https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 07 May 2026 14:53:18 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress/page/2#post-136326 Sat, 20 Mar 2010 03:49:35 +0000 stringy 136326@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Had to laugh at some of the stories here - I know we love our guys but damn they can be clueless sometimes :)</p> <p>There's not much payoff for them either, if they do make an effort. They'll get compliments from us, but sometimes other guys will try to take them down a peg if they look like they care too much about their appearance. </p> <p>My guy is a better dresser than I am. He's always been in the visual arts and when I met him was the king of op-shop (thrift store for Americans, I think?) styles. Mostly because he was dead broke at the time. </p> <p>Now he swings between sloppy old shirts on weekends and looking really sharp for work with graphic tees and blazers with really nice shoes. Previously I'd end up feeling like I was under-dressed compared to him, but now that I'm improving my style (with YLF help!) he's making more of an effort on weekends too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress/page/2#post-136306 Sat, 20 Mar 2010 03:11:53 +0000 Maya 136306@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am reviving this topic to tell you guys about a bloke I saw on the street today who stole my heart!</p> <p>He was wearing sunnies, black and white scarf tied muffler style, fitted black buttondown with the sleeves scrunched to the elbows, slim cut dark wash jeans, and croco dress shoes. Dark hair was styled to perfection. I was in love!</p> <p>Kim, you're much more generous than I am. I don't buy that most guys are just clueless. I think most guys really do not care. If they cared, they wouldn't be clueless. I mean, all of us clearly try to figure things out when we're clueless about something...so why don't they extend the same effort? I realize we are *especially* into style and fashion, even compared to most women, but there are some basic things that are worth figuring out regarding fit and appropriateness. It's actually not "weird" but just shows that women are held to a MUCH stricter standard. </p> <p>My supervisor had a freelancer come in today and he was wearing a gross tshirt, Nike knit shorts, and sneakers (gear sneakers). It was awful but I'm sure he had absolutely no problem with it. Neither did my supervisor, who dresses pretty decently himself, but was all impressed because the guy "looked like he was going to the beach"...which is really not appropriate for a meeting...</p> <p>Anyway, I don't think men are "wired" this way. This is a VERY recent thing. In times past, men cared deeply about their appearance and took measures that most men find incomprehensible today. I had to do research into mens' fashions in the 40's, and part of my research involved browsing an issue of GQ, and you should see the kinds of ads and articles that were written! There was a time when men knew how a suit should fit. Now I board the train and see more ill-fitting baggy suits than I can stand to think about. </p> <p>Ele, you and I can sit in the mean girls corner together! Glad you found someone who lives up to your standards. Now find someone for me </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress/page/2#post-136161 Fri, 19 Mar 2010 19:32:50 +0000 Susan 136161@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great thread. Love all the stories. One thing that seems to pop up as a pattern is that many of your menfolk seem to allow their occupation to heavily influence their dress. Like ChewySpaghetti's husband, whose work as a geologist makes him dress with practicality in mind. A lot of the ladies here have engineer/computer hubbies/boyfriends, and I know from my college days (I went to an engineering heavy university) that those fields do not care much for style. My partner, who was very fashionable when we met, and remains so, teaches English literature at the college level, and there's more freedom for creativity. In NYC, there's a lot of ways to be stylish in youthful ways. At 5'10" and not much more pounds then me, he's very slender, and he exclusively shops the European stores (H&amp;M, Zara, etc.) He does have a good collection of vintage (via his also slender Grandfather) and thrifted 1970s clothing items. He's picky about what he wears, favors earth tones over black/brights, and has style icons, like Alex Chilton (or any of those dudes from Big Star): <a href="http://www.austinchronicle.com/gyrobase/Music/Blogs/index.html/objID982566/blogID/" rel="nofollow">http://www.austinchronicle.com.....66/blogID/</a></p> <p>I did a blog post about his style:<br /> <a href="http://cohabitatingcloset.blogspot.com/2010/03/cohabitators-style.html" rel="nofollow">http://cohabitatingcloset.blog.....style.html</a></p> <p>Steven and I at our wedding:<br /> <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/48178222@N02/4442720269/" rel="nofollow">http://www.flickr.com/photos/4.....442720269/</a><br /> (the tailor did a number to that 1970s suit). