https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Tue, 05 May 2026 16:27:04 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190626 Tue, 27 Jul 2010 12:56:03 +0000 Queen Mum 190626@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Katie- I have done that. In fact my husband still reminds me that he returned from war (literally) to find his favorite shirt missing. It was a white plaid shirt that he had washed with something red and so it had a pinkish tinge to it and I couldn't manage to convince him of this fact. I also sold his car while he was gone.. another story.</p> <p>Julie- Yes, I think it's the armholes that bother him the most as he always wants to gravitate toward shirts that are too big in the shoulders. I'll have to look at some CK shirts. Thanks for the suggestion. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190574 Tue, 27 Jul 2010 06:38:24 +0000 londonkiwi (now back in NZ) 190574@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That's funny about Ben! How about some more dressier fashion sneakers in leather as a step towards a shoe?</p> <p>Steve probably has more clothes than me and is actually very picky now about what he likes and doesn't like. He is still resistant to trying new things, but then he surprises me and likes the look of a tweed printed Mac. </p> <p>What he isn't very good with is colours, he has blondey brown hair, green eyes and a yellowish complexion, but thinks that mustard yellow and khaki would be perfect colours for him. He also refuses to believe me that a bright blue can be worn with dark blue jeans because they are both blue.</p> <p>Other than those two big complants he has actually picked up a rather Euro attitude to clothing and looking after himself. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190566 Tue, 27 Jul 2010 05:55:26 +0000 RoseandJoan 190566@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't have this problem with Ben, he likes a slim fit retro polo shirt, straight leg jeans and a v necked cardigans but I would love to break his fashion sneaker habit. Seriously he wears them all of the time but will reluctantly change to shoes if there is a place of worship involved.</p> <p>My Dad on the other hand love his shirts, he wears them slim fitted but has to have a comfortable fit around the arm hole. Could this be the area which bother your hubby? My Dad finds CK shirts are cut perfectly for his arms. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190538 Tue, 27 Jul 2010 04:45:36 +0000 Jenava 190538@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Katiepea, you are very bold... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190507 Tue, 27 Jul 2010 04:17:03 +0000 Katiepea 190507@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh goodness, I feel your pain!</p> <p>In some ways luckily for me, my husband has a dreadful memory in regard to what items of clothing he has in his wardrobe. As a result, I have (through necessity) become a 'closet' vigilante. In five years of my purging his wardrobe, he has noticed precisely two items of clothing have gone missing (and I have reluctantly returned them - I hide them in a bag for a couple of weeks before they go to the op-shop in case he really misses/needs them).</p> <p>I did warn him that I'd be doing this before I started all those years ago as he openly acknowledges he is a hoarder who has a hard time realising when it is time to let clothes "go". It may be different approach, but it certainly works! </p> <p>Luckily, I can say that he cares about his appearance and actually wants my approval for all potential clothing items purchased. This is very sweet, but currently means dragging three small boys into a clothing store and trying to keep them in control while he takes eons in the fitting room and comes out with each and every item for a pro-con discussion. It makes for a less than relaxing time! Hmmmmm, maybe now that they are starting to get a little older, this year's shopping stress will be a little less frustrating. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190383 Tue, 27 Jul 2010 00:21:45 +0000 Sparky 190383@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, don't get me started. He *knows* how much some things cost but he doesn't like it. Take hair, for example. He used to go to a barber that gave him the most dreadful cuts, but it was only $10 so he thought it was worth it. After one especially atrocious cut even he had to acknowledge that cheap can sometimes be . . . cheap. He went to my hairdresser for a while after that. </p> <p>Queenie, usually I say, "Sure dear, no more than five bucks. Absolutely. Just like back in the olden days of the covered wagon." </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190378 Mon, 26 Jul 2010 23:55:54 +0000 Queen Mum 190378@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sparky.. that is a hoot! "Oh, no dear, I would NEVER pay more than $5 for a shirt ;-)" I don't know where they think all their money goes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190377 Mon, 26 Jul 2010 23:45:29 +0000 Sparky 190377@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, this thread has me doubled up laughing. My DH used to make an effort dressing when we were first dating, and looked pretty sharp back then. Styles have changed since the early nineties but you'd never know it looking at him. I bought him a few new shirts from Lands' End recently ~ nothing special, just updated tops to replace some worn out ones ~ and he wanted to know if I'd paid more than $5 for each. And also said he didn't need them as his current ones were nicely broken in. OK sweetie, I still love you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190374 Mon, 26 Jul 2010 23:35:20 +0000 bj1111 190374@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>haha! great job on baby steps!</p> <p>our airline lost our luggage on our way to spain. that was the only way i got my husband to shop with me and try out a european (ie slimmer) style that he now really likes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190372 Mon, 26 Jul 2010 23:26:04 +0000 Anonymous 190372@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sounds like it worked Kim. He probably was comfortable all day and now realizes that it's not so bad to look styl;ish.<br /> Good job Kim! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190371 Mon, 26 Jul 2010 23:19:06 +0000 Queen Mum 190371@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I *get* that men are not wired the same way as us and fashion isn't as important and all that....and for the most part I don't offer my advice unless asked, but really. Sometimes I just have to scratch my head.</p> <p>Debbie and Fi- hilarious! </p> <p>Kristen, perhaps your DH could write up a blog post that we could share with our DH's </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190347 Mon, 26 Jul 2010 21:58:31 +0000 Beth 190347@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lord have mercy, do I know what you're talking about.</p> <p>It was a huge victory to get my DH into flat front khakis. I'm still working on getting him to wear a jacket without a tie. It's an exhausting job.