https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 14 May 2026 10:34:15 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/3#post-861769 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 15:37:08 +0000 Anonymous 861769@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>How did I miss this fantastic thread? It has been incredible reading everyone's comments! </p> <p>@Jayne, I am SO over the sexy thing. I can't even tell you. </p> <p>Concentrating just on *feeling* here:</p> <p>I think I want to feel a little bit luxurious in my clothes. And I'm not sure at all that I want to *look* luxurious. I'm talking tactile, the physical feeling as opposed to emotional feeling. So natural fabrics mostly--but not burlap, lol.</p> <p>Neat. When my jeans and belt are sliding down my hips and my shirt is coming untucked I don't like that feeling. </p> <p>Smooth. I don't like lumps or bumps or layers riding up. My hair is growing out and does not look smooth right now. It's driving me insane! I guess neat and smooth have a lot of overlap.</p> <p>Feminine. Okay, I'll say it. I don't want to look sexy (like I even could!) but I like it when my clothing shows my shape, but not necessarily a lot of skin.</p> <p>Unrestrained. While I want my *look* to be a bit refined or restrained, I want to have a full range of motion and be able to bend, stoop, reach and stride freely. </p> <p>Comfortable. While looking comfortable is the unpardonable fashion sin, I want to feel comfortable in my skin, with my look and with my clothing items. Warm enough, cool enough, nothing scratchy and no nasty fabrics making me sweat when I'm not even hot. </p> <p>Great thread Una! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-861764 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 15:34:20 +0000 Periwinkle 861764@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lurker posting for the first time--this is a good question.</p> <p>I want to feel:<br /> Polished<br /> Comfortable<br /> Smart<br /> Feminine<br /> Inspired/Imaginative<br /> Authoritative (at work)</p> <p>I do not want to feel:<br /> Frumpy<br /> Boring<br /> Sloppy<br /> Undignified<br /> Prissy<br /> Stiff<br /> Unimaginative<br /> Overly sexy (especially at work) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-861706 Wed, 27 Feb 2013 14:52:28 +0000 jayne 861706@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What I don't want to feel</p> <p>cute<br /> sexy<br /> unattractive<br /> square - large - fat<br /> unaware - thrown together</p> <p>so I guess I do want to feel:</p> <p>cool - stylish - chic<br /> aware - ie put together<br /> fit - slender (tall is not an issue for me)<br /> sporty - strong - athletic<br /> attractive</p> <p>By the way, putting the 'don't want' list together seriously comes from my younger years when I was always being told I was cute and/or sexy. I am avidly against all the focus on 'sexy' in clothing. Sexy is fine here and there but argh, it is everywhere!</p> <p>And I get that personality thing Una, my personality quickly disappates the word cute from thought, but I don't want people to get a shock when they first see me and then later get to know me. I prefer them forwarned and never wore pink to avoid cute. Now that my face is more angular, pink is a friend again And I guess I have also softened some actually. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-860756 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 20:19:05 +0000 columbine(erin) 860756@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've been thinking about this post for awhile now. </p> <p>Slim<br /> Strong<br /> Shapely</p> <p>What I don't want:<br /> Fussy or Complicated<br /> Too girly<br /> Too matronly<br /> Restrictive </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-860162 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 10:45:00 +0000 Anonymous 860162@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A couple of years ago a friend (she is in fact no longer my friend as of 18 months ago) told me that one of her friends called me prim and proper! It still makes me seethe now! I hate those words and I don't want to be that, but I fear thats how other people do see me. :(<br /> I want to feel:<br /> confident<br /> relaxed<br /> feminine, not girly<br /> aproachable<br /> creative.<br /> I may think of others but that will do for now. Still seething! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-860140 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 07:50:19 +0000 Molly L-R 860140@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great question! I just chose the dress I'm going to wear for my wedding and I chose it because it made me feel both elegant and kickass at the same time. On a day to day basis I want my clothes to make me feel:</p> <p>- womanly<br /> - creative<br /> - put together<br /> - old-fashioned<br /> - offbeat<br /> - one of a kind</p> <p>I don't want to feel:</p> <p>- prissy<br /> - casual<br /> - simple<br /> - conservative </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-860124 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 07:26:11 +0000 Mo 860124@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just stumbled on this. I surprisingly have yet to see anyone list feminine and that is one of the first things that came to mind for me. Not high maintenance super girly but just the essence of woman-ness, I guess.<br /> And yes, ready for anything, like Rae. I've mentioned that a few times in my WIW's.<br /> Interesting/unique, not mall brand cookie cutter, has always been important for me to feel 'special' ha ha.<br /> Friendly, down to earth, approachable is part of how I feel happiest, unless in a more formal environment.<br /> Beyond that, not objectified or sexualized.<br /> I also like to feel stylish, which sounds like a cover all cop out term, but I mean in a modern, I get what's going on around me, kind of way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-860107 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 06:37:28 +0000 AJ 860107@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>How do you want to feel in your clothes even when no one is around?