https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 03 Apr 2026 21:59:40 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/4#post-1060935 Wed, 23 Oct 2013 13:38:57 +0000 Elizabeth P 1060935@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>OH! OH! OH!&nbsp; I'm so excited.&nbsp; I say yay!<br />And the reason I'm excited... I'm also growing out MY hair :).&nbsp; Something hit me mid summer, that I was just done.&nbsp; Root touch ups every 2 weeks... no more.&nbsp; I've been doing a ton of reading, on the how-to's, and the experiences, to see how others have done it and how it felt for them.&nbsp; It's been fascinating reading through ALL the comments on here, and seeing the perspectives of the YLF crowd.&nbsp; I actually had no idea there were so many with grey hair on here.&nbsp; The process is kinda yucky... I am doing it with help, and have got lowlights and a few highlights to help blend my skunk (my hair does NOT blend naturally!!!) but I'm excited to see where it's going.&nbsp; Much to my surprise, I'm getting nothing but compliments and encouragement from those around me.&nbsp;&nbsp; Oh, and yesterday somebody said they thought I was actually looking younger!&nbsp; I've also been told my eyes are really showing now, as they are being brought out by the silver and were a bit lost by the brown.</p> <p>Enough about me :).&nbsp; I think you would totally rock grey hair... it sounds like you're ready, and you have such a sense of style, it would add to that (imho).&nbsp; I wouldn't worry about Mr. Suz... it's impossible to say how it will look until it's done, so having him guess at whether he'd like the change is impossible.&nbsp; And wrt your daughter, I'd take her opinion with a grain of salt as well.&nbsp; Daughters do not want their mothers to change, period.&nbsp; My daughters freaked out over me cutting 5 inches off my hair, but have said nothing about the colour.&nbsp; I have warned them, but I think I'd rather be a role model for them to be happy with my "authentic" self, than to be a victim to a multi billion dollar industry that says I must colour my hair.&nbsp; Cuz that's what it is (not that I don't think having the option is fantastic, I wish it was culturally more of a choice than the norm).&nbsp; Being the "old mother" was a concern of mine, as I'm already 8-10 years older than most of my kids friends mothers, but I decided that if I don't act old, or dress old, then I'm good.&nbsp; </p> <p>You should check out <a href="http://w11.zetaboards.com/Cafe_Gray/index/" rel="nofollow">http://w11.zetaboards.com/Cafe_Gray/index/</a>&nbsp; It's a forum for those going grey.&nbsp; This was totally eye opening for me, because what struck me when I came across it that NOT ONE woman on there (and they are all regular people, with all kinds of grey), looks older with their grey hair.&nbsp; If anything, they look younger, more vibrant.&nbsp; I think seeing that that was the straw for me.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/4#post-1060582 Wed, 23 Oct 2013 02:17:16 +0000 Anonymous 1060582@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Suz, I have been going back and forth about what to say. I never really dyed my hair but for several years blended in the grey by having my hair (mostly medium brown) frosted a beige-blonde ( not yellow). This could last about 6 months . It was important to me that I have different tones in my hair, not flat color. At times later I used one of those semi-permanent color kits in a light cool brown or dark blonde. My grey hair took the color while that part that wasn't grey stayed a bit darker. For years my grey was more taupe than silver.<br /> You might want to compromise and add a bit of blonde for awhile to gradually edge into it. I think you will be happiest when a greater percentage is white.<br /> One thing you have going for you is that Mr Suz is already silver. Mr. Joy had almost no grey when I did and now we look more like we belong together.<br /> On the other hand, it will be easy for you to do something else if you find that you are not yet the grey you want to be. So I say try it and see. If an appearance comes up, you could even things out with a temporary color that will be gone in less than 6 weeks. It fades out gradually. I can't wait to see what it looks like. Mr. Suz will come around when he sees that you are every bit as gorgeous and not turning into his mother. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/4#post-1060562 Wed, 23 Oct 2013 01:58:54 +0000 havanagirl 1060562@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I wish I were brave enough to go gray. &nbsp;Maybe someday I will.</p> <p>I started going gray early and started coloring my hair (naturally dark brown/black) after the birth of my first child when I was in my late 20s. &nbsp;I'm probably 80% gray now in my mid-40s&nbsp;and the maintenance is so time consuming that I think about giving up! &nbsp;But my husband looks so young and I just can't take that plunge yet. &nbsp;Maybe if I were blonde, the contrast would be less of a shock.