https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 22 Apr 2026 07:00:35 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at/page/2#post-2025103 Mon, 06 May 2019 22:25:16 +0000 Mainelady 2025103@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sal, diplomacy is indeed a valued talent. Being able to see both sides is very helpful. It doesn’t necessarily make things easier though. I have observed quite a few diplomatic and tactful people who are also quite empathetic.<br /> Dear Katerina, I would agree that you know a thing or two about scarves and shopping! I am happy to see you posting again.<br /> Nuancedream, welcome back! I am wishing you improved health and fewer challenges. Color, pattern and style is a very effective means of communication. Thank you for posting! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at/page/2#post-2025003 Mon, 06 May 2019 15:11:35 +0000 nuancedream 2025003@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>After a fairly long hiatus from participating in the forum due to health issues from an autoimmune illness, family issues, and an ever increasing workload, I'm back and am loving this thread!<br />I think I'm good at giving people honest but practical advice. That's what I have been doing as a vocational rehabilitation counselor since 1985.&nbsp; With regard to style, I know something about color combinations and pattern mixing.&nbsp; As an introvert, what I wear each day frequently conveys more than my verbal communication.&nbsp; I am grateful that I have the opportunity to appreciate the myraid unique styles and opinions of others on this forum. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at/page/2#post-2024988 Mon, 06 May 2019 14:30:24 +0000 Anonymous 2024988@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Canadians will apologize for something they didn't do before they ever blow their own horns &nbsp;Mainelady - your contributions here are unique and valued. &nbsp;Your positivity and sense of fun comes through - guess it goes with being a teacher? &nbsp;And your personal approach to fashion is great - you aren't swayed by trends. &nbsp;It's always fun to start threads that are a little different - and this one was fun to read. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at/page/2#post-2024951 Mon, 06 May 2019 09:50:07 +0000 Katerina 2024951@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mainelady, you are such a kind and generous person. I hope you know how appreciated you are here on YLF.</p> <p>I belong to the category of rather shy people not good at promoting themselves. I think that many of us here, where I live, could be better at it. Therefore, I didn’t really know how to answer at first. </p> <p>In terms of style, I know a thing or two about scarves. But I think that I am also very good at shopping. Seriously, I often find great sources of great stuff and I usually manage to get fantastic quality for the money. I am not a lazy shopper and I don’t leave any stone unturned. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at/page/2#post-2024941 Mon, 06 May 2019 08:31:30 +0000 anne 2024941@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with the Cat and&nbsp; Lisa. I hadn't planned to comment at all and my earlier comment was to reassure you, kind Mainelady, which the Cat herself has now done more fully.</p> <p>And ditto to everything Sal said.Just insert "australians" instead of NZers!&nbsp; I identify with her first paragraph but in my&nbsp;I overanalyse and contribute way less on YLF than I'd like even though I "listen"&nbsp; caringly, because I'm not decisive enough to write things. I really do care about you all. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at/page/2#post-2024899 Mon, 06 May 2019 01:43:42 +0000 Sal 2024899@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My great strength can be my biggest weakness as well.....I am very fair and a very good arbitrator/mediator/analyst and good at seeing both sides of the story.&nbsp; I understand good people can do bad things, and that bad people can do good things.......This makes me a good listener and a diplomatic person 95% of the time.</p> <p>But it can lead me to permanently feel conflicted about things (eg if I am happy because something good has happened, I see the person who has lost out).&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p>NZers are known for not being good at promoting themselves, and for hoping people will notice that they are doing a good job. Traditionally we would hate to be seen as someone who talked themselves up and could not then deliver.&nbsp; It is changing however.&nbsp; Some cultures are much better at this than others - so I think this is part of the reticence here from forum members.</p> <p>And I agree with The Cat that it is fine to have a conversation about our differences.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at/page/2#post-2024884 Mon, 06 May 2019 01:10:14 +0000 taylor 2024884@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, to answers your question ...how do I walk in heels?<br /> My husband gave the best comeback to a stranger one day .