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress/page/2#post-136111 Fri, 19 Mar 2010 17:05:32 +0000 Tricia 136111@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>OK, you all have convinced me. I have GOT to get rid of my husband's pleated pants. We just started sending our laundry out (I know, how lazy am I, but it makes life SO much easier considering the laundry the girls generate) so maybe the cleaners can conveniently "lose" them... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress/page/2#post-136089 Fri, 19 Mar 2010 15:44:24 +0000 Michelle 136089@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I cannot tell you how much I've been enjoying this thread for all the fantastic stories and memories it brought back! MNSara, I'm at the office and actually laughed out loud when I read about your husband experimenting with the novel concept of trying jeans on!! :)</p> <p>Corey has definitely undergone a style transformation over the past few years, and I take a great deal of credit for it. He was always a clean and appropriate dresser, abhoring anything sloppy, but he lacked flare. He stuck to khakki pants almost exclusively, liked solid henley-knit tops and tees, and usually preferred things to be black, beige or dark blue. Red was ok in small doses. None of his shirts had collars when we first got together, and somehow this bothered me a little. He started letting me buy things for him, and even basic shirts from the Gap were considered a branch out (graduating to better colours and patterns was a bold step). </p> <p>The tipping point came when we discovered an amazing second-hand menswear store a block from our apartment. The proprietor carries high-end pieces only, and once Corey started trying things on, he was hooked. At six feet and relatively slim, he fits easily into most clothes and had a wide selection to choose from. He fell in love with Hugo Boss, which is now his brand of choice. The owner of the menswear store is a master at picking patterns and colours that Corey wouldn't have thought of on his own but that work brilliantly, to his very great surprise. After our first visit there, he found that he was really psyched about his higher-quality, more interesting clothes and was hooked.</p> <p>Since that first visit, he's gone back several times and in fact does most of his professional-wardrobe-related shopping there. He owns five suits (Pal Zileri and Boss being his favourites), an unbelievable assortment of dress shirts (one of which is pink) and an expanding collection of ties. This was done in reaction to promotions at work as well as a desire to distance himself from his dad's fashion sense (dude thinks it's appropriate to wear ball caps to professional appointments, AAAACK)! Of all the SO's described here, Corey now most closely resembles Julieanne's. In fact, when I red her post, I called Corey to share it with him and he's coveting the collection of french-cuff shirts and the electronic rotating tie rack! </p> <p>The style evolution continues, however. He resisted jeans all his life and only capitulated recently when I bought him a pair for Christmas. Higher-quality denim made all the difference, of course, and now the jeans come out almost every weekend. I hope to expand his collection! He still likes his cotton twill pants too, but they're all flat front thank goodness. The one thing left to work on is shoes; he has a pair of rockports that he wears with just about everything. He needs some real dress shoes to go with his work clothes and maybe something a little more hip for his weekend looks. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress/page/2#post-135997 Fri, 19 Mar 2010 09:29:22 +0000 JuliaInGermany 135997@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is a fun question. I am really amazed at how many of you pick out clothes for your SO or try to overhaul their wardrobe. I do sometimes point out to my husband that he might need to replace an item because it's worn, but otherwise I don't influence his style at all. I have never bought any clothes for him yet though he takes me with him to go shopping and asks me about fit. </p> <p>Before meeting my husband I have had some boyfriends whose style I tried to improve. Looking back at it I think that it was not only about style, but I tried to improve their personality/character as well. Ahem. You know those little things you wish you could change in your SO. It always started small and in the end I felt and behaved like their mother, telling them how to behave and to dress. (Perhaps MY character needed a bit of improvement instead of theirs. LOL) So I am very happy that I don't feel this urge to change my husband at all. Phew! </p> <p>I have to say that my husband is a VERY conservative dresser so he knows exactly what he would like to wear. He's a gentleman at heart. For work he wears black or dark grey custom made suits, white french cuffed shirts, silk ties with matching cuff links and welted shoes. It's actually what everyone else in his department is wearing, too (he's a banker). </p> <p>For "casual" wear it's flat fronted trousers with button-down shirts and v-neck sweaters in winter or the same kind of bottoms with polo shirts in summer. I have never seen him in jeans or a t-shirt and very seldom see him wear shorts (only when it is really, really hot, and never in "public"). He usually buys rather expensive clothes and then wears them until they almost fall apart. </p> <p>Oh, if you are wondering whether I married an old sugar daddy: Nope, my hubby just turned 35. In my opinion he could dress a bit younger and replace his clothes before they have holes in the elbows but that's up to him. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress/page/2#post-135936 Fri, 19 Mar 2010 03:43:01 +0000 julieanne 135936@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My husband's wardrobe and shoe collection kicked me out of our (small) walk-in closet. He LOVES nice clothes and is more likely the one telling me how my own outfit might be improved. :)</p> <p>He is an unusual case, because although he is younger, he has always liked very grown-up clothing, such as Brooks Brothers and Ralph Lauren (classic polos especially). He wears dress slacks and dress shirt to work every day, so those items take up most of his wardrobe.</p> <p>He also loves suits though, and is always waiting for an excuse to wear his tux. About half of his dress shirts are French cuff so we had to find a special cuff box to house his collection. Another toy is his rotating electronic tie rack that holds 72 ties (it's almost full). His other favorite accessory is his Tag watch. If I ever let him he would love an Omega too.</p> <p>Even on the most casual occasions it is hard to get him into a shirt without a collar. He has nice casual khakis and loves his Doc Martens for going out and about.</p> <p>He was only 19 when we met (which I didn't know!!) but his style made him seem much older. We got married when he was 21 (he's 25 now) and he is still the best-dressed man I know. Just an over-achiever, I guess. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress/page/2#post-135929 Fri, 19 Mar 2010 03:36:19 +0000 chewyspaghetti 135929@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is actually a real sore spot between us lately. When I met my husband, he had a very unique sense of style. He certainly cared about how he looked- he used very expensive shampoo, had a collection of hats that he wore and actually accesorized his outfits. We used to go vintage/thrift shopping together and he had some really cool handmade shirts from South America that he would wear open over a white T with along strand of natural stone beads. He had his ears pierces and wore earrings and rings on his fingers as well. Those days are long over, and it's really sad. Now, he's a geologist at a limestone mine. Practicality and durability is more important than style to him these days. He wears really awful baggy jeans to work- sometimes with holes, and always way too long. Work boots and a long sleeve shirt- either polo or plaid button down complete the look, and he carries a huge day pack crammed with stuff. I had a little fit last winter and made him get a decent pair of darker wash jeans that actually fit him and a couple of graphic tees. If he is going to be seen in public with me, then he has got to step it up form his work wardrobe. Now it's time to work on his summer wardrobe, and he is fighting me tooth and nail again. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress#post-135885 Fri, 19 Mar 2010 02:01:29 +0000 Tricia 135885@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm laughing at the husband who cuts the loops off his carpenter jeans. Why bother buying carpenter jeans, then?</p> <p>Oh, and I forgot one other thing my poor husband has working against him in the fashion department: He's color blind. That's one reason he tends to stick to jeans + white T-shirt + buttondown - he doesn't have to worry that he's picked out clashing items. (You should see when he's the one who dresses the girls...) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress#post-135878 Fri, 19 Mar 2010 01:48:59 +0000 shana 135878@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is a fun question! I have to admit that the way that my husband dressed was one of the things that attracted me. He was a typical Euro dresser - even in graduate school, he always wore long sleeve button down shirts, nice slacks, really great shoes and was always very well groomed. No polo shirts, no sweat-pants, no t-shirts (except for sports or as undershirts), no sandals (except for the birks at home or beach/pool sandals) and certainly nothing ratty, stained, ripped or otherwise unkempt! He wore premium denim (Diesel) back in the mid-90's at a time when I thought Guess jeans were a splurge. He's quite picky about his clothing and definitely has a distinct sense of style, so I can rarely buy him something that he'll like so I just stick to the easy stuff like socks and underwear! He was a little resistant to switching from the pleated pants to