https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 15 Apr 2026 05:15:41 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear/page/2#post-2016680 Sat, 30 Mar 2019 15:13:40 +0000 SarahD8 2016680@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Awww, thanks for checking in!<br /> The answer is hahaha, noooooo. No new date night footwear as yet. We haven’t really been going out, which has reduced the urgency a bit (and is its own kind of issue, grumble grump). And I feel like there are so many “capsules” that need attention right now (she said, sitting on the couch with her elbow poking through the hole in her lounge sweater).<br /> I did thrift a black/gold metallic tank and bought a pair of black/silver sparkly socks for my date night capsule but haven’t worn either yet. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear/page/2#post-2016647 Sat, 30 Mar 2019 13:44:17 +0000 nemosmom 2016647@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hey Sarah! I was poking through old threads about shoes and wondered if you ever bought new date night footwear? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear/page/2#post-1993965 Sat, 19 Jan 2019 18:05:42 +0000 SarahD8 1993965@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jenni NZ I am definitely inspired by your use of metallic footwear!</p> <p>Christina those are really nice! I like the subtleness of the metallic. Too shiny/futuristic doesn’t seem quite right for me.</p> <p>Jussie I think that formula would work really well with your style, please steal away! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear/page/2#post-1993842 Sat, 19 Jan 2019 10:28:47 +0000 jussie 1993842@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ooh I love the formula of cami with fluffy cardi on top! Might have to steal that one :). I like the very first shoe suggestions, given by Molly Mac </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear/page/2#post-1993664 Fri, 18 Jan 2019 21:40:41 +0000 Christina F. 1993664@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>These are lower shaft metallic booties, but I love them and would wear them for a date night. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear/page/2#post-1993656 Fri, 18 Jan 2019 21:30:14 +0000 Jenni NZ 1993656@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yeah Sarah I'm thinking that your skinnies must be very skinny at the bottom, because Suz's pics show similar styles to my pics, what I have called skinny ( not actual jeans though).<br /> Metallic sounds good! ( No surprise for me to say that, right, me of the new bronze booties) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear/page/2#post-1993588 Fri, 18 Jan 2019 18:45:27 +0000 SarahD8 1993588@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Suz, thanks! These are helpful visuals. Looking at your photos, I'm guessing that my skinnies will be too skinny to wear over booties, but I'll experiment a bit.</p> <p>I'm homing in on the idea that a somewhat dressy, possibly metallic, higher-shaft bootie might be a good solution for this conundrum. I think such a thing could get wear outside of evening-out outfits as well.</p> <p>I do like those Aquatalia sock booties, especially at that price! (They are sold out in my size though.) Sock booties have not been on my radar but now I am seeing how they could be helpful, and could fit with my style. This is all very interesting. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear/page/2#post-1993485 Fri, 18 Jan 2019 13:53:04 +0000 minah12021989 1993485@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's winter. I guess a pair of stylish booties would do! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear/page/2#post-1993390 Fri, 18 Jan 2019 04:48:59 +0000 Suz 1993390@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I haven't read all comments yet or followed all links, but...</p> <p>1. I agree with Jenni that there is no reason you have to wear cropped jeans with short booties -- full length jeans will work with booties or shooties if you prefer.&nbsp;</p> <p>2. You can also wear skinnies with sock booties -- absolutely! I do it all the time. Most of my booties are higher shaft to wear with cropped jeans and many of my jeans are skinny or slim.&nbsp;</p> <p>First two booties in Finds -- I would usually wear with a sliver of skin (or stocking/ sock) visible and rolled/ cropped trousers.&nbsp;</p> <p>Other booties -- I would typically "close the gap" -- i.e. even cropped trousers would cover the top of the booties.