https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Mon, 27 Apr 2026 04:20:42 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why/page/2#post-1214478 Sat, 05 Apr 2014 00:34:27 +0000 Jenava 1214478@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you for posting!&nbsp; It's good to let friends know when things are rough so we can support you, VC.&nbsp; I'm happy that things seem to be looking up for your mom.&nbsp; *hugs* and happy Spring! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why/page/2#post-1214068 Fri, 04 Apr 2014 16:01:59 +0000 Anonymous 1214068@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Holy Toledo VC, you are a strong woman to still be standing after all that. I'm so glad you felt like this was a safe place to just spill it all out. I can't imagine the pressure you must have been (and still be) under. I hope you will be able to carve out a bit of time to take care of yourself, maybe get a massage or something to help begin the rejuvenation process. What you've been through sounds absolutely traumatic, and I'm so sorry for the loss of your grandfather. I'm so glad your Mom is tapering off her treatments and responding well. You're a wonderful DD and she's so lucky to have you!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why/page/2#post-1213638 Fri, 04 Apr 2014 00:20:12 +0000 Aida 1213638@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry to hear about all this VC, sending you and your family all the best wishes. I hope you can all enjoy those cherry blossoms soon. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why/page/2#post-1213371 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 18:03:20 +0000 abc 1213371@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I loved your response. &nbsp;:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why/page/2#post-1213090 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 12:57:13 +0000 Alassë 1213090@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You're welcome! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why/page/2#post-1212902 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 03:56:02 +0000 velvetychocolate 1212902@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you all so much! </p> <p>After I posted last night, I felt a bit funny - thinking I may have said too much.That maybe I shouldn't have posted. I just wanted to write something to sort of explain why I just stopped posting entirely for a few months. </p> <p>After I wrote last night, I remember falling asleep, thinking, "I<br /> shouldn't have posted that, it's a bit 'much' and doesn't really have<br /> anything to do with YLF."</p> <p>You know what? I'm so glad that I did, because you've made me feel very supported, heard and understood. </p> <p>It's really wonderful to be able to post something out of the blue and then&nbsp; hear and read YLF'ers listening, nodding their heads, offering up incredibly wise words and all kinds of support. </p> <p>You've made me feel a whole lot better - thank you! <br />...</p> <p>Meanwhile, the good news is that my Mom only has the rest of this week and all of next week to complete her radiation treatments (7 weeks of daily radiation, plus 8 'booster' treatments), and then just continuing the Herceptin infusions every three weeks until the end of the year. The worst is over, and we are seeing some light at the end of the tunnel. I think she may have to take some sort of hormone therapy (pills I think) for a a few years as well due to her breast cancer being what they call "ER+" (estrogen receptor positive). </p> <p>All of that said, I'm reminded that spring is the season of renewal - and I can't wait to see cherry blossoms blooming, tons and tons of rain (fat chance here where I live for the time being, but I'm still hopeful anyway), and green everywhere. Hope my Mom's hair grows back like mad and that all of the treatments she's had to endure have worked beautifully. </p> <p>I'm glad winter's over :)</p> <p>Thank you so much for listening and being here. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why/page/2#post-1212843 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 03:05:12 +0000 Ginkgo 1212843@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry about your grandpa, VC. My best wishes for your mother's recovery, and that you continue to find the strength to march on. YLF is here for you whenever you need some down time </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why/page/2#post-1212704 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 01:26:33 +0000 ManidipaM 1212704@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Vc, how horrendous. Wishing for healing all round and someone else to prop you up and pamper you a bit (if there's any fairness in the universe)... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why/page/2#post-1212655 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 00:51:48 +0000 Sveta 1212655@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What an ordeal you have been through, VC! It seems when it rains it pours...and all on your poor head :-(<br />I wish you strength and stamina and please remember to take care of yourself as well. You need some downtime from time to time to just stay&nbsp;sane in this ordeal...<br />Sending you good vibes and wishes and a ton of hugs! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why/page/2#post-1212554 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 23:08:36 +0000 Ledonna N. 1212554@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I will add you and your family to my prayer list blessing and peace be unto you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why/page/2#post-1212523 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 22:29:39 +0000 DonnaF 1212523@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow.&nbsp; How overwhelming.&nbsp; Condolences re your grandpa.&nbsp; Thank goodness the worse seems to be over for your mom.&nbsp; Please take time to take care of yourself and to recharge.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why#post-1212453 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 20:54:42 +0000 annagybe 1212453@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ugh, that is a heck of lot to try and get through. I'm sorry. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why#post-1212436 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 20:25:47 +0000 Lyn D. 1212436@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is unbelievably tough VC!<br />I went through a similar time 3 years ago when my Dad had cancer and Mum was in intensive care at the same time and may have died too!<br />Thankfully she recovered and we have had some wonderful times together since.&nbsp;<br />I do hope that you and your Mom have many good years ahead to share! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why#post-1212371 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 18:38:48 +0000 Alassë 1212371@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry to read of all this, VC, and please don't apologize about the length. We want to hear your thoughts, however long it takes to get them out. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why#post-1212360 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 18:23:59 +0000 abc 1212360@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi VC, I am so sorry to hear what's been going on in your life. &nbsp;</p> <p>It takes guts to talk about stuff like this (if you're like me) but I'm sure it feels like a little weight has been lifted just by sharing. &nbsp;</p> <p>I went through some similar stuff with my father then two more life changing events happening in a 4-6 month period of time. &nbsp;The one thing that kept me sane&nbsp;in the moment was taking an hour break each day, away from my caretaking duties,&nbsp;to do something for ME (usually it was Zumba which honestly I think helped keep me balanced during the time of chaos). &nbsp;</p> <p>I know it is hard when it seems like a thousand things are going on, and again if you are like me, you tend to take control (esp when family members can't) but you can't forget about YOU.