</p> <p>I want to feel:</p> <p>effortlessly put-together</p> <p>confident</p> <p>comfortable </p> <p>stylishly modest</p> <p>casually sophisticated</p> <p>feminine, but not twee</p> <p>happy </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-860054 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 05:09:38 +0000 shedev 860054@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have been trying to pick my clothes by how they make me feel for the past year, most of the stuff I see in the stores makes me feel a little bored lately.<br /> I like to feel.</p> <p>powerful<br /> brave<br /> comfortable<br /> nonconforming<br /> prepared<br /> sensual </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-860047 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 04:59:16 +0000 Beth Ann 860047@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great thread, Una! I was distracted for awhile by trying to imagine you with a raspy voice, then I imagined the voices of other YLFers. I swear I know what Suz sounds like! </p> <p>Despite the fact that I feel like I'm getting ready for a big fashion upheaval, I would like to feel:</p> <p>Vibrant, but approachable<br /> Confident, and ready to empower others<br /> Free to move<br /> Youthful, but not young<br /> Strong, but womanly</p> <p>I don't want to feel:</p> <p>Monotonous<br /> Mousy<br /> Lumpy<br /> Stiff<br /> Invisible </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-860006 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 04:16:29 +0000 Transcona Shannon 860006@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is a fabulous thread Una!</p> <p>I want to feel:</p> <p>- happy<br /> - confident<br /> - unfussy<br /> - creative<br /> - different (in a good way)<br /> - approachable </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-859933 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 02:41:33 +0000 velvetychocolate 859933@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a great thread Una! I feel like I'm in a bit of a rut, and this question you've asked is extremely helpful, in terms of moving forward. So thank you! </p> <p>I want to feel:</p> <p>Serious<br /> Smart<br /> Creative<br /> Innovative<br /> Progressive<br /> Compassionate<br /> Inventive<br /> Forward-thinking<br /> Generous<br /> Open-minded, inclusive</p> <p>I am not sure how that translates into clothes/style - but if I could find a way to be true to myself in terms of style - these are the words/ideas that would fit and make me feel happy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-859918 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 02:28:00 +0000 Aida 859918@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Happy and confident </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-859899 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 02:09:22 +0000 Jaime 859899@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Love this thread Una! I have only skimmed the responses as I want to try to get this without to much interference. I completely agree that I am striving for a certain feeling:<br /> independent, elegant, comfortable. Probably more will come with caffeine.</p> <p>I like to be perceived as interesting, intelligent, and original I think. I feel these traits come out over time both in knowing me and sometimes just looking at me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-859890 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 01:59:25 +0000 CocoLion 859890@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Confident<br /> Creative<br /> Not conservative or mainstream<br /> Someone with good taste</p> <p>Plus I relate to the comfortable and unconstrained that a lot of you mentioned.</p> <p>That third point -- not conservative or mainstream - probably has a lot to do with the environment where I live. It's a mix of red necks and retirees, where among the retirees in particular it's socially rewarding to look, talk, think and act like each other.</p> <p>And I am sure they think I have *awful* taste. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-859833 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 01:07:41 +0000 Carla 859833@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>There is a whole community of fashion folks doing sets ( polyvore and pinterest) and you can google them. Type in character inspired fashion, or 'name' inspired fashion, and they will pop up. Everything from gaming characters to tv and movie characters.</p> <p>The goal is to turn costume in to RL fashion. </p> <p>Below a few more examples.</p> <p># 2 is the 10th Dr. From Dr. Who. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-859804 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 00:44:03 +0000 catgirl 859804@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Where did you find those?! Hilarious! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-859799 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 00:38:25 +0000 Carla 859799@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Amiable, we might be style twins! Your list has resonance for me. My own list:</p> <p>Natural<br /> Fit<br /> Strong<br /> Subtle<br /> Clean<br /> Refined<br /> Composed<br /> Warm</p> <p>Alaskagirl have you seen these? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-859776 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 00:25:28 +0000 Parsley 859776@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is a great exercise!<br /> I find this a lot easier than coming up with a 2 or 3 word style descriptor, but maybe this exercise can lead me to one.</p> <p>I want to feel:<br /> Elegant<br /> Sophisticated<br /> Sensual<br /> Current<br /> Sleek<br /> Bold<br /> Polished<br /> Playful but restrained<br /> Relaxed<br /> Appropriate</p> <p>But never:<br /> GIrly/ Sweet<br /> Demure/ Prim &amp; Proper<br /> Stiff<br /> Sloppy<br /> Provocative<br /> Outrageous </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-859775 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 00:24:41 +0000 catgirl 859775@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, exactly. I've noticed I'm a lot happier when my clothes make me FEEL a certain way, as opposed to just making me LOOK a certain way. Which may be why flattery is not my priority - not interested in feeling thin or hot or attractive in a conventional sense - and which also goes to Angie's comment on happiness, don't you think? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-859754 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 00:17:13 +0000 Janet 859754@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great question!