https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-broke-my-no-buy Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Tue, 21 Apr 2026 07:33:45 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-broke-my-no-buy#post-1977231 Mon, 26 Nov 2018 14:55:58 +0000 Angie 1977231@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>NICE, <b>Cindy.</b> I'm thrilled you have happy work-feet, and hope the one styles work out too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-broke-my-no-buy#post-1977226 Mon, 26 Nov 2018 13:40:18 +0000 RobinF 1977226@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This seems like a worthwhile reason to pause your shopping ban. I hadn't seen your toe issue but painful feet are no fun at all. I agree it is easier to know the shoes you are getting rid of are going to someone who will use and like them.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-broke-my-no-buy#post-1977210 Mon, 26 Nov 2018 11:56:55 +0000 Jessikams 1977210@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sequins yayyyyyyy </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-broke-my-no-buy#post-1977205 Mon, 26 Nov 2018 10:01:34 +0000 Lucy 1977205@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I genuinely think of this as a "health crisis" rather than a fashion splurge. I would not feel guilty for a second. If you can't be comfortable, nothing else is worth it. You deserve to be without pain. &nbsp;I'd enjoy the new shoes and not penalise yourself in any way!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-broke-my-no-buy#post-1977142 Mon, 26 Nov 2018 00:25:00 +0000 LaPed 1977142@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your new work shoes look great, and I LOVE the Christmas boots from DH.</p> <p>I've been in this situation before, having not a single pair of shoes that fit comfortably (hello, pregnancy swelling coupled with backpacking swelling). Totally a legit reason to go shopping IMO. A&nbsp;no-buy shouldn't be about making yourself suffer. There is more than enough suffering in the world already. When something is a need, you just have to deal with it, and I would file these under "health" and not under "fashion" in the budget. High five from another member of Team Produce! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-broke-my-no-buy#post-1977139 Sun, 25 Nov 2018 22:33:55 +0000 cindysmith 1977139@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, Katerina, ordered them in that color, they should look killer with dark wash blue jeans </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-broke-my-no-buy#post-1977134 Sun, 25 Nov 2018 21:50:37 +0000 Katerina 1977134@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great new shoes, look like fabulous choices all of them. I especially love the western style mules - utterly cool and gorgeous. Have you ordered them in this lovely colour too? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-broke-my-no-buy#post-1977091 Sun, 25 Nov 2018 14:49:37 +0000 cindysmith 1977091@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, no worries. It's a permanent issue. The 3 middle toes on the right foot got broken back in the early 90s and they are a bit crooked now. The pinky toe gets smooshed up against the adjacent toe if the shoes are tight. I discovered this a few months ago when my pinky toe started hurting; an inspection revealed a very deep blister on the pinky toe and a fairly significant one on the adjacent toe. The forum wisdom had me staring at my toes for days trying to figure out what deformity/abnormality was causing it, and that's when I realized the toes are crooked. Its subtle, and is more noticeable when I actually put weight on the foot. It could probably be fixed but I don't have insurance. Thank heaven wide shoes solve the problem, now the trick is finding wide shoes that I like the look of LOL.<br /> After a full day of no foot pain yesterday, I tried on all of my shoes and boots last night. I was able to tell INSTANTLY whether they were going to work for me or not. Thank heaven there weren't as many casualties as I had feared. It was pretty heinous, but it wasn't totally devastating. I talked with my 12-step sponsor about asking around to see if anybody wanted some expensive shoes sizes 7.5-8, and she was all "yeah, I'll ask around" non-commitally. When I explained to her that when I said expensive, I meant *expensive* and listed some of the brands... well, she had a little heart attack and put on her thinking cap and found a home for the shoes and boots that I am getting rid of: her baby sister was a SAHM and just got a job outside the home and she wears the same size as me so my sponsor is meeting me at a lunchtime meeting Thursday to get the shoes to take to her baby sister. Knowing that they're going to someone who needs work appropriate shoes makes it so much less painful to let them go. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-broke-my-no-buy#post-1977079 Sun, 25 Nov 2018 13:42:14 +0000 Anonymous 1977079@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Fun new shoes, and no judgement here from the lady who just bought a bunch of unneeded but happy little magpie statement socks! Yours are a need, so no problem. Besides i think shoes get a pass even without foot pain since they wear out the quickest. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-broke-my-no-buy#post-1977053 Sun, 25 Nov 2018 08:18:05 +0000 Janet 1977053@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The new shoe choices look terrific, and I can’t even begin to tell you how much of a pass you get on an arbitrary “no shopping” month when you have a legit emergency like foot pain that leaves you limping. But I am so sad you are having to let go of so many pairs of shoes/boots. Go easy and take your time evaluating. I may have missed the earlier explanation of the foot issues — is this something you expect is permanent or possibly temporary? Have you seen a podiatrist? Sorry if I’m asking for info you may have already shared. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-broke-my-no-buy#post-1977050 Sun, 25 Nov 2018 08:08:23 +0000 Daisy Avalin 1977050@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Love love love the boots DH/Santa is getting you, they're gorgeous!