https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-called-sir-again-this-morning Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 26 Apr 2026 11:42:37 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-called-sir-again-this-morning#post-437337 Wed, 05 Oct 2011 02:40:54 +0000 Girl X 437337@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hee hee - I got a 'Have a good day sir' from a teenaged boy at a Tim Hortons. He did manage to look properly mortified though, especially when I replied, 'You too ma'am.' I think he was hoping that I somehow didn't notice. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-called-sir-again-this-morning#post-437324 Wed, 05 Oct 2011 02:29:50 +0000 Kari 437324@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Patty, Elly, Una, and Khris - I am aghast. I can't possibly picture someone mistaking your gender. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-called-sir-again-this-morning#post-437134 Tue, 04 Oct 2011 22:39:00 +0000 chewyspaghetti 437134@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You can add me to the list of those mistaken for a boy. I hope that it makes you feel a little better that you are not alone in this. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-called-sir-again-this-morning#post-437132 Tue, 04 Oct 2011 22:37:07 +0000 Anonymous 437132@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Was the waitress past 60 years old?</p> <p>I go nuts at work when so many of my co-workers call all the boy dogs she and all the girl dogs he. Even if the girl is "Lucy" or the boy is "Mr Mutt". It's also dogs they have known for years. </p> <p> I call it "Dy-Sex-ia" When the sex of a being is reversered. And not just the dogs, one time a worker said "my husband never wipes HER feet befor coming into the house". And yes, her husband is a man.</p> <p>It seems to start at age 50 and get progressively worse. Recently I've noticed my neighbors are starting to do it too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-called-sir-again-this-morning#post-437119 Tue, 04 Oct 2011 22:21:27 +0000 ironkurtin 437119@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>OK, I refuse to believe I walk and act like a man and that's why I got the porno fliers in Times Square. I think sometimes there's a kneejerk reaction from idiots and we shouldn't blame ourselves for them being somewhat slow and clueless, poor dears.</p> <p>Besides, we can always do what my daughter does when someone assumes that - because her name is Mason - she's a boy: declare loudly, "'I'M NOT A BOY. I'M A GIRL!" </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-called-sir-again-this-morning#post-437098 Tue, 04 Oct 2011 22:03:16 +0000 catgirl 437098@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Elly is onto something. In India, around my very graceful and feminine girl cousins, especially those trained in classical dance, I feel like a guy because I have more typically American body language - wide gestures, awkward hand movements, stompy gait, boisterous laugh. Not to mention I'm a total klutz. My cousins are doctors and engineers and moms, all strong fierce women, but dang it, they are so much more elegant than me! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-called-sir-again-this-morning#post-437089 Tue, 04 Oct 2011 21:57:48 +0000 Elly 437089@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Patty, I always found it quite hilarious when this has happened to me. I have been a curvy hourglass since age 13 (D cup or better, big behind, big feminine lips) and it still was and is a frequent occurrence. It didn't help that I was as tall or taller than many of the men and boys in my community and often ended up wearing men's outerwear, ect because I couldn't find women's that was long enough to keep me warm. My brother's own friends used to mistake me for him and I have had co-workers of my fathers run me down. I think I finally figured out what it was that gave people the wrong impression though---- it was my mannerisms. When I was around people that I didn't know/was uncomfortable with I would unconsciously copy my father's mannerisms. I have his face, so mimicking his expressions wasn't hard and the body language was easy too. </p> <p>Now wearing only women's clothing, with long hair down my back, and finally shorter than at least some men, when I get uncomfortable around people I wasn't expecting to meet or don't trust, I still get sir . . . .and frequently the other common connotation about masculine women. </p> <p>Perhaps it isn't your body or face or clothing that is throwing people off . . . maybe it is your mannerisms? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-called-sir-again-this-morning#post-436936 Tue, 04 Oct 2011 19:20:39 +0000 catgirl 436936@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pat_(Saturday_Night_Live)" rel="nofollow">http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/P.....ight_Live)</a></p> <p>A character from Saturday Night Live that was not able to be identified as male or female in a series of very funny skits.</p> <p>Patty, you are no Pat! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-called-sir-again-this-morning#post-436930 Tue, 04 Oct 2011 19:18:03 +0000 krishnidoux 436930@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What is a Pat? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-called-sir-again-this-morning#post-436899 Tue, 04 Oct 2011 18:39:37 +0000 Scarlet 436899@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I DO NOT believe you are a Pat!