&nbsp;</p> <p>I also have higher shaft boots/ booties that I wear with skinnies outside or tucked.&nbsp;</p> <p>Not great examples necessarily in the pics but the best I could come up with.&nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear/page/2#post-1993354 Fri, 18 Jan 2019 00:42:21 +0000 SarahD8 1993354@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks, Well Dressed Guy. Yes, it's fascinating how a lot of this is as much about how outfits feel as how they look. Lots of thought processes to unpack.<br />I like those glitter boots, fun! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear/page/2#post-1993332 Thu, 17 Jan 2019 23:38:23 +0000 Well Dressed Guy 1993332@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><div><br /> <a rel="nofollow" href="https://youlookfab.com/member/sarahd8/"></a> </div></p> <p> <div></p> <p> </div><div></p> <p> </div></p> <p> <div><b>SarahD8</b>, that clears things up.&nbsp; It makes sense, for one, that the flats don't "sand up" to the coat to you, the coat is for cold weather, but the flats to you are warm or less cold weather.&nbsp; I don't feel that they mismatch, but if they are a mismatch <i>to you</i>, then they don't work.</div><div><br /></div><div>I see what you mean, too, about tall boots being too everyday.&nbsp; Even though they can be <i>very</i> dressy if the rest of the outfit is the same, if you wear them every day I see how you are not able to feel dressy in them anymore.&nbsp; I get it, that dressy is as much a feeling as a look.&nbsp; That reply cleared things up a lot.</div><div><br /></div><div>I'm liking a lot of the suggestions so far in this thread, you basically need different variations on the styles.&nbsp; I checked around, and found a few things for your consideration, all with a 2" or less heel.</div><div><br /></div><div>I found this one in a variety of colors<br /></div><div><a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.amazon.com/XYD-Glitter-Block-Sequins-Booties/dp/B01LX0MCSY/ref=srecs_sabr_4?_encoding=UTF8&amp;pd_rd_i=B079ZL8TTB&amp;pd_rd_r=64d12f14-1aa4-11e9-a575-df1f649f28fd&amp;pd_rd_w=LFlDC&amp;pd_rd_wg=FRO2L&amp;pf_rd_p=261498e0-385e-4a88-ae9c-17101616d63b&amp;pf_rd_r=TG502RKY4433GC5AGK9C&amp;refRID=TG502RKY4433GC5AGK9C&amp;th=1">https://www.amazon.com/XYD-Gli.....ncoding=UT</a></div><div><br /></div><div>I found the website for this company, though they seem to have moved on to the spring and summer line already</div><div><a rel="nofollow" href="http://xydshoes.com/">http://xydshoes.com/</a></div><div><br /></div><div>Here's another, though it's a hair over 2"</div><div><a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.amazon.com/Coolulu-Womens-Glitter-Zipper-Booties/dp/B07HRB3P25/ref=srecs_sabr_3?_encoding=UTF8&amp;pd_rd_i=B07HRB3P25&amp;pd_rd_r=64d12f14-1aa4-11e9-a575-df1f649f28fd&amp;pd_rd_w=LFlDC&amp;pd_rd_wg=FRO2L&amp;pf_rd_p=261498e0-385e-4a88-ae9c-17101616d63b&amp;pf_rd_r=TG502RKY4433GC5AGK9C&amp;refRID=TG502RKY4433GC5AGK9C">https://www.amazon.com/Coolulu.....3?_encodin</a></div><div><br /></div><div>This one is quite a bit more casual, but it is a non-basic rain boot</div><div><a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.shoes.com/sakroots-mezzo-rain-boot/792031">https://www.shoes.com/sakroots.....oot/792031</a></div><div><br /></div><div>I hope these ideas help</p> <p></div></p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear/page/2#post-1992084 Mon, 14 Jan 2019 16:57:13 +0000 JAileen 1992084@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That was smart! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear/page/2#post-1992081 Mon, 14 Jan 2019 16:51:15 +0000 SarahD8 1992081@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yeah, waterproof + longer length are key for rainy weather around here. I bought the black one maybe 5-6 years ago. The zip-out liner makes it great for varying temps, but I would always hit a point in early March where I would go: I canNOT keep putting this coat on every day for the next two months! So last year I decided I wanted a navy coat for spring. Oh, I ordered and returned so many. So many! Finally I thought: hey why don't I just buy something that I know will fit? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear/page/2#post-1992069 Mon, 14 Jan 2019 16:21:01 +0000 JAileen 1992069@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Two! Mine is navy. I bought it mainly for travel. It doesn’t really rain here, it only snows, and it’s not warm enough for snowy weather, for me anyway, unless really layered up. But I’ve worn it a surprising number of times. It’s great for wind! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear#post-1992065 Mon, 14 Jan 2019 16:12:42 +0000 SarahD8 1992065@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I actually have two of them, lol! Black worn with lining in is my winter coat, navy without the lining is for spring and fall. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear#post-1992060 Mon, 14 Jan 2019 15:56:53 +0000 JAileen 1992060@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have the same coat! I would wear boots/booties with it. If it’s cool or wet enough for that coat, it’s too cool or wet for ballet flats. Mostly I wear booties with boot cut jeans. My climate is different, though, because that coat isn’t warm enough in the evening this time of year. I’ve been wearing a wool coat with a quilted lining. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear#post-1992051 Mon, 14 Jan 2019 15:14:13 +0000 SarahD8 1992051@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>WDG mostly the latter. Here’s a ballet flat that I own in a couple different colors:<br /> <a href="https://shop.nordstrom.com/s/sam-edelman-felicia-flat/3194852" rel="nofollow">https://shop.nordstrom.com/s/s.....at/3194852</a></p> <p>It’s a great shoe, but the sole is very thin, and the upper is quite unstructured. So yeah, not great for protecting the feet from winter.</p> <p>And, this model is my winter coat:<br /> <a href="https://www.patagonia.com/product/womens-vosque-3-in-1-parka/28567.html" rel="nofollow">https://www.patagonia.com/prod.....28567.html</a></p> <p>Perfect for my chilly, wet climate. But, the ballet flats don’t really “stand up” to the coat if that makes sense. When I wear the two together I feel “off,” and the combination seems seasonally confused.</p> <p>Re: tall boots, I think part of the issue is that tall boots and skinnies are SO ubiquitous to my cold weather everyday style that I’m drawn to find something different for evenings out — I want to switch it up, a break from my usual style that reflects the break from my usual life. But, the reason I lean so heavily on tall boots and skinnies is they are so dang practical! So it makes sense that they would be practical for evenings too. I do have a pair of black tall boots that are relatively dressy. Their heel is close to my 2” limit but still very comfortable. It may be that I need to reframe my thinking about boots and develop some night-out outfits with these boots that I’m excited to wear. I need to think on this some more. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear#post-1991947 Mon, 14 Jan 2019 05:18:54 +0000 Well Dressed Guy 1991947@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><div><br /> <b>SarahD8</b></p> <p>, I had a thought, I'm wondering if I'm misunderstanding something.</div><div><br /></div><div>When you say that flats are too unsubstantial, do you mean too plain and basic as far as style, or not enough covering for the foot for walking around in snow?</div><div><br /></div><div>Do even heeled tall boots seem too everyday?<br /></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear#post-1991944 Mon, 14 Jan 2019 04:59:03 +0000 SarahD8 1991944@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well Dressed Guy that’s true, cowboy boots aren’t really my style. With the current Western trend that means it’s hard to find booties that appeal, yet we must persevere. Re: jeans color, I do own black skinny jeans, and could wear them in this outfit formula. The finds I posted were just meant to indicate general silhouettes, not specific items or even colors. But, assuming black jeans, I run into the same questions: what footwear? Tall boots feel too everyday, ballet flats too insubstantial with winter gear, etc. I genuinely think this is a category problem, not a color problem. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear#post-1991943 Mon, 14 Jan 2019 04:34:17 +0000 Well Dressed Guy 1991943@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><div><br /> <a rel="nofollow" href="https://youlookfab.com/member/sarahd8/"></a> </div></p> <p> <div></p> <p> </div><div></p> <p> </div></p> <p> <b>SarahD8</b>, I was actually going to suggest cowgirl boots, like <b>Joy </b>and </p> <p> <div><br /> <a rel="nofollow" href="https://youlookfab.com/member/khodes/"></a> </div></p> <p> <div></p> <p> </div><div></p> <p> </div><div><b></p> <p> kkards</p> <p></b>did, but that sounded outside of what you were looking for, so I wasn't sure.&nbsp; Nothing wrong with skinny jeans, either, it was the color that was the problem.&nbsp; Maybe try a different color next time you purchase skinny jeans.