https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 25 Apr 2026 01:30:48 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet/page/2#post-498035 Sat, 31 Dec 2011 21:08:59 +0000 Suz 498035@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It CAN be a learning curve to get photos. I'm still in the midst of that learning curve myself. For whatever reason, Modgrl's method doesn't seem to work for me (the camera jiggles too much and the pics come out blurry if I set it on the counter) and we don't own a tripod, so I have to rely on my daughter or sometimes hubby to take them. And we don't have anywhere with a neutral background or very good lighting. But I just do the best I can and I have still found it super helpful. I rarely get photos on the day I'm actually wearing the outfit, so sometimes we'll take an hour on the weekend and I will put on a couple of the week's outfits and have my daughter snap lots of pics; I throw out the really bad ones (there are lots of those). But just as people here are gentle in their critiques of outfits, I find they are also kind and helpful with photo shoot ideas! So bit by bit we all improve. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet/page/2#post-498007 Sat, 31 Dec 2011 20:33:42 +0000 DeniseP 498007@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Modgrl -- Great info! I haven't even considered the self-timer thingy (not a technie)! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet/page/2#post-497978 Sat, 31 Dec 2011 19:26:03 +0000 modgrl 497978@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Does your camera have a self timer? I usually put it on the kitchen table or prop it up on a book, and stand about 8-10 feet away. That seems to give the most accurate perspective. Even if you don't post the pictures here it is helpful to have them for further reflection and future reference. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet/page/2#post-497902 Sat, 31 Dec 2011 17:37:45 +0000 Aziraphale 497902@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Velvetychocolate, I'm glad you wrote this post, because I'm one of the ones who doesn't post pictures! But I like to participate -- some weeks a lot, some weeks not at all. I've already made my excuses (for me the biggest issue is the amount of time it would consume) but it's good to have reassurance that thoughtful comments are still welcome despite my less-than-complete participation in the forum. :-)</p> <p>I'm like you in that one day I might start posting WIW, because there's been many a time when I've had a quick question that would have been easily answered if you all had a photo to look at. You know what they say a picture is worth, and all that. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet#post-497845 Sat, 31 Dec 2011 15:23:31 +0000 Mellllls 497845@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>denisep, im sorry if someone's suggestion that you posted a photo caused you to start participating less. i do think that it is much easier to help someone when photos are posted but the suggestion that you post a photo is just a suggestion. we are more than willing to help you without a photo! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet#post-497838 Sat, 31 Dec 2011 15:07:40 +0000 DeniseP 497838@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ana,</p> <p>Your comment touched my heart -- that people who take time to comment on WIWs and offer opinions, without asking for any of their own are giving a gift of their time. What a sweet of thinking about this!</p> <p>Lantana, </p> <p>Thanks for your insight;<br /> I understand what you're saying about having a receptive mind to hear the forum;<br /> I'm just not there yet, b/c I'm my own worst enemy -- a harsh critic of myself.</p> <p>I agree, that the spirit of YLF is nothing short of courteous, thoughtful, uplifting.<br /> Actually, it's been impressive.</p> <p>Velvety,</p> <p>You are too sweet with your kind words. Can you come to my house and daily encourage me?</p> <p>Lisa,</p> <p>Thank you...<br /> Yes, I am learning so much by viewing others' WIW, and reading the comments and blogs. I only wished that YLF had been around twenty years ago! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet#post-497619 Sat, 31 Dec 2011 03:14:11 +0000 Lisa 497619@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If you aren't comfortable posting photos I wouldn't worry. You can always learn from others WIW outfits for style ideas and tips. The only time I find it hard to comment on a post is when someone asks about an item to purchase with a link. If I do not know their style from their WIWs I find it hard to advise. But a really good description on a style goal may help with that type of question. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet#post-497558 Sat, 31 Dec 2011 02:15:26 +0000 velvetychocolate 497558@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Denise - I think you should keep asking questions and asking for advice. I've also had people suggest I post a photo as well, but I got the impression that it's mainly because it's so much easier to 'tell' about a particular outfit or item if people can see it on you! I'm thinking it's more likely that people really *do* want to help, and if they can't see the item/outfit on you, then it's a lot harder to offer up really good advice about something. </p> <p>In the meantime, I've gotten tons of truly excellent advice and feedback on all kinds of queries - so post away :)</p> <p>Re: photos - we'll get it sorted eventually - just a matter of finding a good spot, figuring out the camera, putting together a potential outfit and ...taking a whole bunch of pictures. I figure if you take a bunch, there'll be at least some that aren't so nerve-wracking to post. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet#post-497549 Sat, 31 Dec 2011 02:06:38 +0000 Lantana 497549@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So VC, you can see what an important issue you've brought up -and there are no pix attached! I'm chiming in again because I want to hail MrsE's point about being in a receptive frame of mind in order to "hear" the forum's response. After posting my first few WIWs I was too discombobulated by the effort to fully absorb the responses. Now I feel at home enough to really hear what the forum is saying-and in true YLF spirit it is unfailingly positive, pithy, thoughtful and courteous. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet#post-497489 Sat, 31 Dec 2011 00:46:30 +0000 DeniseP 497489@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm glad that you posted this issue, because quite frankly, I ditto everything you've said!