https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 09 Apr 2026 17:50:40 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/3#post-2327954 Tue, 27 Jun 2023 02:00:54 +0000 LJP 2327954@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have to admit I didn’t understand the yoda reference , at all . Lol- I’m not much of a Star Wars ( is that right ?) fan . As in , maybe I’ve seen one movie ? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/3#post-2327948 Tue, 27 Jun 2023 01:22:48 +0000 Gail 2327948@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm very excited for you and can't wait to hear how it all goes. My closet is stuffed with many items that just aren't " quite right" but I don't seem to able to be ruthless about passing them on.&nbsp;<br />wishing you lots of luck </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/3#post-2327944 Tue, 27 Jun 2023 00:53:15 +0000 Jaime 2327944@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well this thread just keeps on giving! The image as Angie as Yoda on your shoulder rubbing her hands together and encouraging you is just delightful. Thank you gryffin! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/3#post-2327936 Mon, 26 Jun 2023 21:00:03 +0000 Jenava 2327936@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hmmmm....I have so much to say here about my own experience! I feel like I've always been trying to feel fab and only sometimes achieving my goals. In the past few months, so very recently!, I think I'm finally starting to get the hang of it.</p> <p>First, for me, I have to calm the F down, IFYKWIM. Like, relax. I realized that a large part of my confusion here is because I ACTUALLY AM NOT SURE WHAT I LIKE. I'm not (yet) someone who can walk in to my closet and be inspired by what I see. What do I feel like wearing today? Is not a question I can always answer. I'm working on slowing down and really trying to feel myself and what I WANT and LIKE. Not on others (although being inspired by others is good) but ON ME.&nbsp;</p> <p>I haven't had time, but I think playing around in your closet and trying different things and really getting a sense of what feels right for your personal style is the way to go. I also have a few items that, like, look fine in theory but I felt like they just weren't for me when I wore them (even though they fit and looked perfectly fine). When that happens they go straight to the donate pile. If I have pieces that I subconsciously react to in a negative way, I donate them.</p> <p>&nbsp;Shopping is still a bit of a mess, because I don't know if I'll love an piece till I've gotten to know it and introduced it into the "closet ecosystem". But I think my intuition is getting better as I edit more authentically. </p> </p> <p>TL;DR</p> <p>Focus on what gives you that thrill; style is a sensory experience. Slow down and enjoy the process; don't dwell on closet or dressing mistakes. Focus on the successes.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/3#post-2327926 Mon, 26 Jun 2023 20:20:55 +0000 morethanbeige 2327926@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I can so relate, LJP. I have been a member of YouLookFab for a number of years, but sometimes feel like such a newbie. My issue is that I don’t always know what I like and also what I like can change from day to day. Sometimes when I shop, I really try to pay attention to what I’m trying on, how it makes me feel, how it will work with my existing wardrobe, I try to think of everything! Then I bring the item home, try it on, and feel completely different about it. What happened in that short span of time lol?? Anyway, I think our issues are different, but I wanted to thank you for your post. I am enjoying reading responses and I don’t feel alone. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/3#post-2327914 Mon, 26 Jun 2023 19:33:09 +0000 texstyle 2327914@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I know I'm not "here" very often these days. It's because I'm so busy on other hobbies I suppose. But I feel your frustration. Songwriting and music has become nearly a full time pursuit for me in the past couple of years and writing a new group of songs is not so dissimilar as choosing a wardrobe. It takes work to find the right combination. Instead of the "look and feel" it is the "story, sound and feel" of course, but still it's a reasonable comparison in terms of enjoyment combined with a lot of frustration trying to put all the pieces together. Just like when you wear an outfit, when you sing a song it's nice for people to like it.<br /><div><br /></div><div>Don't fight yourself in your head. Enjoy the good moments like when you DO put on one of your favorite things and it just feels like you.