</p> <p>Maybe you can make time for something that keeps you centered?</p> <p>I will leave you with a quote I found meaningful during my period of crisis:</p> <p><i>Peace does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble or hard work. &nbsp;Peace means to be in the midst of all those things and still be calm in your heart.</i></p> <p>Take care and always know you can check in here (or PM me if you want). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why#post-1212343 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 17:47:18 +0000 Kristin SF 1212343@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm amazed at your fortitude, and your love and support for your family. You are incredibly strong and inspiring. I do hope, however, that you can find time to rest and recharge because you deserve it! </p> <p>Thank you for sharing your experiences, btw. I know it helps to write it all down and/or share with others, so please continue to do so. I'm sure it's cathartic. </p> <p>Warmest wishes and good vibes for your mother's continued healing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why#post-1212262 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 16:23:49 +0000 pil 1212262@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What an awesome daughter you are, your mother must be something very special. A horrendous start to the new year - here's hoping things look up in 2014. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why#post-1212248 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 16:06:19 +0000 rachylou 1212248@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Overwhelming, I know. It's nice to know you're here online with us, reading and <i>not </i>posting a storm. Take all the time you can to get some peace. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why#post-1212199 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 14:26:31 +0000 Eliza 1212199@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry that you are going through such a challenging and emotionally draining time. &nbsp;Wishing you the best with your Mom and condolences on the loss of your grandfather. &nbsp;Your mother is so fortunate to have your support.&nbsp;</p> <p>I hope you have some respite and are able to take good care of yourself. This amount of stress can take a lot out of you and it is often too easy to lose sight of what is needed&nbsp;to carry on in your support of others. &nbsp;</p> <p>Thanks for checking in and all the best with your next steps.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why#post-1212188 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 14:05:14 +0000 LACeleste 1212188@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a tough time VC. &nbsp;My heart goes out to you. &nbsp;I am so sorry about the loss of your grandfather and hoping for restored health for your Mom. Sending you supportive and positive thoughts. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why#post-1212135 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 12:58:34 +0000 TraceyLiz65 1212135@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, overload is the first thing that comes to mind! &nbsp;I hope you find some time to just breathe. &nbsp;In these times when we take care of others we have to remember ourselves so as not to burn out. &nbsp;I highly recommend a few moments of meditation, journaling, dancing to music or something to care for yourself!!!! &nbsp;Sending prayers and best wishes and virtual hugs!!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why#post-1212121 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 12:35:35 +0000 Anonymous 1212121@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Velvety, sending you thoughts of peace and strength. &nbsp;I'm so sorry you lost your beloved grandpa. &nbsp;Wishing the very best for your mom. &nbsp;Hope you get to spend some relaxing time with your hubby and sweet pup soon. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why#post-1212119 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 12:34:23 +0000 Suz 1212119@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>VC, so very sorry that this has been such a difficult and overwhelming time, and I'm sad for your loss. Your family is lucky to have you. Please be good to yourself if you can. The caregiver's role is a heavy one.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why#post-1212114 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 12:25:20 +0000 Janet 1212114@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh my goodness, VC. I'm so sorry. This is a tremendous amount to go through. And here I am feeling overwhelmed just by a couple of ailing dogs. I hope your mom's treatments go smoothly and successfully from here on out. We are here for you! Big hugs and lots of thoughs of love and support for you and your family. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why#post-1212113 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 12:22:52 +0000 ironkurtin 1212113@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your strength and love for your family are so clear. They are blessed to have you. You are in my thoughts with my very best wishes for your mother's outcome. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why#post-1212112 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 12:16:28 +0000 shedev 1212112@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry about your mom and grandpa. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why#post-1212090 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 11:24:56 +0000 Mona 1212090@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry to hear all this VC. This is definitely a lot to take. I hope your mom starts feeling better soon and you can recharge and takek a break from chemo wards. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why#post-1212087 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 10:59:01 +0000 viva 1212087@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry for everything that has been on your plate. Hoping spring will be more peaceful for you. xx </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why#post-1212063 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 09:44:11 +0000 Deborah 1212063@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>VC I cannot imagine going through all of this. Your family are blessed to have you. It sounds like you have had to be everyone's strength for the past months. I am sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself and know we are here. I am praying for your mom and for you and your DH as you continue to look after your mom x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-sidelined---heres-why#post-1212043 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 08:04:23 +0000 Anonymous 1212043@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a dreadful time you've been going through and still are to some degree. I'm so sorry. It must have seemed insurmountable at times. I hope your Mum continues to get through her treatments in one piece and I'm so sorry for the loss of your Grandpa. (hugs) and you now you can always pop back here for support too. x </p>