https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 25 Apr 2026 09:23:23 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker/page/2#post-2236651 Sat, 06 Nov 2021 03:11:16 +0000 Sally 2236651@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Go ahead and high jack it.&nbsp; I am on the hunt for more stompy boots for next winter.&nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker/page/2#post-2236477 Fri, 05 Nov 2021 12:37:22 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2236477@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just another 6-year-old girl in a tutu, shredding a 12-foot bowl. <a href="https://www.instagram.com/reel/CV0lcTljemP/?utm_medium=copy_link" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/reel.....=copy_link</a></p> <p>Zaeobi, yeah, the concern I was talking about was from my own experience, not your intro to the BB vid. I agree she’s head &amp; shoulders above them &amp; they know it.</p> <p>Sally, your thread has now been thoroughly high jacked. I hope you don’t mind. My apologies if you do. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker/page/2#post-2236159 Thu, 04 Nov 2021 00:10:31 +0000 Zaeobi 2236159@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Haha maybe I worded that wrong - they're 'scared' to get in her way because they know she's an equal match to them (her other videos show as much - she plays a fairly aggressive offense), not because they think she's a delicate flower. </p> <p>Sorry for the thread hijack @Sally I guess the relevance to your situation is that you look the same way in your skirts - an equal match, not a wallflower </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker/page/2#post-2236129 Wed, 03 Nov 2021 19:06:29 +0000 Anonymous 2236129@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Love the long skirts on you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker/page/2#post-2236114 Wed, 03 Nov 2021 17:41:24 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2236114@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Z, I always hate it when guys think they can’t /shouldn’t play hard against a girl, remember teammates and opponents when I played soccer who needed to be shown that wasn’t the way to play around me. So I asked my son if he thought they were letting her have the points. His first reaction was that she was just good at changing direction fast. On second thought, he thought the abaya might have helped with that, because while it was still swinging in one direction, she’d change headings and be off and running before the boys caught wind of it. Makes sense to me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker/page/2#post-2236107 Wed, 03 Nov 2021 16:56:55 +0000 Zaeobi 2236107@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>@Sally Yup - I only wear jeans for dressy occasions or in the dead of winter for precisely that reason. Besides, anything too billowy can always be tempered with strategically placed clips to make it more practical in all the right places </p> <p>@SF Oh, interesting - that's cool you recognise it! Can't find the video now but I remember someone's reaction that those guys aren't 'letting' her cut past so much as they're scared to get in her way - lol she can run circles around half of them there! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker/page/2#post-2235418 Mon, 01 Nov 2021 02:20:09 +0000 Sally 2235418@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I didn't realise when I posted this initially, it would lead to such an interesting discussion.&nbsp; Thank you Star and Stagiaire....really gave me food for thought.&nbsp;&nbsp;<br />I think when you are drawn to a certain look, there is something you are expressing in your personality etc.&nbsp; I guess swagger can mean confident and sassy and not necessarily in the way you walk.&nbsp; I don't walk with a swagger but I'm not dainty and I am pretty down to earth no frills, but can be a bit unconventional so maybe that is why I dress that way.&nbsp; &nbsp;Its interesting how people dress expresses aspects of themselves.&nbsp; i feel I am coming to know people on the forum by the way they dress....and also the way they write.&nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker/page/2#post-2235284 Sun, 31 Oct 2021 13:57:37 +0000 Bijou 2235284@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sally, you wear your skirts and dresses so well. You have retained a certain edginess with the looser tops and practical sandals, so that it looks authentic to your style. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker/page/2#post-2235255 Sun, 31 Oct 2021 08:07:24 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2235255@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’ve been mulling over the “swagger” thing, because part of me really wants to claim that, but I don’t think it describes the way I move. I certainly don’t let my clothes tell me what to do. I can see that fence-climbing, puddle-jumping and moor-running (that pic got my attention the first time I saw it, because it looks like how I wear my clothes, skirts or not) are inherently not ladylike activities. I don’t want to be a lady, with the limitations and constriction that entails. But “swagger”, while it’s great for after you’ve made a dunk (abaya or not), isn’t me either, and not just because I can’t dunk. I don’t know if there is a term for what I’m looking for: more free and independent than a lady, more feminine than a swagger, more grown-up than Pippi Longstocking. That’s where you’ll find me, and if there’s a word for it, lmk.