</p> <p>He's tall and slender and he could wear anything he wanted, but nooooo, we must dress the same way at 39 that I'm sure he'll be dressing at 80. Sigh. I do love him, though. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190344 Mon, 26 Jul 2010 21:46:57 +0000 Debbie 190344@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Kim I feel your pain. My husband was looking at an invitation we received and says oh casual that means shorts right. No not hardly. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190277 Mon, 26 Jul 2010 18:17:56 +0000 Kristen 190277@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My DH kept wearing clothes that were ill-fitting until he lost weight. Now he is a regular at Express, and is a master at the vest-tie-collared shirt look. He looks better than I do most days! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190276 Mon, 26 Jul 2010 18:16:38 +0000 londonkiwi (now back in NZ) 190276@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The only thing that convinced DH that a fitted shirt was the way to go was the very good looking sales assistant agreeing with me... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190268 Mon, 26 Jul 2010 17:58:52 +0000 Scarlet 190268@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am often thinking, like now, I really appreciate your sense of humor, Queenie. I feel your pain, though. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190267 Mon, 26 Jul 2010 17:52:54 +0000 Carole 190267@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This sounds familiar! My husband took the day off work on my birthday so we could do anything I wanted, what did I want? To take him shopping! It was the only way to get him in the store to try stuff on, he has been needing new jeans to replace his "old man" jeans for ages! We actually got a great fitting pair at Banana Republic, also a great pair of gray chinos the sales clerk insisted he try on, and a pair of loafers! Yeah! Next up, shirts! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190259 Mon, 26 Jul 2010 17:28:14 +0000 Angie 190259@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Kim, you deserve a medal. Bless hubby for listening to you anyway. DH should know that the queen rules the show. He is but a mere castle courtier!</p> <p>A bit of habit breaking practice, some time, and win the wars if that means loosing the battles :0) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190249 Mon, 26 Jul 2010 16:59:50 +0000 Queen Mum 190249@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>ooh, I already have plans this fall to sneak my dh into a nice pair of fitted jeans. wish me luck girls </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190246 Mon, 26 Jul 2010 16:56:41 +0000 Jenava 190246@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>LOL...this reminds me of a recent episode that my DH and I had at the nordstrom anniversary sale. I made him try on a fitted (not even skinny) pair of Rock and Republic jeans. My husand has a great man-figure (hopefully our kids get is genes in that dept) and could pull off the most fashion forward looks. We bought the jeans, but took them back. I kept asking if they were too tight and he admited they didn't constrict...He said he was uncomfortable showing off his butt! LOL...I guess girls aren't the only ones with body issues... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190245 Mon, 26 Jul 2010 16:50:52 +0000 Queen Mum 190245@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sveta- I"ve actually considered secretly having some of his shirts altered. But decided to just be more firm when we're out shopping... thus the "too tight" shirt of yesterday. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190244 Mon, 26 Jul 2010 16:49:20 +0000 Queen Mum 190244@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>so, is it really that uncomfortable to have fabric actually touching your torso? He acts like I've put him in a straight jacket sometimes. Good grief! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190242 Mon, 26 Jul 2010 16:46:14 +0000 AJ 190242@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Kim, I know my hubby will give me the comfort excuse as well if I try to buy him more fitted clothes. At least he does like wearing button downs with dress pants. </p> <p>Marianna - Good job "training" your finance! : ) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190237 Mon, 26 Jul 2010 16:36:21 +0000 marianna 190237@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Haha... my fiance listens to me and has started to dress much better. I don't let him out of the house if I don't like his outfit. I've told him many times that I take pride in my appearance and I want my partner to be well dressed too. Seeing him in a great outfit brings me happiness, so he puts effort into his appearance for me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190235 Mon, 26 Jul 2010 16:31:45 +0000 Sveta 190235@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I know the pain Kim. I have struggled with my DH too. This "comfortable" factor!!!<br /> His shirts usually fit in the shoulders but too loose in the body as he is broad shouldered but very lean.<br /> You know what did I do in the end? Took ALL his shirts to my mom and she tailored them. Now he just does not have any choice! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190234 Mon, 26 Jul 2010 16:31:05 +0000 Lisa 190234@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I always tell my hubby, you can tell the married men from the unmarried men. I praise until I am blue in the face when he wears something I suggested. I can't get him out of Polo shirts, but have started getting him into pastels at least. Otherwise it's navy, black or gray. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190231 Mon, 26 Jul 2010 16:29:32 +0000 Louise 190231@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Aw bless these men. BF went out on Saturday looking like he was wearing a tent!!!! Linen drawstring trousers and a shirt 2 sizes too big I got pretty much the same response!. He's big anyway and I can't get through to him that wearing big loose clothes makes him look even bigger!!!! x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-give-up-on-my-dh#post-190229 Mon, 26 Jul 2010 16:26:54 +0000 Queen Mum 190229@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>yesterday's conversation:</p> <p>me: "Wear that new shirt we got for you at Macy's"<br /> DH: puts in on, tugs, wriggles and adjusts.... "It's too tight"<br /> me: "It's not tight, it's fitted.. and looks great"<br /> DH: grumble, grumble, complain, complain...<br /> me: "Honey, I want you to notice other men and notice which ones look old and which ones look stylish"<br /> DH: "I don't care what I look like, I want to be comfortable"<br /> me: "Then wear sweats!" (which he would never do in public)</p> <p>I know, baby steps, baby steps... but for crying out loud, it was a great looking Alfani cotton knit button up shirt with plenty of stretch. There is no way on the planet it could have felt tight on him. I just don't get it.</p> <p>And he did end up wearing it and looked fabulous! But it's like pulling teeth to get him to wear a shirt that actually fits in the shoulders. </p>