</p> <p>I want to feel:</p> <p>- long and lean<br /> - in control<br /> - modern<br /> - creative<br /> - interesting<br /> - powerful/strong<br /> - noticeable (not fade into the woodwork)<br /> - sexy (not overtly but inwardly if that makes sense -- showing skin does not necessarily equate!)<br /> - comfortable/at ease</p> <p>This is a great exercise for me. I spent a lot of my lifetime intellectualizing my emotions rather than *feeling* them. I think some of the work I did around that stuff via therapy has enabled a lot of the changes I've had in the last few years, including my style shift. I have started to pay closer attention to how clothes make me feel. Great observations, Una! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-859740 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 00:11:39 +0000 Caro in Oz 859740@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Laughing. Now I have human meringue stuck in my head - so not you you'll be glad to hear. </p> <p>I'm not sure if I want my clothes to make me feel a certain way or if I want the clothes that I wear to bring those aspects out in me. I'm with you Una I had the itching, uncomfortable don't run around you'll dirty your dress childhood too - are we just reactionary? Or was it that we couldn't get to express our true nature then so it has become very important to us now? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-859705 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 23:50:51 +0000 catgirl 859705@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>RachyLou, you crack me up! Now I have "This Brain Is On Fire" stuck in my head. Oh, wait, that's not the song title?</p> <p>You make a good point. I DO ask my clothes to make me feel a certain way, and that's why I need to be aware of it. It explains that squirmy sense of discomfort when I'm wearing an outfit that really isn't me. Objectively it may look fine (and I find that's mostly when I get lots of compliments) but those don't matter to me if I feel squirmy. The closest I can get to describing that feeling is when my mom would put me in those fluffy satin-and-lace party dresses with white tights and patent Mary Janes... I was miserable, itchy, hindered, and felt like a human meringue.</p> <p>Perhaps all my issues stem from seeking the exact opposite of that feeling in what I want to wear. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-859690 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 23:44:17 +0000 rachylou 859690@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Una, your brain is on fire today! What a powerful question. I'm trying to clear the weeds of delusion from my head to get at the answer. </p> <p>It's so obvious when my clothes make me feel bad (and of course I don't want that), but I can't say I ask my clothes to make me feel good. I don't ask them to make me feel a certain way about myself. I'm not into, for example, "Hey! I am cu-ute!" (and I never use the word "hottie" either, btw - hehe).</p> <p>I do take any number of things into consideration - like dress codes, authority, accurate advertising, and keeping the *native* traditions alive - but I don't think they're the main thing honestly... Come to think if it, paying too much attention to those considerations may have been a source of dissatisfaction in the past.</p> <p>The one thing that comes to mind... well, as one of my high school beaux observed, I need to be entertained... (Man! So cutting! I should have paid more attention to the farmer's boy!)</p> <p>Anyways, yes, cutting but true. And thus, I don't suppose, my aversion for "safe" outfits. My need for quirkiness. Just looking nice and pretty is a horrible torture for me. There's nothing to think about there.</p> <p>Ok. Well, that's my answer for now: I want to feel entertained.</p> <p>***<br /> ETA: I'm already back after reading more posts. I do want to feel - even when I'm alone - like I'm not only in the swim of things, but that I'm at the frontier edge. No velour lounge suit with words across the butt for me. That is so 90's. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-859666 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 23:23:49 +0000 deb 859666@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, invulnerable. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-859662 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 23:23:01 +0000 Aziraphale 859662@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Invulnerable ("immune to attack") </p> <p>:-) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-859661 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 23:22:55 +0000 catgirl 859661@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ah - shielded? Invulnerable? Interesting! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-859659 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 23:21:32 +0000 deb 859659@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Una, by protedcted I mean feeling unvulnerable (is that a word?) It is hard for me to explain. I want to feel in my clothes something other than what I am actually feeling in life. Instead of fun, maybe I should use the word joy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-859658 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 23:21:09 +0000 Aziraphale 859658@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Fun question! I like a lot of the words on your list. </p> <p>This is how I want to feel in my clothes (even if no one is around):</p> <p>collected<br /> sharp<br /> balanced<br /> strong<br /> womanly<br /> ....and occasionally, fierce.</p> <p>I don't want to feel:</p> <p>juvenile<br /> flaky<br /> precious<br /> constrained (I like that one from your list)<br /> awkward</p> <p>I'm really hoping I'll find time this week to finish those outfit sketches, to see if anyone thinks I'm hitting my goals. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/how-do-you-want-to-feel-in-your-clothes/page/2#post-859643 Mon, 25 Feb 2013 23:05:11 +0000 catgirl 859643@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>And Tina made a great distinction between how we want to feel vs. how we want to be perceived. So feeling "fun" vs. being seen as "fun" are different, perhaps.</p> <p>I guess my question is more "how do you want to feel in your clothes even if no one is around?" Assuming you wouldn't just be eating cereal in your PJs like me. </p>