https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 22 Apr 2026 18:18:23 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes/page/2#post-1854923 Sun, 22 Oct 2017 19:07:38 +0000 Anonymous 1854923@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Laura</b>'s comment was pretty accurate.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes/page/2#post-1854922 Sun, 22 Oct 2017 18:48:29 +0000 The Cat 1854922@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You really have an amazing shoe collection. They all look ok (and some MORE than ok ), but I do understand if you are reconsidering which kind of heels you want to wear from now on. I have done the same in recent years. </p> <p>I think #1, #2/3 and #4/5 look particularly good on you.</p> <p>By the way, I think #1 is a GREAT picture of you. Nice proportions and colours, and a happy smile. And the boots, of course, are really adding to the fabness. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes/page/2#post-1854911 Sun, 22 Oct 2017 17:23:43 +0000 delurked 1854911@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I would like Laura's comment if I could. Very good way to interpret the data. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes#post-1854898 Sun, 22 Oct 2017 16:16:30 +0000 Laura G 1854898@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You can think of it as ignoring cost per wear, or you can think of it as using the information it gives you. A high cost per wear after several years indicates a purchasing mistake. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes#post-1854867 Sun, 22 Oct 2017 11:28:36 +0000 Anonymous 1854867@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Carefully chosen, of course. &nbsp;</p> <p>I am in the midst of a major closet purge. &nbsp;I am going through my wardrobe on an item by item basis. &nbsp;I purged four pair of shoes last weekend. &nbsp;I got rid of all the shoes that were worn/dated, yet I had been keeping in "case I need them for some undefined circumstance." &nbsp;It was hard. &nbsp;I had to put them in the purge pile and then I literally had to leave the house to drive them to the Goodwill so that I could stop second guessing myself. &nbsp;I had to quiet the voices in my head. &nbsp;Now gone, I feel only relief. &nbsp;</p> <p>And <b>Delurked</b> is right. &nbsp;I am ignoring cost per wear all together during this purge. &nbsp;If the item is not working for me, regardless of the cost per wear, I am purging. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes#post-1854785 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 21:48:27 +0000 Jenni NZ 1854785@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks to all. Special thanks to Approprio and Kkards. Certainly purple sandals and red rope soles are out. Likely green/grey patent also. And orange wedges likely by end of summer. That's half of them.<br /> I know you are right Sterling. The 2 pairs I wear for vintage looks will stay to make those looks, they fit the best. The final two will be on notice with yours and Angie's words ringing in my head. Anyway with 4 pairs gone it makes room for more! (Carefully chosen and much flatter!) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes#post-1854744 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 18:45:35 +0000 Angie 1854744@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>#16/17 are ill-fitting. So pass those on for sure.</p> <p><b>Jenni</b>, I have ZERO tolerance for uncomfortable shoes. I vote get rid of heels that you can no longer walk in. Full stop.&nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes#post-1854700 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 15:41:31 +0000 karen13 1854700@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>late to the convo, but I agree with those who say get rid of anything uncomfortable, once you have tryied stretching, etc. The orange and purple sandals look too big. I struggle with open toes for this reason. I am trying not to buy any sandals that aren't wide width - it seems to help me here. </p> <p>I quite like the looks of 4and 8. I prefer the more delicate straps to 6 and 10. </p> <p>I am envious of your ability to wear heels. ( laughing because autocorrect just made that "hells"!). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes#post-1854698 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 15:35:45 +0000 Laura G 1854698@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Sterling</b> is right. If you're not wearing them, there's your answer. I'm sorry to hear you're a size 36 because I was going to offer to take those red Mary Janes off your hands! :)</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes#post-1854694 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 15:26:51 +0000 delurked 1854694@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Been there, donated that. I stand with Sterling (per usual). Also agree the purple are an easy move along pair. The others look fine on your foot and/or cute to me, but none would be comfortable enough for me to wear any longer. YMMV. </p> <p>If it were me, I'd release myself from a cost per wear noose and consider a comfort per wear instead. If needed, keep two or three pair max to tide over dressier emergencies. Then consider what else is in your closet that you do or would substitute. And then think ahead to what you'd like to wear for dressier shoes and buy and wear one at a time to see if that indeed works.</p> <p>ETA - orange pair looks too big, and it seems like you should focus first on one comfortable black/neutral and one comfortable red/orange. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes#post-1854691 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 15:12:09 +0000 Anonymous 1854691@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry, <b>Viva</b>. &nbsp;Shoes really are that damn seductive. &nbsp;I'm sure most of us, including myself, have that same exact story in our history. &nbsp;The facts might change, but the story itself remains constant. