https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/getting-older Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Tue, 21 Apr 2026 03:53:12 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/getting-older#post-1913602 Sat, 28 Apr 2018 03:43:06 +0000 Anonymous 1913602@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is timely as we got terrible news this week from DH's cardiologist. He has all sorts of stuff that needs fixing in his heart in a few weeks and I am frightened that I may lose him. The thing is that time passes so quickly and one does not feel any older. I suppose just living long enough to get older is a blessing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/getting-older#post-1911577 Sun, 22 Apr 2018 00:10:54 +0000 ladypainter 1911577@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It is so hard to lose the elders in your family--<br />I hope their passing was peaceful. Trying to fill their shoes will be a challenge, but it is the next big step we all take.<br />Bless you and your adorable little one. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/getting-older#post-1909563 Mon, 16 Apr 2018 20:33:07 +0000 Ledonna N. 1909563@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Torontogirl yep they are old souls that have come back </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/getting-older#post-1909529 Mon, 16 Apr 2018 19:15:06 +0000 Helena 1909529@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Absolutely beautiful Little ones know, don't they? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/getting-older#post-1909526 Mon, 16 Apr 2018 18:50:54 +0000 Ledonna N. 1909526@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Toronto Girl thank you so much as I was feeling a certain way. My sister invited me to go to church at our 11 service. My daughter who had never seen the laying on of hands was dancing and tryimg to sing to the music wavering her hands. Well she came over to me and did this. Somehow it gave me reassurance that we are not just existing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/getting-older#post-1909411 Mon, 16 Apr 2018 14:40:56 +0000 Helena 1909411@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ledonna, lots of love to you. We are the same age, and I feel the same as you. My mom is terminally ill and I can see others slowing down and losing their health. Even some of my peers are facing the perils of age.</p> <p>I think you've got some wonderful advice and support in this thread, and all I can add is, as a person of faith, I believe that nothing is wasted in this universe - not a tear, not a moment of suffering, not a loss. It can all be transformed into greater wisdom, greater love, greater compassion, and greater appreciation of each and every blessed moment.</p> <p>Lots of love to you ... hug that baby girl extra tight and long today xoxoxo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/getting-older#post-1907289 Thu, 12 Apr 2018 09:47:11 +0000 Ledonna N. 1907289@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Rachy Lou this year feels like I blinked and it was gone. Even tho I have the pictures. 26 years I could not even imagine with your beautiful baby. My sister says they will always be your babies. She has a 25 year old 23 year old and a 16 year old .</p> <p>City Girl DC what words of wisdom you have I'm so sorry for the loss of your father and also I can understand and commiserate with your mom my mom felt the exact same way and it was very hard with the loss of our father many years ago. Because my father was her whole world her love the only one of her life. So it was really challenging for me and my sister to encourage her spirit while encouraging her at the same time thank you for your words of wisdom and also empathy it is greatly appreciated</p> <p>Barbara Diane you are really right when I can't waste time thinking about the loss I should explain that energy thinking about the joy that I have and celebrating this day thank you for that reminder </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/getting-older#post-1907053 Wed, 11 Apr 2018 17:43:44 +0000 rachylou 1907053@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My ‘baby’ will turn 26 this year. That’s just creepy. Lol. Just you wait </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/getting-older#post-1907028 Wed, 11 Apr 2018 16:37:53 +0000 citygirldc 1907028@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ledonna - I totally get what you are saying.&nbsp; I lost my father a few years ago and mom my has had it tough with the lost. What's even harder is that my mom keeps talking about how much she's aged from stress, and constantly talking about how quickly life is passing her by which is effecting me in lots of ways. I can't tell her that and she doesn't have many friends she can talk to so I'm the one who has to listen.&nbsp; There's only so much listening I can do and it does takes it toll and makes me think about my mortality too.&nbsp;</p> <p>Anyway, I try to live me life as joyously as I can. Life is short so take advantage of it and take care of yourself and that cute little baby of yours.&nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/getting-older#post-1906868 Wed, 11 Apr 2018 08:33:49 +0000 Barbara Diane 1906868@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Loving and getting older means loss. But it also means that you are the lucky one who is still able to enjoy this life. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/getting-older#post-1906370 Tue, 10 Apr 2018 05:13:59 +0000 Ledonna N. 1906370@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>And this right here is why I love ylf. We are most amazing group of people from different backgrounds and different socioeconomic statuses and different places in our life and in the world. The commonality the genuine care in here is something that I have missed. I know most of us should have acted blind and busy friends outside of social media butt I love it and waiting we Embrace each other.</p> <p>I truly have read each and every store here I wish I could respond to each but baby keeps me busy and I only have from 12 to 2 in the morning to do self-care. But yes motherhood has stripped me wrong it is made me over into this emotional new thing that I never thought that I would be. There's a vulnerability there that is unexpected. I have never cried so much in my life I'll talk about not just said to use but happy tears just because tears. I am this new thing and I have not used to it.</p> <p>That's why I needed the break I needed to absorb who I am now mother what motherhood looks like on me. And it's an ever-evolving thing. There is no right there is no wrong with it just is.</p> <p>I love the idea of doing the handprint and I will do that and a little write-up for my daughter because we are not promised tomorrow but I can do for today. For her birthday I got her picture book of all of our first a funny moments of silly moments of really weird moments. And I love it. I also got her two books with her name and the alphabet and a journey for herself. I love the memories that we're creating. But she does remind me of my mortality. And I was having a moment and I appreciate each and everyone of you who took the time to respond. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/getting-older#post-1906308 Tue, 10 Apr 2018 01:28:12 +0000 SandyG 1906308@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ledonna, my theatre director was so surprised to be pregnant at 45 that she didn't tell anyone, even her husband and best friend, until nearly the 6 months point -- and by then, they had guessed Her doctor told her that a natural, healthy pregnancy in her mid-40s meant that she had a young body. The baby, her third and the only girl, brought her tremendous satisfaction in life and kept the whole family young with her energy and drive.&nbsp;</p> <p>Take this next part as you will. I think maybe the whole weight of mortality feelings are due to you feeling vulnerable since little Z'J arrived. Because that happened to me. I cried quite a few nights after my kids were born, knowing that I had previously shielded myself, but now had been stripped of skin with all raw nerves exposed, all on their behalf, because I suddenly cared and invested so much of myself, unguarded. Juggling love can be an uncomfortable experience because new moms have to be so open. it gets easier, promise. Fewer raw nerves and much, much more comfort and joy! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/getting-older#post-1906251 Mon, 09 Apr 2018 22:01:30 +0000 texstyle 1906251@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ledonna - yes, I can relate to the mortality thing. I just saw this announcement today about Willie Nelson's new song. I 'm not really into country music as a whole but there are always exceptions. He is 85 and planning the next concert tour!<br /><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.wideopencountry.com/hear-willie-nelsons-new-song-something-you-get-through/?utm_source=facebook&amp;utm_medium=sendible&amp;utm_term=txhc&amp;utm_campaign=txhc">http://www.wideopencountry.com....._source=fa</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/getting-older#post-1906234 Mon, 09 Apr 2018 21:00:37 +0000 Anonymous 1906234@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Le- nothing like having a child to make you think about how fragile life is.<br /> You feel like you have to live forever just to be available IF they need you- I would like to say those feelings leave but my baby is going on 37 and she is a bright more than capable young lady....... so Its a mom thing not a kid thing lol.<br /> It seems freaky but yes- someone in a family dies and the next thing you know someone in the family is pregnant- happens in almost every family- that whole “circle of life” bit.<br /> It is hard to lose family- especially the elders, with all the wisdom they could offer you regarding family history, genealogy , family stories and child rearing guidance.