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YouLookFab Forum » Topic: hello again https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379 Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 25 Apr 2026 07:02:20 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 <![CDATA[Search]]> q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php jackiec on "hello again" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379#post-1446802 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 22:48:56 +0000 jackiec 1446802@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. It's nice to hear from you. Good luck with the checker job; I hope it works out. Hey, I totally hear you on the midlife thing. The fact that you are focusing and putting thought into things is a good thing. Wishing you good things Alassë on "hello again" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379#post-1446780 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 22:16:34 +0000 Alassë 1446780@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Sounds like good news on both job and wardrobe fronts, Mo. Hang in there! Mo on "hello again" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379#post-1446720 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 20:40:03 +0000 Mo 1446720@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thank you all again.  Today is the memorial and I'm working it since it's at my golf course job.  BF and another friend thought it odd I'd work it, but it seemed natural as can be for me to be on the other side of the bar.  Heck, I spent many an hour with my friend while working my side of the bar.  Nothing out of the ordinary there!  Ends up no one else but my manager is going to be working so it's probably a good thing I volunteered.  It was very last minute, so I figured the other girls would have trouble with schedules.  I've worked 2 shifts at the grocery, both early 8am starts.  I think I like it so far.  My next shifts are 11:30 to 8:30, which I think the bulk of them will turn out to be.  Will see how those compare.  The pizza guy seemed surprisingly okay with me just checking in each week I get my grocery schedule to see if I could fill in a day or two for him.  And I do still have 5 golf course shifts for the month.  Things seem to be falling into place.  I am realizing that my options for getting dressed out of uniform are narrowing by the day.  I hate to say it, but I might be okay with taking a whole year off of clothes buying and still have plenty new and exciting to pull from my closet.  Whether that means I actually do stop shopping remains to be seen.  But I sense a very big slow down if not.  I am stopping for Lent at the very least. Okay, off to putter before my 3pm shift.  Stay fab ladies!   Karie on "hello again" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379#post-1445112 Sat, 21 Feb 2015 03:29:25 +0000 Karie 1445112@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I am so sorry to hear about your friend. I do miss you around here, but totally understand your need to re-evaluate what's happening in your life right now. I wish you the best. Eliza on "hello again" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379#post-1444463 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 16:01:25 +0000 Eliza 1444463@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Sending positive thoughts to you, Mo.  Transitions can be so draining, even as they provide a chance to re-group as you describe. Best to both of you and thanks for checking in.  texstyle on "hello again" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379#post-1444452 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 15:30:57 +0000 texstyle 1444452@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Mo, too bad about the BFs job - that's rough. Character building? I wonder if you've ever tried baking? Thinking of the OCD part and how you have to measure everything "just so" and get the consistency and timing "just so", not to mention heaving those big bags of flour around.  I'm baking bread today - waiting for the autolyse right now so I can go knead for ten minutes and then wait for the "magic" of the rise. Mo on "hello again" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379#post-1444317 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 04:36:55 +0000 Mo 1444317@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Nice to 'see' many of you again!  Thanks for the kind words.  I have caught a nasty cold to add to everything.  Worked through it the last 2 nights at pizza, as I don't want to be the schlump that just didn't show on her last few shifts.  Hope it's gone before my new job starts.  I should have mentioned that BF landed his car job here in town for once, and he pretty much hates it.  Never off.  I mean like 1 or 2 days a month.  And 10 to 14 hours on most days, with just Sunday being a 6 hr shift if all goes well (often it goes hours longer).  Half the pay of FL to boot.  Yeah, things are a bit tough but I think we'll come out the other side with more clarity about what we really want to make us happy and how we want to fill our time together.  We'd half heartedly planned to make Mardi Gras this year but that fell through.  We need to do a little something even if it's an overnighter to SF or something. Anyway, I know many others are at crossroads as well and it's an interesting place to be.  Rachy, didn't know you were a checker but I can totally see it!  Hope I really like it.  I know the OCD part of me will enjoy stocking the shelves LOL.  Even hoisting the 40lb bags of dog food on my short stint at the pet store was fun organizing all the bags by alternating colors, etc.  Gotta find those silver linings, right?!  