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/4#post-1060558 Wed, 23 Oct 2013 01:55:22 +0000 FlorenceFearne 1060558@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have several women with grey hair saved to my inspiration file, and I don't object to grey hair on principal. We even have several fabbers who look amazing with grey hair.&nbsp;Yet&nbsp;I just can't encourage you to&nbsp;do it.&nbsp;It's really a personal hang-up on my part.&nbsp;I feel like there's this age where a lot of women feel pressure to cut their hair short and go grey because they're "too old" to have any other kind of hair style.&nbsp;As though you reach a certain age, and now you're this faceless, genderless being known as an&nbsp;"old person."&nbsp;I&nbsp;bridle at the idea of being told I<i> have to </i>do something because of my age. So I just want to yell, "No! Don't do it! Don't get 'old lady' hair! You can still have a personality!" I know it's irrational, but that's how I feel. I&nbsp;hope it makes any sense at all. I hope you do what makes YOU happy though. I know you'll look amazing either way.&nbsp;</p> <p>I'd also like to point out that I don't see why the fact that something is natural should automatically be an argument in favor of that thing. I haven't seen my natural hair color since I was 15. You know why? I didn't like it. I have tattoos and I draw on my eyebrows every day, and I don't plan to change that any time soon either.&nbsp;I like the fact that I have the ability to mold my appearance into what I love, regardless of Mother Nature's intentions.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/4#post-1060527 Wed, 23 Oct 2013 01:11:33 +0000 deb 1060527@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have read through all of the comments and this thread is so interesting. I think it would add another layer if each of us went back and analyzed why we feel &nbsp;the way we do about this subject. I have always wanted grey/white hair ever since I met a gal when I was in college at 17. She was 20 and&nbsp;had half black and half white hair and her sister who was 24 was already completely white. It was beautiful. I have just started getting white hair on the top of my head. But I know I will not be totally grey/white by the time I die because my grandmother had salt and pepper colored (mostly pepper) when she died at 80 and my mom still has mostly dark brown hair and she is 81. We always want what we cannot have. In the meantime, I will show anyone who will look, my white sideburns.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/4#post-1060516 Wed, 23 Oct 2013 00:57:25 +0000 Elle 1060516@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It sounds as though you want to try it so go for it.&nbsp; For what it's worth, I found it very liberating to go gray and not be bound by the idea that you have to look young to look attractive. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/4#post-1060507 Wed, 23 Oct 2013 00:43:30 +0000 pil 1060507@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Interesting comments, though I won't weigh in with an opinion as you will look fabulous no matter what you decide! I did ask my stylist what approach would be best were I to decide to go gray. She described it (not that I remember) but told me to ask her again in 30 years </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/3#post-1060428 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 23:19:54 +0000 Suz 1060428@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>MsMaven, thank you -- I have been thinking of your journey (and also gfbrenda's) and wondering how it is going! I will look forward to your report.</p> <p>And Claire, you make good sense, as ever. I am going to take my pinboard to the salon next time I go and ask the stylist how my grey compares to some of the ones on the board. I may decided to do a gentle weave with high and lowlights but no base colour for a while.&nbsp;</p> <p>Thanks all, once again, for a great discussion.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/3#post-1060426 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 23:16:31 +0000 MsMaven 1060426@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>oh wow. I have a lot to say about my own journey on this path to gray. I'm on vacation right now with limited time. I am eight weeks into my journey to gray. After 17 years of coloring it I am tired of it. I am surprised at how dark the color is as it grows out. I thought it was far more gray.</p> <p>my Dh is freaky about gray hair but he long ago lost the right to have any input. </p> <p>I am doing blond high lighting and so far don't like it. it is blending in and I will return and report with photos next week. </p> <p>much good advice here. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/3#post-1060367 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 22:16:04 +0000 Anonymous 1060367@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>How did I miss this Suz?! So sorry, and you knew I'd have to add my two cents.</p> <p>For you, and your style and coloring, I really like the mix that is in your hair right now (seen in your pink blazer pics). The little bit of white mixed with the golden blonde tones is pretty and veering more towards neutral. I like the idea of watching it grow out a bit and judiciously adding some blonde along the part if you feel the need to. </p> <p>The contrast between your natural darkest tone (40%) and the new un-pigmented hair (60%) might prove to be very pleasing and enough going on for you. If you highlight most of the dark hair to a blonde shade (assuming the use of bleach only, not color), then you will have all light hair, some white and some blonde. A mix of warm and cool, but low contrast. A gradual approach might shock Mr. Suz less and get your reading public up to speed as well. What ever you decide you will always be Beautiful Suz, that's a given. :)&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/3#post-1059310 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 01:34:29 +0000 judy 1059310@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I vote yay, Suz. &nbsp;Because it's fun to try something new!... and not be afraid of change. &nbsp;I did it 12 years ago at 46 and there were days early on&nbsp;I struggled with it, but in the end, I liked having the texture of my real hair.&nbsp; I felt like I was the only one back then, but now I see so many of us rocking the grey...and by that I mean you can tell it's a conscious choice, not just a "giving up" look...it depends on the cut, what you wear of course, and mostly, how you move, with a vitality. &nbsp;I think if we focus more on what gets expressed by us as we age rather than merely what we look like...I'm not implying you are doing that, and I'm talking to myself here too...than we bring our greater experience and bigger perspective&nbsp;that younger coworkers and friends do not yet possess...whatever our hair color is.&nbsp;&nbsp;And in some strange way, I feel a kind of pride about my grey hair. &nbsp;Plus it's an interesting adventure to see how nature is coloring your hair because it's constantly changing. &nbsp;I think you will (continue to)&nbsp;look stunning! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/3#post-1059185 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 23:23:27 +0000 Stuti 1059185@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I say go for it Suz.<br /> My perception of you in virtual world is pretty bubbly enthusiastic kind.<br /> I live your big smile always makes me smile.<br /> And I rely admire salt pepper pixie in women. Don't know why.<br /> You will look great. And your DH sounds exactly like mine </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/3#post-1059152 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 23:00:26 +0000 rholmes27 1059152@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My personal experience-my hair was naturally dark brown when I was younger. As I got older, the natural color&nbsp;began to fade, &amp; I colored &amp; highlighted on a regular basis. I got tired of the upkeep, so upon the suggestion of my hairdresser, I let several inches of my hair grow without any color change. This was when it looked the worst. After that, she started adding blonde highlights on top of my natural hair color. In another year, I let it completely come in gray. I absolutely love it. My hair is naturally curly &amp; I keep it cut in a short curly bob (see profile pic-not the best lighting, but you can see the general idea) &amp; I am thrilled with the lower maintenance. I get lots of compliments on it-really, all the time.&nbsp;</p> <p>I stopped highlighting it over a year ago, &amp; about two weeks ago my husband said, "I didn't realize you weren't coloring your hair anymore until I heard you telling a friend that today." So there you go.</p> <p>I agree with the others. Try it-you can always change it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/3#post-1058741 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 17:47:46 +0000 rachylou 1058741@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Haven't read every post... just wondering if your hair is *light grey* or *dark grey.* </p> <p>Also, I have to confess something: Light grey reads to me as blonde and dark grey as black. As a matter of fact, light brown reads as blonde to me and brunette as black. And then I have a third category: fake. (Fake is for neon, the skunk dye job, etc.) It's not a vision thing, it's a category thing.</p> <p>I worry a little bit that this is a sign of my totally uncaring and brutal nature...