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes#post-1854689 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 13:57:33 +0000 LaPed 1854689@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think I'm on Team Sterling on this one! Uncomfortable shoes have no place in my closet.&nbsp;</p> <p>Putting that aside, I agree with JAileen's assessment that 4,6,8,10 are the best-looking, and perhaps the most versatile. But they're all dark. Maybe purge the rest and add to your shopping list: one pair of light- or bright-coloured <b>wearable&nbsp;</b>low-to-mid-height heels. I like shoes in fun colours too. It's only recently that I've come around to the necessity of dark neutral shoes. </p> <p>PS the booties look great and you look happy in them!</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes#post-1854686 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 13:22:38 +0000 viva 1854686@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Congratulations, Jenni, on coming clean! hahaha! I know both how good and how bad that can feel. I'm not going to suggest anything about the many pairs of shoes you posted because I think you know. Your title ("mistakes") suggests a lot -- even if they are not all mistakes. And also, look how happy you are in picture number 1! Yes, those boots look like a great purchase. They look like they feel as terrific as they look. So congrats on those too.</p> <p>In exchange for your confession, here is one of my own. I bought these Kate Spade shoes while shopping with a friend in the late spring. They seemed to tick all the boxes - perfect heel, beautiful color with my skin, uber feminine which I thought would be a nice offset for my tomboy look, etc. But SUPER expensive. But I bought them anyway. Since buying them, I have worn them exactly once (in six months) and after two hours I had to take them off because of severe pain. They are by far my worst purchase of the year (probably 2-3 years) and I'd give anything to have this money back again.</p> <p>Shoes really can be seductive.</p> <p>I say, just be rid of the bad ones - meaning, the ones that hurt. No one needs pain they can avoid. I just listed my mistake on ebay, in fact. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes#post-1854678 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 13:02:53 +0000 Anonymous 1854678@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm with Sterling. I don't believe shoes date well to begin with, unless they are true classics (loafers , stilettos, espadrilles etc) , so I also come to this what that viewpoint. &nbsp;That said, if hanging on to some of these is the goal - I side with JAileen in picking 4,6,8,and 10.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes#post-1854674 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 12:26:22 +0000 kkards 1854674@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>i made my notes before reading thru the comments, so i see now that you've made a decision regarding some of shoes....but for what it's worth here are my thoughts.<br />#1 the boots...i think these look great. and if they are comfortable keep.&nbsp;<br />#2 red maryjanes--these look to big. are you walking out of them?<br />#4 black crossovers...are the crossovers to tight? hard to tell from the pictures, but look like they could be uncomfortable across the top<br />#6 black/silver pumps...not sure about these...is the pitch of the heel off?&nbsp;<br />#8 black maryjanes....FAB...fit looks great<br />#10 purple pumps..also like the fit here...look good<br />#12 organge sandal...too big<br />#14 red sandal...wow, these are high...IMO that says it all<br />#16 purple sandal...too big </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes#post-1854672 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 12:05:14 +0000 krishnidoux 1854672@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You are so right to keep 8-9, they look very nice on you. Keep if they are comfortable enough to be more than a 2 hr shoe.</p> <p>Shoes are such a difficult thing, since they're usually super expensive and, besides from making or breaking an outfit, they also often set the style tone for what you are wearing. Then there's the whol comfort issue.&nbsp;</p> <p>These all look like they are in pristine condition, You should be able to get some $ back by selling them (consignment or online). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes#post-1854667 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 11:03:48 +0000 Anonymous 1854667@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sigh. &nbsp;I am going to take another approach to this post. &nbsp;I see two things. &nbsp;One, the title suggesting you know in your heart that these shoes are not your most comfortable option. &nbsp;Two, the number of wears. &nbsp;If I had a pair of shoes that received only 4 wears since 2010, they would not be in my closet in 2017.&nbsp;</p> <p>Based on this post, all would be in the donate box. &nbsp;I need to soften this by saying I can't wear uncomfortable shoes. &nbsp;I only own one pair of heels that will likely be donated if they are not worn during the 2017-2018 Winter Season. &nbsp;I have no desire to ever purchase another pair of heels ..... ever. &nbsp;So my eye may be more jaded then the rest of the Forum. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes#post-1854662 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 10:22:39 +0000 Jenni NZ 1854662@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I knew there would be great wisdom here from you all! The very worst are the purple sandals. I don't know why I tricked myself into thinking they would be OK, they are 37 Euro and I wear 36. DD 2 said they were the coolest shoes I had ever bought and last time I wanted to cull them she said no. Her feet are a little bigger than mine, I think Euro 38. So the plan is there, I will say to her, if you want them take them away otherwise they go. $44 wasted but it could be worse. Never again will I fall for a colour like that and trick myself.<br /> Second worst are the red rope sandals. They may become a $16 ornament in our new home. I will never wear them.