https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Mon, 27 Apr 2026 21:28:52 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted/page/2#post-1127896 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 18:48:06 +0000 Sarah A 1127896@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Such sad news Beth Ann. I dont have anything to add, but wanted to acknowledge this hardship. My heart breaks for your family. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted/page/2#post-1125076 Tue, 31 Dec 2013 01:31:32 +0000 Linda 1125076@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry Beth Ann.&nbsp; I lost my Mom, my best fashion friend, last summer, after a very long battle with dementia.&nbsp; There is a LOT being explored about this kind of condition and there have even been a couple of first person accounts published.&nbsp; I would look for those and see what they may offer.&nbsp; You may want to prepare yourself to fight against letting the Diagnosis cloud who your SIL is, herself.&nbsp; Dementia robs us of a lot of our personalities, and yet I think in many ways those likes, dislikes, and quirks are probably still inside us,&nbsp; it's just confusing for those around us.&nbsp; I really hope some of the newer approaches can help your family and stave off some of the worst, scariest symptoms.&nbsp; I know it's hard and it has to be crushing to have someone so young in the clan stricken.&nbsp; Be strong, but also be kind to yourself, it's a difficult path. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted/page/2#post-1125049 Tue, 31 Dec 2013 01:04:01 +0000 Beth Ann 1125049@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>We've made the trip back from Kansas -- but just to my Mom and Dad's home in Indiana.&nbsp; Ready to relax and release here for a day or two.&nbsp; DH and I may steal some time together, too.</p> <p>It was a difficult trip, but I'm glad we went.&nbsp; Thanks for your encouragement and sharing of experience with this horrible disease.&nbsp; Since speaking is so difficult for her, phone conversations are out, and she lives halfway across the country.&nbsp; I have plans to send little care packages every month or so. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted/page/2#post-1124979 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 23:37:27 +0000 carter 1124979@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Beth Ann, I am so very sorry to hear about your SIL. My dad was diagnosed with Parkinson's (and associated dementia) about 62. That was too young. 49 is just heartbreaking. I don't know if the dementias of Parkinson's and Alzheimers present similarly, but in my dad's case, his long term memory held on til the end. One of the things that gave him the greatest pleasure was recounting old stories/memories. As her disease progresses, if she still has long term memories, be sure to give her an outlet to recall these blessings. My thoughts are with you and your family. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted/page/2#post-1124715 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 17:59:08 +0000 celia 1124715@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Big hugs to you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted/page/2#post-1124520 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 10:34:17 +0000 Mander 1124520@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, this is so sad.&nbsp; A friend of mine went through this illness in her family and it was very difficult for her.&nbsp; I hope that you had a nice time together. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted/page/2#post-1124471 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 05:43:41 +0000 TraceyLiz65 1124471@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just a year yonger than her... such shocking news, must be so hard on everyone who loves her, but most of all on her. &nbsp;Keeping you all in my prayers and your kindness to her is the best gift you have to offer!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted/page/2#post-1124439 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 04:20:29 +0000 karymk 1124439@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh that is not good Beth Ann. How sad to know you are going to watch her deteriorate. The best you can offer is yourself and it sounds like you are doing just that. The poor thing must be in a panic, as the whole family is I imagine. </p> <p>I know you will be a good friend to her and the rest of the family as you go through this. so sorry honey! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted/page/2#post-1124127 Sun, 29 Dec 2013 19:52:06 +0000 Alassë 1124127@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry, Beth Ann. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted#post-1124085 Sun, 29 Dec 2013 17:51:14 +0000 Karie 1124085@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry for you and your family. How wonderful of you to sit at the piano and play for her while you both sang, and to take her shopping. I'm sure you are a terrific source of strength and support for her during this difficult time.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted#post-1123919 Sun, 29 Dec 2013 04:15:59 +0000 deb 1123919@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Beth Ann, such heart breaking news. It sounds like you had some enjoyable time with her. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted#post-1123819 Sun, 29 Dec 2013 01:30:00 +0000 Echo 1123819@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry about this diagnosis. Your strength and grace and compassion all come through loud and clear in your post, and despite past differences, it is clear that you are a blessing to your SIL and their family. She is so painfully young to be experiencing this, and I am sure that her siblings are terrified of the genetic component and wondering about their own health. How wonderful that you were able to take her shopping, and playing piano and singing is likely something the two of you can do even after many of her other memories are gone (music is often the last to go, and people still enjoy humming and listening, even when the words aren't there. I am so sorry, and I wish you all peace and I hope her symptoms slow down in the coming year. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted#post-1123818 Sun, 29 Dec 2013 01:26:40 +0000 Peri 1123818@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry to hear about this. That is a really scary thing for her and for your whole family. And to be happening so young makes it even worse. </p> <p>And you are right, as Tanya has taught us, that we don't have to know what to do, we just have to be there. </p> <p>And about size, who cares when you can sing?! Everyone is envious of people who can sing. Skinny is nothing compared to that! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted#post-1123682 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 21:15:14 +0000 Angie 1123682@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry to hear about the sad news, Beth Ann. I am sure you are a world of comfort to your family. Also loving your ongoing warm, giving, kind, emotionally intelligent&nbsp;and positive attitude. We can all learn from you. xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted#post-1123573 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 18:07:40 +0000 Diana 1123573@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry, Beth Ann. &nbsp;This is such sad news. &nbsp;I am glad you can be there for her and offer her comfort and support. &nbsp;You are such a wonderful person. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted#post-1123570 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 18:04:55 +0000 LACeleste 1123570@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Beth Ann,</p> <p>I am so sorry.