https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 16 Apr 2026 20:27:28 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder/page/2#post-2148773 Fri, 16 Oct 2020 19:31:00 +0000 CocoLion 2148773@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think this is common. &nbsp;I went from being an every day make-up wearer to every few days now. &nbsp;My structured bras aren't worn very much, as I've been preferring the type of yoga bras Sterling pictured on the prior page. &nbsp;Your jeans + tees+ sneakers style is right up my alley! &nbsp;You look great! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder/page/2#post-2148422 Wed, 14 Oct 2020 09:21:08 +0000 Bijou 2148422@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Joyful, it is great to have you on the forum and this is most definitely a question that most of us are struggling with in one way or another.&nbsp;</p> <p>I have just changed jobs and have joined the ranks of 'working from home'. For me, I have daily video conferences which is a good reason to stay in the smart casual realm rather than stay in my PJs or gear. I enjoy wearing make-up and doing my hair everyday even if no one sees me, for the psychological reason that this feels like 'me'.</p> <p>Angie says it perfectly, with your great hair and ink, you look inherently stylish, but at the end of the day it is how you feel that really matters. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2148160 Sun, 11 Oct 2020 23:39:17 +0000 LanaE 2148160@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>@Joyful - Thank you for your honesty. I can relate. Loved the earrings in your second post. I just ordered them in gold color. I was looking for light weight earrings in that shape. Super inexpensive purchase to cheer myself up. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2148141 Sun, 11 Oct 2020 20:33:50 +0000 misskl 2148141@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>oh my goodness! I struggled with this during this whole pandemic! I spent many days in my pajamas! <br />I kind of managed to break the rut and what worked for me was instead of trying to dress as I normally did pre-pandemic, was to actually attempt to dress a little more polished than before (jury still out on whether that's been sccesful XD). I rediscovered how nice my clothes look when I steam and iron them (lol! life got in the way!) and have spent time trying new clothing combinations and taking pics to see if they work. The idea that the novelty of dressing differently than before would be&nbsp; enough to get me excited about getting dressed again as a new sort of new project. So now I have my morning ritual of steaming the outfit I'll wear that day and snapping a pic in it.&nbsp; If it weren't for that, I probably would get dressed tbh!<br />But like everyone is saying, everyone has different needs and ways of coping during these times, I hope you will find your groove in the clothes that make you feel best for your current life situation! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2147929 Fri, 09 Oct 2020 22:21:00 +0000 Angie 2147929@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Fabulous, <b>Joyful</b>! Like I said up top - your pixie and body art add spunk and personality to anything. Well done </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2147915 Fri, 09 Oct 2020 21:06:00 +0000 Jenava 2147915@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look lovely!&nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2147881 Fri, 09 Oct 2020 16:48:46 +0000 MsMary 2147881@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Joyful, you look great, and you were very gracious for adjusting your username to avoid confusion with longtime member Joy! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2147864 Fri, 09 Oct 2020 15:31:21 +0000 nemosmom 2147864@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look great!&nbsp; Love your tats! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2147863 Fri, 09 Oct 2020 15:20:18 +0000 slim cat 2147863@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nice outfit - love your earrings! Glad things looking up a bit.&nbsp;<br />I go through similar emotions but with work dressing - as a uniform dresser it could get repetitive and boring.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2147856 Fri, 09 Oct 2020 14:36:46 +0000 Janet 2147856@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m late to this, and I’m not super active on the forum now as I’m traveling and wearing gear or extremely casual wear every day (camping our way across the country), but I think this has been such a weird and trying year that we all have felt at least a little out of sorts and lost. You are not alone! I’ve barely touched makeup this year, went seven months without a haircut, and am viewing my wardrobe with new and more critical (but also more appreciative) eyes. I think your outfit you posted is great — casual simplicity that lets your personality shine through. Continue being kind to yourself and play with figuring out what kind of outfits elevate your mood and make you feel productive and happy. </p> <p>Selfie from me, on a windy morning camping. Puffy jacket, beanie, and a 8-year-old but beloved cotton scarf from Zara that made me feel more “dressed” even in my gear. I’ve worn a simple statement ring and simple earrings every day, which also helps me feel more *me* even at my most casual. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2147854 Fri, 09 Oct 2020 14:15:37 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2147854@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So glad things are looking up for you already, and how fun that the idea of voting selfies is taking off. My first-time-voter son and I will be doing that this weekend. Let’s start a <b><u>voting selfies thread</u></b> for everyone to add to as we cast ballots. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2147852 Fri, 09 Oct 2020 13:29:39 +0000 avicennia 2147852@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Love the short pixie Joyful — I sport one only it’s silver. Someone sent me an article from a professor of International Relations that said humanitarian aid workers often hit an emotional wall after 6 months of working in crisis situations and war zones. The low lasts about 4-6 weeks and then your body and mind adjust and you can continue. For me the pandemic is overlain on another ongoing crisis. I hit the wall in first one at about six months and then came out. Same thing here, I’m jumping down from the wall again!! I’ve been wearing the same clothes over and over but did put on earrings on the other day! I LOVE the idea of a voting outfit selfie — I expect my ballot today and will take a selfie too! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2147814 Fri, 09 Oct 2020 01:51:21 +0000 Jaime 2147814@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you for this post. I have been in no position to offer motivational advice lately but was very happy to receive some through the replies. Love your outfit above! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2147812 Fri, 09 Oct 2020 01:47:06 +0000 Joyful 2147812@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks, @<b>Runcarla,</b>&nbsp;good idea! I'm Joyful now. :)</p> <p>Glad to know we're style buddies! Converse are everything. (And thank you for the tattoo compliment!)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2147811 Fri, 09 Oct 2020 01:39:44 +0000 Carla 2147811@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>@Joy - you are a woman after my heart! &nbsp;My day-to-day isn’t much different from you - jeans or jeans style bottoms, a T-shirt, and Converse sneakers! &nbsp;As a retired person, I dress pretty casually, but not in loungewear. &nbsp;My sports kit is for fitness and doesn’t cross over. &nbsp;Nice ink, BTW!</p> <p>*You might like to adjust your moniker, since there is a &nbsp;forum member Joy who posts regularly. &nbsp;When I joined ‘Carla’ was taken, so I use Runcarla (like Forest Gump’s ‘run Forest’).&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2147808 Fri, 09 Oct 2020 01:19:33 +0000 Joyful 2147808@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Okay, we did our makeup, our hair, and put on our cute clothes today.</p> <p>Following some of the suggestions above, I made a fun reason to get dressed and I felt better all day today, and more productive. It was worth the effort. :)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2147739 Thu, 08 Oct 2020 16:22:08 +0000 AndiB 2147739@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m actually going into my super small (there are 5 of us total in my nonprofit, never more than 2 or 3 at a time, we have Office doors, masked up) office, which has def upped my game from WFH (brush hair and lippy for zoom calls). And this week is our annual conference- virtual this year of course. Normally the staff talks and talks in the weeks before our 3 day event that attracts 500 about what we are wearing, which days, and it’s super fun! Those of us who were in this week for remote conference all dressed up!!! It was really nice to experience. It does make me want to take more care daily. Even if that’s just a jacket with my dress denim, jewelry and Cute shoes! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2147733 Thu, 08 Oct 2020 15:47:24 +0000 Joyful 2147733@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, what wisdom and kindness in these replies. So many good solutions.</p> <p>I really appreciate everyone who said that it's *okay* to wear whatever feels right and helps us get through this really stressful time. I do agree with that. The idea to have some really special cozy loungewear is a great idea, too. I think I will go through my loungies and remove the things that make me feel sloppy rather than cozy.</p> <p>&nbsp;I also really appreciate all the wonderful advice and tips for getting motivated, having reasons (however small) to put myself together. Going out every day is a good idea, even if it's just for a walk. Today I am filling out my ballot and of course want to look fab for my 'vote selfie' and it's actually kind of fun to do that.