<br /></div><br /><div>Don't go shopping for more if your closet is full - give yourself the right to be patient and even (gasp) not dressed to your full potential for a while. Focus on something else for a few weeks. If you really need a couple of lightweight tops or other "fill ins" for summer, just buy a couple in a reliable budget friendly brand and be done for now. Let your mind wander onto other parts of your life. Then when you do feel relaxed get back to looking at things more focused.</div><div><br /></div><div>Of course all of this coming from someone who doesn't have to dress in more than a t-shirt and cut offs to fit in or even to perform here in Texas because it's so dang casual - not to mention hot. Still, I like to wear slightly elevated summer tops when I go out (linen blend, gauze or even seersucker style fabric is good to me). Cut offs are my main stay as I just haven't found good fitting/feeling shorts - they always have too wide of a leg opening for me or do a weird thing on the back side and I feel frumpy. I prefer a more structured, fitted short, even in the heat - denim and denim like fabrics provide that for me.<br /></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/3#post-2327908 Mon, 26 Jun 2023 18:55:11 +0000 gryffin 2327908@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lol Angie!! You definitely gave me my laugh for the day! I’m hearing yoda, “do or do not, there is to try” and bag ‘um up, get them out, way out!!! I definitely to debride with your ruthlessness!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/3#post-2327895 Mon, 26 Jun 2023 16:48:42 +0000 Angie 2327895@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b></b>*rubs hands&nbsp;together&nbsp;with&nbsp;excitement*<b></b></p> <p><b>LJP,</b> I'm sitting on your shoulder as you do this magnificent &nbsp;MAJOR edit!&nbsp;</p> <p>BE RUTHLESS, which I do not say lightly at all.&nbsp;</p> <p>Good luck :)&nbsp;</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/3#post-2327888 Mon, 26 Jun 2023 14:54:54 +0000 LJP 2327888@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>As to consigning : &nbsp;doing some very basic math , the answer is "not a financially sensible option". &nbsp;The cost of dry cleaning say 4-5 blazers , dropping off and picking them up ( I can pretty much only do this on a weekend ), booking an appt at the consignment store and hoping they will take them &nbsp;- it's a lot of time and money that might not be recouped. &nbsp;Dry-cleaning alone would likely eat up anything I'd make from selling them. &nbsp;I'm trying to be very practical and efficient about this project.</p> <p>And Janet - yes, a ruthless edit borne out of frustration is dicey, however, I've done what I thought were thorough edits and it accomplished nothing. &nbsp;So - it's all or nothing now. &nbsp;I have made a list of my basic non-work wardrobe requirements, and anything not one it is up for donation. &nbsp;What I keep won't necessarily be all "hell yes" pieces, but that's ok as long as they fit the criteria. I think I'll make a separate post of what my new wardrobe list looks like, and the &nbsp;results of the cleanse ;)&nbsp; </p> <p></p> <p>Oh ,and, not to ignore the lovely suggestions that I work with Angie on this project....I just wasn't sure what to say to that. &nbsp;This is a project that I'll have to do alone - cost and logistics are the main reason &nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/3#post-2327887 Mon, 26 Jun 2023 14:46:45 +0000 LJP 2327887@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Robin, it sounds like you and I are experiencing the very same things right now. &nbsp;Again, while lying in bed last night (where I do my best thinking), <b>I realized - DUH - that a wardrobe is a metaphor for life , a</b>nd that you can't move forward with any clarity when you are still stuck in the past and overwhelmed with clutter. &nbsp;Literally and figuratively. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/3#post-2327878 Mon, 26 Jun 2023 13:46:26 +0000 RobinF 2327878@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This thread has been such a great read. Sounds like you have a plan for today, hope it goes well and that you keep us updated.&nbsp;</p> <p>I have similar feelings but I have never put the effort into figuring out a solution. Aging, body changes, etc have all created a vague dissatisfaction and distrust of my instincts, leading me to feel frumpy (for lack of a better word) much of the time with a full wardrobe but nothing to wear. Good food for thought.