<br /> Suggestions-<br /> first- even as young as you are- get legal affairs in order so God forbid- you know there is a plan for your child’ s care. That will go a long way in your comfort level ( plus superstition wise- if you have a plan you won’t need to use it-lol)<br /> Second- get a notebook and have your elders dictate interesting family lore, stories etc that you can write down so they can be passed on for generations- take a pic of elder to place with story. I did that and my only regret is that I got a late start .<br /> Third- get yourself a diary and write letters to your child telling them of your thoughts and some of their funny antics. I started doing this when I had a cancer scare soon after she was born. For most entries, I traced her hand over the writing . Now we share the book- her first day of kindergarten- a story a pic ( and her handprint at 5) her prom - a story a pic (and her handprint at 17) just because she has a face covered in bar b que sauce- yup a story a pic ( and a CLEAN hand print at 3) As I was packing to leave for her destination wedding- she called .......” don’t forget to bring the book mom”. On her wedding day was a write up of my thoughts- her hand print ...... and happy tear marks from both of us.<br /> Hugs </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/getting-older#post-1906145 Mon, 09 Apr 2018 17:18:15 +0000 Anonymous 1906145@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Having a baby can definitely amplify a person's awareness of mortality, but of course this was all true before you had her too, it's you that has changed. I think you're already doing the best you can as often as you can so you have that covered.</p> <p>We've had enough death in my family, young and old, that when my daughter had her first child she immediately made a will, the most important part being custody. Address whatever issues nag at you and try to make peace with the unknown. Try to keep an open mind about change and wether it's good or bad.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/getting-older#post-1906140 Mon, 09 Apr 2018 17:10:26 +0000 Anonymous 1906140@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Having a child makes one aware of their mortality about every second of the day. And yes, all at once, things change your family takes on a different shape. &nbsp;In 6 months &nbsp;alone a few years ago, my husband lost both his sister and his mom, while I lost my mother. &nbsp;It's the circle of life - and having a little one around is actually a good thing &nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/getting-older#post-1906125 Mon, 09 Apr 2018 16:54:48 +0000 Anonymous 1906125@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ledona life is sometimes difficult I am 56 years old I lost my best cousin at the age of 50 my younger sister who at 50 years old is on a waiting list for the transplantation of her lungs and life goes on. I just went through a great depression mobing at work I questioned myself and now I live the present moment and I feel better you are young take care of yourself and your little ray of sun benefits and give him all your love . Angi's words are wonderful they go straight to the heart. Friendship Bernard </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/getting-older#post-1906075 Mon, 09 Apr 2018 15:16:23 +0000 Angie 1906075@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I lost my Mum at 29. It was unexpected, we were close, and she was gone in 12 weeks. She was 59. </p> <p>Now, I'm almost 48.</p> <p>GOT TO LIVE EACH DAY AND CHOOSE JOY. <br /><b><br /></b>Sweet and dear,<b> Ledonna,</b> there is no time to think about our mortality. It's a waste of your very positive energy that lights up the lives of those around you. Much love to you. xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/getting-older#post-1906017 Mon, 09 Apr 2018 12:41:29 +0000 Style Fan 1906017@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I know what you mean.&nbsp; Life is very precious.&nbsp; My first husband died when he was 42.&nbsp; For me, time took on a different meaning after losing someone important. &nbsp;<br />Every day is a gift.&nbsp; I don't need to do anything amazing but I am grateful for what I have. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/getting-older#post-1906010 Mon, 09 Apr 2018 12:19:54 +0000 RobinF 1906010@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yeah I know what you mean. I am only 56 and have lost a younger sister and brother already. It's really tough and does make you realize how fragile life is. On a happier note, 40 is the new 30 they say so I'm sure you'll be around for little Zion Joy a long time.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/getting-older#post-1905940 Mon, 09 Apr 2018 07:05:35 +0000 Ledonna N. 1905940@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It seems as if most of my family is transitioning to the next life. It seems that every year that passes that we are loosing more and more. I'm really feeling my morality.</p> <p>As I will be 44 next month with a 1 year old. I'm still in disbelief or some surreal world that she is here. On the flip side they say the people who have babies later in life live to be centennial's or in their 90's </p>