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YouLookFab Forum » Topic: Haircut and other issues https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 29 Apr 2026 20:38:11 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 <![CDATA[Search]]> q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php Jaime on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188579 Wed, 21 Apr 2021 02:02:11 +0000 Jaime 2188579@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I think we all can connect on the frustrating hair experiences. I feel so seen, as they say . Thank you Jonesy. You got it. I don't like small talk much in the best of times, but this one really pushed my limits. Roxanna - :)  Thank you! I had to laugh a bit at your very flattering description of me - my skin and my chin (side view, don't ask) are actually two of the things I am most self conscious about! Luckily our hair grows quickly! Firecracker - Yes, the puffy factor is so annoying - I wake up with a lot of puffy volume (think bride of frankenstein). I have never been able to see the Jackie Kennedy comparison myself, but that doesn't mean I am not flattered to the moon when I hear it! Thank you. Grace - Yes, thank you for understanding, there is a broken trust issue in these situations isn't there? I like your suggestions. I am definitely playing around with different looks to change things up! Angie - Yes, you understand perfectly! I am actually planning to wait a little bit then find a pixie specialist to do just that, and your inspo picture is basically the next goal. Thank you! Grace on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188556 Wed, 21 Apr 2021 01:25:30 +0000 Grace 2188556@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ So sorry to hear of this disappointing, frustrating experience.  We put so much trust in hairstylists, and I think that's why it has bothered me so much when a cut doesn't turn out the way I hoped.   The pictures of you and your new haircut look very flattering, although I'm sorry to hear that it didn't turn out as you had planned. Adding to the jewelry/earring suggestion from earlier--a short haircut could be a chance to enjoy some drop earrings or French wires with sparkle/crystals that might be otherwise hidden in a longer haircut style.  Or, what about folding a bandanna or scarf and wrapping it like a headband, to add some color and/or match the outfit?   Angie on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188517 Tue, 20 Apr 2021 23:28:22 +0000 Angie 2188517@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ And I found another:  Firecracker (Sharan) on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188515 Tue, 20 Apr 2021 23:16:53 +0000 Firecracker (Sharan) 2188515@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <div>Well, Jaime, what an experience. A frustrating and disappointing one! You do look fabulous to my eye. My immediate thought was, wow you sure can rock a pixie. Though this might not be quite the pixie you'd be after, if you were after one at all. When I decided to go very short with my haircut, it took a year for me to identify the cut that I have now, which feels right for me. And that's with a stylist who was listening and skillful. </div><div>So many great inspiration photos above, and I was struck by how much you resemble the young Jackie Kennedy. Also lots of great ideas and wisdom here. </div><div>Bijou's story is so funny, and I love RoseandJoan's description of the pixie-mullet cross (for a very cool looking haircut)! </div><div>Oh, and I can relate to something you said: my hair tends to puff up at this length, too. I fight against it a little bit. So maybe I haven't quite found the answer after all.</div><div>Also, I really like Davines products for curly hair. </div> Roxanna on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188444 Tue, 20 Apr 2021 19:00:01 +0000 Roxanna 2188444@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Aww, J - so sad to hear this! I have SO been there. I was looking forward breathlessly to your new cut! First of all, though it isn't what you wanted - your new haircut shows off your flawless skin, beautiful cheekbones, and pert chin - you have such a well proportioned face and this shows that off.I actually really liek it on you (honestly.) I do miss your ringlets but agree with carla - having had a very similar cut, I can guarantee you will have perfect ringlets in 1-2 months. So this haircut will last you for a bit, which is great. Also - it is intriguing how different it makes you look with different tops and lipstick. I think that experimenting with a bold lipcolour and tops will be so great - that boat neck looks amazing on you!  You can experiment with sharper styles, different patterns - this harcut will give evrything a new vibe and feel. also, it doesn't feel helmet like to me - you still have some movement. Angie on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188441 Tue, 20 Apr 2021 18:32:51 +0000 Angie 2188441@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Jaime, I know what you mean by, "too long at the sides and too short on top".  You can do something to improve that, actually. Have the sides cut shorter asap. It will make a big difference to the shape, and you'll feel better about you hair. Do you dare to ask DD to cut your hair again? :) Jonesy on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188208 Tue, 20 Apr 2021 04:10:06 +0000 Jonesy 2188208@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'm late here, but had to commiserate. I absolutely hate being in that salon chair, getting that sinking feeling that your haircut is going horribly awry, and there is nothing you can do but sit there and smile politely and make small talk! Ugh. And it's especially bad when you've gone to this stylist for a while, developed trust, and then she hits you with the wrong haircut plus the anti-vaxxing stance! Just too much. I'm so sorry. I agree with everyone, however, that even though she botched it, you still look chic and fabulous!  