</p> <p>Anyways, you are in my light category. If your natural hair would put you in the dark category, that would be a big change and I'd imagine you'd be rethinking a lot more than your hair. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/3#post-1058704 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 17:26:33 +0000 Faith 1058704@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This thread has been a wonderful read for me as a grown daughter whose mother is presently contemplating this question. Despite the fact that I love the look of modern graying and gray hair, I have been unaccountably anxious about the prospect. You all have reminded me what a personal--and potentially freeing--decision this is, and have encouraged me to be more supportive. I will hereby put aside any fear of change--and try to remember all the hair styles and colors she's patiently watched&nbsp;*me* sport over the years! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/3#post-1058646 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 16:46:41 +0000 JillG 1058646@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Seeing your hair in more detail on your other thread reminds me of my husband's blonde hair which slowly grayed from blonde to "lighter blonde" to it's-not-lighter-blonde-it's-now-gray status naturally over time.&nbsp;&nbsp;The effect of increasing gray may be&nbsp;pretty subtle for quite a while.<br />&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/3#post-1058456 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 13:50:44 +0000 texstyle 1058456@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I couldn't read every comment this morning but I thought to myself, what if you used a different highlighting color&nbsp;or colors&nbsp;to start the process sooner - my grays seem very light but the rest of my hair color is still dark blonde (except where I highlight). I've tried different tones of hair color to do highlighting (more "natural" or "champagne" colors instead of "golden" tones) and the overall effect is closer to what is probably natural for me. I wonder if you could speed the transition this way so you can get a better feel for it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/3#post-1058454 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 13:46:48 +0000 Day Vies 1058454@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I saw all of your pins from this weekend and I thought they were fabulous. not that I'm rushing the clock but I&nbsp;am looking forward to that point. &nbsp;I think Mr. Suz is simply&nbsp;afraid of change. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/3#post-1058446 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 13:36:01 +0000 Claudia 1058446@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Silver, bronze, or gold,&nbsp;it's all good! But most importantly&nbsp;Suz, you radiate huge amounts of&nbsp;natural inner beauty, warmth&nbsp;and vitality, which coming&nbsp;from the inside out&nbsp;can't help but make you&nbsp;look gorgeous, and alluring,&nbsp;with whatever direction&nbsp;you choose for the outside.</p> <p>Also a shoutout to Clearlyclaire, along with&nbsp;Caro, Shevia,&nbsp;Lantana, Shannon and Joy among the many&nbsp;others,&nbsp;whose natural grey and greying&nbsp;hair looks 100% graceful and elegant. Such attractive ladies.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/3#post-1058419 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 13:11:31 +0000 Alassë 1058419@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I look forward to seeing whichever you go with. I think you will look as fab as ever either way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/3#post-1058134 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 03:18:52 +0000 Suz 1058134@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jonesy, so great to see you!! Post some of your fab outfits for us, please! And thank you for that pinboard. Off to check that, and Mary's links, out!&nbsp;</p> <p>Thank you, Mary!&nbsp;</p> <p>And Shevia, I agree with you about my specific roles -- I think I do have more freedom than most to do whatever I wish (heck, I can dye it bright fuchsia if I like -- one of my colleagues at the fitness company has actually done that!) and so I shouldn't be bound by ordinary expectations. But others don't have that freedom, for sure, and need to be very conscious of what the results might be.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/3#post-1058123 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 03:10:58 +0000 MsMary 1058123@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jonesy!&nbsp; Great to see you!