</p> <p>Thank you again for your kind and thoughtful replies!! I feel better already.&nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2147580 Wed, 07 Oct 2020 18:07:46 +0000 Helena 2147580@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Echoing citygirldc ... it's okay to dress for comfort, and it's even ok to be unmotivated - I know this is sacrilege in our culture, but it's true! And echoing the lipstick ... or whatever your "thing" is that makes you feel a little more polished and put together ... do it for yourself, even if you stay in jammies all day </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2147578 Wed, 07 Oct 2020 18:02:33 +0000 citygirldc 2147578@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I feel the same way at times so dress how you feel. There's nothing wrong with that.&nbsp;</p> <p>I even put lipstick under my mask (matte works at times) because it makes me feel good.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2147575 Wed, 07 Oct 2020 17:22:55 +0000 Angie 2147575@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Welcome, <b>Joy</b>! Your super fun punk purple pixie and body art add character and verve to anything you wear :)</p> <p>Like <b>Jenava</b>, I'm dressing and grooming like my pre-Covid self daily &nbsp;-(minus lipstick and rings) - because I enjoy it! It makes me feel energized, comforted, positive, and like I can control and "normalize" at least something during this really, really stressful and unprecedented time.</p> <p>People are comforted in different ways, and I respect that. If dressing in Athleisure, gear or loungewear - or anything else - is what is appealing at the moment - <i><u>do just that.</u></i><u>&nbsp;</u>Do not feel pressured to do anything else unless you want to.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2147569 Wed, 07 Oct 2020 16:51:48 +0000 Kyle 2147569@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Most days I’m wearing a comfy camisole, t shirt and running shorts. I stay at home and that’s my uniform!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2147563 Wed, 07 Oct 2020 16:40:30 +0000 Cardiff girl 2147563@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes it’s tough to maintain any sort of enthusiasm for dressing well isn’t it.<br />lm reaching for comfort over style on a regular basis these days but I always feel better if I do my hair and put on some makeup a<br />though I admit I don’t always bother. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2147550 Wed, 07 Oct 2020 15:16:50 +0000 Laurie 2147550@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I was thinking this morning, as I put on a little more make up than usual, that I've been much better about actually dressing in real clothes lately than I was earlier in the pandemic. I have worked from a home office for 20 years so was used to WFH, but I had a weird challenge that suddenly everyone turned on their cameras in Zoom or Google Meet calls, and I had to actually up my regular game, and be much more presentable than I usually was on a day in the home office!&nbsp;<br />The other day I put on a dress - ostensibly easier to throw on a casual cotton dress than anything else I own, really - and my husband commented that I was so dressed up. I did it because I expected to close a very large deal that day, something I have been working on for months. I felt like it was appropriate to be a little more polished, even if it was mainly for myself. (It didn't close that day, but it did close yesterday!) <br />I'm also trying to wear more things in my closet so that I launder them and freshen them up again after they've just been hanging for a long time. Maybe that is a motivation?<br />Trying laying out your cute top and jeans the night before - when you get up you won't even have to struggle with that ennui moment! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2147527 Wed, 07 Oct 2020 11:40:34 +0000 Anonymous 2147527@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>There's nothing wrong with prioritizing other things over style, especially these days! Wearing gear can be very practical for WFH. It guilts you into working out throughout the day :)<br /> The trouble is if it's making you feel bad, which it sounds like it is, or harming your productivity. It may be an idea to make excuses to go out a couple days a week, even just for an hour, to have a reason to wear other things. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2147525 Wed, 07 Oct 2020 11:31:27 +0000 nemosmom 2147525@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><div>Nodding along with the others. I find it difficult to stay motivated.&nbsp; While my working life has not changed all that much (I WFH and have for years), I used to be out and about more.&nbsp; Working from a library, or Starbucks, or impromptu meetings with my only local coworker, dropping the kids at school, etc.&nbsp; Now, I have more video calls than before, but no reason to wear shoes and such. I make myself change clothes into something that is JUST uncomfortable enough to keep me off the couch, but easy enough that I can stop to clean, or go on a walk, or sit for a video call.