the flat fronts but I managed to convince him to make the change and he hasn't looked back. Unfortunately, I can see the influence of his years in America - he's picked up an unhealthy appreciation for fleece and cargo pants though he only wears them around the house or for doing yard work. But he's also become more casual in general though he's still distinctly more dressy than the average guy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress#post-135874 Fri, 19 Mar 2010 01:43:02 +0000 MNsara 135874@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh yes - carpenter jeans but he goes the extra mile by cutting off the hammer loop -- so he doesn't catch on anything :-\</p> <p>In fact, last Saturday we were getting ready to go to 4 pm. church and I said "You're not wearing those sweatpants to church, are you?" (Please remember after almost 30 years of marriage, I don't need to couch this type of question.) Then I didn't even look at what he actually wore, so I wouldn't be bothered if he still wore them. . . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress#post-135869 Fri, 19 Mar 2010 01:35:35 +0000 Queen Mum 135869@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>ack! carpenter jeans! I don't think he still has any of those in his closet-- I'll have to go check..... whew! no carpenter pants in his closet. I might have had to take them to the trash if I had found them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress#post-135867 Fri, 19 Mar 2010 01:33:16 +0000 Katiepea 135867@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This reminds me of a amusing (well to me it is anyway) story about this whole concept. &lt;Giggle&gt; </p> <p>When I met my husband he had no clue in regard to whether clothes fit him properly or not. </p> <p>He wears business shirt, tie and pants to work. (OK, sorry, for you English girls let me correct myself, I mean "trousers" - hubby is originally from the UK, so we often light-heartedly debate whole the pant/trouser issue - I say "pants are trousers "/ "pants are NOT undies"/ "undies are undies" he disagrees that "pants are undies"/"trousers are the long things that cover your legs" (sorry, I digress - that is a whole other issue.)) </p> <p>Anyhoo, I plucked the courage up one day (we were still in honeymoon stage of relationship) to break the news that I thought that his trousers were too tight around the butt/thighs (he is a cyclist so is trim, but had muscly legs) and that he really needed to get a new pair of trousers that, let's just say, covered him up with a bit more modesty. </p> <p>His reply........ "I know they are too tight, but no-one at work has said anything, so I thought that meant it was ok to wear them!" Looking at him aghast I said "Honey, by the time someone at work says something to you IT IS TOO LATE! Trust me, they have been thinking it, giggling about it for months." Looking slightly perplexed he said "Oh, I didn't know that." It turns out that his barometer of whether he looked great/ok/not-so-great was whether anyone in the office said anything. &lt;chortle, sigh&gt; </p> <p>Yes, thankfully, things have improved a lot on that front over the years. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress#post-135865 Fri, 19 Mar 2010 01:24:37 +0000 MNsara 135865@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This whole thread is too funny </p> <p>My DH is totally function over form when it comes to clothes. When his t-shirts are getting really ratty and ready to become rags, he says they are getting 'just right'. When he buys something new, 5+ years later he still thinks of it as new &amp; current (wasn't that your DH too, queenie?)</p> <p>His idea of shopping for clothes is to take the Sunday ad to the store of choice, run in, grab what he saw from the ad, quick pay and get out - mission accomplished!!</p> <p>BUT - since I have been reinventing my style with YLF, he has started to pay a little more attention to his own style. He actually tried on jeans last time, before he bought them. He has mentioned how has wants a blazer to wear like outerwear (his version of a moto?).</p> <p>So there are signs that things may be changing for the better Now if I can just get him to give up the loose fit carpenter jeans. . . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress#post-135860 Fri, 19 Mar 2010 01:09:26 +0000 Beth 135860@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My husband is a dyed-in-the-wool traditionalist. He wears bow-ties, button-downs and khakis. He's not at all a bad dresser; he's just not a fashion guy. I'm more than OK with that as it's a part of who he is. Besides, I'm a not-so-secret madras and seersucker lover myself.</p> <p>It's funny because he's tall and slim and he could wear pretty much anything and look good. I will take credit for introducing him to flat-front pants, slim-cut dress shirts and slim jeans, though:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress#post-135827 Thu, 18 Mar 2010 22:20:43 +0000 elpgal 135827@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My husband isn't one of those who knew what had a good dress sense or knew about good fit. But, he is a great learner, is receptive to advice, eager to change and is always willing to try on new stuff. He wears well-fitting nice clothes that are not overly formal. I'll be a total sap and admit that I wish I were more like him!