https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 24 Apr 2026 17:48:22 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up/page/2#post-1859857 Sat, 11 Nov 2017 04:35:59 +0000 Anonymous 1859857@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I just bought a Joie silk shirt at The Rack. The brand has some gorgeous silk peasant style tops. They would look awesome on you with your beautiful figure. I delude myself that maybe the gathering at the neckline will add an inch or so visually to my bust, but filling it out with the real thing would be so much better! Trade in those button-downs for peasant tops. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up/page/2#post-1859686 Fri, 10 Nov 2017 15:11:59 +0000 Janet 1859686@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>LBD, so true! I’m getting better at letting other miscellaneous stuff go. I don’t strive for minimalism but I hate clutter! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up/page/2#post-1859665 Fri, 10 Nov 2017 14:19:52 +0000 Mary Beth (formerly LBD) 1859665@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sell, consign, or donate.&nbsp; &nbsp;You already have listed a lot of valid reasons why you no longer wear or enjoy them.&nbsp; &nbsp;That happens - life changes, your needs and preferences change, and yesterday's super-useful workhorse doesn't pull its weight anymore.</p> <p>Having things like this in your home - whether it's clothing, knick-knacks, extra dishes, whatever... it's psychic clutter, pulling you down and bringing you guilt and low-level stress.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up/page/2#post-1859659 Fri, 10 Nov 2017 14:12:35 +0000 Janet 1859659@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You all have helped tremendously with the guilt of letting “good” things go. I will feel better with a little more space in my closet, and it’s helped me identify how much my preferences have shifted. I’ve bought silky button front shirts since then that have gotten wear, but they 1) are easily cleaned and cared for and don’t feel so dressy or precious, 2) have prints or patterns, 3) don’t have flap pockets, and 4) fit looser on the hips. </p> <p>I’m realizing lately that I prefer my solid color tops to be knits for some reason. Blouses and button-front shirts work for me better if they are prints. Odd, right? But at least now I’m aware of it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up/page/2#post-1859637 Fri, 10 Nov 2017 12:13:36 +0000 Bijou 1859637@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet I recently got rid of my old silk shirts, for exactly the same reasons as you. It felt very liberating to be rid of them. I have other shirts I much prefer and now I don’t feel guilty about the ones I no longer like or wear. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up#post-1859627 Fri, 10 Nov 2017 11:32:15 +0000 Staysfit 1859627@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It’s hard to let go of certain items. I’m glad you have sorted this out, It always feels good to make room for something else too. Once the decision is made to eliminate something old, I am always happier. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up#post-1859563 Fri, 10 Nov 2017 03:57:09 +0000 Jaime 1859563@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ha! I completely relate to this thread although must admit I just wore one of my two remaining equipment shirts a couple of days ago. (Attached lousy mirror selfie after a long day and before I tidied up.) I long ago got rid of my darker and patterned tops but still like the lighter ones as my white shirt equivalent (this one is blush).&nbsp;<br />&nbsp;Dress for Success, consignment, The RealReal, all great ideas.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up#post-1859555 Fri, 10 Nov 2017 03:06:16 +0000 Barbara Diane 1859555@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>They have served their purpose for you. Even though the time was less than expected. Time to thank them for pleasing you back in the day and pass them on.<br /> If you still think you want to sell them, I'd suggest putting a date on your calendar. If you haven't done it by that date take them to your niece or Dress for Success. Also, the equivalent organization by us doesn't only take professional work clothes as people starting over may work jobs with very casual dress codes. And they may need non work clothes also. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up#post-1859554 Fri, 10 Nov 2017 02:30:20 +0000 Beth Ann 1859554@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>As Angie says, "Sounds like you're sorted!"&nbsp; I'm glad you felt free to let these go. Sometimes lots of pretty garments can get in the way of a integrated wardrobe.&nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up#post-1859444 Thu, 09 Nov 2017 15:46:02 +0000 Marilyn 1859444@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sell them!&nbsp; I've felt the same way about letting things go but it's important to acknowledge that our style changes and what's the point of hanging on to things that don't make us feel great.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up#post-1859412 Thu, 09 Nov 2017 13:57:06 +0000 Anonymous 1859412@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You have been given many good ideas as to what to do with the shirts. I sounds like you would not wear them even if the style comes back or collars and pockets were removed. Next. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up#post-1859373 Thu, 09 Nov 2017 11:16:25 +0000 Scarlet 1859373@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I bet those shirts will make someone else really happy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up#post-1859365 Thu, 09 Nov 2017 09:13:13 +0000 rachylou 1859365@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes.., they’ve been on your ax list for awhile and nothing has turned them around... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up#post-1859258 Wed, 08 Nov 2017 23:06:52 +0000 Janet 1859258@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I may also offer them to my eldest niece — nice professional clothes are always good for her! And we like the same colors. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up#post-1859251 Wed, 08 Nov 2017 22:32:33 +0000 Suz 1859251@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Glad you are sorted. I am in favour of passing them along. Anything that annoys you that much is not worth keeping.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up#post-1859250 Wed, 08 Nov 2017 22:31:44 +0000 Sal 1859250@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I would at least pass on two of the three...</p> <p>There are clothes that we want to make work, or used to work, or should work, or are on the "Must Have" list, but that do not work for us.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p>Worst case scenario is that in a couple of years you regret handing them on....