</div><div>Hang in there - these days are challenging.<br /> </div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2147523 Wed, 07 Oct 2020 11:14:12 +0000 kkards 2147523@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Joy—welcome!&nbsp;<br />I hear you,....i do get dressed every day...not to the same level as i dressed for &nbsp;going into the office, but still dressed...WHY, because it gives me a feeling of control and normalcy. I make sure to wear shoes, even if they are comfy slip on sneakers, or “good” flip flops during the day. I only wear tees, sweaters and sweatshirts that are not athletic wear during work hours. That’s not to say that I’m not wearing comfy clothing, i love jeans and am wearing them again now that the weather has changed, but keep rotating thru the same couple of boyfriend styles and my “fashion” jeans are just sitting...and I’ve made peace with that. I love blazers and find them comfortable, but they felt uncomfortable and stiff for WFH, and so those are sitting. &nbsp;<br />I guess what I’m trying to say, i’ve developed a WFH uniform that’s comfortable but still feels like I’ve made an effort and sets the work week apart from the weekends because it gives me power and agency over my circumstances. I’ve found its the small things that make a difference, give it a try. Wear your yoga pants and bra, but swap out the workout shirt for non gear shirt, put non gear footwear on. Let us know how its going </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2147520 Wed, 07 Oct 2020 10:48:56 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2147520@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jenava’s answer is wise—wear things that feel good! For home that might mean clothing that is soft in texture as well as in fit, maybe Sherpa or fake fur. Today I’m wearing a sweater dress with fleece-lined tights. It’s all very soft &amp; cozy, even though it’s presentable. I like Onzie’s lounge wear, when they have it (they don’t always). I don’t know where you are or what your style is, but maybe this will get you thinking about athleisure you’d feel good in, including feeling good about how you look. </p> <p><a href="https://www.onzie.com/collections/sale/products/pura-vida-pant-rainforest" rel="nofollow">https://www.onzie.com/collecti.....rainforest</a></p> <p><a href="https://www.onzie.com/collections/sale/products/twirl-top-black" rel="nofollow">https://www.onzie.com/collecti.....-top-black</a></p> <p><a href="https://www.onzie.com/collections/sale/products/teddy-jacket-jean" rel="nofollow">https://www.onzie.com/collecti.....acket-jean</a></p> <p>If this is more like the feeling of not wanting to work out even though you know you’ll feel better (ie you want to want to do it, even though that first-level “want” isn’t there), then you could <u>either</u> play in your closet, make outfits, and just do it—assign yourself an ootd for each day, and just put them on and see if wearing them helps. After a couple days you know if this strategy works for you (I expect I would be like Sterling and hate this). <u>Or</u>, depending on the level of attire you miss wearing, you might be able to invent events to wear it. Put on your best for a pic of yourself putting your ballot in the mail. Dress up for a doctor’s appt. Have a tea party with your kid. You get the idea. </p> <p>Personally, I think the attitude adjustment and step back to focus on things other than appearance can be a very healthy one. I wish you well! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2147516 Wed, 07 Oct 2020 06:54:06 +0000 Anonymous 2147516@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Raises hand. &nbsp;I am struggling. &nbsp;</p> <p>I made it a point to make an effort a few times. &nbsp;I did feel better for a <u>few minutes</u>, but it didn't last, and the clothing were not comfortable or comforting. &nbsp;At this time, I yearn for comforting clothing. &nbsp;My lounge capsule is getting the most wear. &nbsp;My lounge capsule is perfection. &nbsp;It includes a lounging bra. &nbsp;Then I wear mostly Gap cotton tee shirts and/or Old Navy sweatshirts. &nbsp;I feel "well dressed" in these items. &nbsp;</p> <p>Sending you warm wishes. Write often and let us know how you are doing. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-to-try-harder#post-2147500 Wed, 07 Oct 2020 01:10:11 +0000 Jenava 2147500@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I get dressed and put on makeup (or not) for the pure pleasure of doing so these days.&nbsp; If it doesn't appeal to you, don't do it.&nbsp; In my mind, it's as simple as that.&nbsp; In these strange times we are free to do what ONLY we want with our clothing choices.&nbsp; The question "what do I feel like wearing today" has become one more about how my cloths actually feel on my body as opposed to what I want to look like or what I want other people to see.</p> <p>If you're tired of workout wear invest in some beautiful, joy-invoking loungewear maybe? </p>