shedev on "hello again" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379#post-1444181 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 23:18:07 +0000 shedev 1444181@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Mo, I'm really sorry for your loss. I hope you find a job that suits you soon. harmonica on "hello again" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379#post-1444019 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 17:20:54 +0000 harmonica 1444019@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'm so sorry about your friend, Mo. I miss you, but fully understand. Take care and all the best for the time to come. I also support what caro says. milehighstyle (Linda) on "hello again" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379#post-1443978 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 15:34:48 +0000 milehighstyle (Linda) 1443978@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Mo, I'm so sorry about your friend.  Take care of you and those you love.  I hope the new job is a good fit.  It's always good to hear from you. Sara L. on "hello again" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379#post-1443952 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 14:41:52 +0000 Sara L. 1443952@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.  I hope you are able to find the clarity you are looking for and the change in your work situation is a positive one.  I know what you mean about the shopping triggers on YLF.  I have to constantly remind myself that I have plenty of clothes and don't need anything. rachylou on "hello again" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379#post-1443882 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 07:43:56 +0000 rachylou 1443882@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Mo, it's so good to hear what you're up to, but so sad to hear about your friend. How terrible. Life in a grocery is a good one. I was a checker. No doubt I should have switched from being a writer primarily to being a checker primarily when I had the chance. catgirl on "hello again" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379#post-1443746 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 01:05:53 +0000 catgirl 1443746@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Hey Mo, I haven't been around much either - we've had lots of life events and I'm in a bit of a funk too.  PM me here or on FB if you need to chat as I could use a lift too! :)  So sorry about your friend.  My SIL's sudden death last year really forced me into a reevaluation/crisis mode, as she was my age.  Life can be cruel and random but also lovely and joyful.  Just hard to accept that we're not always in control of it. Janet on "hello again" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379#post-1443521 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 15:07:29 +0000 Janet 1443521@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Mo, I was all excited to see a thread from you, so I'm so sorry to see that it's not been an easy time for you lately. I'm especially sorry to hear about your friend. That's just awful. I've decided that these phases in life are almost inevitable. Times like this are frustrating and feel like ruts, but I think they can help you take a breather and gear up for the next phase, whatever it may hold. I've been through it, my husband has been through it, and I think a lot can be going on inside you, under the surface, even though it feels like you may be stagnating. I hope the new job helps give you a little kick-start! Winter is not the easiest time either. At any rate, I'm sending good thoughts and hoping things improve! I understand the need to lessen distractions -- I'm feeling that too. Suz on "hello again" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379#post-1443410 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 04:53:39 +0000 Suz 1443410@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Mo, I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. What an awful shock for you, and no wonder you're re-evaluating. I know you were doing that anyway, but that must bring it all home much more clearly.  I hope the job situation works out for you and you find something that brings you a sense of community connection, decent hours, the money you need, and a feeling of contribution. You deserve that.  I miss you, but absolutely understand the need to step away!  abc on "hello again" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379#post-1443359 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 01:54:25 +0000 abc 1443359@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Wish I had something profound to say. I'm sorry for your loss and totally get why sometimes we need to step back from here and life in general. I'm kind of in a funk myself too. Anyway, it was great to hear from you. Check in as often as you feel like it. We'll probably always still be here. Meredith on "hello again" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379#post-1443320 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 00:00:05 +0000 Meredith 1443320@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Oh Mo, I'm so sorry. I'm also going through a period of significant change and personal loss and lack of work identity. Evaluating life can be exhausting and sometimes it all feels hopeless and aimless, and that feeling is so discouraging when you're used to being positive and structured. I hope things start looking up soon. Aziraphale on "hello again" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379#post-1443317 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 23:50:19 +0000 Aziraphale 1443317@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I miss you! Your life does sound very busy at the moment. It's funny how life goes like that sometimes. (Part of me is thinking, welcome to midlife...because I feel like mine is spinning out of control sometimes, too). I'm so sorry about your friend. Looking forward to hearing from you whenever you feel like popping in. Alassë on "hello again" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379#post-1443293 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 23:03:38 +0000 Alassë 1443293@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'm really sorry to hear all the stuff that's been going on, Mo.  