&nbsp; That's probably why none of the shoes you've tried have been flattering, in all honesty, the color of the jeans.&nbsp; If a woman, on a date with me, were to wear what you described with black jeans...she would look so awesome.<br /></div></p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear#post-1991912 Mon, 14 Jan 2019 02:07:31 +0000 SarahD8 1991912@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks all! Ok, I am feeling clearer about this.&nbsp;</p> <p>I'll experiment with "scrunching" my skinnies as you suggest, <b>smittie</b>. <b>La Ped</b>, those are really helpful thoughts about juxtaposition. I know just what you mean. I'm really drawn to the idea of something vintage-y, especially a heeled oxford. I do have a pair of black ankle boots that I really like -- they are sleek and polished, but have a strap that is sort-of-riding-boot-sort-of-moto-boot if that makes sense. It&nbsp;<i>alludes</i> to moto-boot-ness. I'd love to be able to make those work. <b>JAileen</b> yeah, I like the idea of a metallic! Not with bootcuts for now though because I don't have any. <b>Jane</b> I'll look for <b></b>shootie<b></b> possibilities too.</p> <p><b>Jenni NZ</b>, thanks, those are helpful visuals. It looks to me like the jeans you are talking about are probably straight-leg jeans if they can rest on the outside of the bootie. I totally take your point about agonizing over shoes only for them to be invisible most of the night. It's so true. The interesting thing was that my internal response to your comment was, "Yeah, but it's not about how I look so much as how I <i>feel</i>!" Good thing for me to keep in mind about my motivations for this project.</p> <p>Ok, I may try to do a little outfit lab later this week. And I'll poke around Zappos a bit and see what I can find in line with the suggestions in this thread. This isn't a nut I expect to crack in a day (but it's okay, I likely won't even have another evening out until mid-February, lol) but it's good to get some ideas to start turning over in my mind.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear#post-1991899 Mon, 14 Jan 2019 01:27:37 +0000 Jenni NZ 1991899@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think I'm talking stylish Kiwis? Most of them I see out and about are well younger than me, I'm talking 20s/30s/40s not 50s like me. I think the jeans just sit at sort of ankle crease level, where the top of the foot begins? The jeans are not tucked in. I have no examples of me in actual skinny jeans, but in skinny pants/ponte pants/leggings? Pic 1 is my tall best friend and I after dinner in what happened to be matching leather-front ponte leggings. That was a girls' night and date night in one as we each had our DH there- the dinners are often like a girls night and guys night in one as the two men talk their things and we talk our things. Pics 2-5 are where I mean other's jeans might sit?<br /> And I was by no means suggesting the shoes were not important just that one can agonise about them and then they're not seen most of the night. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear#post-1991803 Sun, 13 Jan 2019 21:23:51 +0000 JAileen 1991803@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What about metallic booties with bootcuts? I really love the snake boots KKards posted. And they would be special. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear#post-1991801 Sun, 13 Jan 2019 21:20:26 +0000 LaPed 1991801@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think it's totally fine to "close the gap" so to speak between booties and skinny jeans. If the booties are very short, like right at the ankle bone, it will look a bit odd in most cases to have the jeans tucked in. But if you go with just a slightly higher shaft -- like the ones <b>kkards</b> shows -- then you can tuck to your heart's content. </p> <p>As soon as you mentioned vintage jewelry, my thoughts went straight to chunkier low-shaft boots, either a western style or a moto/harness style, because I love juxtaposition. In the opposite direction, I love the idea of a heeled oxford, mary-jane, or t-strap pump to add a vintage vibe and maybe create a signature style when paired with your accessories.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear#post-1991789 Sun, 13 Jan 2019 20:45:30 +0000 Anonymous 1991789@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You can wear booties and skinny jeans. The skinnies can be scrunched a little or you can roll them up to meet the top of the bootie. You can wear thin socks with the booties.