&nbsp; :)</p> <p>Suz, there are about a million interesting articles on this topic at HuffPo: <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/tag/gray-hair" rel="nofollow">http://www.huffingtonpost.com/tag/gray-hair</a></p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/3#post-1058115 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 03:04:22 +0000 Jonesy 1058115@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Suz, you might want to check out the Pinterest board, "The Grays are Coming:"<br /><a href="http://www.pinterest.com/Shadowglass/the-grays-are-coming/" rel="nofollow">http://www.pinterest.com/Shado.....re-coming/</a></p> <p>Some fabulous, inspiring looks! Lots of the styles are long and medium length hair, but there are some gorgeous pixies in the mix too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/3#post-1058110 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 02:59:48 +0000 Jaime 1058110@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Suz I already threw in my two cents but I have to thank you for starting this thread. I am not in a life situation where it matters much if I look older in terms of my work, and I am already older than many of my kids' friends mothers (and the daughter that became hysterical when I first cut my hair got over it quite quickly), so it is very interesting to read all these perspectives. I do think that in your role as a public artist&nbsp;going grey seems like it might work (as a writer&nbsp;you are a great position to model the new paradigm - people expect that from artists, right?). In your work with fitness people you could be a wonderful role model but I could certainly see where the decision would be more difficult there. Whatever you decide will be the right decision for you and you can change it whenever you want. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/3#post-1058100 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 02:39:04 +0000 Suz 1058100@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Donna, that's an excellent point. I'll bet my DD would worry about it, too. She hates change even more than DH! And she may be concerned that I will look old. Hmmm. I'll discuss it with her. Thank you for that reminder. It's my decision, I know, but I do think I need to hear my family out on it.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/3#post-1058086 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 02:15:04 +0000 DonnaF 1058086@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Out of curiosity, Suz, does your DD know you are thinking about stopping the coloring, and what are her thoughts on this?&nbsp; A few years back, I started noticing the white roots under my black hair in under three weeks.&nbsp; I got REALLY sick of coloring; my hair grows too fast to do the salon thing.&nbsp; To my DD and I think other children, youth, and young people, gray = old.&nbsp; Very old.&nbsp; So I held off on stopping and promised to keep coloring until she finished high school.&nbsp; My last three color jobs were semi-permanent rather than permanent dye, but the last time I colored was just before DD graduated from high school in 2012.&nbsp; The grow-out took about nine months since I also decided to grow my hair longer.&nbsp; At any rate, I was definitely transitioned by the time I turned 60.&nbsp; </p> <p>Do I look older?&nbsp; Maybe.&nbsp; Am I happier?&nbsp; Yes.&nbsp; I figure I will have to pay more attention not to look frumpy, but that's a given, right?&nbsp; And it is only hair, so I can change my mind.&nbsp; But I won't.</p> <p>Your current regime doesn't sound like too much hassle.&nbsp; Maybe you can give DH and DD a year or so to get used to the idea?&nbsp; But since you have light hair, I don't think it will be too much of a shock to anyone!&nbsp; Go with your heart and gut. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/3#post-1058053 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 01:31:56 +0000 Suz 1058053@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Love that, Una!! That would be brilliant on you!&nbsp;</p> <p>I am not sure how one gets a colour like that, actually.&nbsp;</p> <p>It's so clear from these comments that this is such a deeply personal decision. Our perceptions really vary enormously. For instance, Marley, while I agree with you that some of the younger women look great in grey on my pinboard, I actually like the looks of the older ones better (on the whole). Some of them are actresses, true, but many are more ordinary. And I like Jamie Lee Curtis's colour on her a lot! So I guess it is like style -- so subjective. What looks better to one will not look better to another.&nbsp;</p> <p>As for real life role models, we have them here on YLF, with Caro, Lantana, and Joy leading the way and many others following along the path. I think it's partly seeing these gorgeous women here that gives me the courage to go ahead (if I do).&nbsp;</p> <p>No decisions yet, but I will continue to think on this for a few weeks. I suspect what I'll do is make a sort of (flexible) plan for doing this, based on what's going to be going on in my life for the next few months.&nbsp;</p> <p>Thanks again for all your thoughts! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/3#post-1058048 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 01:20:28 +0000 catgirl 1058048@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If I had any courage, I would go with a fantastical color like this, which is ethereal and manga-like to go with my haircut!</p> <p><a href="http://www.pinterest.com/pin/412009065881457579/" rel="nofollow">http://www.pinterest.com/pin/412009065881457579/</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/3#post-1057995 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 00:21:25 +0000 Carla 1057995@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Such an interesting thread! I have a couple of thoughts on the matter. </p> <p>I read a (biology) paper that spoke to why blonde was such a desired hair colour in females. It turned out that blonde most resembled white, so on a biological level it signified fitness/longevity in females, and as such was desired by males in their partner since it would lead to long life in prospective offspring. That said, the contradiction of 'old' hair (grey or white) on a comparatively youthful face and body, trendy hairstyle, and stylish mode of dressing can project all the enthusiasm and energy for life that you need to be seen by society as 'beautiful'. </p> <p>Being a redhead has been a big part of who I am, and I did not have any colour in my hair until I turned 50 and started to get a lot of white. My hairdresser at the time suggested blonde highlights. I started to be referred to as 'blonde' and I felt like I had lost my identity. A year ago I grew out the colour, and have been natural since November 2012. I am much happier ( and still redder) then I was from 50-52. I have a new hairdresser who has suggested copper penny red highlights, essentially changing the ratio of red to white hair but not eliminating the white entirely (there is no 'grey' per se.). I might try this, but I don't believe I will ever go total coverage/one process.</p> <p>My mother was a mousey brown, and coloured from the time she was in her 20's. My favourite look of hers was in her late 40's when she had 'every colour' hair. I think it was mousey brown, greying, and blonde highlights. There was so much interesting dimension to her hair. In her 70's, and completely white, she is opting for pale apricot now.</p> <p>Suz, your features are so delicate and feminine, I think you will be able to carry off the softer brown/white/grey hair colour if that is how your hair transitions. There will be lots of dimensional interest in that. A darker grey, or evenly mixed salt and pepper might not work out so well. Go slow with some transitional highlighting spaced out and without root touch ups. You will probably have your answer by S/S '14. (And won't silver be so much fun with the pale pinks' blues, whites, and greys that were shown on the runways.) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/hair-help-to-grey-or-not-to-grey-that-is-the-question/page/3#post-1057977 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 00:05:44 +0000 Marley 1057977@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Can't wait to see what you decide Suz!&nbsp; And you're right - if you decide to go gray and don't like it - it will be an easy "fix!"&nbsp; Since you have very thick hair, I think that your hair will look pretty when it is gray.&nbsp; I'm just not convinced that gray hair will look better on you than blonde - and for me, I would always go&nbsp;for what would look the best.<br />Just for the record - I cannot stand Jamie Lee Curtis' hair color!&nbsp; The first time I saw her in the silver pixie I was stunned at how her beautiful eyes had just "faded" into her face - and even though I've seen her practically a million times in those yogurt commercials since then, I still cannot help but feel seriously disappointed everytime I see her silver hair and realize that she's not going to change it!<br />Also - just looked at your pinterest board.&nbsp; I think that younger women (those in their 20's and 30's and even 40's) look great in gray hair - their lips are fuller, their eyes are brighter, their cheeks pinker, they don't have the crow's feet&nbsp;around their eyes, their necks aren't sagging&nbsp;- and the gray/silver/white/ is beautiful on them! &nbsp; But, when you go to the older women's pictures - you are looking at <i>models</i>&nbsp; and <i>actresses</i> - I mean they would look good in <i>anything!</i>&nbsp; I'd be interested in seeing pictures of real women (I know they are out there) who are rocking the gray hair.&nbsp; I think that would be a fairer representation of just how gray hair looks on women who are in that "in-between" stage of partial gray/white and partial their natural hair color.<br />(Hasn't Annie Lennox always wore her hair that shade?&nbsp; It doesn't look any different to me than it did 20+ years ago!) </p>