https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Tue, 21 Apr 2026 03:55:07 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around/page/2#post-1920641 Sat, 19 May 2018 11:25:33 +0000 Bijou 1920641@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Krish, you deserve to be The One, you are a beautiful spirit, kind, generous, fun and intelligent. Sorry that you are hurting, but time will heal these wounds. So sorry that you have this to deal with. xxx </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around/page/2#post-1918081 Thu, 10 May 2018 13:35:53 +0000 Jules 1918081@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't have a lot of mature words of wisdom, just want you to know that you're a beautiful person, inside and out.&nbsp;<br /> When I am down it helps me to remember that I've felt that way before<br /> and I always feel better eventually - it may take time but the light is always just around the corner.</p> <p> <b></b>You came out of your last relationship stronger and happier and you will again.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around/page/2#post-1917930 Wed, 09 May 2018 21:34:07 +0000 MsMary 1917930@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Congratulations for pulling the plug on this! I have been where you are, and when finally got the courage to leave my mean-spirited, gaslighting husband, lo and behold I met my lovely, beautifully kind new husband who has never made me cry and has never said a cross word to me since we met. There are kind men out there and you deserve to be with someone who treats you kindly.</p> <p>The magic can't happen until you have the courage to leave. Come on over -- it's great here on the other side! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around/page/2#post-1917680 Wed, 09 May 2018 12:18:43 +0000 krishnidoux 1917680@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you so much you guys, your virtual love is actually helping me, more than I want to think, more than I suspect, because sometimes I go through sheer dispair and your kind words help my swim back to the surface and remember I'm pointed in the correct direction. (because it sure feels not like so!).</p> <p>Love to you all. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around/page/2#post-1917566 Wed, 09 May 2018 00:10:00 +0000 Gail 1917566@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs from me too , hang in &nbsp;there . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around/page/2#post-1917560 Tue, 08 May 2018 22:25:55 +0000 Aida 1917560@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>More hugs from me Krish! *hughug* </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around#post-1917395 Tue, 08 May 2018 12:37:51 +0000 lyn67 1917395@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sad, but you deserve much much better, glad you&nbsp; already made the (best!) decision for a fresh start. Much power and&nbsp; love! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around#post-1917394 Tue, 08 May 2018 12:29:54 +0000 RobinF 1917394@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry to hear you are having a difficult time! I can tell from your posts that you are a sweet, thoughtful person and we all deserve someone who treats us well. Much as he might love you, he is not treating you well. Enjoy your denim shopping - you have the right to spoil yourself a little! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around#post-1917181 Mon, 07 May 2018 19:42:09 +0000 Suz 1917181@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ah, <b>Krish</b>, that is so sad. I'm sorry you are going through such a difficult time. It sounds as if he has hurt you and is not respecting you now. You are beautiful and full of wit and vibrancy -- you do not deserve that!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around#post-1917129 Mon, 07 May 2018 17:19:35 +0000 krishnidoux 1917129@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Chouette,&nbsp;</b>Merci! These are such nice words, so encouraging.&nbsp;<br /><b><br />Angie,&nbsp;</b>thank you so much. I did exactly what you said, and my cousin and her husband sat with me through some tears. After that, my cousin took me to the absolute best denim store in Montreal and I will soon post a thread about it with pics (even more admirable is that my cousin has very little interest in fashion or shopping but she did it out of love). I am lucky to have them, and others. I don't know about strength, I find myself pretty weak right now, but I'm sure I'll better understand eventually.&nbsp;<b></p> <p>Sal, Jane, Sisi,&nbsp;</b>thank you for your virtual hugs!&nbsp;<b></p> <p>Barbara Diane</b>, your words resonate to me. It's through, and through right now is tough.But it's a good reminder, it helps me.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around#post-1917100 Mon, 07 May 2018 16:10:12 +0000 Barbara Diane 1917100@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry you are in so much pain after trying so hard to make it work. </p> <p>His behavior towards you is unacceptable. I’m glad you figured it out. Unfortunately the only way out is through. :(</p> <p>Hugs. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around#post-1917057 Mon, 07 May 2018 14:16:27 +0000 Sisi 1917057@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am sorry to hear this and I am sending hugs. It's nice that&nbsp;you to have such a good, caring friend! Take care. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around#post-1917000 Mon, 07 May 2018 08:58:58 +0000 Jane 1917000@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Beautiful Krish, I am thinking of you as you forge on ahead, I am sorry for the pain that you are feeling and hope that you find that it passes soon enough. Tough times. In the words of Sal virtual hugs from the UK.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around#post-1916918 Sun, 06 May 2018 21:43:14 +0000 Sal 1916918@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This sounds like a really tough time.&nbsp; Virtual hugs from NZ.</p> <p>I agree totally with Angie - and keep dancing and sharing any outfits.&nbsp; Fashion can be a good distraction:)</p> <p>Love Sally </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around#post-1916818 Sun, 06 May 2018 14:42:20 +0000 Angie 1916818@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, <b>Krish</b>. Sooooo hard. I'm sorry that things have ended this way. Sounds like you need a fresh start, although I get that feelings don't change over night. I hope that you can surround yourself with positive and supportive people who love and appreciate you. Soul search with them and be kind to yourself. Remember - we are always stronger than we think. Much love to you, and good luck. xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around#post-1916796 Sun, 06 May 2018 13:27:13 +0000 chouette22 1916796@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, I am so sorry you have to endure this difficult break-up. I think often we are hanging on to relationships that truly don't make us happy anymore because we are afraid to be alone or we think of the energy and effort it may take to start over with somebody else (if we don't want to remain alone). You are a strong woman full of vibrant energy (that comes across in your fashion) and you will get through this. Not today or tomorrow maybe, but the day after and things will look up again. This relationship is clearly bringing you down -- up and onward for you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around#post-1916779 Sun, 06 May 2018 12:01:06 +0000 krishnidoux 1916779@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your observationz are so correct, I need to be told those things.. l have my own short comings - trusting is very very hard for me, which will make me want to leave when something goes sour. However in this relationship we worked so hard and I was making some progress.