</p> <p>“ As you can see , my wife is *light* on her feet”</p> <p>I can’t top that , so it’s my standard answer now </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at/page/2#post-2024867 Mon, 06 May 2019 00:15:37 +0000 Anonymous 2024867@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The Cat speaks for me too. I certainly was not offended, upset or uncomfortable. &nbsp;And in no way did I intend to hijack anything . Every post is a conversation . &nbsp;Replies, questions, differences of opinion. It's all good ! (or should be)&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at/page/2#post-2024859 Sun, 05 May 2019 23:18:58 +0000 Anonymous 2024859@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't see it as bragging, just providing balance. We're all very upfront about the things we feel bad about: this color is awful on me, that makes my (insert body part) look big, etc. Even if we don't say it- society tells us we have to worry about every flaw. Advertisers will make up stuff for us to worry about! </p> <p>Being good at something is a gift. Its the things that come naturally. The times when we're in Flow state. We all have them, just like we all have the things that don't come naturally. The gifts are for us to give away-to help others! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at/page/2#post-2024763 Sun, 05 May 2019 19:18:13 +0000 Janet 2024763@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ditto to Xtabay and Taylor. I’ve beat myself up enough in my lifetime (and yes, on this forum) that I took a moment to pat myself on the back for an ability I have. I learned a long time ago that if someone else’s thread makes me feel uncomfortable, I can use that as an opportunity to examine what that means for my emotional well-being, and I can choose whether to participate or not. At the same time, I respect and appreciate all the many varied perspectives in this forum from a variety of countries and cultures. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at/page/2#post-2024756 Sun, 05 May 2019 18:53:59 +0000 The Cat 2024756@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Dear Mainelady, you are not hurting me. I just tried to explain, as anne rightly presumed, why some might not feel comfortable participating in threads like this. You come across as a VERY nice and likable person, and in a way I feel that your post has deserved many positive responses. But if it doesn't get so many as you might have hoped, it might very well be because some fabbers are too shy to brag about themselves--it simply doesn't feel natural to them. My comment was just meant as a kind information about this fact. It was never my intention to hijack your post or subvert it into making you or anyone else feel badly.</p> <p>In my opinion, there is no right or wrong, or black or white, regarding this topic. It is just that we are coming from so many different places--geographically, culturally and emotionally.</p> <p>This forum has broadened my horizon, and I am grateful for that. Some topics discussed here have never been a problem for me, but they obviously are so for some people elsewhere, and several fabbers' thoughtful comments and kind explanations have helped me to see various cases from new-to-me points of view.</p> <p>Xtabay, taylor, and others, OF COURSE, it is always possible to just (more or less) ignore a post and move on to the next. And I guess that many of us often do so. But sometimes it might be worth trying to explain a different view than the poster or the majority seems to hold. After all, a meaningful and mutually enriching conversation consists of more than just repeating others' viewpoints. And I am so glad that this forum has often showed that despite our different viewpoints it is possible to treat each other with kindness and respect. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at/page/2#post-2024743 Sun, 05 May 2019 18:11:29 +0000 taylor 2024743@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ditto .. again Xtabay!<br /> Well said </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at#post-2024737 Sun, 05 May 2019 17:55:23 +0000 Anonymous 2024737@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'd rather read a thread like this one than one where someone is beating herself up about her thighs or whatever body part she's mad at that week. &nbsp;Just saying. &nbsp;I'm feeling rather appalled at how this nice thread got subverted into making the poster feel badly.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at#post-2024733 Sun, 05 May 2019 17:45:10 +0000 taylor 2024733@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ditto Xtabay!<br /> We have had threads that include sex, boobs,bras, transgenders, lingerie and politics, yet this thread may somehow make someone of a different culture uncomfortable??<br /> To them I say ... move on to the next thread as I and others do if one is so offended.<br /> No need to be shamed into an apology. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at#post-2024729 Sun, 05 May 2019 17:31:01 +0000 Mainelady 2024729@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>LisaP and Anne, I am truly sorry my post caused discomfort or worse. The thoughts behind it were to credit and celebrate the diverse talents members bring to the forum. Everyone is a valued contributor and I am continually impressed by the genuine helpfulness of all.