</p> <p>This is heartbreaking news. &nbsp;Keeping you and your SIL in my prayers.</p> <p>I love your posts and am always struck by how beautiful and kind and smart you are. &nbsp;You have many gifts. &nbsp;I am happy you can be there for your&nbsp;SIL. Music is a life force. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted#post-1123515 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 16:11:50 +0000 Suz 1123515@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love what you said to Tanya. What a gift to her -- to know that her difficult experience has helped you to do better with someone else in need. Being there is often all we can do and yet it can be so difficult. Wishing you strength and courage.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted#post-1123513 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 16:05:36 +0000 ManidipaM 1123513@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That is hard indeed to accept. Especially so early when there should be many good decades ahead!</p> <p>I hope she has as much thoughtfulness from the rest of her family and friends to count on as you have for her. I too was thinking of Tanya's predicament when I read this... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted#post-1123481 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 15:07:03 +0000 kkards 1123481@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry, I can't imagine how stressful this must be on all of you. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted#post-1123475 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 14:55:30 +0000 Beth Ann 1123475@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My heart is lifted and encouraged by your outflow of support! &nbsp;Thanks so much for taking time out of the holiday shuffle to comment.</p> <p>Today is warm. &nbsp;The sun is out and, compared to Chicago, it's balmy and expected to rise to 55 degrees. &nbsp;I'm planning to take a long walk down&nbsp;to the Kansas river to watch the eagles nesting there. &nbsp;A little quiet and a little prayer. &nbsp;There will be more singing, and a little shopping, I think. &nbsp;My SIL has always been very "put together," and helping her stay that way is a gift that YLF has helped prepare me to give!</p> <p>Amy: &nbsp;I've always felt you and I would find lots of things in common, but I'm sorry to hear that your FIL is facing the same illness. &nbsp;Blessings on your family!</p> <p>Tanya: &nbsp;I've thought of your situation, and the struggle of a caregiver in my church family, who has also found herself too alone, too. &nbsp;You experience has&nbsp;strengthened my resolve to "be there" even when I don't know what to do. &nbsp;I hope and pray that some of your friends learn this lesson, too. &nbsp;Sometimes I think our culture encourages a gross immaturity when it comes to dealing with the hardships of others -- as if it were catching, or as if by pretending we can all stay young, wealthy and hip forever. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted#post-1123467 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 14:40:06 +0000 Susie 1123467@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Beth Ann, I am so sorry to hear of such a sad diagnosis for your SIL. I'm not sure I even knew that it can affect someone so young. You are a wonderful woman and I'm sure she so appreciates having you in her life. </p> <p>Big hugs to you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted#post-1123461 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 14:36:03 +0000 Windchime 1123461@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Beth Ann, I'm so sorry to read about your SIL's diagnosis. She is much too young, and the entire family must be shocked and grieving. You are wise to make memories with her as long as possible. You will be able to connect with her through music long after she slips away in other ways. Blessings to you and your family. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted#post-1123454 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 14:22:31 +0000 amiable 1123454@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Beth Ann - that sounds awful! And so young!&nbsp;My Father-in-law (62)&nbsp;was diagnosed similarly early this year (though we'd been seeing signs of it for years and he's accepted the diagnosis). &nbsp;He's fading quickly, and this year made me realize that we won't have him for very more Christmases. &nbsp;We're fortunate to see him every week, and I know we'll get to spend lots of time with him through the next several months and, I hope, years. &nbsp;But it's sure not fun to watch, is it?</p> <p>Big hugs! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted#post-1123449 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 14:14:30 +0000 Janet 1123449@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry, Beth Ann. She is so young for such a devastating diagnosis. You are so wonderful to support and love her through this. I wish the medical community would find some true treatment for Alzheimers. Sending big hugs to you and your family. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted#post-1123432 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 13:18:35 +0000 pil 1123432@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry, Beth Ann. How nice though that you were able to brighten her holiday with music and companionship. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted#post-1123417 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 12:03:38 +0000 Anonymous 1123417@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry to hear this Beth Ann. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted#post-1123405 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 09:05:15 +0000 Lyn D. 1123405@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am sorry that you are dealing with this during a time when we are meant to be&nbsp;enjoying the company of family and friends.<br />Yes, our own troubles seem trivial when we hear of such tragic occurrences. Your music will be such a comfort to both you and your SIL in times to come. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted#post-1123401 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 08:55:39 +0000 Jeanie 1123401@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry to hear this news Beth Ann. &nbsp;I was just reading of some new findings in Alzheimer's research. &nbsp;I am hopeful there will be some advancements soon. &nbsp;I will send some prayers out for you and your SIL. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted#post-1123367 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 06:56:21 +0000 Adelfa 1123367@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a tragedy. How sad that you see the symptoms advancing so quickly. This is something that many of us fear--I know I do when I have trouble with a word. But to actually happen at this age is crushing. I know she is able to feel your kindness to her. &nbsp;It is so wonderful that you were able to be there for her, putting aside your own feelings about her diagnosis and the family dynamics. You and she and all the family are in my prayers.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/heavy-hearted#post-1123353 Sat, 28 Dec 2013 06:16:24 +0000 Deborah 1123353@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Beth Ann I am sorry to hear about your SIL. She is only a year older than me..it's quite confronting. You know you are such a gracious and beautiful woman and I know that it's God's grace that flows through you. Your SIL is blessed to have you and and things like this do make other concerns seem so insignificant. I will be praying that God continues to being grace and patience and understanding as you support and love your SIL through this. </p>