</p> <p>I'm camera shy, and not very photogenic. Also, I have more bad hair-days lately than good ones and just don't want to open myself up for judgment here.</p> <p>When I first joined YLF this past summer, I asked a simple question about an item, and one of my responders simply said, PHOTO PLEASE. So, I have stopped asking. But I do read and learn lots that way.</p> <p>I understand that it's more fun to share/participate via photos, though. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet#post-497126 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 17:25:21 +0000 annagybe 497126@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It took me a year to even start posting, and another year before I even posted a pic. I wasn't sure if anyone was going to get or appreciate my style. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet#post-497117 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 17:17:12 +0000 Transcona Shannon 497117@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>VC, of course we want you to participate, photos or not. Everyone has something useful to offer on this forum. It took me 8 months before I posted my first WIW then I wondered why I waited so long! At first, I did NOT like looking at pictures of myself and was very self critical. But over time you become less self conscious and start to look at the photo in a more "detached" and less personal sort of way - it has been enormously helpful to me to have feedback from membesr on my outfit posts. But take your time and jump in with both feet when you're ready - we'll be here! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet#post-497067 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 16:28:58 +0000 Saretta 497067@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have had the same doubts myself VC, glad you put the question out there. I have posted photos 3 times I think and people's comments have been so useful, but I'm not sure if I'm completely comfortable with doing it yet. It can be hard for me to openly ask for others to pay attention to me in this way... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet#post-497061 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 16:18:59 +0000 velvetychocolate 497061@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so pleased to read these replies, and feel a lot better. I will eventually start posting pictures (I'm sure of it), it's just taking me a while...and I had wondered about this. Thanks so much!</p> <p>For me, it's a matter of finding a good spot plus just taking the plunge is a (nerve-wracking) factor for me. I've had my husband take pictures once or twice, but ended up really not liking the photos at all, and didn't want to ask him to take more. I have a new camera that I need to learn how to use (it's one of those digital DSLR cameras) - I can take a simple photo, but haven't figured out where the timer is, how to use it - don't know if we still have a tripod or not, it kept getting borrowed, and we've since moved. I did take a photo once standing in front of a mirror, but that camera is kind of bulky and got in the way, and in the end, the photo was too dark (dark hallway, mirror on inside of hall closet). In the meantime, I've replaced the battery in my smaller camera, so that should help me start with at least some of those 'mirror' type pictures, once I find a bright enough spot in the house. The front porch is a great spot, but ...too many neighbours and houses close by - I feel a bit foolish! </p> <p>Steph has it right - there's a lot stuff to figure out Add in the nervousness...and there you have it (very slow to post anything). </p> <p>Thanks again - I really appreciate these replies. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet#post-497030 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 15:18:21 +0000 chewyspaghetti 497030@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't think there's any judgement here about whether or not you post pictures. We have people who have been long time active members that don't post pictures whose opinion is valued just as much as those who don't- it's just a personal preference. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet#post-497026 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 15:13:47 +0000 morethanbeige 497026@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, VC, your comments are always welcome, no matter if you are posting pics or not! One of the things I love about YLF is that people participate at all different levels and are encouraged to do that. It took me a while to post pics, but the feedback is invaluable! And I am finding that because of it, I feel much less self-conscious IRL. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet#post-497022 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 15:04:11 +0000 mrseccentric 497022@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Of course everyone appreciates posters who don't post pix as much as those who do!! The ones who have posted pix know just how big a deal it is , especially at first. It takes a lot of time to figure out how to work your camera, a decent spot with lighting that actually shows the clothes, how do you stand, do you show your face, why do i keep making that face, then there's any photo-editing (cropping, transforming to proper file format), on and on. It can be a big learning curve!</p> <p>But first you must 'take care of head', as the song goes....you don't want to freak yourself out about it, you want to feel strong and able to hear what people have to say when you post a picture. Everybody understands that some people are sensible and don't jump in with both feet :)</p> <p>I'm glad you asked and so happy at everyone's responses! i think this will encourage all to participate however they feel comfortable! steph </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet#post-496943 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 08:29:04 +0000 AJ 496943@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, no need to worry about posting pics right away. Go at your own speed and comfort level.</p> <p>I always appreciate any feedback I get and it doesn't matter their style or pic posting level. So comment away! : P </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet#post-496940 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 08:27:30 +0000 rae 496940@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Even if you never ever post a pic, you contribute eloquent, thoughtful comments! This is not a I'll-show-you-mine-if-you-show-me-yours community - I think most ladies post pictures to aid their own learning process, not out of any obligation. If you are not comfortable, or if you don't need any specific outfit tweaks and are working at a more general level, then there is no need for pictures. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet#post-496938 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 08:10:53 +0000 Lantana 496938@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I too have absolutely no issues with folk who participate in the way you do, on the contrary I value it. I smile at how hard it was for me to get started with posting photos but everyone was so supportive. You will find the same when you're ready, whenever that might be. I agree strongly with Suz' comment. She said the same thing to me, about the learning really beginning once you begin to post photos. That has proved to be absolutely spot on. Anyway, thanks for starting this thread because I'm sure you're no orphan in feeling the way you did-but you don't feel like that any more, right? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet#post-496915 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 07:11:15 +0000 Deborah 496915@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>VC and Firecracker, your thoughts and opinions are very much appreciated. You will post photos when you are ready and please know that your participation here (photos or no photos) is invaluable. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet#post-496906 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 06:57:47 +0000 qfbrenda 496906@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>"BUT....to tempt you a little....I discovered that taking the pics and looking at them was already a huge step and taught me a lot, but posting them to the forum ramped up my learning at least tenfold. It's not just the comments that you get, although those are obviously interesting and helpful; as you know, this is an incredibly welcoming group and also wonderfully diverse."</p> <p>What she said!!! I learned a ton when I started posting pictures, though I cringe at some of the first ones I posted. Yikes.</p> <p>BUT please participate with or without pictures. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet#post-496894 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 06:01:46 +0000 Firecracker (Sharan) 496894@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>velvetychocolate, I'm glad you asked this question, because I was wondering the same thing. I haven't posted photos yet, because I haven't quite figured out how and where to take them easily. So I was a little self-conscious about offering opinions without taking the risk of putting myself out there with my own photos. I was feeling a little like the "armchair quarterback." Thanks for the encouraging responses, everyone! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet#post-496856 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 04:23:29 +0000 velvetychocolate 496856@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks again everyone - I really appreciate it. It makes sense to me though that you can't really offer up tons of advice without a visual, so I will get there eventually - but in the meantime, I'm very relieved and glad to know that it's ok to post/reply/participate in the meantime. </p> <p>Thanks a whole bunch Feeling much better! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet#post-496837 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 03:42:23 +0000 Angie 496837@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I echo the ladies, VC. PLEASE feel as welcome and meaningful here as those who post photos. We love your participation. </p> <p>I will add though, that it's easier to assist those who post photos with their style dilemmas, style delights and the next leg of their style journeys. We get a better sense of your style and "you" and can therefore support you to the maximum. </p> <p>I hope that we have reassured you, Velvety. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet#post-496833 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 03:35:12 +0000 Mellllls 496833@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>it was probably a year before i was ready to post a photo. and i still very rarely post them. so i see nothing wrong with participating as much as you like without posting a picture. i personally enjoy reading your thoughts and posts. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet#post-496831 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 03:34:34 +0000 Amy 496831@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love the commentary you offer, velvetychocolate. Pictures aren't required, although I'd love you see you </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet#post-496830 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 03:30:48 +0000 velvetychocolate 496830@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you so much everyone - I feel a whole lot better. It's not that I'm not going to post pictures ever, just that I'm a bit slow to jump in. </p> <p>Very glad to hear it's ok to post and participate anyway. Thanks I'm actually a bit teary, because I was thinking that if I didn't hurry up and post some sort of picture or WIW then I shouldn't participate here. I'm relieved to know there's no mad rush. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet#post-496823 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 03:21:52 +0000 Debora 496823@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Chiming in to ditto what the ladies said above! You most definitely don't have to post pictures in order to participate. That's what's so wonderful about the YLF community. I hope we get to hear more from you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/honest-question-about-posting-pictures-and-those-who-dont-yet#post-496817 Fri, 30 Dec 2011 03:16:30 +0000 Suz 496817@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ditto what Ana and Nicole said. Of course you can participate, and your participation is always valued! Your comments are always interesting and worth reading! </p> <p>BUT....to tempt you a little....I discovered that taking the pics and looking at them was already a huge step and taught me a lot, but posting them to the forum ramped up my learning at least tenfold. It's not just the comments that you get, although those are obviously interesting and helpful; as you know, this is an incredibly welcoming group and also wonderfully diverse. </p> <p>In posting your WIWs, you are making a commitment, in a way. Putting yourself out there, and that is risky...but in taking the risk, you grow. </p>