<br /> I personally think it is great to recognize our strengths, as well as our challenges and also believe we can learn so much from each other (not just on this forum). My lense is often from an educational perspective. I did not intend to come across as insensitive or rude. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at#post-2024725 Sun, 05 May 2019 17:25:53 +0000 Anonymous 2024725@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>No need to apologize to anyone, Mainelady. &nbsp;You're a positive person, making a positive contribution to a forum, which by definition is a place where we feel free to share our thoughts. &nbsp;If for some reason a person isn't comfortable with the uplifting topic you posted, that's on them, not you. &nbsp;I always enjoy your posts and hope you'll continue to do similar ones. &nbsp;Cheers to being positive and feeling good about ourselves in a world that frequently tries to drag us down and make us feel badly about ourselves. &nbsp;:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at#post-2024679 Sun, 05 May 2019 15:19:55 +0000 Anonymous 2024679@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>&nbsp;Cat, Anne, my response was the same as yours.....I also shrink back from the gratitude threads. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at#post-2024660 Sun, 05 May 2019 14:40:18 +0000 anne 2024660@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't think you would be hurting anyone Mainelady, perhaps just that some would not feel comfortable participating. Is that right, the Cat? Speaking here as someone whose initial response was similiar. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at#post-2024654 Sun, 05 May 2019 14:18:36 +0000 Mainelady 2024654@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The Cat, thank you for calling my attention to and raising my awareness to cultural differences or norms. I would never intentionally, create a feeling of discomfort for anyone. Even with good intentions, if people are inadvertently hurt, it is not ok. I sincerely apologize if my post is insensitive, or hurtful, in any way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at#post-2024604 Sun, 05 May 2019 11:11:54 +0000 The Cat 2024604@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mainelady, I am sure you have the best intentions. But please be aware that in several cultures (outside America ) it may not be common or easy for people to highlight their own strengths and assets. Many people humbly feel that things like this are best left to other people. 'Leave it to others to talk about you.' :-)</p> <p>Thank you for your kind words to all fabbers. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at#post-2024603 Sun, 05 May 2019 10:28:51 +0000 Mainelady 2024603@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Each and every one of you is amazing, fabulous, appreciated and and humble. Your contributions to this forum and beyond are vast. I am so enjoying reading your posts!<br /> Rachylou, I for one, would like to learn more about your neighborhood style and the fences. I have missed info on those.<br /> Suntiger, it is a great skill and kindness to help others see / discover themselves through style.<br /> Kkards, training others and seeing them succeed is a huge gift. One that goes both ways. You must be very proud of their successes!<br /> CristelJ, what an honor to be asked to search for and find special items for others! That must be so much fun!<br /> Cee, don’t ever stop! Humor is important and sometimes overlooked. A good chuckle elevates any mood.<br /> Jenn, I think we are all here to learn and often pausing to consider another perspective does lead to a change of thought and leads to a win win. Being mindful often has a positive ripple effect.<br /> Janet, yes, you are. I think people appreciate honesty and when it is given tactfully and respectfully it is better received, if the message isn’t what one was hoping for.<br /> Xtabay, I think everybody needs a shopping buddy like you! There are so many times people talk themselves out fo something fabulous that they really want.<br /> OMG LaPed! I am such a word nerd! I am sure I would enjoy your company. Your expertise with gear would be very helpful in our area and your services sought after. Do you write reviews?<br /> Suz, thank you. You are so kind. My hairdresser gets all the credit for my road to gray being a smooth one. Suz, you most definitely are a cheerleader and a problem solver. I think you also have a keen eye for detail and lead by example. You inspire others.<br /> Lisa P, honesty is crucial and members come here seeking that. I appreciate reading comments that reflect something I hadn’t considered or noticed myself.<br /> JenniNZ, I am sorry you are feeling tender. Please remind yourself that that feeling is temporary. Opinions differ, both here and IRL. We come here seeking advice, support, resources, guidance and so much more. Like a large family, not everybody is going to be on the same page all the time. It’s ok. Every book has many pages. Turn this one.