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/3#post-2327873 Mon, 26 Jun 2023 13:01:31 +0000 Janet 2327873@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with Barbara Diane that sometimes in the desire to keep only the hell yes pieces, we can be too brutal on what we already have, not always knowing the potential. That’s why I suggested some try-on sessions to see not only what possibilities there are in your favorite pieces, but also how the less-favorite items can be supporting acts to help finish an outfit. I’m not talking about items that clearly have a fit or style issue you dislike, but those items that seem maybe a bit boring on their own. </p> <p>I support your efforts fully and want to hear how it all goes! But I am a little nervous about huge sweeping closet edits that are based on frustration. </p> <p>I have been sort of low-key looking at some of my closet items thinking along the lines of, “when will I want to wear *this* instead of *that* (similar item I like so much more)?” A couple of things have already found their way to the donation bag with that question because I have no good answer! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/3#post-2327848 Mon, 26 Jun 2023 07:33:58 +0000 Barbara Diane 2327848@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lisa, I can tell that you’ve made a lot of mental progress from the original post til now. Just like being realistic about your current life and activities, I had to learn that my favorite aspirational style and my body were not congruent. Although I sometimes feel sad about it, I move on with what actually works. </p> <p>I don’t agree with getting rid of everything that isn’t a “Heck Yes”. One reason is that everyone’s criteria for heck yes is different. It takes a lot for me to be that excited about something. Second, I like most of my clothes, they work for me and the more basic items are needed to support my star pieces. Are the support acts heck yes pieces to me? Not necessarily. Do I have the budget to replace my $50-$60 on sale basic well fitting black pants with $500 dollar ones that have a special detail I like? Heck no. </p> <p>Also, can you consign some of the items that you are thinking of eliminating from your wardrobe? Some extra money never hurts.</p> <p>Good luck! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/2#post-2327844 Mon, 26 Jun 2023 06:21:41 +0000 Star (Lise) 2327844@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good for you making a strong decision.&nbsp; Sometimes I wish I had the guts to purge most of 250 piece wardrobe.&nbsp; I would be left with about 150 pieces.&nbsp; I know this because I have asked the "would I buy it now?" on all pieces and this was the result.&nbsp; Problem is I would probably have WW3 on my hands from my DH, hence doing it slowly, so not that noticeable in our shared closet LOL.&nbsp; Good luck, I think you are going to feel good after.&nbsp; Let us know. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/2#post-2327835 Mon, 26 Jun 2023 03:14:06 +0000 unfrumped 2327835@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ha, bj1111 made a good comment! I have both also. </p> <p>A tiny bit of imaginary lifestyle, from ALWAYS , like, evening gowns. </p> <p>But more, the pandemic- retirement reduction in face to face conversations, stimulating talks, plays, and of course, meaningful work. </p> <p>Which used to require, or rather , allow for, some at least sorta stylish, interesting, nicely - made clothing, even though might be optional, given the casualization of all dress codes. </p> <p>So that’s interesting because in the last few months I’ve really started working on my, “ now what?” list of people /places/activities. And at same time, pondering where my fun with fashion will go with it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/2#post-2327834 Mon, 26 Jun 2023 02:55:19 +0000 LJP 2327834@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Both </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/2#post-2327823 Mon, 26 Jun 2023 01:39:20 +0000 bj1111 2327823@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Is it the clothes that need to match your current life or is your current life missing something that your clothes represent? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/2#post-2327814 Sun, 25 Jun 2023 22:40:34 +0000 CarolS 2327814@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sounds like bold and decisive action, Lisa! I hope it brings clarity and the breathing room you seek!&nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/2#post-2327813 Sun, 25 Jun 2023 22:29:17 +0000 Indigoprint 2327813@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Woo- hoo Lisa sounds like a good plan for tomorrow! I have the house to myself Thursday this week and am planning on working on my closet as well! Funny, I can count the number of times I have been alone in my home.....it's a single digit number. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/2#post-2327811 Sun, 25 Jun 2023 22:07:28 +0000 Cardiff girl 2327811@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This has been a really interesting thread.l hope you manage to find some clarity and wardrobe peace from it Lisa. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/2#post-2327805 Sun, 25 Jun 2023 20:41:56 +0000 Sal 2327805@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good luck with it all. So much advice - all really good - already. </p> <p>I also have seen some really chic outfits on you that work for your desired style!</p> <p>Have fun with it too! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/2#post-2327803 Sun, 25 Jun 2023 19:54:34 +0000 LJP 2327803@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Carol , et al - good advice, and I'm always amazed and thankful that there are so many women willing to take the time to help each other!</p> <p>To be clear, I don't lack clothing. I have too many pieces that don't really fit my desired aesthetic and that I no longer wear due to this infamous career change. &nbsp;For example, blazers: &nbsp;while I love the structure and sense of formality /authority a blazer gives to an outfit, I have so little desire to wear them now. &nbsp;I whittled my former collection down to maybe 6 for spring/summer, but I have not worn a single one in a few years now. &nbsp;I even added a new one this summer and have only had it on twice I think . &nbsp;As I've been formulating my plan over the weekend (and now I KNOW I've been down this path before - I do love to formulate plans ) I'm going to part with all of them save the new stone coloured linen. &nbsp;As soon as DH leaves for work tomorrow, I'm getting to work in my closet and then taking it all straight to the Salvation Army Thrift store. &nbsp;</p> <p>I don't need anything new - right now . &nbsp;I'm going to do the most major edit ever tomorrow - and I thought I had already done that earlier this spring &nbsp;but I obviously didn't get rid of nearly enough. &nbsp;It's like having a messy desk : I can't think when there is too much visual noise .</p> <p>The main takeaway for me is that I hadn't yet come to terms with my lifestyle change and resulting needs. &nbsp;I was still operating as if I had a busy career with travel and the need for professional , modern clothing . I was also still operating as if I had a busy social life - which I don't anymore. &nbsp;A result of the pandemic I think, and my introverted self hasn't done the work to get that part of my life back to where it was. &nbsp;I'm not going to suddenly become CEO of a major company and need blazers, blouses, bags and dressy shoes .&nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/2#post-2327802 Sun, 25 Jun 2023 19:33:39 +0000 CarolS 2327802@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lisa, I wonder if the side of you that tends toward the 'vaguely dissatisfied' is blocking your view of what you DO have that is already nicely aligned with the minimalist, low key aesthetic you describe?</p> <p>You recently showed us a couple of summer dresses you said you felt great in, and I seem to recall a beautiful POMP linen dress from a couple of summers ago, too, which brings you to possibly three fabulous summer dresses -- at least one of which can also be worn as a topper over pants.</p> <p>The brown Mango set is simple, modern, architectural and fab. I still think you could break it up, but even if you only wear it together, I think you could casualize it by adding those chunky Sorel sandals and maybe (MAYBE) one strong accessory -- thinking slightly masculine to balance the flowiness. Fauxhawk. Minimal makeup to keep things cool. Throw a raffia/straw bag wtih it and voila!</p> <p>Then there's the new blazer. Not for the 30-plus degree days, but a fab topper for evening. You showed it with a nice neutral POMP linen tee, and I could see adding a pair of neutral wide-leg linen pants -- once again with the Sorel sandals, which will be balanced by the volume of the pant. And the volume and casualness of the pant will be tempered by the blazer. That same raffia bag.&nbsp;</p> <p>I don't know what else you have for summery tops and bottoms, but maybe a bit of playing&nbsp; will help get you there. (I know you don't like it, but I don't know how else you're really going to do the evaluation...)