https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 04 Apr 2026 04:40:14 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift/page/2#post-1277254 Fri, 13 Jun 2014 13:45:36 +0000 texstyle 1277254@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>:-)</p> <p></p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift/page/2#post-1277115 Fri, 13 Jun 2014 07:10:56 +0000 froggiebecky 1277115@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That's great to hear, Kelly! I, too, think$1000 is *completely* out of line for a HS graduation gift, even from family.&nbsp;</p> <p>When I graduated HS, I remember getting lots of "stuff" --practical things, from friends/friends parents. Usually in the $20-$50 range. Some of that stuff I still use, 15 years later! The things that made it for me were a travel jewellery case, an alarm clock (in storage in the US, but I used it 'til I left), and a laundry bag. I remember getting a small fan to use in the dorm room, soap/bath sets (in a carrier), and gift certs for bath/home stores (for sheets, etc). My parents told me they'd buy me luggage for my gift, but bought my first semester's books instead. &nbsp;</p> <p>It sounds like this grad (or their parents) need some schooling in grace!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift/page/2#post-1276831 Thu, 12 Jun 2014 23:59:55 +0000 kellygirl 1276831@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oops, went on vacation with limited internet. (Actually, I was trying to conserve data since DDs tend to use their phones more than me.) Thanks again for all of your wise responses. I definitely feel like the amount is sufficient now and that the others are out of line. I had my doubts at first--thinking the rules could be different for family. This is "just" high school after all. It's not a wedding! DH and I discussed it while we were on vacation&nbsp;and decided just to leave things as they are--especially since we already spent the balance having fun! LOL! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift/page/2#post-1276358 Thu, 12 Jun 2014 14:45:32 +0000 texstyle 1276358@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Now I'm curious what you did kellygirl... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift/page/2#post-1276066 Thu, 12 Jun 2014 03:14:23 +0000 Jules 1276066@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You're not sending more money are you?!? This is ridiculous!<br /> Now what do you do about future wedding invites and so on? I'm pretty passive aggressive about these things and rarely confront, but I'd be tempted to call the mother and explain all the ways her expectations are out of whack. How wealthy are they that they don't realize orders of magnitude? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift/page/2#post-1275974 Thu, 12 Jun 2014 02:11:28 +0000 Aida 1275974@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ok well I was going to say that your gift should be appreciated regardless and that I wouldn't add to it. But after&nbsp;reading that she "expects" a $1-2K gift, I'm even more inclined to say that your gift, which you are giving freely, is <i>definitely </i>more than enough. Nothing further.&nbsp;It might be curmudgeonly of me, but that's all I would do :p </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift/page/2#post-1275505 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 16:43:30 +0000 pil 1275505@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Agreed that you have already gone above and beyond with $100. I was shocked to read theynwere expecting $1000! Maybe she'll send you an invoice for the balance. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift/page/2#post-1273824 Mon, 09 Jun 2014 20:30:54 +0000 Louise 1273824@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh my goodness me how rude for there to be an expectation for the amount! $100 is more than generous x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift#post-1273517 Mon, 09 Jun 2014 12:53:13 +0000 Laurinda 1273517@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, $1000 ???&nbsp;<br />We usually give $25-$50 for nieces &amp; nephews&nbsp;HS or college graduations, $50 to $100 for a wedding, depending on the recipients' financial&nbsp;state. Those that save more get more. </p> <p>ETA: I do remember the car full of 4 older relatives that came to my college graduation party and all signed one card with a $5 bill inside. I was more amused than upset; it brings a smile to my face to remember it 30 years later.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift#post-1273508 Mon, 09 Jun 2014 12:39:04 +0000 Lucy 1273508@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Woah! This doesn't seem to be a tradition in Australia, I've never heard of it for University, let alone high school! I'm pretty sure when I graduated from my PhD,&nbsp;<i></i>I got a couple of bottles of wine, and my parents bought my academic robes! No cash at all.&nbsp;</p> <p>But either way, I think $1000 is too much for a gift for ANYTHING! The only thing I can imagine is if my son bought a house, I might give a generous donation! Though as he is only nine, I have a while to think about that! I don't think you should have to get a job to subsidise others!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift#post-1272561 Sun, 08 Jun 2014 03:01:43 +0000 Isis 1272561@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Count me in the camp of those have never heard of $1000 gifts for high school graduation before; wow!&nbsp; I gave $100 to my nieces and nephews. &nbsp; Later learned that one of my other brothers gave $200, (only when my own kids graduated), but I don't really think anyone commented on the difference.&nbsp; A gift is a gift, without price tag.&nbsp; </p> <p>I also gave $100 for a niece for college, and I fee fine about that amount.&nbsp;&nbsp; All of my siblings have kids in college; we are all in similar financial straits!