Jaime on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188186 Tue, 20 Apr 2021 02:20:03 +0000 Jaime 2188186@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Again, just wow. I am incredibly touched by the thoughtfulness of the responses to my post. I am not devastated by my hair, rather just aggravated by the situation, and it certainly not a big deal in the grand scheme of things, but it is all sorts of wonderful to get so much support from you all. Thank you! bonnie - How frustrating to have finally had your hair the way you wanted and then having to start from square one! Yes, having to find a new stylist is very annoying, and her attitude is upsetting.  RunCarla - Your inspo pictures are magical. I had never seen Jackie Kennedy with short hair! Those Italian haircut pictures are incredible. Much food for thought! Jenn - Yes! It is important to feel my grey hair looks intentional. I great pixie would do this but this is not that. JAileen - Cheers to hats and fast growing hair ! suntiger - Fortunately I do love wearing hats in our strong sun! Thank you Nikki - Yes, people are very confusing.  kkards - Yes, luckily hair keeps on growing! Suz - You are too kind! I do think this hair is forcing me to up my makeup game, which is probably a good thing. I love your pixie, in general I love most well cut pixies. Well cut being key there . Eliza - Thank you for your sympathy, and good luck on your grey hair transition. I remember how frustrating that was too! RoseandJoan - Thank you! That cut is much closer to what I had in mind. Not so many stubby little layers. KimZ - I am excited! I realized that my stylist is just not a pixie specialist, make sure you use one if you choose to go that way. Synne - Your hair looks great so keep it up! Sal -Thank you! The no vax thing is what bothered me most for sure. Style Fan - Thank you! Not the biggest problem, but not not a problem. Thank you Mainelady. Really it is the whole situation that threw me for a loop, rather than the hair per se.  madeline - Thank you! I am glad someone else understands what I mean by pouffy hair. I am just waiting for the ends to soften and that bit of growth that will allow for some texture. Meanwhile, more lipstick! Angie - I am tickled whenever you compare my hair to Greg's! His is much longer though .  The last thing I think of myself as is charming or alluring so I will bask in your too kind compliments. And yes, my hair is a big statement and since it naturally attracts attention I really prefer it to look intentional rather than practical. I love your inspo pictures, and will find a short hair specialist - right now my hair is both too long on the sides and too short on top! p.s. attached are the pics I showed my stylist. madeline on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188164 Tue, 20 Apr 2021 00:02:02 +0000 madeline 2188164@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I am sorry that all that happened to you. As a short hair person, I have to say I love the cut on you. Here are some suggestions to try as it grows out. 1. Hair product: try the curling ones, they will pump up your waves and curls. I use Noodle Head (beyond the zone brand), but anything like that should work. You could also try some hair mousse. I don’t blow my hair dry because it only gets poufy-air dry the finger comb as needed. <div>2. Bigger earrings and a little more makeup than you have worn in the past. I find this helps me adjust when my hair is a little shorter than I like it. Kind of balances it out. that’s all the advice I have for now. You look beautiful. </div> Mainelady on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188158 Mon, 19 Apr 2021 23:41:07 +0000 Mainelady 2188158@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I am so sorry your hair cut was not what you wanted and you had the additional unpleasant surprise about anti vaccing. I am not minimizing your feelings. They are valid. I do want to say that hen I look at your pics, I do not notice your hair first, I see your amazing eyes and your smile! You are beautiful and even though your hair is temporarily shorter than you like, your inner beauty continues to shine through. <div>  I say coax those curls as your hair begins to get longer. Soon you will look more like the person you are used to seeing.</div> Angie on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188131 Mon, 19 Apr 2021 21:11:11 +0000 Angie 2188131@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ And some pics: Style Fan on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188122 Mon, 19 Apr 2021 20:24:49 +0000 Style Fan 2188122@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I am so sorry you had an awful experience with the stylist.  Hair does grow, but the style is not what you wanted.  You do have a beautiful face, and the cut shows it off but still!!!  I have been there.   I am useless with hair.  I keep to my same with variations.  There are lots of others who have given fabulous suggestions.   