</p> <p>Now, to answer the point Ele and Maya raised, how did I choose to be with him despite his former poor dress-sense. Easy! I didn't know much better </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress#post-135826 Thu, 18 Mar 2010 22:19:46 +0000 Isabel 135826@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My husband cares very deeply about how he looks. He is in the biotechnology field now, but he was in a rock band for years and he paints and does pottery, the whole art thing etc. So he is really into texture and colors. He is really concerned with looking "hip". He is very experimental. On the days he dresses our children for school ( which isn't much ) it is really crazy ! He once sent our son to school with camo pants and a tie-dye t-shirt in "complementary" colors ! My child looked like someone had lost control of a paint gun on him ! The teachers laugh because they can pick out the days that he dresses them. I was hospitalized in the Fall for quite some time and when I got back home and volunteering at the school again, one of the teachers told me that it was kind of amusing how my children were dressing to school, then she became deeply worried because it went on for so long - she knew something was seriously wrong !</p> <p>I am VERY conservative in my dress and I am not experimental in my dressing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress#post-135784 Thu, 18 Mar 2010 21:00:18 +0000 taylor 135784@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My husband always cares about how he looks ,but has a more relaxed easy style to his look than I do.<br /> He likes to shop with me and is very aware how womens fashion (hair, and clothes) reflect in one's overall appearance. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress#post-135773 Thu, 18 Mar 2010 20:43:22 +0000 April 135773@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hmm, kind of men's traditional, without being overly preppy in a costume-y way. The one thing I would love for him to try that he has so far resisted is flat front dress pants. He wears them pleated AND cuffed and I have not been able to convince him that this is the most leg-shortening, waist-widening combination known to mankind. </p> <p>That's a small thing, though. He provides great input about what looks good on me and loves to take me shopping, and I wouldn't trade that for uncuffed flat fronts! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress#post-135768 Thu, 18 Mar 2010 20:36:02 +0000 Louise 135768@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>After 10 years together I still haven't managed to overhaul his wardrobe. He's a mechanic by day so wears old things which get covered by grease. The rest of the time he's a jeans and t shirt guy shame they are tapered leg jeans and horizontal striped t shirts!!!!! He really doesn't care x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress#post-135766 Thu, 18 Mar 2010 20:32:23 +0000 Dusty 135766@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My DH is neither a snappy dresser nor a sloppy dresser. His work "uniform" is khaki pants (flat front - I pointed out to him once that the pleated front emphasized his tummy and he hasn't touched a pair of pleated pants with a hot poker since) and a button down shirt with brown leather shoes (I think his current non-winter shoes are Clarks oxfords of some sort) and a brown belt. When we get more dressed up (like for a wedding or for Christmas) it's black dress slacks, a button down shirt (usually in jewel tones because that's what I pick out for him) and a tie with black shoes and belt. When he's not at work he's in jeans (or shorts) and a t-shirt but he has a few polos and a couple of nicer knit pullovers in long-sleeves for parties and such. Everything fits and it's clean and hole free (well, with the exception of his "working around the house" grubbies) but it's not flashy or really stylish by any means. He's happy with it and so I'm happy with it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress#post-135759 Thu, 18 Mar 2010 20:11:51 +0000 cciele 135759@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Kim said: "it would be fun to do secret makeovers on our men and post pictures ;-)"</p> <p>LOL! That's an awesome idea :)</p> <p>I think most guys actually do care what they look like and what they wear. But their standards are obviously different from ours. According to my husband, guys just don't want to stand out or look that different from their peers. So, comfort and familiarity are a big part of the standard guy wardrobe, IMO. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress#post-135757 Thu, 18 Mar 2010 19:50:07 +0000 Queen Mum 135757@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>first of all I want to ramble about the whole men not caring how they look issue... I dont' think that it's really a matter of not caring as much as not having a clue how to go about dressing themselves. And therefore if they don't have a woman in their life to help them, they are lost. How many men are going to show up at work and ask their coworkers if they made the right shoe selection or if their shirt matches their pants. Also their approach to shopping is so different from ours. Many men treat a shopping trip like a hunting expedition... spot it, bag it and bring it home.... and they aren't even going to dream of returning it if it doesn't work out. </p> <p>Having said that, I do think that women (in general) are more in tune with beauty and really do have a desire to be beautiful. Men just aren't wired that way... so while they might care that they look presentable, it doesn't go nearly as deep for them as it does for us. Your men aren't sitting around wondering if they are handsome, like we sit around wondering if we are pretty. I think they get their self value in other ways.</p> <p>So girls, don't be offended that your man doesn't go to as much trouble and fuss with his appearance as you do.... it's nothing personal, just being a guy. BUT-- if they know that something they are wearing is alluring to you... you better believe they will wear that item of clothing until it is falling apart </p> <p>sooo, my dear hubby is one of these typical males who really hasn't a clue. For work he has a uniform shirt that he wears with jeans, and he will try to be cleaned up for other stuff, but to him, if a shirt was nice 5 years ago, it is still nice. (we're working on that one) And when I tell him that he needs to tuck his shirt in when he wears his looser fitting jeans, he looks at me like I'm speaking greek. (it was a mistake to have him buy those jeans) He gets frustrated if I spend too much time trying to "sort him out" with an outfit. He just doesn't see that the little details matter. </p> <p>My biggest frustration with him is with his casual wear. Would someone please break into my house and steal his fleece jackets? I"ll pay you! And if I could light fire to his t-shirt collection I would. And the crowning glory are his beloved cargo shorts. argh! I have forbidden him to wear them to church ever again. I tried to get him to toss them the other day and he said "well, I guess I need to find a pair of "nice" cargo shorts to replace those." "ummmm, that would be an oxymoron dear- there is nothing "nice" about cargo shorts ;-)"</p> <p>I"m really not bagging on my husband... he is a sweetheart... he just is not one of those rare men who have knack for style. What I realize though is that I need to spend some time and energy shopping for him. I tend to spend all my shopping energy on myself.</p> <p>it would be fun to do secret makeovers on our men and post pictures </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress#post-135752 Thu, 18 Mar 2010 19:40:13 +0000 Kate 135752@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is particularly fitting as I am in Ohio visiting my boyfriend. We've been together for three years, and I think some improvements have been made, though they've certainly been small ones. My guy is graduating from college this weekend, is an apprentice with a Luthier (aka he makes and repairs guitars), and plays rock music. So his style is very relaxed with a little bit of an edge. </p> <p>I think most of his progress is a result of my comments (or nagging, in some cases). He's upgraded from completely ripped up chuck taylors to pretty decent pumas (and even made the decision to replace the last pair of pumas when they were too worn down), stopped wearing trucker hats (shudder), has a much better hair cut (I cut his hair because he's unwilling to pay for it and untrusting of anyone I'm willing to pay to cut his hair), and often wears clean, rip-free, dark washed jeans. This winter I managed to strong arm him into getting a new black hoodie, since he had worn his old one almost daily for the last 2.5 years and it was completely falling apart. AND he has always cleaned up well, he just doesn't do it often. </p> <p>However, he hates paying for clothes so most of his shirts are t-shirts that are at least 5 years old and he got for free. He has a couple pairs of light jeans with MASSIVE holes in them that he's unwilling to give up, and still wears because he thinks they make him look rock n' roll (sigh...). He also likes to wear a studded belt (black leather, silver square studs) that I've gotten more ok with but am by no means a fan of.