</p> <p>On men in skirts, I’ve never been with a guy in a kilt, but the Somali guy I’ve mentioned on here before wore something like a sarong at home. When guys came over, they often brought theirs to wear in the apartment. When we went to visit his family, some men in the town wore them, while others wore pants. There was some division according to activity—pants were more for office work—but no gauging masculinity based on what a man was wearing.</p> <p>Z, that video’s from the big city (to us) near where I grew up. I’m happy to see boys there being mature enough to handle it when a girl cuts past them to the basket like that. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker#post-2235246 Sun, 31 Oct 2021 07:33:42 +0000 Star (Lise) 2235246@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Love all the inspo pics.&nbsp; Look at that boxy cuff on the 1st one of Sally's!<br />This is such an interesting debate for me as one who has had a big chunk of Natural Tomboy in my style from young.&nbsp; Swagger is such an accurate and descriptive word for this moniker!&nbsp; I am realising I should stop fighting with my innate style.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker#post-2235243 Sun, 31 Oct 2021 05:59:47 +0000 Sally 2235243@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Vildy</b> I looked up Kurt Cobain in a dress and he wears it well but i have less body hair than him :)&nbsp;<br /><b>Shevia</b> Its interesting that we associate skirts with feminity and daintiness.&nbsp; What about kilts.. They are not dainty.<br /><b>Zaeobi </b>- Great video.&nbsp; For me it comes down to shoes and looseness of clothes. In some ways a flowing skirt is less restrictive than tight jeans.&nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker#post-2235237 Sun, 31 Oct 2021 05:39:39 +0000 Zaeobi 2235237@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>To me, tomboy is a state of mind where you don't risk practicality for femininity, rather than specifically the clothes you wear (though it might manifest as such). </p> <p>If she can play basketball in an abaya, you can still be a tomboy in a dress:<br /> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CTfpLVQAPva/" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/p/CTfpLVQAPva/</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker#post-2235204 Sun, 31 Oct 2021 02:25:19 +0000 Jaime 2235204@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Love Vildy's quote and her Kurt Cobain image. Yes, to the skirts, interesting thoughts about the gender connotations.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker#post-2235184 Sat, 30 Oct 2021 23:01:43 +0000 Vildy 2235184@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love the&nbsp; inspo photos.&nbsp; I'll spare you Kurt Cobain&nbsp;<br />performing in a tea dress but the whole key, I think,&nbsp;<br />is *not* behaving as though you need to keep your&nbsp;<br />knees together!&nbsp; The moors, tree climbing, puddle <br />jumping. Even if you're wearing a miniskirt. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker#post-2235182 Sat, 30 Oct 2021 21:52:30 +0000 CarolS 2235182@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes! More great inspo! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker#post-2235180 Sat, 30 Oct 2021 21:43:14 +0000 Sally 2235180@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great photos CarolS...thank you!&nbsp; &nbsp; I was trying to see what top she had on in the photo. Maybe I can do a copycat sometime.&nbsp; The boots in pic 3 are fabulous too. I found a few more summer versions of the skirts with swagger (I love that term....like wearing a skirt like a boy).&nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker#post-2235175 Sat, 30 Oct 2021 20:07:00 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2235175@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think you found Sally’s stunt double! And the last pic could be of Brooklyn’s sister from another mister. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker#post-2235174 Sat, 30 Oct 2021 20:02:00 +0000 CarolS 2235174@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>hmm -- not sure why the links don't work, so let's try this...&nbsp;<br />First one is the one that looked to me like Sally and her blue pleated skirt.</p> <p>While I am at it...</p> <p>Second woman I would say has swagger, even though she's in heels. (She reminds me a bit of Brooklyn in the way she carries clothes)</p> <p>Third is another one I just like -- great skirt, great confident look overall...</p> <p>And of course, woman running across the moors in the tulle skirt was very much living that statement, I think!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker#post-2235165 Sat, 30 Oct 2021 19:02:52 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2235165@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Aw, man, I like skirts with swagger too, but that link won’t open for me. Can you post a screenshot, CarolS? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker#post-2235160 Sat, 30 Oct 2021 18:39:08 +0000 CarolS 2235160@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sally, I was looking for images of skirts with swagger and had to look twice to make sure this wasn't you!!&nbsp;<a rel="nofollow" href="http://https://www.pinterest.ca/pin/487936940886224045/">http://https//www.pinterest.ca.....886224045/</a></p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker#post-2235153 Sat, 30 Oct 2021 18:17:48 +0000 Sally 2235153@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>stagiaire fash - Yes I don't really need a moniker to decide how to dress but I quite like the whole analysis of style and dress is definitely a mode of expression.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker#post-2235151 Sat, 30 Oct 2021 18:10:39 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 2235151@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m assuming that the whole “rewrite the moniker” discussion is halfway earnest, half tongue in cheek.<br /> But I like Vildy’s motto! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker#post-2235148 Sat, 30 Oct 2021 17:58:46 +0000 Sally 2235148@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>@ <b>approprio</b> - yes I know.&nbsp; I do live in the Southern Hemisphere though and it is going into summer.&nbsp; However it might mean I could get a bargain.&nbsp;&nbsp;<br />Thank you <b>Runcarla</b> - I can understand what the quote implies but hard to find visuals.&nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker#post-2235147 Sat, 30 Oct 2021 17:54:38 +0000 Sally 2235147@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you <b>star</b>. Maybe it is the boho side I'm seeing in the skirts. I do like the term edgy natural too.&nbsp;&nbsp;<br />Thank you <b>Jenni</b> The blush top is an ezibuy special.&nbsp; Yes I will definitely use the word natural.<br />@<b>Katerina</b> - interesting that you were unsure about the pleated skirt. It is style I liked but wasn't sure how I could wear as it is completely out of my normal style ie bright colour and long flowing skirt with pleats. But I feel comfortable in it now.&nbsp;<br />@ <b>Stagiaire fash</b> - I guess it was the idea of a flowing skirt not being tomboy and it is a definite shift in style as I am accustomed to wearing pants.&nbsp; Yes shoes could hamper the tree climbing but boy are they comfortable. I suppose they are they natural, casual part.&nbsp;<br />@<b> Tanya</b> - thank you.&nbsp; I was unsure about the skirt at first as it is so different from what I normally wear.&nbsp; I need to find some black boots to wear it with in autumn/ winter later.&nbsp;<br />@ <b>CarolS </b>the polka dot dress was a thrift find when I was in lockdown. I had to wear a singlet under it so it was appropriate for work but I think it works.&nbsp;<br /><b>cat2</b> - yes YLF is great for getting ideas and encouraging you to try new things.&nbsp;<br /><b>slim cat </b>- thank you ...maybe soft edgy natural?<br /><b>vildy</b> - What an amazing quote - I tend to wear most things like a boy...dainty would never come into my moniker :)&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker#post-2235138 Sat, 30 Oct 2021 17:40:21 +0000 Carla 2235138@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Agree with Vildy. &nbsp;Great styling of your skirts, Sally! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker#post-2235136 Sat, 30 Oct 2021 17:36:37 +0000 approprio 2235136@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, i dunno. That black and rose skirt is crying out for a pair of stompy boots. Lots of them about right now too.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker#post-2235133 Sat, 30 Oct 2021 17:24:49 +0000 Vildy 2235133@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>famous (in my eyes) Marc Jacobs quote when asked how a woman should wear a skirt:</p> <p>"like a boy!" </p> <p>ETA:&nbsp; IOW,&nbsp; don't mince, swagger.&nbsp; I think you've got that down in your outfits.&nbsp; Totally consistent with tomboy.</p> <p></p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker#post-2235132 Sat, 30 Oct 2021 17:19:10 +0000 slim cat 2235132@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I loved wearing long skirts this summer - they work wonderfully for you ( lots of great outfits ). Maybe the summer brings softer side of your sporty-natural style in action. Or you need to add “pretty” to the “tomboy” - like “pretty tomboy with a softer side and natural style” . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker#post-2235084 Sat, 30 Oct 2021 14:10:01 +0000 cat2 2235084@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am glad we were your enablers, these look great. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-might-need-to-change-my-moniker#post-2235079 Sat, 30 Oct 2021 13:41:40 +0000 CarolS 2235079@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't know much about the monikers so can't advise there. I do think you look great. I especially like the black and white dress (both on its own and with the fabulous green cardigan). I think it would also be great with the denim jacket.</p> <p>Thanks for sharing! </p>