<br /> Shevia, absolutely! Your thoughtful replies are equally enthusiastic and kind for all.<br /> Bijou, yes! Polished, professional, yet personalized and not severely serious. Your personality shines through in each of your outfits. I would enjoy reading a book about each of our Fabbers! Everyone is unique but through YLF we are united. I think that is pretty special.<br /> CindyL, welcome! You will learn so much here! This is a very special forum! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at#post-2024570 Sun, 05 May 2019 02:33:29 +0000 Cindy L 2024570@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m a newbie and still reading through posts but this is such a great community.. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at#post-2024569 Sun, 05 May 2019 02:32:53 +0000 Suz 2024569@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ooooh. <b>Bijou</b> -- that is incredibly kind of you to say!! (Also, I agree, re <b>Jenni</b>NZ!)&nbsp;</p> <p>And, <b>YOU</b> are one of the most gentle, thoughtful, and beautifully feminine members of the forum. I look at you and see Kim Novak. Which is a pleasure just in itself. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at#post-2024560 Sun, 05 May 2019 02:04:20 +0000 Bijou 2024560@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love participating on the forum. In terms of my style, a strength is looking polished and professional with a touch of whimsy in the mix. </p> <p>I thoroughly concur with others assessments although everyone is being very humble in terms of their contributions. Now I could probably write a book on each and every one of you but two notable mentions:</p> <p><b>JenniNZ </b>- you are always kind and a most valued member of the YLF community, thank you for your honest feedback.&nbsp;</p> <p><b>Suz</b>, you are the most amazing problem solver and provide great inspiration in terms of your personal style and your outlook on life. You are always so generous in taking the time to understand others issues and provide insights to help.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at#post-2024540 Sun, 05 May 2019 00:57:59 +0000 Jaime 2024540@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I offer loyalty and consistency as I have been commenting regularly on this forum for years - and am still an enthusiastic and appreciative member.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at#post-2024533 Sun, 05 May 2019 00:30:03 +0000 Jenni NZ 2024533@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi friend Mainelady. It’s not a good day to ask me what my contribution to the forum is, sadly. I’m feeling criticised for responding as I did to Anchie, yesterday I think it was. Otherwise I think I would have said that I try to give thoughtful and helpful advice, which is exactly what I try to do in both my real life jobs as well.<br /> Otherwise I enjoy giving the odd cheeky comment, though nowhere near the style of Cee on that front!<br /> I will get over it of course. I’m sure it’s normal when you get a whole bunch of women commenting on each other’s outfits that you’ll get widely differing opinions and tastes. Angie does the most amazing job of keeping us all kind and positive as much as possible. And you’re a force for good and positivity too!<br /> I love your concept of “happiness factors”. My shoes and earrings do the same for me x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at#post-2024514 Sat, 04 May 2019 21:00:11 +0000 Anonymous 2024514@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Here on the forum you mean? Well , my honesty probably defines me . And the odd unpredictable reaction to things.....;) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at#post-2024506 Sat, 04 May 2019 20:01:49 +0000 Suz 2024506@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is so fun! <b>Mainelady</b>, I would take a bracelet stacking workshop with you any day! Also, I think you could add something to your list of skills: Tutorials on how to grow out your grey gracefully and beautifully.&nbsp;</p> <p>I am enjoying others' perceptive and interesting takes on their fashion forum superpowers, too!&nbsp;</p> <p>When I am around here, I'm an enthusiastic cheerleader and problem-solver. But most of us are that!&nbsp;</p> <p>Not too sure if there is anything specific I'm especially good at, though. &nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at#post-2024501 Sat, 04 May 2019 19:30:00 +0000 LaPed 2024501@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Word origins! And sometimes I dabble in the history and science of textiles. Nerd par excellence. </p> <p>Here to answer all the gear-related questions as well: performance materials, technical features, what's trending in the great outdoors, etc. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/give-yourself-a-pat-on-the-back-what-are-you-really-good-at#post-2024497 Sat, 04 May 2019 18:45:12 +0000 Anonymous 2024497@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My shopping buddies know that I will NOT let them leave the store without getting that thing they love and look fab in. &nbsp;Any reason they give for not buying it will be shot down immediately! &nbsp;:).&nbsp; </p>