</p> <p>What I find most fascinating about the whole thing is that he LOVES that I put time into how I look and what I wear, and sometimes has a pretty natural understanding of fashion. When I was boot shopping I ran several options by him, and he said that he liked the dark brown boots best because they were the same color as my hair and thus looked better and made outfits more complete! He also is very aware of which colors look best on me (and tells me when the color I'm wearing is good and why), and knows I'm not a fan of my short neck and will tell me which tops make my neck look longer. He loves how my look has evolved, and (even though he hates actually shopping) is usually willing to share his opinion of anything fashion related that I show him. </p> <p>Anyway, I'm hoping over the next couple months we can start upgrading the t-shirts a bit... I'm certainly fine with his general look, but it's the quality of the clothing that is really holding him back. We'll still look a bit mismatched, but we're both going through transitions and in very different career paths, and I'm very ok with that. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress#post-135748 Thu, 18 Mar 2010 19:28:15 +0000 Tricia 135748@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm jealous of those of you whose SOs care so much! I should clarify that my husband does at least make sure to wear things that fit and are clean! He just doesn't really cultivate a particular "look." </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress#post-135747 Thu, 18 Mar 2010 19:26:25 +0000 RoseandJoan 135747@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ben's quite mod but it's harder for him to pull off than Ele's significant other because he's 6ft 3" with a large (not fat) frame. He wears Fred Perry polo's, slim fit cardigans, dark wash jeans and smart retro fashion sneakers. </p> <p>He shaves his head, has designer stubble, moisturises and plucks in between his eyebrows to avoid the mono brow look.</p> <p>Edit, I just wanted to add that I've had no impact on his style...it's all his. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress#post-135742 Thu, 18 Mar 2010 18:50:47 +0000 Sarah 135742@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sweet specs, Ele! Bryan wishes he needed them because he loves specs. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress#post-135740 Thu, 18 Mar 2010 18:43:30 +0000 Ele 135740@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maya, you'll never offend me with those thoughts, I completely agree. In fact, I'm probably even more shallow than you are (not that I think you're shallow). I'm amazed at all the women I know who say "when I met so-and-so he dressed so badly..." My (internal) response is usually "Why did you go out with him, then?" Honestly, clothing and self-presentation is such an integral part of attraction for me that I can't imagine dating a guy whose style I wasn't into. </p> <p>Luckily, that isn't a problem for me. Andrew has always cared about fashion; he loves clothes and has more shopping stamina than I do! When we met (7+ years ago now) his style was a bit more vintage, with lots of 70's-style flared jeans and cords with retro t-shirts and Converse. These days he's a bit older, a designer and dresses a bit smarter, but still has a "uniform" of sorts. He owns about 14 pairs of dark, straight or skinny jeans (I'm ALWAYS trying to get him to cull this collection), which he'll wear with a nice button-down and a slim cardi or sweater.<br /> Slim, pointy-toed (but not *too* pointy) leather boots and a black trench to finish. On weekends he'll sub a retro tee for the button-down and trainers for the boots. <a href="http://www.lgr-sunglasses.com/eyeglasses/Mombasa">These</a> are his current specs, which he just loves. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress#post-135739 Thu, 18 Mar 2010 18:13:12 +0000 Polly (thunalata) 135739@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My DH's style is 'Modern classic English gentleman'. Saville Row Prince of Wales collar shirts, woven silk ties (but not suits yet, sadly); Crombie coat (nearly new lucky ebay find...); Crockett and Jones, Loakes, Grensons shoes; Casual - country shirts from Harvie and Hudson, Cords and moleskins from Oliver Brown; lambswool pullovers; Levis.</p> <p>It's another world... He looks rather good all the time... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-your-significant-others-dress#post-135738 Thu, 18 Mar 2010 18:07:54 +0000 Kristine 135738@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If he has a style, I guess I'd call it street or skate- dickies or jeans, t-shirts, skate shoes and hats (baseball, trucker or newsboy), wallet chains, techy or leather jackets. He's an artist and has his own (skilled trade) business. His hobbies are motorcycles and skating, so I can't really see him any other way. </p> <p>I like him just the way he is, but I like men to be a little rough around the edges. It would actually make me slightly uncomfortable if he groomed his eyebrows or cared too much about fashion. </p> <p>However, one thing he's changed are his haircuts. He would always go to Cost Cutters or somewhere similar, which is hit or miss. I finally talked him into going to a guy's night at a local hipster salon. I could tell he was pretty happy with a nice haircut for a change.</p> <p>I have noticed a subtle change since I've started dressing nicer. There are a few more button downs showing up in the rotation. </p>