https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-with-visitation-outfit Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 16 Apr 2026 02:39:42 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-with-visitation-outfit#post-2336229 Fri, 25 Aug 2023 03:23:12 +0000 Barbara Diane 2336229@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m glad you found an appropriate and comfortable outfit.</p> <p>I always keep something to wear to a funeral as life can be unpredictable. But size changes, ugh. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-with-visitation-outfit#post-2336210 Thu, 24 Aug 2023 23:18:51 +0000 Anonymous 2336210@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My mother’s having to wear a &nbsp;winter dress to an August funeral years ago impressed on me the wisdom of having a suitable dark outfit or dress for any possible weather. &nbsp;Southern Ontario in August is not the time for navy wool. &nbsp;I don’t always manage to have it covered, but i do keep it in mind. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-with-visitation-outfit#post-2336207 Thu, 24 Aug 2023 22:50:50 +0000 Bee 2336207@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m a sucker for slim/skinny fit pants and tiny floral prints, although the lighter blue shirt would look lovely as well. What really caught my eye however was that gorgeous lace corset top in my absolute favourite shade of green. Totally out of the question for this particular occasion, I know. But I’m in love! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-with-visitation-outfit#post-2336135 Thu, 24 Aug 2023 08:30:47 +0000 Jenni NZ 2336135@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You’re quite a bit younger than some of us Helena- we’ve only had one person our own age die, my husband’s childhood friend- he had had cancer for 14 years though, then got another type of blood cancer, then finally Covid. But my cousin only 4 years older than me died of motor neurone disease, and otherwise it was all the aunts and uncles in their 80s and 90s over a 4 year period. So a funeral outfit or more than one that can be suitable, has come in very handy </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-with-visitation-outfit#post-2336108 Thu, 24 Aug 2023 01:10:47 +0000 Helena 2336108@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Finding this sidebar so interesting ... I actually like the wake (thank you rachy!) better than the funeral ... Funerals are more formal but wakes (or get togethers after the funeral) are where the stories and memories are shared! But that's perhaps cultural and also depends on how everything is done. </p> <p>I wore the navy and it was fine; blended in and it was a fairly casual affair so I needn't have worried. To Suz' point, I sadly think a ready-to-go funeral outfit is something I should sort out ... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-with-visitation-outfit#post-2336107 Thu, 24 Aug 2023 01:00:54 +0000 Jaime 2336107@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I also had to google visitation. Interesting. These small visits are done the seven days after the funeral in Jewish tradition (without the body present obviously). Anyhow, just a bit of comparative culture. Glad you figured it out.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-with-visitation-outfit#post-2336084 Wed, 23 Aug 2023 21:19:36 +0000 Anonymous 2336084@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>All those look fine to me- but wear the pants that are comfortable, don't triple Spanx! The last funeral I went to, I wore black and olive. I just went for the service, not the viewing. Only went to one of those, and regretted it :/ </p> <p> I don't understand why viewings are a thing. Yep- he's dead. Just making sure. So much cost and invasiveness. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-with-visitation-outfit#post-2336072 Wed, 23 Aug 2023 20:25:52 +0000 Suz 2336072@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Glad you are sorted, Helena.&nbsp;</p> <p>You've had several of these unexpected occasions lately -- one happy, and this one sad -- but it does make me think -- yikes, what would I do n a similar pinch?&nbsp;</p> <p>Answer: I think I'd feel pinched, like you!&nbsp;</p> <p>Hope it goes well.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-with-visitation-outfit#post-2336070 Wed, 23 Aug 2023 20:02:44 +0000 Jenni NZ 2336070@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks Helena! Definitely have never been to such a thing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-with-visitation-outfit#post-2336069 Wed, 23 Aug 2023 19:56:40 +0000 rachylou 2336069@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What did you decide, Helena?</p> <p>Another term for visitation is ‘wake’. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-with-visitation-outfit#post-2336065 Wed, 23 Aug 2023 19:40:07 +0000 Helena 2336065@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jenni, it's usually the day before the funeral, with the casket (sometimes open but usually closed) there for people to pay their respects to. Sort of like the Everyman's version of "lying in State". </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-with-visitation-outfit#post-2336061 Wed, 23 Aug 2023 19:16:43 +0000 Jenni NZ 2336061@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’ve never heard of a “visitation”. What is it?