Sal on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188110 Mon, 19 Apr 2021 20:02:51 +0000 Sal 2188110@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Oh - what a horrible experience. I think the whole thing is what upset you- the not listening, her stance and what is supposed to be a positive hour being awful. I do concur that you look great with the pixie - you can carry this off, and you have a chance to experiment with different pieces whilst it grows. You don’t need the hat - but it looks fab so embrace it if you want to. You have the bone structure that suits short hair for sure!! Synne on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188093 Mon, 19 Apr 2021 18:47:21 +0000 Synne 2188093@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Agreeing with everyone who says you look good!! Bummer about the bad experience. I have to say I have had my share of those. I cut my own hair now... thanks youtube KimZ on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188091 Mon, 19 Apr 2021 18:42:09 +0000 KimZ 2188091@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ It's unfortunate that you had a stylist who doesn't listen, not to mention being anti-vaccine. I think your hair is very elegant, both in cut and color. It suits you well. I used to have a pixie years ago, and now struggle with flat-ironing my wavy hair every day. You've inspired me to think about making a change! RoseandJoan on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188086 Mon, 19 Apr 2021 18:05:48 +0000 RoseandJoan 2188086@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I can understand your disappointment but I will join the choir in reassuring you that you still look great. I have recently been watching a Spanish programme called money Heist and one of the actress's has a cut somewhere between a pixie and a mullet which has a wave. Eliza on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188082 Mon, 19 Apr 2021 17:52:37 +0000 Eliza 2188082@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Wow, Shevia. Sorry that cut experience was out of synch with your hopes and expectations. It is important to be listened to, especially about things that take time to reverse. I have to say, that opening the photos revealed  gorgeous you; the cut really showcases your stunning eyes and you can pull the style off the style beautifully. I do understand about not wanting a cut too short, particularly as I juggle the grow out of my silvery white hair with a wish both to  not have it too short for my preferences (sadly, nothing "pixie" about me) and to reduce the amount residual brown dye. You will get where you want to be soon and hopefully a little time will help in having patience with the style.  Hang in there and best with the search for a new stylist.  Suz on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188078 Mon, 19 Apr 2021 17:30:21 +0000 Suz 2188078@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ So, I'm terribly late here. But first, let me say, that is awful about the stylist and no wonder you are distressed! Whew. What a pain, too, to have to look elsewhere. (I get it. I'm searching for a new stylist too, not because I don't adore mine, but because I can't travel to Vancouver and that's where she is.)  Now, as to the cut itself, it's aggravating in the extreme that you did not get what you wanted, but you look gorgeous to me, and I actually think it makes a really great change, showing you in a different light. I disagree that it "lacks edge" -- it takes a certain amount of courage to go super short, for one thing, especially in some communities -- and your eyes, cheekbones and skin really stand out. Having said that, I also agree that a switch up in cuts and require a switchup in clothing and makeup. Different necklines, jewellery, and even colours sometimes seem better. Luckily, you have a full closet! So you can experiment to find what will work best as this grows out into something you like better. I absolutely love Carla's inspo pictures -- she's amazing at collecting those -- but truly you look spectacular to me as you are right now. Admittedly, as a pixie lover, I am biased.  kkards on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188067 Mon, 19 Apr 2021 16:45:56 +0000 kkards 2188067@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ So frustrating on so many levels. Grrr... In times like this i do try to remind myself that the good thing about hair is that in 6 weeks it will look different.  Anonymous on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188053 Mon, 19 Apr 2021 16:03:41 +0000 Anonymous 2188053@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ BTW, love the red bag and shoes and, of course, the hat Anonymous on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188051 Mon, 19 Apr 2021 15:59:21 +0000 Anonymous 2188051@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Shevia, first of all, you are beautiful! No haircut could ever change that. So sorry the hairdresser did not give you the haircut that you requested. So frustrating! It’s disappointing that it wasn’t a pleasant experience. A clerk at the grocery store informed me that she is not getting the vaccination because she has heard things. She said this behind a spit guard and wearing goggles, mask and gloves. Strange times, indeed. Keep smiling, sweet Shevia Anonymous on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188043 Mon, 19 Apr 2021 15:41:29 +0000 Anonymous 2188043@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Sorry you had an awful experience, and I completely understand changing stylists, but agree with the others that your hair does not look bad. Love the inspo photos! But, if you want to take the opportunity to play with hats, that's fun too! Angie on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188036 Mon, 19 Apr 2021 15:18:18 +0000 Angie 2188036@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Oh, sweet Jaime. How annoying, disappointing, and stressful about the stylist! I’m sorry. Onto a new hair stylist, and best of luck. As for your hair, it’s not what you wanted, but you look beautiful! And look more gorgeous each time you post. You have KILLER SUBLIME hair that can’t look anything but absolutely great, hip and fabulous! Like Greg You lucky fish! I empathize with feeling off when your hair is off, especially when your hair is a big part of your style like it is for the both of us. Don't worry! Enjoy growing it out, and know that your charm, attractive allure, and quiet magnetism did not disappear. It’s all there, big time. I’ll be back with ideas - on my phone. And of course, you look fabulous in your outfit as always! JAileen on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188030 Mon, 19 Apr 2021 15:11:36 +0000 JAileen 2188030@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Your hair is still lovely.  