</p> <p>And I have to agree, comfy well-fitting shoes for work are always a necessity, and therefore exempt from no-buy situations! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-broke-my-no-buy#post-1977014 Sun, 25 Nov 2018 00:35:03 +0000 Sal 1977014@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Shopping bans are to stop casual or frivolous shopping.&nbsp; Not essential purchases that keep you living a healthy functioning life.</p> <p>I think it is hard when you say you will do something and then can't quite achieve it - but life gets in the way.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-broke-my-no-buy#post-1977010 Sun, 25 Nov 2018 00:03:00 +0000 Canada 1977010@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>"I'm in produce" creates such a happy image....work dedicated to keeping the fruits happy and the veggies content so all dance together in a continuous joyful whirl of color! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-broke-my-no-buy#post-1977009 Sat, 24 Nov 2018 23:56:38 +0000 cindysmith 1977009@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Barbara Diane, the no-buy was just to stop the madness. When I lost my job at the produce stand, I bought interview appropriate clothes suitable for a job in fashion retail. Then I got hired at Old Navy, so I added a few more pieces that fit with the vibe I saw on the managers that interviewed me. Then I got offered more money to work at a grocery store much closer to my house that I had to take (because more money is a good thing, and I'm in produce which is a happy place for me even if it isn't clothes), and there are "uniform" rules about what I can wear so more shopping occurred. It was starting to nauseate me, all that buying; so I instituted a no-buy. And yes, I have a few pairs that are worth consigning if I feel like making the drive down to Dallas to do it at some of the good shops down there.</p> <p>Thank you, all of you, for the support. Once again, you guys have come to my rescue when I was feeling down. You are all correct, that this was the kind of thing that merits exception from arbitrary rules I've set for myself. I'm always encouraging others to practice self-care, and you guys have reminded me that it applies to me too. So I now feel OK with the orders (foot health is important if I like doing stuff like walking), but I'm still resetting the clock on the no-buy. Making it more challenging for myself will make the tattoos and any splurge purchases that I reward myself with feel that much sweeter Hugs and kisses to each of you for reminding me that I'm worth taking care of XOXOXOXO </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-broke-my-no-buy#post-1977000 Sat, 24 Nov 2018 23:30:04 +0000 Canada 1977000@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Definitely the best decision and I, too, encourage you to classify painless shoes as a basic expense, not frivolity. Shoes that fit and don't impair your stride are the same category as underwear and toothpaste..ya gotta have them. You are wise to give your feet extra attention. Permission granted! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-broke-my-no-buy#post-1976986 Sat, 24 Nov 2018 20:55:51 +0000 Chris987 1976986@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What Angie said...a fashion emergency is no joke. And, when it involves painful feet it could quickly become a medical emergency if you don't get some shoes that work. Limping was your big clue and good for you paying attention to it. This is a totally separate situation from closet no-buy phase. It's too bad you have to give up all those shoes you listed...give yourself a moment to say goodbye and then send them off to a good place where they will end up in a new home.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-broke-my-no-buy#post-1976970 Sat, 24 Nov 2018 20:07:36 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 1976970@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This sounds a whole lot more sensible than keeping an arbitrary decision made for the heck of it. You can think of it as a way of preventing future expenses if you had continued wearing shoes that were unhealthy for you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-broke-my-no-buy#post-1976962 Sat, 24 Nov 2018 17:14:17 +0000 Katerina 1976962@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Of course you should have comfartable shoes now, Cindy. A wise decision and not breaking the rules, actually. I hope you will be happy with your new shoes and your foot will be better soon.<br /> Look forward to seeing your new shoes when they arrive! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-broke-my-no-buy#post-1976944 Sat, 24 Nov 2018 16:02:38 +0000 Barbara Diane 1976944@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree about the need for those shoes and I hope they fit well. Not sure if your challenge is about discipline, cash, or making sure you don’t buy unnecessary items, but if cash is part of it are any of your shoes that don’t work in good enough condition to consign? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-broke-my-no-buy#post-1976942 Sat, 24 Nov 2018 15:53:29 +0000 JAileen 1976942@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh my goodness - do you have any shoes that are comfortable? Forget the no buy. You need shoes you can wear!</p> <p>I have my now healed broken toe. It causes fit issues because it wasn’t set properly. So if a shoe causes my feet pain, it’s outta here. No second chances for shoes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-broke-my-no-buy#post-1976931 Sat, 24 Nov 2018 15:21:28 +0000 Angie 1976931@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am just about the biggest supporter of happy feet. Good job getting shoes that go the distance, <b>Cindy</b>. A fashion emergency is no joke. Let’s see the new shoes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-broke-my-no-buy#post-1976920 Sat, 24 Nov 2018 14:18:55 +0000 Anonymous 1976920@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Another that thinks you need to be kind to yourself. &nbsp;Although I completely understand your goals and admire your fortitude, there times when the sensible thing to do is to buy items for overall good health. &nbsp;This obviously is one of those times. &nbsp;</p> <p>I love the idea of resetting the clock as soon as you get your foot pain under control. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-broke-my-no-buy#post-1976919 Sat, 24 Nov 2018 14:14:19 +0000 Jane 1976919@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am with Bijou. Be easy on yourself, it is all fine, you have made a very sensible decision. And besides there aren't that many days to go until the end of the month, and by the time they arrive it may be 2 or 3 days closer to the month end.&nbsp; </p> <p>May be the rule needs to be adjusted slightly to reflect that 'critical purchases allowed'.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-broke-my-no-buy#post-1976916 Sat, 24 Nov 2018 14:05:37 +0000 Bijou 1976916@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Cindy Smith - this is not breaking the 'no buy rule' you would have been in trouble with us if you had not bought shoes that will help deal with foot pain. The 'no buy' is really about discretionary items that you would like to have but do not need. You need shoes that don't hurt your feet. I hope your feet heal quickly. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-broke-my-no-buy#post-1976915 Sat, 24 Nov 2018 14:05:20 +0000 Helena 1976915@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm a huge fan of these type of challenges, but I think it's always more wise to be flexible when the situation calls for it ... Clearly this was a necessary purchase and not a splurge; if I was you, I'd just carry on with your no-buy without penalty. Sort of like a diet ... Sometimes you have to make the best choice available, which might not be the perfect one ... Don't let it throw you right off! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/i-broke-my-no-buy#post-1976911 Sat, 24 Nov 2018 13:34:03 +0000 cindysmith 1976911@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My foot issues have been particularly bad this week, and even shoes that made the grade when I first started having problems... haven't made the grade this week. I ordered 2 new pairs for wearing to work, which is legal under my terms of no-buy. But my off duty footwear was not good and I had to have something comfortable. It was bad, as in I was limping, and to not solve that problem was just stupid.</p> <p>I got DH to buy me a pair of ankle booties for Christmas, but I needed something to wear now. So I ordered 2 pairs of shoes to wear when I'm not at work. I'm not beating myself up too much, because it was just ridiculous to keep dealing with foot pain for 6 months just because I want a tattoo. I almost decided that I was going to get around the no-buy rules by wrapping them up in pretty paper, sticking them under the Christmas tree, and thanking Miss Mollie for new shoes on Christmas morning. but I realized that: A) that left me with a lot of shoes that hurt for the next month and B) that was a major addict way to think/rationaliza/justify some major horse puckey</p> <p>When they get here, there will be some heartbreaking decisions happening in my closet. I've already made a few, and put these in the donate bag:<br /> Dolce Vita OTK boots<br /> Stuart Weitzman kitten heel pumps<br /> Steve Madden point-toe ankle booties<br /> Coach pumps<br /> The white sneakers I bought when I started having this issue</p> <p>Potentially on the chopping block soon:<br /> Harness boots<br /> Coolway ankle boots<br /> Aquatalia sandals<br /> Edmundo Castillo stiletto ankle boots<br /> Unisa OTK boots<br /> Nine West OTK boots<br /> Chinese Laundry sandals<br /> Dolce Vita knee high boots<br /> Nine West flats<br /> Frye sneakers<br /> aerosoles sneakers<br /> Tactical boots<br /> Stuart Weitzman sandals<br /> Sak slouch boots<br /> Calvin Klein sneakers<br /> (Essentially, most of my remaining shoe collection)</p> <p>Most of what is potentially on the chopping block next? Is flat or low heels, so they will go into a holding zone to be tried again when my toes quit hurting.</p> <p>Part of me is thinking to myself: "well, you've broken the no-buy, might as well go all-in". But really, I can't think of anything I "need" or even really want right now; so I'm resetting the clock and starting my no-buy clock again. 6 months from today, if I haven't bought anything else? I get a tattoo.</p> <p>Update: I broke down and bought one more pair because it's super-cyber-friday-weekend with shop-til-your-couch-breaks sales + stackable coupon codes with free shipping.<br /> Because obviously, you guys are right, and I need shoes that don't hurt my feet. Today, wandering around in some wide width shoes I bought back when the troubles began, I have had exactly zero foot pain. I am too old :-), and have survived too freaking much, and work too hard at my job, to be limping around with smooshed toes in tight shoes. Between zulily &amp; cyber-friday-weekend sale + stackable coupon codes with free shipping, DH and I just revamped my shoe wardrobe for a song, which is a lucky thing heading into his slow season at work.</p> <p>* Pics 1 &amp; 2: the shoes I ordered for work. Earth Origins lug sole ankle boots, and Taryn Rose Zanna hi-top sneakers. I've had good luck with Taryn Rose (they seem to run a bit wide), and they are soooooooo comfortable, so it was worth a try since Zulily had them for about half the average of any other store.</p> <p>* Pic 3: the ankle boots DH/Santa are bringing me for Christmas. </p> <p>Pic 4: sequin flats (wide fit) I ordered from ASOS. Because wide shoes don't have to look like boats, they can look like a sequin factory threw up on them LOL. All jokes aside, they're pretty and sparkly and should go with most anything.</p> <p>*pic 5: a pair of miles ordered because they have a western feel, and western is hot right now, and western has that edge I like. Also a super-duper-cyber-friday-sale-deal+stackable coupon code with free shipping</p> <p>* pic 6: the boots I just ordered. I ordered the black, but they don't show any other views in the black so I included the brown view from the top. </p>