</p> <p>You could try sock boots with your skinnies and long as they’re not too high. I think even with the sock booties, you’d want to roll or scrunch your pants.</p> <p>Nude knee highs seem unsexy to me too, but people only see the little tiny bit near your foot.</p> <p>With kkards’ examples, some of the boots have a wider shaft, which means you can tuck the skinny jean into them. For tighter shaft booties, you’d want to roll them up. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear#post-1991783 Sun, 13 Jan 2019 20:31:43 +0000 Jane 1991783@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I wear booties or shooties and I love the suggestions above. I don't tend to roll the hems of my jeans.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear#post-1991779 Sun, 13 Jan 2019 20:12:43 +0000 SarahD8 1991779@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you all for the excellent suggestions! And I am so glad many of you "get" the appeal of the silky cami + soft cardi/sweater combo. I will forge ahead with confidence when it comes to the top half. :-)</p> <p>Re: bottoms, OK, I think maybe I should have specified more in my original post. I am specifically hoping to wear skinny jeans with this formula. All of my jeans right now are skinnies. I am open to adding another style, like a straight-leg or slim boyfriend cut, but I'm soooo burned out on the search right now (buy-return, buy-return, buy-return, buy-wear twice-discard, etc.), I'm hoping to figure out something that will work with the jeans currently in my closet. So,&nbsp;<b>Janet</b>, that's why not a straight-leg or bootcut with pointy-toe booties...I just don't have any. :-(</p> <p>So <b>Jessikams</b> and others who mentioned <b>sock booties</b>...do you wear those with skinny jeans? Over the jeans or under the jeans?&nbsp;</p> <p>And, <b>JenniNZ</b>, are these stylish Kiwis in their full-length jeans and ankle boots wearing skinny jeans? If so do they just tuck the jeans into the boots? I thought that was a no-no. My skinny jeans won't stay tucked into my ankle boots anyhow -- the boot shafts are too short and narrow. Maybe I need a slightly higher shaft bootie, like <b>kkards</b> suggests? But I'm still not sure how those are supposed to play with skinny jeans, except for the rolled/cuffed option.</p> <p><b>Gretchen</b> yes, I think you're right about color and/or pattern being a good bet. So, <b>Well Dressed Guy</b>, I don't think I'm looking for a "basic black" flat, as it turns out. I really like the idea of a <b>metallic</b>, like <b>Molly Mac</b> and several others mentioned. That feels festive/dressy/special, and could serve as a pseudo-neutral so they could easily go with multiple top/sweater combinations.&nbsp;</p> <p>So, thinking about the shootie (omg <b>Bijou</b> I love those ones you linked to...a not-too-high heeled oxford in a interesting color/pattern/texture could be a great bet) / loafer / flats options. What do you all do about <b>hosiery</b>? I have to admit that nude knee-highs feel deeply unsexy to me. Perhaps in part because they inevitably fall down! Maybe shorter nude hosiery would be a better bet? Or like a fishnet anklet? But those wouldn't provide much warmth. You see the conundrum...</p> <p>Really it's just winter that's hard! Once I can ditch the big coat, ballet flats are just fine with the rest of the formula. And in summer I can do sundress/cropped cardi/wedge sandals or ballet flats -- easy!</p> <p>Apologies to those I have not mentioned by name -- please do not think your comments were less helpful! I'm just trying to capture/interpret the gestalt of the discussion without an even longer monster of a post...&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear#post-1991739 Sun, 13 Jan 2019 17:15:31 +0000 Anonymous 1991739@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree, you dont need to roll the pants, just have the booties peeking out from under! Also. How about pointy mules for mild weather? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear#post-1991711 Sun, 13 Jan 2019 16:14:40 +0000 Anonymous 1991711@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Try a pointy-toe. That will add a tiny bit of edge.<br /> I too think a soft cardi and cami is a little sexy and perfect for a night out. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-figure-out-date-night-footwear#post-1991707 Sun, 13 Jan 2019 16:07:41 +0000 Angie 1991707@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Dressy booties or shooties most of the time, and pumps or Mary Janes for Summer. </p>