</p> <p>To avoid throwing out the proverbial baby with the bathwater, I'd suggest you look again at the pieces you know you feel good in. Cuts and fits you know you feel work for your shape. Try looking at them in a different light to see if there is untapped potential... I keep hearing Amy S's voice -- PLAY with your clothes. Will a bit of manipulation or some different styling make a difference?</p> <p>Maybe you are closer to your goal than you think and only need to add one or two pieces to make it all start to work? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/2#post-2327799 Sun, 25 Jun 2023 18:35:40 +0000 rachylou 2327799@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Honestly, we have radically different styles but a lot in common—including ‘hahaTheRow’! Random thoughts:</p> <p>If you paired down, you’d have more money to spend per item.</p> <p>I also am thinking about a mass purge, saving only suits.</p> <p>I also despise tying up credit.</p> <p>Saving up time for a big shopping trip… that’s what I have to do since I only have Ross now nearby… </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/2#post-2327754 Sun, 25 Jun 2023 01:37:41 +0000 gryffin 2327754@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lisa - I had this problem when I first came to ylf. I had outfits but not a cohesive closet. It was really helpful to limit my color palette to black, gray, charcoal and denim. I also picked only a single silhouette for work tunic/leggings/long jacket/booties. Jeans on the weekend. I found a lot of inspiration in EF capsule wardrobes that helped me coordinate. (Small capsules and recording favorite outfits was invaluable. Nothing like FFBO.)I think she’s a great brand to really look at for cohesion as a template. I do think Allison Bornstein has some great ideas on how to use and style what you already own. I had no idea “the wrong shoe” was a thing because I’ve kinda been doing that forever. But I like her closet organization and styling suggestions. I also second thinking about a consultation with Angie. Not only is she incredible, but she knows your style really well and has seen a lot of pieces that you have and how you style them. Honestly, sometimes money spent on fixing what you have is better value than tossing and replacing. I’m not sure how you feel about this but when I’m upset and frustrated I remind myself that “it’s important to learn how to be comfortable, being uncomfortable”. IOW, instead of trying to make myself feel better in some way (purging closets, buying, distraction of any kind) I try and figure out what’s really bothering me. And yeah it can absolutely be wearing winters clothes in summer is miserable, but sometimes, at least for me, it’s actually not the thing I’m focused on, I’m just projecting. OTOH a well functioning wardrobe definitely brings peace and clarity. Sending hugs to you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/2#post-2327747 Sun, 25 Jun 2023 01:22:00 +0000 Jaime 2327747@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mind blowingly interesting thread Lisa, and we all evolve and change and it is pretty normal to have these things come back at us over again.<br />Anyway, I will throw something out there in case it resonates. Maybe you can throw your shopping energy into focusing on the one perfect piece that you imagine would make your existing "Hell Yes" (love that) pieces, dare I say, elevate. Even if it is way out of your of your budget. (Dare I suggest you consign your Smythe blazers, etc.?) The goal is not to buy it so much as imagine what you would wear day to day with its addition. I sometimes I get fixated on one thing and imagine how it would level up the rest. Anyhow the mental exercise does distract me from wanting a lot of other things for some time and sort of give me an idea of where I want to go. Anyway, there is tons of thought provoking ideas on this thread and I plan on feasting on them . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/2#post-2327741 Sat, 24 Jun 2023 22:29:23 +0000 judy 2327741@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p> <div></p> <p>I<i>s it important you do this yourself? Because if not, why not just hire a personal shopper. Angie knows the brands, styles, trends, how things work on real bodies (clients) and she knows you. So you get a built-in</i><br /><i>extra cost but you get results.</i></p> <p></div><div></div><div></div><div><br /></div><b>Vildy</b>, I love your solution!&nbsp; When things are hard, is it the signal that help is needed? </p> <p>I had a dear sister in law who was very unsatisfied with her clothing.&nbsp; She had many, many items in her closet.&nbsp; Some were actually very nice quality hand me downs from a more wealthy sister, and fit her beautifully.