<br /> Now it’s hard not to go back to this place of distrust.<br /> Another thing I do which is harmful is that I blame myself. It’s like, in my head this hurting is so senseless, at least if I could attribute it to me, I would have parcel of control over it, and somehow it would hurt a little less. But it’s wrong because no one person can “fix” a broken couple, it takes two. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around#post-1916729 Sun, 06 May 2018 06:30:56 +0000 rachylou 1916729@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yeah, you know, sometimes love means leaving a person. If they can’t handle... domesticity, the nurturing of others, etc... which are different things than love really... It’s a kindness to limit disaster... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around#post-1916722 Sun, 06 May 2018 05:22:49 +0000 Gigi 1916722@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry to hear of this painful breakup. I agree that you have done the right thing. If after four years he can't commit, then you must move on for your own sake.</p> <p>It is very sad how entrenched dysfunction is in families. You, as someone outside the family, can see how severe the issues are, but your boyfriend is blind because he is so used to the dysfunction. It is very painful to have to leave someone because they do not want to get help, but staying will not accomplish anything good if the person has proven resistant. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around#post-1916721 Sun, 06 May 2018 04:57:51 +0000 krishnidoux 1916721@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you elegant, (lol I typed elpgal and my phone autocorrected to elegant! Am leaving it). Yes, you are so right: love starts with respect and not the reverse. If not now then when? It took me a while to get there in my head because you always hope that it will happen but it doesn’t. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around#post-1916719 Sun, 06 May 2018 04:36:54 +0000 elpgal 1916719@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry to hear this but you are wise in your parsing of the situation and right to put yourself first. If not now, then when? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around#post-1916716 Sun, 06 May 2018 04:23:21 +0000 krishnidoux 1916716@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you so much for your kind support ! It really helps, and your caring feedback helps too. </p> <p>I am not perfect either and maybe I have failed to completely see this man I love. We both failed. </p> <p>I try to see this as included in the love adventure we are having. The end is also part of the process. Really, if I love him, at this point, I must walk away to give him space and time to repair and be truly ready for love. With me, or with someone else. :’( </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around#post-1916715 Sun, 06 May 2018 04:19:40 +0000 Janet 1916715@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m sorry this is happening, but you are doing the right thing by moving on. You are not being treated in a respectful way. Hugs and best wishes! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around#post-1916699 Sun, 06 May 2018 02:20:57 +0000 cindysmith 1916699@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sending you so many (((hugs))) and hopes that you find some fab new wardrobe workhorses </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around#post-1916617 Sat, 05 May 2018 20:39:21 +0000 Peri 1916617@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love that you said you'd be disrespecting yourself by staying. That strength will get you through. &nbsp;It also sounds like he is very manipulative, trying to make you feel like you are the one with the problem. And wow, with the kids and he won't even intervene.&nbsp;You deserve to be treated better. It is wonderful that you know that. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around#post-1916604 Sat, 05 May 2018 18:38:32 +0000 Anonymous 1916604@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>KRISH- so sorry your heart is breaking and I too send a hug.<br /> As you pointed out- it is clear from the signs of disrespect to you, your possessions and your children’s possessions that it is time to move on both figuratively and literally.... sooner not later. You are a wise woman to recognize this.<br /> You are also a strong woman with talents and skills that will allow you to find a relationship that will HONOR you as a strong woman with talents and skills.<br /> In the meantime- within reason-limited retail therapy can do wonders that sometimes actual therapy can not. Use it as a positive uplifting opportunity rather than an experience for frustration and compounded disappointment.<br /> I wish you peace and successful shopping. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around#post-1916582 Sat, 05 May 2018 17:36:00 +0000 kkards 1916582@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry that you weren't his "one". Please remember to be kind to yourself and give yourself space to process this. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around#post-1916546 Sat, 05 May 2018 16:37:41 +0000 JAileen 1916546@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m so sorry he wasn’t “the one”. Good to know now, though, than waste any more of your precious time on him. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around#post-1916510 Sat, 05 May 2018 15:44:54 +0000 donnat 1916510@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Virtual hugs to you.&nbsp; So sorry this isnt the one for you either.&nbsp; He is out there waiting for you still.&nbsp; As style fan said you are a lovely creative person and you will find the "one".&nbsp; This is the first step, making yourself available again.</p> <p>I do remember the boyfriend who told you that you had too many clothes.&nbsp; You were well done with him.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-to-turn-around#post-1916502 Sat, 05 May 2018 15:33:39 +0000 krishnidoux 1916502@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Style Fan, I haven't, but why not try it now? Thank you for this suggestion! </p>