<br /> Third worst are the orange cork platforms. We are coming into summer and I do have some orange tops. They are more comfortable and I'll see if I may wear once or twice, out to dinner say, as part of a 70s inspired outfit. If not they can go too, at the end of summer.<br /> I'm intrigued by Joy and LauraG not liking the look of 4/5. Looking at the pics I think I may agree! Maybe the crossed ankle straps are not flattering? They were also not very comfortable and maybe should go. I'm going to sleep now, will see how sleeping on it feels. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes#post-1854657 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 08:27:23 +0000 approprio 1854657@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Heh. This while I'm trying to talk JAileen into taking a chance on the most comfortable looking shoes ever. There must be a word for that. Two-faced? Hypocritical? Schizophrenic?</p> <p>Thanks for the eye-candy. Depending on wearability, I think you should keep the first four pairs. All are timeless and seem to suit your style. I might also put the fifth into a holding zone for their vintage provenance.&nbsp;</p> <p>I won't comment on the fit, but the purple sandals are gorgeous. Maybe not quite your style? As for the cork wedge/rope heel styles, I know you could rock that look and there will be comfortable versions out there. I'm thinking Swedish Hasbeen.</p> <p>I really should sit down and write that guide to choosing and wearing heels so I can link to it at moments like this.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes#post-1854649 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 07:13:44 +0000 skylurker 1854649@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think #16-17 don’t fit.<br /> For the others : it’s down to your personal preferences and comfort level. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes#post-1854647 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 06:54:02 +0000 Dianna 1854647@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with Laura G and others.&nbsp; The purple&nbsp;sandals specially&nbsp;look very uncomfortable. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes#post-1854640 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 06:08:04 +0000 JAileen 1854640@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The ones I like: 4, 6, 8, 10. The others look either uncomfortable, too tall, or ill fitting. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes#post-1854639 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 05:55:45 +0000 Liz A. 1854639@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like 1-9.&nbsp; Would let the rest go if not being worn or uncomfortable. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes#post-1854638 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 05:53:22 +0000 Bijou 1854638@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The purple sandals do not look like a good fit to me. I would be surprised if these are comfortable. They have a high heel, look a bit long and don't seem to fit your toes comfortably. However, what a gorgeous colour they are. I too have fallen prey to pretty but too high shoes. I have definitely learnt my lesson, I have kept a couple of high heels (just in case I need to wear them) and also to remind myself NOT to buy any more high heels again because I just don't like wearing them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes#post-1854634 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 03:54:17 +0000 rachylou 1854634@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like the medium-height, 'wider' heels on you best. I don't like the spikier heels. I find you... more modern... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes#post-1854633 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 03:50:33 +0000 Laura G 1854633@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Bridgie, I agree with you about 4/5. It doesn't have quite the same delicate (for lack of a better word) feel as Jenni's other shoes do. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes#post-1854630 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 03:31:25 +0000 bridgie 1854630@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Another strike against 12/13, the orange wedge.&nbsp; I know you are wearing black with all these shoes and I don't blame you.&nbsp;It would be a lot of bother to have to change pants for every pair of shoes you are wearing.</p> <p>With that said, if you wore a printed dress or skirt. or even a printed blouse with that color in it and a solid bottom and call the color coral rather than orange, to my eye would work better.&nbsp; However, if you do wear them with black now is the season to do so.</p> <p>You do have a fabulous collection of shoes and you have put a lot of thought into the selection of each pair.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes#post-1854628 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 03:05:41 +0000 kellygirl 1854628@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Agreeing with Laura! My least fave are the orange wedges. They don't look as flattering on the whole. I think the red are just too high and the purple, while gorgeous, look too big. The others are all fab! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes#post-1854626 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 02:54:15 +0000 Anonymous 1854626@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with LauraG. A fall or broken ankle or hip just is not worth wearing anything too high or unstable, no matter how cute they look. I am not loving the look of 4/5 on you. I'm not sure what it is. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/high-heeled-mistakes#post-1854611 Sat, 21 Oct 2017 01:29:54 +0000 Laura G 1854611@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lots of cute shoes there, and the red patent Mary Janes are TDF. The only ones I see an issue with are:</p> <p>12/13 orange look unstable<br />14/15 too high for human feet<br />16/17 too big for you and also not your best look</p> <p> </p>