&nbsp; We would have a lovely afternoon, me sorting through her closet (which I love to do) and encouraging her to try this with that, how about this scarf, oh look what happens if you belt it, that kind of thing, you know how we just play dress up.&nbsp; We made outfits and hung them together even.&nbsp; We also purged old and too used things that didn't suit any more.&nbsp; She felt quite inspired and happy in the moment.&nbsp; However, she found it wasn't something she could actually do on her own in my absence.&nbsp; She tended to reach for the easiest clean thing in her pile on the chair, so her dissatisfaction continued.&nbsp;Was more structure needed for her...?&nbsp; She was someone who didn't really like structure, and tended to operate more on a chaos basis, so I don't know.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/2#post-2327740 Sat, 24 Jun 2023 22:12:58 +0000 judy 2327740@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>"Hell yes", love that!&nbsp; </p> <p>When I used to have limited space for clothes, I discovered that putting hooks on the back wall of the closet, if it's deep enough, was a life saver.&nbsp; Depending on how deep the space, they can be single hooks or the older fashioned double ones, with the top longer. Clothes can be in garment bags hung flat against the wall. Hopefully not clear ones because it's nice to have the garments completely out of the line of sight.&nbsp; Also accessories like scarves or belts not needed can be hung this way.&nbsp; Again, just going for some out of sight kind of storage temporarily, for a season. Nowadays I use a big bag on the floor, tucked into a corner.&nbsp; Or some people do those under the bed storage containers.&nbsp; Probably you already have considered this, but just offering it up.&nbsp;</p> <p>It sounds like you are very visual so any improvements of making your closet look like those high end stores that you feel you don't have access to may help your spirits enormously.&nbsp; It's like when we have great art, but then hang it in a gallery wall, it can get lost amid all the visual noise.&nbsp; Bringing out your best clothes...even if your mind can think they aren't the "ultimate"...to hang on the main closet rack and making those 6 to 8 outfits that Angie suggested, may reset your fashion button to experience them anew.&nbsp; A fashion refresh.&nbsp; The visual satisfaction to see beauty every day, not just on the internet, always slightly out of reach, but right in your very own closet.&nbsp;</p> <p>I love the idea of a social media break.&nbsp; Attempting to keep up with trends and novelty can be a hamster wheel that the harder we try, the less we get any where and the more exhausted we can become.&nbsp; And what will you do with your free time??&nbsp; Maybe meditation! My son uses the headspace app and the thing about meditating, it's not another thing for your to do list.&nbsp; I find it's transformative qualities aren't even the time spent sitting...whether it's five or ten or twenty minutes...it's what it does to all the rest of the moments in our day.&nbsp; Just my two cents ! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/2#post-2327737 Sat, 24 Jun 2023 21:05:37 +0000 Roberta 2327737@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think you have developed a plan and I look forward to hearing how it works for you! I have a few tiny thoughts: <ul> <li>"Getting it right". I don't think we ever do, we keep pursuing happiness in our wardrobe because it is important to us. Like a chef that keeps tweaking recipes. So its OK that you ask this question every year! (I am such a Pollyanna.)</li> <li>Related; summer is the worst time for me to contemplate my wardrobe. Thank you <b>Bijou</b>! My "uniform" is shorts and a top, with a little excitement in picking out sneakers or sandals. Once a month I get to wear something that requires a little thought. Maybe the season ties into your frustration.</li> <li>Can you rope in a friend to help with weeding or storage? I can think of several people with closet or floor space that would be glad to be my holding zone. They understand the love of clothes, for one thing. Maybe they have a rolling rack!</li> </ul> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-need-help-style-reset/page/2#post-2327727 Sat, 24 Jun 2023 19:26:16 +0000 Vildy 2327727@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Is it important you do this yourself?&nbsp; Because if not, why not just hire a personal shopper.&nbsp; Angie knows the brands, styles, trends, how things work on real bodies (clients) and she knows you.&nbsp; So you get a built-in&nbsp;<br />extra cost but you get results. </p>