</p> <p>Not sure what I would do in your circumstance with different family expectations..but I would not "make it up" to the next sibling as it is not fair to the first sibling....I'd probably give the same amount to all, even if they thought it was puny...arghh. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift#post-1272393 Sat, 07 Jun 2014 21:41:54 +0000 Kari 1272393@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good grief! When I graduated from college I was beyond grateful for gifts of $50-100 and was kind of floored at the gift in the first place. EXPECTING $1000 seems so strange (and, in my opinion, selfish.) I get turned off by the entitlement mentality towards receiving gifts, period, let alone of a certain value. You sound like a very generous aunt, and I think you should just let it be with what you chose to give. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift#post-1272246 Sat, 07 Jun 2014 17:21:35 +0000 Echo 1272246@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>$100 is more than generous, IMO. My family/social circle has always felt that graduating high school was a given, expected. A gift is nice, yes, but it is just that: A GIFT, and something to be grateful for.&nbsp;I didn't even get a party until I graduated University! If you start trying to compete with monetary gifts like that, what will inflation bring for the next child? I cannot afford to pretend I am something I am not when it comes to gifting cash. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift#post-1272071 Sat, 07 Jun 2014 12:47:57 +0000 texstyle 1272071@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>kellygirl - wow, I didn't know the amount before and now that I do, and the circumstances, I think I'd just stick with feeling that you gave a very satisfactory gift for niece/nephew graduating and move on with it.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift#post-1271997 Sat, 07 Jun 2014 05:56:54 +0000 jennifer 1271997@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Let's put it in perspective. Niece is getting ( has) $100 already. There are other kids coming along down the line too . Are you going to be able to give The Same Amount to Each and Every One that is a High School graduate? What about years that have HS AND College graduations?!?!?<br /> I got a cedar hope chest ( quite useful for sweater off season storage) from my parents . Family members = nada . Local friends of the family gave a cheapo Walmart set of serged edge country flowered roses on mint green placemats and napkins. ( Blech!) (It's the thought that counts...It's the thought that counts....It's the thought that counts. Never mind .Still Blech!)<br /> And either mom or the friends thought that Dr Seuss's " Oh the Places You'll Go" was cute and appropriate.( not a winning gift. And Do Not Recommend. Memorable ,yes. Kept it only because of the inscription,must have been mom.Barely read it once-ish).<br /> I'd say that IF you and hubby do more for the ingrates,that it be a gift item of your choice . Preferably something that can also be done similarly for other nieces and nephews down the line. Ideas might be a nice but not too extravagant watch( works for both genders ) a purse for girls, luggage( another both genders appropriate ) a set of navy towels for going to dorm( wash with jeans to even the load out and not leave weird lint or crazy color towels) toiletry bag for dorm life . Cleaning supplies for their dorm room. Leather Passport cover and stationary/ stamps if they are " taking the year off" .<br /> Come to think of it thank you cards and stamps would be So useful for after graduation. You'd be saving them the money that they must " desperately" need for college frat parties and new clothes for every evening out.( I tend to see a LOT of college girls shopping Tons. Every weekend. And they need it for Tonight! For This Weekend ! In my sorority or school colors ( that haven't and won't change for generations) , and they Can't ( gasp) Order! It!<br /> Oh my.<br /> Because the free shipping takes 4-8 days( usually3-4). And then I see them Next weekend with the Same sartorial problem.<br /> Makes my eyes hurt from rolling them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift#post-1271985 Sat, 07 Jun 2014 05:05:44 +0000 bella 1271985@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>1k? Thinking of all the money I could have made having completed high school, college, two masters and a PhD!!!!:))) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift#post-1271882 Sat, 07 Jun 2014 02:24:37 +0000 kellygirl 1271882@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>@Mo: That's pretty much verbatim--what came out or my mouth. I was at a loss for words--which doesn't happen very often. Not sure that a gift would have been any more appreciated honestly.<br /> @A: I'm in your camp. A gift is a gift and is not expected. I know I'm always pleasantly surprised when relatives are thoughtful enough to send a card or a text! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift#post-1271846 Sat, 07 Jun 2014 01:44:16 +0000 Anonymous 1271846@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My DD is graduating hs in 3 weeks amd we are not expecting a red cent from anyone..and I would be mortified if she is. She is the oldest on both sides of cousins/ neice/ nephews so I can't speak for experience.</p> <p>I do have step- neice graduating next year and her brother amd 2 nephews 2 year after....I honestly haven't thought of sending them something.</p> <p>Dd went on a big trip when she turned 16, my brother sent her $$ for that amd I was thinking of sending his boys the same.