https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-decide-6 Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 13 May 2026 09:41:34 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-decide-6#post-508409 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 14:48:48 +0000 Janet 508409@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Gotcha, Angie! Thank you, this is good feedback to consider. I'll give it more thought. I thought wearing it with more classic pieces would keep it from looking S&amp;M or too young. </p> <p>Lately I've been worried about looking boring. Hmm, maybe a midlife style crisis? I think you may be on the right track though, that a hair change will make a difference in how my style gels. All the edgy hairstyles that appeal to me work best on thick straight hair, and probably also look best on people who have beautiful cheekbones and jawline, which are decidedly not the best parts of my face. Fortunately, I think my hairstylist will have some good ideas the next time I visit him. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-decide-6#post-508353 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 14:08:38 +0000 Angie 508353@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for being a sport, Janet. I appreciate it. I hear you on it being a pain to straighten your hair. You know your hair better than I do :)</p> <p>On the harness, Rae took the words out of my mouth. To my eye, this reads "S&amp;M" unless you are wearing frilly white Baroque clothing. And that's not your look, Janet. Also, the age thing is gnawing at my mind. Just not sure about that part either, Janet. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-decide-6#post-508254 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 07:33:26 +0000 Mochi 508254@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Finally was able to access the etsy pic. Oh, as a member of the busty club I am truly wondering how the one-strap harness would work in your favor. But again, if you can return, it obviously won't hurt to try. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-decide-6#post-508239 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 06:57:54 +0000 rae 508239@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My concern would be that they can read as too "S&amp;M." o_0 In that regard, the caramel color is better, but I still get that vibe from them. They're pictured with really feminine/Victorian things - I think your edgy/rock vibe would be too much with something like this. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-decide-6#post-508208 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 06:10:51 +0000 Sally 508208@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like the single strap one AG suggested. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-decide-6#post-508205 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 06:04:58 +0000 catgirl 508205@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, did you see this one? The single strap makes it a little different and more minimal. I am in love with it.</p> <p><a href="http://www.etsy.com/listing/58719401/raven-black-leather-harness-belt-slanted" rel="nofollow">http://www.etsy.com/listing/58.....lt-slanted</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-decide-6#post-508201 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 05:59:34 +0000 Mochi 508201@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Of course, without seeing Janet actually wearing the harness I shoułd hold off my opinion. But I do remember another fashion blogger wearing one, and it looked very silly and awkward on her. Please make sure you can return before you buy (duh!).</p> <p>ETA and now with Angie, I'm thinking of a mare wearing a harness. Sorry! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-decide-6#post-508194 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 05:50:25 +0000 catgirl 508194@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Angie, I love that you wrote "Una Thurman" - I wish! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-decide-6#post-508193 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 05:49:38 +0000 catgirl 508193@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Love Audi's harnesses... I just saw one worn in a magazine today, a cognac harness worn over a kind of safari chic look, almost like a substitute for a belt and suspenders (so toning down the rocker/S&amp;M vibe). It looked amazing and I should have stolen the magazine from the hair salon! I vote caramel! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-decide-6#post-508016 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 03:14:47 +0000 Amy 508016@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hmm...I like the caramel-colored one best, but do wonder how that will look on a busty gal... is this something you could return if it doesn't work out for you? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-decide-6#post-508015 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 03:14:25 +0000 citygirldc 508015@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's a little S&amp;M for me (not that there's anything wrong with that). I would have been totally into that back in my college years. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-decide-6#post-508011 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 03:09:26 +0000 Janet 508011@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for the feedback, everyone! </p> <p>Angie, no need to apologize! I'd love to hear a little more from you on the anti-harness front. I value your frank opinion. Is it unwise with my slightly busty shortish torso? Or do you think it might read too young or steampunk? </p> <p>Here's my thinking: For instance, I have a few tailored, fitted woven shirts that I enjoy wearing but I like the idea of edging them up a bit more than just the usual jeans and belt or vest or jacket scenarios. I guess I'm thinking of the harness as a belt alternative that's a little more interesting than a belt. I'm wanting to try *something* new, accessory-wise. Maybe this isn't the right thing. If you have another suggestion for me, I'd love to hear it! I'm in a very experimental mode right now, so I'm willing to take some risks.</p> <p>I love your hair idea for me, and I would love to try it! I'm worried my hair just doesn't do that straight bob very well. I would be a slave to the straightening iron. I like the straks idea too. will be going darker and less red next time I get my hair done, and I'd like an edgier, shorter, more interesting cut than what I currently have. But it's not easy to make waves look edgy! </p> <p>Thank you!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-decide-6#post-507905 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 02:14:56 +0000 Refugee 507905@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with the caramel for the reasons you stated Janet. I look forward to seeing this in action. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-decide-6#post-507898 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 02:10:54 +0000 Angie 507898@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Not sure about harness - I could be a thumbs down on that, Janet. Sorry to be a mare :(</p> <p>But can we bob your hair "Una Thurman Pulp Fiction Style" and pop in blue or burgundy streaks? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-decide-6#post-507890 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 02:08:00 +0000 Aida 507890@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like the carmel, but keep in mind if you wear a lot of dark colors it will stand out much more than the black will. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-decide-6#post-507888 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 02:06:18 +0000 Carole 507888@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The Carmel seems like it would go ith everything kind of like a pair of cognac boots. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-decide-6#post-507856 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 01:50:45 +0000 Katherine 507856@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>definitely the caramel. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-decide-6#post-507837 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 01:39:40 +0000 Mo 507837@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am also a black defaulter when it comes to belts, jewelry, etc but I say go for the caramel. It's less S &amp; M lol. Seriously, though, the warm tone balances the edginess of the item to me.<br /> FWIW, I was toying with black vs brown on a Fossil belt I knew I didn't need but oh so wanted earlier today Saved from my indecision by SYC! <a href="http://www.fossil.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?R=Endeca.2643&#038;Ntx=mode+matchallpartial&#038;catalogId=10052&#038;Ntk=FossilSearchEn&#038;langId=-1&#038;storeId=12052&#038;Ntt=tweed+belt&#038;N=0&#038;productId=22275863" rel="nofollow">http://www.fossil.com/webapp/w.....d=22275863</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-decide-6#post-507830 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 01:37:04 +0000 Transcona Shannon 507830@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh I love her stuff Janet - have you ever checked out here blog (Fashion For Nerds)? It's always interesting.</p> <p>Anyway...I really, really like the caramel. I agree that it's more sophisticated </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-decide-6#post-507829 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 01:36:58 +0000 Suz 507829@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think they're both really cool, but I prefer the caramel and think it would work great with your colouring, Janet. Do you have some outfits you're imagining with it? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/help-me-decide-6#post-507828 Thu, 12 Jan 2012 01:33:14 +0000 Janet 507828@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>One of my style goals is to continue pushing into the edgier, more rock'n'roll side of my style (while still keeping things age- and lifestyle-appropriate). I've been eyeing AudraJean's harnesses for nearly a year, and I'm going to order one. I think it would be fun over woven tops, dresses, etc., without being too over-the-top or steampunky. </p> <p>I'm trying to decide whether black or caramel would be a better choice. I usually default to black, but I'm thinking that caramel might be a little less predictable and a little more sophisticated. </p> <p>Here's the caramel:<br /> <a href="http://www.etsy.com/listing/72296732/jane-light-leather-harness-in-summery?ref=v1_other_1" rel="nofollow">http://www.etsy.com/listing/72.....v1_other_1</a></p> <p>Here's the black:<br /> <a href="http://www.etsy.com/listing/62357135/leather-harness-belt-jane-doe-black-glam?ref=v1_other_2" rel="nofollow">http://www.etsy.com/listing/62.....v1_other_2</a></p> <p>What do you think? </p>