</p> <p>My take - you don't like anything fussy - your clothes are very clean lines and while sometimes layered or complex patterns or embellished, they are never fussy.&nbsp; And shirts that need tucking, with a collar that does not sit right, that cling in the wrong places - they are fussy no matter how beautiful.&nbsp; I love the look that Gillian Anderson wore on The Fall (a very dark show) but the silk shirt tucked in rucks up on me and never looks right.... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up#post-1859247 Wed, 08 Nov 2017 22:25:50 +0000 Chris987 1859247@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What everyone else said -) I especially love what karen13 said about things silently mocking us... LOL! </p> <p>I have a really hard time with this lesson too, but its best to not try too hard to like clothing. Too much energy spent on shoulda, coulda, and maybe. Listen to your feelings and let someone else enjoy them.</p> <p>&nbsp;I have 4 gorgeous cashmere cardigans that I've been unable to part with even though I haven't worn them in several years and don't see ever wearing them again. I finally got the brainstorm to ask my Mom if she'd like them and she said she'd LOVE them. Haven't delivered them yet but this will be a great solution.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up#post-1859241 Wed, 08 Nov 2017 22:06:13 +0000 gradfashionista 1859241@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m having my own struggle with oversized blouses and floppy collars at the moment—I feel your pain. I would try selling them on eBay or Poshmark because they hold up well, and even if you sold each for $40-$45, you’d still be able to recuperate around $100 net for them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up#post-1859238 Wed, 08 Nov 2017 22:01:47 +0000 RobinF 1859238@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have the same problem with letting something go. I figure I have already spent the money and maybe some day will have a need for this again. I am trying now to wear my questionable items and if it just doesn't feel good put it right in my to-go pile. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up#post-1859235 Wed, 08 Nov 2017 21:54:17 +0000 Anonymous 1859235@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Janet </b>-- It is none of my business, but if you have the choice between selling them and donating them to Dress for Success, I would like to advocate for Dress for Success. &nbsp;I have a good friend that works at a battered woman's shelter and the need is great. I can't imagine how happy you could make a woman in real need.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up#post-1859228 Wed, 08 Nov 2017 21:25:39 +0000 Janet 1859228@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lisa, I also find it reassuring that I'm in good company in trying to make those shirts work and not finding them the iconic versatile classics I thought they would be. I think I remember Una having frustration with hers as well?&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up#post-1859227 Wed, 08 Nov 2017 21:16:12 +0000 Janet 1859227@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I did enjoy them a few years ago, but the love has passed. :-)&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up#post-1859225 Wed, 08 Nov 2017 21:11:00 +0000 Anonymous 1859225@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I had the very same experience with Equipment shirts. Collected a few thinking they were such great, iconic pieces, and hated them every time I wore them.Yes, I'm that dumb. &nbsp;There is nothing in your post that suggests you even like them anymore - off they go. Let someone else enjoy your gift to them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up#post-1859219 Wed, 08 Nov 2017 20:49:05 +0000 Marlene1 1859219@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I sold my Equipment shirts via therealreal website and received between $16 and $25 each.&nbsp; Not very much, but the process could not have been easier - free shipping.&nbsp; They even supplied a box. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up#post-1859218 Wed, 08 Nov 2017 20:45:07 +0000 Janet 1859218@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>OK, you all have convinced me! Angie, that's a lovely idea. DFS would make excellent use of these. Perhaps I'll do that with some of my other dressier pretties that are going unworn.&nbsp;</p> <p>You all are so right. I just needed an additional nudge -- almost like permission -- to let them go. I'm happy to free up some room in my closet too. I've added some fab new things this season that I'm really excited to wear, which is throwing the stuff I <b><i>don't</i><i></i></b> want to wear into sharp relief, and making my closet feel a little overstuffed.&nbsp;</p> <p>Instead of one of the collared shirts, I ended up wearing a silk tunic length BCBG blouse in a favorite shade of cobalt blue. It is long and comfortable and roomy and skews a little dressier than my usual, but is still comfortable, and it is a collarless style that plays better with scarves and necklines. I'm wearing it with the new Paige black skinnies and the new Marc Fisher combat boots, which I debuted yesterday and am thoroughly enjoying. Much happier! Lesson learned.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up#post-1859216 Wed, 08 Nov 2017 20:41:43 +0000 jill58 1859216@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Away with them! Having these shirts around will just make you feel depressed. Sell them or donate. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up#post-1859212 Wed, 08 Nov 2017 20:24:21 +0000 Angie 1859212@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Off to Dress For Success they go. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up#post-1859204 Wed, 08 Nov 2017 20:13:05 +0000 LaPed 1859204@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, I know exactly what you mean about floppy collars! My only silk top right now is a crewneck for that exact reason. That plus the poor fit in the hips is plenty of reason to sell/consign. It will feel good to move on. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up#post-1859203 Wed, 08 Nov 2017 20:12:55 +0000 Sara L. 1859203@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Unless you can figure out a way to wear them that you love, I would let them go.&nbsp; It sounds like you've tried wearing them recently and that hasn't happened.&nbsp; Let go of the guilt and find them a new home. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/holding-zone-or-give-it-up#post-1859198 Wed, 08 Nov 2017 19:55:40 +0000 karen13 1859198@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You have figured out your lesson learned so now say goodbye. If you have success selling or consigning, all the better. I find I keep things in my closet far too long, and the mistakes just silently mock me. They bother me every time I look at them. When I finally do get rid of them, it is a relief.</p> <p> </p>