Deborah on "hello again" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379#post-1443288 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 22:33:57 +0000 Deborah 1443288@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Mo, I am so sorry to hear about your friend.  And it sounds like you are going through a time of challenge and re-evaluation.  Hang in there.  Sending positive thoughts your way. Diana on "hello again" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379#post-1443286 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 22:28:38 +0000 Diana 1443286@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'm so sorry to hear about your friend, Mo. Hoping the new job and new outlook on life bring you fulfillment. Mo on "hello again" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379#post-1443279 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 22:20:17 +0000 Mo 1443279@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thanks guys.  I know tragic things happen to us all.  I usually keep things like that to myself, honestly, but it was more how it drove home what I was already feeling that makes it the proverbial icing on the cake. I'm really hoping the new job creates the shift I'm needing. Will come back by and let you all know how it's working out  Stay fabulous!  texstyle on "hello again" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379#post-1443253 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 21:35:52 +0000 texstyle 1443253@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Hey Mo, I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a friend can really hit us hard - and to have it happen so unexpectedly. I hope you are taking good care of yourself. A change in career is also very disrupting to personal life - so having both of these things happen really is challenging. I'm going to PM you with some other thoughts about work, etc. Caro in Oz on "hello again" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379#post-1443249 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 21:29:37 +0000 Caro in Oz 1443249@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ So sorry about your friend Mo. I think being unsettled is the beginning of change & growth so hang in there. Are there any courses or classes you feel interested in? I find them a good way of finding some structure. I would also recommend yoga - it deals with the mind & body Sal on "hello again" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379#post-1443217 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 19:47:09 +0000 Sal 1443217@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thanks Mo for sharing. Sorry to hear about your friend, that is very hard and cruel. I hope that you find what you are looking for, sometimes life takes you a step sideways or backwards to allow you to leap forward again. Laura (rhubarbgirl) on "hello again" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379#post-1443215 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 19:44:41 +0000 Laura (rhubarbgirl) 1443215@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Mo, I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. That's just horrible. Take care of yourself and I hope that the new job is all you hope for. I know what you mean about distractions having their pluses and minuses. Starting in December I stopped watching TV on weeknights - and rapidly found myself eating more, and not when I was hungry, just because I was bored. It's frustrating to feel like it's one step forward, two steps back with these sorts of ways we try to make ourselves better people... Mo on "hello again" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hello-379#post-1443210 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 19:26:59 +0000 Mo 1443210@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Been a while.  I stop by maybe once or twice a month these days but rarely log in.  Life has been full of change.  More so than I ever remember. After coming back to the same job off and on for over 20 years I no longer work there.  I have had no less than half a dozen job interviews and applied in person at no less than a dozen places this last 2 months.  I got, and promptly left, a pet store job once I realized I had to touch a tarantula and snake.  Next!   Now I am at a pizza parlor in the evenings close to my home.  It's okay, but the days are getting away from me.  I feel like I'm living on hold waiting for my shifts to start.  I still have the golf course banquets but this time of year it's 3 or 4 days a month.  On deck is a checker job at an independent grocery in my neighborhood.  I start Saturday.  I imagine I will have to quit the pizza, or only do 1 or 2 days a week at most.  So now I essentially have 3 jobs.  LOL.  I also lost a friend in an accident this Friday.  He worked at Safeway as the butcher and I was all excited to share my news of my grocery job with him.  Got run over trying to cross the street.  So many of us have heavy hearts right now, and it drives home the fact that sitting on my couch, wasting my hours away just waiting to work is not how I want to spend the time I have.   I think the whole midlife reevaluation thing is smacking me right across the nose.  I'm unsettled and indifferent and just kind of blah in general most days.  I have been working on less shopping and less wine sipping to try and focus better and not just distract myself from whatever it is that's eating at me below the surface.  I'm happy with my closet and don't need for anything new at this point.  I've done my winter shop for the season and won't be shopping again until May for the warm weather season.  Leaves me time to evaluate life I guess.  Hoping the new job brings fresh perspective and a rejuvenation of sorts.   So, anyway, that's what Mo's been up to in a nutshell.  I will probably still stay off the forum for the most part, as it doesn't help me in my effort to balance life.  It actually is an excellent distraction, but I don't need distractions right now.  I do miss chatting with many of you, but the shopping triggers are too much for me.  I know you all understand!