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-called-sir-again-this-morning#post-436886 Tue, 04 Oct 2011 18:25:19 +0000 Patty 436886@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I just have to settle with the fact that I am a 'Pat' stereotype on the hoof ---it's another thing that makes me second guess every lick of clothing I ever try on. It's messed up. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-called-sir-again-this-morning#post-436848 Tue, 04 Oct 2011 17:53:25 +0000 krishnidoux 436848@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Then another time when I was about 34, riding my bike with my 7 yr old son, on a windy and cold but sunny day (so we were both a bit bundled up). We run into two of his schoolmates. "Is that your brother?" they asked, pointing at me. He replied (with shock) "wha...? It's my mom!" The boys left briefly after that. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-called-sir-again-this-morning#post-436842 Tue, 04 Oct 2011 17:51:13 +0000 krishnidoux 436842@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Una, what a great story! Wow, talk about a mix of generation gap and cultural gap.<br /> Patty, I am very sorry that this happened. I am sure it's uncalled for. </p> <p>When I was 18, I once came home with a semi-shaved punk red haircut. I was speaking with my younger brother in the living room when my parents opened the door, back from church. Immediately my mother burst in French to my brother: "I thought we had been clear NOT to invite any (male) friends ("Pas de copain")! Tell him to get out immediately". </p> <p>My own mother! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-called-sir-again-this-morning#post-436838 Tue, 04 Oct 2011 17:49:15 +0000 Sona 436838@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>just sending you some hugs. and look at all the stories YLF'ers have shared... one common theme...</p> <p>its not you, its the other person.</p> <p>you gorgeous gal you!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-called-sir-again-this-morning#post-436821 Tue, 04 Oct 2011 17:38:04 +0000 Suz 436821@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What IK said. </p> <p>I am sorry that happened. It can be very upsetting on the wrong day. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-called-sir-again-this-morning#post-436812 Tue, 04 Oct 2011 17:28:45 +0000 ironkurtin 436812@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>When I had a very short haircut in NYC, and had to walk through Times Square on my way to lunch, I was routinely handed strip club fliers. I started collecting them.</p> <p> On the flip side, when I was pregnant, and wearing wedding rings, I got called Miss every day. (Um... married... pregnant... not a Miss!)</p> <p>I think sometimes people don't pay attention, or aren't very bright. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-called-sir-again-this-morning#post-436809 Tue, 04 Oct 2011 17:26:16 +0000 rae 436809@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Everyone slips up from time to time... sounds like her mind must have been elsewhere! Sorry that it happend, all the same. :T </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-called-sir-again-this-morning#post-436769 Tue, 04 Oct 2011 16:48:27 +0000 Scarlet 436769@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Having seen photos of you I am really befuddled why that would happen. Maybe she had a certain sir on the brain that day. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-called-sir-again-this-morning#post-436760 Tue, 04 Oct 2011 16:41:09 +0000 catgirl 436760@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Patty, I've never shared this story with anyone, but I'll share it for you now. Back in my androgynous/college days, an old friend of my father's was visiting from India. My father introduced him to me, and we proceeded to have a very long weird conversation about school and sports that neither my father and I really understood, ending in him complimenting me on looking just like my father. Only later did I realize he'd spent the whole time thinking I was my 14 year old brother. Concert t-shirt? Check. Baggy shorts? Check. Skater punk haircut? Check. Cultural miscommunication gaping wide as the Grand Canyon? Oh, yeah. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-called-sir-again-this-morning#post-436754 Tue, 04 Oct 2011 16:34:07 +0000 Vildy 436754@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry. Howsa 'bout adding prominent earrings? I have a friend who's very tall and rangy and wears basic androgynous type clothes. Jeans is jeans. But feels she has to watch her haircut style because she gets mad at being called, "Sir." </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-called-sir-again-this-morning#post-436753 Tue, 04 Oct 2011 16:33:29 +0000 Heather 436753@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Patty, if it makes you feel a smidgeon better, one time I accidentally yes ma'amed the former governor of my state on the phone. I didn't pause and neither did he. ;D </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/got-called-sir-again-this-morning#post-436751 Tue, 04 Oct 2011 16:30:47 +0000 Patty 436751@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think a tattoo that says female on my throat oughtta cure that.<br /> After the waitress looked me up and down I got a lot of Dear, Love and Sweet Heart.<br /> It takes me along time to shake this crap off.<br /> Not looking for pity--just sayin'. </p>