</p> <p>I bought her a Michael Kors purse (on huge discount) and a charm but I am. Gob smacked at $1000 dollars ...no words </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift#post-1271824 Sat, 07 Jun 2014 01:24:52 +0000 Mo 1271824@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My first gut reaction is WTF? &nbsp;Seriously. &nbsp;And if they are well off, then it really makes no sense why they would expect other, extended family, to pony up such a large sum. &nbsp;I've never had that much cash in my life. &nbsp;I'm middle aged. &nbsp;<br />I got a black coral necklace from Belize from my dad when I graduated. &nbsp;It wasn't really my style, but I appreciated the thought behind it. &nbsp;I still have the necklace, though I lost my father 17 years ago now. &nbsp;Cash disappears. &nbsp;Tangible gifts don't. &nbsp;I can guarantee I would have long forgot how much cash, had my dad gifted me in that manner. &nbsp;I do not forget the necklace. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift#post-1271779 Sat, 07 Jun 2014 00:57:26 +0000 kellygirl 1271779@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>@Gaylene: thanks for chiming in. It sounds exorbitant to me too. I'm not sure what we are going to do yet. I guess I could bring a checkbook to the next major event and ask her in person what she thinks is fair. Lol!<br /> @lyn: lol! I guess high school is much tougher these days!<br /> @elle: yes, some families are challenging. I appreciate your thoughtful response. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift#post-1271759 Sat, 07 Jun 2014 00:27:14 +0000 Elle 1271759@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think your gift was a perfect amount and wouldn't send more.&nbsp; A gift is your choice not theirs. It's a good idea to be consistent&nbsp; in the future if you have other nieces and nephews but that's another story.&nbsp; Families can be challenging.... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift#post-1271750 Sat, 07 Jun 2014 00:22:30 +0000 lyn* 1271750@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>1 to 2k is definitely not what I expected (nor received) from my relatives or my parents. I think the largest cash gift I received was from a wealthy aunt who gave me $100. I thought this was wonderful and very generous of her. The other gifts I received were in the $20-50 range, which I thought was remarkable already.</p> <p><i>I'm sorry, but $1000? For graduating high school? That's nuts.</i> </p> <p>My godfather gave me a plane ticket to come visit him (about $1200) for graduating&nbsp;<i>medical school</i> - and that was by far the most generous gift that I had received for a graduation. Most of my relatives didn't give me a call, and just said congratulations next time they saw me at a family event.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift#post-1271669 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 23:00:27 +0000 Gaylene 1271669@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sounds more like extortion than a gift. Maybe if you were very wealthy and said niece or nephew was having to work his/her way through college to pay for it, 1-2K might be a nice gesture, but that doesn't sound like the situation here. I have some seriously well-off friends who would be appalled at someone gifting their high school grad that sum so I doubt that income level comes into the picture. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift#post-1271648 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 22:20:18 +0000 kellygirl 1271648@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>@rabbit: Lol. Me either. I've never received that kind of cash gift. period.<br />@Glory: Thanks for the affirmation.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift#post-1271535 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 20:23:34 +0000 Glory 1271535@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>wow that is quite a bit! I think yours quite respectable! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift#post-1271533 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 20:22:19 +0000 rabbit 1271533@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Um, yeah, I didn't even get that amount from my parents for my wedding.... (although I did get a much appreciated hand me down car, I don't think it was worth that much though.) &nbsp; </p> <p>Different families have different traditions, but I haven't known anyone who gives more than token cash for graduations (i.e. 100$ max), for any of them. &nbsp;I don't think I got any graduation gifts besides a nice dinner out&nbsp;and I was #2 in my class. &nbsp;I think for a family where different members have different levels of wealth, I'd hope for&nbsp;the parents&nbsp;to be understanding and sensitive to that.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift#post-1271529 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 20:19:02 +0000 kellygirl 1271529@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>@Stacey: thanks! That make me feel better.<br /> @Jaileen: lol! No, no mafia affiliations but they definitely have a different set of standards than what I'm used to! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift#post-1271526 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 20:13:07 +0000 kellygirl 1271526@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>@Viva: thanks! You hit on a couple of my annoyances--the grapevine and the expectation. I also think I would feel differently if there was a financial need. Makes me worry what we are going to have to pony up for college graduation. I'm going to have to get a part time job! Lol! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift#post-1271525 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 20:12:44 +0000 JAileen 1271525@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You're not in the Mafia are you? That sounds a little like the scene from The Godfather! Wait, that was a wedding.</p> <p>I've given nieces and nephews $100 for graduation. I gave $25 itunes gift cards to my son's friends. They all appreciated it, so they told me. If your relatives don't like the money you gave them, let them know they can give it back! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hs-graduation-gift#post-1271510 Fri, 06 Jun 2014 19:57:12 +0000 Anonymous 1271510@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good gravy, I would consider $100 cash to be an incredibly generous gift from an aunt or uncle! </p>