<br /> We only have funerals here? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-with-visitation-outfit#post-2336056 Wed, 23 Aug 2023 18:53:16 +0000 Roberta 2336056@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The last funeral I attended was both hot and rainy, and I was very glad to have black linen pants and a dark raincoat. Navy or charcoal grey would have been perfectly acceptable to me as well. Pants actually felt more respectful than any of my summer dresses. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-with-visitation-outfit#post-2336037 Wed, 23 Aug 2023 16:40:34 +0000 Laurie 2336037@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I wore navy dresses to both of my father's events in July. There were quite a few people in black head to toe. I wondered if I, as immediate family, should have gone fully traditional. It didn't even occur to me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-with-visitation-outfit#post-2336036 Wed, 23 Aug 2023 16:28:47 +0000 Olive Green 2336036@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Navy and black are great together. The nuns used to wear this combo, so it is, ah, liturgical.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-with-visitation-outfit#post-2336032 Wed, 23 Aug 2023 15:33:28 +0000 Carla 2336032@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Another fan of black and navy together. &nbsp;I wore a navy top with a black skirt and black shoes to the last funeral I attended. &nbsp;It was a stinking hot September day and no AC in the church. &nbsp;I would guess folks were 2/3 black and 1/3 navy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-with-visitation-outfit#post-2336021 Wed, 23 Aug 2023 13:16:01 +0000 Helena 2336021@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you Irina; I'll dig in the closet! I do love navy and black together, when I can make it look intentional. Thank you! x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-with-visitation-outfit#post-2336020 Wed, 23 Aug 2023 13:10:28 +0000 Irina 2336020@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Helena</b>, happens to all of us :)<br />I often wear navy and black and to me, it looks “traditional European” IYKWIM. If you go with a black blouse, try a black scarf with it for texture, if you have one.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-with-visitation-outfit#post-2336018 Wed, 23 Aug 2023 13:02:06 +0000 Helena 2336018@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks Irina - I just added another option, which is an old one, I actually wore to my Mom's funeral. More comfortable. I could actually do the black blouse with the navy pants.&nbsp;</p> <p>Appreciate the help and sorry for the drama - I'm having body issues over here with things not fitting the way they did a few months ago *facepalm* </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-with-visitation-outfit#post-2336017 Wed, 23 Aug 2023 13:01:06 +0000 Irina 2336017@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I see the navy option, seems better. Also try a black blouse with navy pants as an option.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-with-visitation-outfit#post-2336016 Wed, 23 Aug 2023 12:59:55 +0000 Irina 2336016@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I would wear that black blouse, Helena.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-with-visitation-outfit#post-2336015 Wed, 23 Aug 2023 12:56:01 +0000 Helena 2336015@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you L'Abeille! Great thinking -appreciate it!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-with-visitation-outfit#post-2336014 Wed, 23 Aug 2023 12:51:26 +0000 L'Abeille 2336014@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'd go with the black blouse. You won't feel in any way conspicuous, which suits both the context, and what I think I know of you.<br /> Good luck with the pants! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-with-visitation-outfit#post-2336012 Wed, 23 Aug 2023 12:38:22 +0000 Helena 2336012@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi friends, sorry, I seem to be a forum hog with lots of questions lately. Last minute going to a visitation today and I have little that's appropriate in summer-weight clothing (thank goodness it's mild today so I won't melt).</p> <p>Wondering if this shirt seems sombre enough, worn with black pants, shoes and purse ... it's very business-looking but still a true colour iykwim.&nbsp; High anglican visitation (not the funeral) for cultural context (he was a bishop so a big deal event for the family).</p> <p>I also have my Uniqlo black blouse but that might be excessively black?</p> <p>I'm going to need to triple Spanx myself into these bloody pants :(</p> <p>ETA - one more option. Navy skinny cropped pants and navy blouse. More comfortable. Pants are dated-to-my-eye though. Think I'm going to wear this. I need to be able to breathe haha.&nbsp;</p> <p>Thanks for your opinions!&nbsp; </p>