#post-1163550 Tue, 11 Feb 2014 15:30:34 +0000 Anonymous 1163550@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It probably depends on how much thought and effort he put into choosing the watch for you. I've learned not to return my husbands gifts. He gets discouraged. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-returned-my-christmas-gift-today#post-1163548 Tue, 11 Feb 2014 15:28:16 +0000 Mo 1163548@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I did this with my 35th birthday gift. &nbsp;But I explained it just wasn't me pretty much up front. &nbsp;He had bought me handmade artisan jewelry from New Orleans, where we vacation frequently. &nbsp;It was a cat, which was a good choice, but the scale was just so large on me. &nbsp;Since he had bought it from the artisan himself, I couldn't very well return it on the sly or anything lol. &nbsp;He didn't seem hurt. &nbsp;Hey, now that I think about it, I never got a replacement gift! &nbsp;ha ha </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-returned-my-christmas-gift-today#post-1163538 Tue, 11 Feb 2014 15:21:57 +0000 Anonymous 1163538@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Have you heard of the book the 5 love languages? One of the languages is "gifts". If your husband's love language is gifts he might be hurt so you might need to tread carefully. </p> <p>My daughter would be devastated if I returned a gift of hers, my husband not so much. I want people to return my gifts if they don't work for them because I just cannot stand the idea of adding to someone else's clutter. </p> <p>How sweet of you to be thinking this through! I need to remember my husbands feelings more often. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-returned-my-christmas-gift-today#post-1163106 Tue, 11 Feb 2014 02:34:10 +0000 nancylee 1163106@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My husband is so used to me returning items that this wouldn't faze him at all! &nbsp;We've been together for almost 30 years, and he knows how picky I am. &nbsp;This all started back in the days when money was tight, and I wanted to be sure it was spent on something I really wanted rather than&nbsp;wasted on something that I wouldn't wear or use….and it's just become habit now.</p> <p>Stuti seems to have a good solution for getting something you know you'd like but still letting DH choose it.&nbsp; I've done variations on this, too. &nbsp;I know it takes some of the fun out of gift giving, but it does work. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-returned-my-christmas-gift-today#post-1163071 Tue, 11 Feb 2014 02:02:01 +0000 Stuti 1163071@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My husband won't mind if I return something he gave.<br /> Just like thistle husband my husband wants me to buy my own gifts.<br /> We are married for 12 years now and plenty of gift giving experience that usually I usually give him 3 options and whatever he picks is the winner. And I get the surprise since he takes over from there. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-returned-my-christmas-gift-today#post-1162778 Mon, 10 Feb 2014 20:03:37 +0000 Thistle 1162778@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am not sure how hard this will be. </p> <p>If DH bought me something, and I didn't like it, he would not be hurt in the slightest if I took it back and got something I did like. </p> <p>I love him dearly, but sometimes, it is hard to buy a gift even for someone you love. I guarantee my DH would be <i>clueless </i>on color. </p> <p>As a matter of fact, he would love it if I bought my own gifts only because he wants to give me what I want. He has told me repeatedly he just wants me to be happy, so if something isn't "me", he would rather me go buy something that is. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-returned-my-christmas-gift-today#post-1162774 Mon, 10 Feb 2014 19:58:36 +0000 Gigi 1162774@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is really hard. I don't have any suggestions but just want to let you know I support you! I am not often given things for gifts, but it is difficult because I don't like having a lot of stuff, period. So most of it finds its way to Goodwill and I hope the person never asks about it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-returned-my-christmas-gift-today#post-1162754 Mon, 10 Feb 2014 19:35:42 +0000 April 1162754@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, that's a tough one. &nbsp;</p> <p>DH and I have an agreement that we never have to keep anything just because the other one gave it as a gift. &nbsp;We both have a horror of clutter and of owning anything that never gets used, so we have this understanding. &nbsp;</p> <p>It hasn't really been tested, though, since what usually happens is that he asks for "hints" before buying gifts --&nbsp;which is to say he wants to me to tell him exactly what I want and&nbsp;in what size. &nbsp;Since that makes him feel lame and me feel a little too authoritarian, sometimes I send an assortment of hints and then the surprise is which one he'll pick. &nbsp;</p> <p>I realize that doesn't help you with how to break it to him. &nbsp;Is he the sort who will be deeply hurt, or will he just be relieved that you're going to get a watch you'll love and wear constantly and he won't have the pressure of trying to choose it? &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-returned-my-christmas-gift-today#post-1162742 Mon, 10 Feb 2014 19:21:34 +0000 JAileen 1162742@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't know how long you've been married, but my husband and I have been married for decades, yet he seemed to not notice obvious things about me. I had to tell him these obvious things.</p> <p>I would suggest you tell him when you are both in a good mood and chatting, like at dinner. He gave it to you not to disappoint you, but to delight you. I'm sure he'll be fine.</p> <p>I hope you can get a suitable replacement. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-returned-my-christmas-gift-today#post-1162740 Mon, 10 Feb 2014 19:20:51 +0000 rachylou 1162740@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, that's a difficult one (!!) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-returned-my-christmas-gift-today#post-1162729 Mon, 10 Feb 2014 19:09:52 +0000 Glory 1162729@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sure this has been discussed before but ladies I am feeling quite bad.</p> <p>My DH gave me a lovely lovely watch for Christmas (gulp). Today I returned it. It was still in the return window.<br />It was gorgeous in all aspects, perfect except it&nbsp;had a brown face.&nbsp;<br />I don't wear any brown and could not get it to work as a neutral as it really stood out.<br />I tried to exchange for the same watch with a black or white face but it was not available.</p> <p>I kept it for 1.5 months thinking I would suck it up but in the end I just didn't wear it.&nbsp;</p> <p>Now I will have to tell him. I hope I don't hurt his feelings. </p>