True, it’s not as cool or edgy as usual.  Time will fix this.  So wear your fab hat until you feel comfortable.   Jenn on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188029 Mon, 19 Apr 2021 15:06:52 +0000 Jenn 2188029@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I am useless with short hair ideas, I'm afraid, but I don't think this is a disaster. I do think it lacks the edge of your asymmetric cut, and perhaps you were subconsciously using that to change the vibe of certain outfits. Sort of like how the same dress has a totally different edge on someone with tattoos and rainbow hair than it would a natural blonde with soft makeup. Sorry about your stylist, though. That's awkward. Carla on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188025 Mon, 19 Apr 2021 14:43:36 +0000 Carla 2188025@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ More hair ideas (and I hope you will share your inspo).   <div> </div><div>I’ve been obsessed by a style from the past called ‘The Italian Cut’ which is short at the nape, but longer on top, and face framing.  Of course strong brows and a great lip help!  (See #1)   <a rel="nofollow" href="https://glamourdaze.com/2015/03/the-italian-cut-hairstyle-craze-of-1953.html">https://glamourdaze.com/2015/0.....-1953.html</a></div><div> </div><div> </div><div>Also, just for fun, Jackie Kennedy wore her hair very short in 1953-1954 just after her marriage to JFK.  You share similar facial structure. The hairstyles weren’t exactly wash and go, and I think strong curl patterns were ruthlessly brushed out, then hair set in curlers or pin curls.  I wonder if they can be adapted to modern styling techniques?   </div> Bonnie on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188021 Mon, 19 Apr 2021 14:38:13 +0000 Bonnie 2188021@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I got my hair cut about a month ago and my salon experience felt fine but the cut is not what I wanted. I've been going to her ever since I moved here two years ago and it took me a year of haircuts to get her to finally cut it exactly the way I wanted. Now with a year of sheltering at home and cutting it myself, she has no guide to what I want, I did show a couple of photos but it didn't help much, so it seems I'm back to square one. I have much sympathy for you because finding a new hairdresser is a big challenge. I think you look fab but it's not the look you are going for and even more distressing is her attitude towards solving this global pandemic crisis.  Jaime on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188015 Mon, 19 Apr 2021 14:20:10 +0000 Jaime 2188015@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Wow, thank you all for your sympathy, commiseration, kind words and sharing your experiences. And you sure know how to boost my confidence! Jenni NZ I have nothing against a short pixie - you, DonnaF and Angie (among others) look fab. It just wasn't what I had in mind! Bijou You cracked me up with the Lego Head Disaster! It is good to have a benchmark . And thank you for your very generous words! DonnaF - Yes, my probably is my hair tends to puff up at this length. Not a good look! Sally and rachylou - Looks like Audrey Tatou will be my next hair stop! Minaminu - Thank you, I am getting used to it! Zaeobi - Yes, it is almost a different face, isn't it. I took a look at the thread and my mind got boggled . Star - What a sweet thing to say, thank you! Thank you Brooklyn - I think a little more length will make a big difference to me. lyn67 - You are too nice, and too funny! Yes, this is all natural color and nascent texture . Thank you for your words, I am blushing! RobinF - Yes, I will wait for it to grow under my hat . Just kidding, sort of.  Xtabay - Wow, Juliette Binoche has always been a favorite since The Unbearable Lightness of Being. What an incredible compliment! smittie - Well, I never denied being crazy . Mirjana - Thank you very much! Janet! You have the most incredibly beautiful eyes, gorgeous face and figure and great hair. If you wanted a pixie you would rock it. But I love your slightly grey shag! avicennia - Ah, so I am in good company. I tried the bangs but it didn't look right yet, maybe with just a bit more length. Sorry about your PT - it is so frustrating. suzieq - Wow, we are in the same boat. No comment about the boost your immunity by catching and passing a deadly disease. Christina - Thank you for the commiseration! lisa p. - Well obviously these are the best photos of the bunch . eta Catherine It really has. catherine on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues/page/2#post-2188009 Mon, 19 Apr 2021 13:59:53 +0000 catherine 2188009@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ You look lovely in your short hair and I hope you will be able to embrace it as it grows. As for the antivaxxer stylist.... The pandemic has shown us things about people we thought we knew. Anonymous on "Haircut and other issues" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/haircut-and-other-issues#post-2188005 Mon, 19 Apr 2021 13:49:57 +0000 Anonymous 2188005@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Being mindful of toxic positivity (thank you Synne for introducing me to that concept) , I totally understand that feeling of helplessness when a haircut goes awry.  Especially when hair is a big part of your look, as I know it is for you.   That said - can I offer up that this haircut shows you in a different light - and is SO youthful and pretty.  A crisper look, for sure, but man is it flattering in the photos!