https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 04 Apr 2026 13:30:46 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay/page/2#post-261790 Mon, 06 Dec 2010 15:35:19 +0000 Laura 261790@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sarah, you made a good decision on packing and now you can feel confident about that and focus on your family. You will be beautiful, living tribute to your grandfather. Please let us know how the trip goes! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay/page/2#post-261764 Mon, 06 Dec 2010 15:01:40 +0000 Sarah 261764@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you all. Like Angie said, it's done. I feel so much better just knowing what I'll pack and not having to stress about something like this during a time like this. I wanted to get it ironed out over the weekend so I could focus these next few days on getting ready to go.<br /> I'll wear the too-big dress, my trench (which already is void of cat hair, just have to iron it and sew on buttons), and maybe the nude pumps since they are my only closed toe pair. I'd like something more camel (and that fit me better) but I have a back up.<br /> To travel in, I think I'll just wear skinnies, boots, and a sweater to make it easy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay/page/2#post-261257 Sun, 05 Dec 2010 15:57:35 +0000 Isabel 261257@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sarah, I am just so sorry about the loss of your grandfather and beloved pet. I think about how blessed both you and your grandfather were to have each other for so long.<br /> Also, how lucky your wonderful "child-cat" was to have a mom that loved it so much and was so good to it.</p> <p>My sympathies. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay/page/2#post-261197 Sun, 05 Dec 2010 08:09:53 +0000 catgirl 261197@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm just chiming in to add another hug and sympathies on your loss... You always look perfect to me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay/page/2#post-261154 Sun, 05 Dec 2010 05:57:56 +0000 Lena 261154@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sarah, I'm so sorry about your Grandpa. </p> <p>I just read about your furbaby. I'm so sorry. I'm positive you gave him a wonderful loving home, and I'm sure the little guy had a good life. I'm so sorry. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay/page/2#post-261126 Sun, 05 Dec 2010 04:54:50 +0000 Lisa 261126@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I vote #1 with a black cardigan and black shoes. #1 is navy right? As long as it's a dark color and you have SOME black, you do not need ALL black for a funeral. The overall look is just "dark" which you can certainly do with navy. If #1 is not navy I vote too big dress. It's not the best I've seen on you, but this is a funeral so who cares right? You can always find a simple black sheath or other dress at another time. #2 is too sexy for a funeral to my eye. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay#post-261073 Sun, 05 Dec 2010 04:00:09 +0000 Angie 261073@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sounds perfect, Sarah. You'll look fab no matter what. It's done. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay#post-261056 Sun, 05 Dec 2010 03:27:19 +0000 Debora 261056@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sarah, I can't add anything to what's already been said. The ladies have given you excellent advice as to what to wear. I did want to send my support and to let you know that I will be thinking about you at this very difficult time. I'm so sorry for your loss. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay#post-261050 Sun, 05 Dec 2010 03:11:10 +0000 Jenava 261050@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sarah, I can imagine that shopping for this funeral is not something that's fun. I'm so sorry for you loss.</p> <p>If you feel fine in #3 and it won't add any discomfort I'd got with that dress. I also think the ink blue blouse with a black skirt and blazer or cardi would be totally appropriate as well, so if that would be more comfy on a fit level I'd go with that. Good luck. Hugs! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay#post-261034 Sun, 05 Dec 2010 02:14:12 +0000 bj1111 261034@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>sarah,</p> <p>i'm so sorry for your loss. i'm sure poppy was a great grandfather and you had a wonderful relationship with him.</p> <p>shopping for a funeral is not something anyone relishes...it's ok. reach into your closet, pick something reasonably appropriate and concentrate on celebrating your poppy. alternatively, you can wear something that you think he would have liked to see you wear as a way to honor him. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay#post-261009 Sun, 05 Dec 2010 00:12:30 +0000 Jen 261009@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss. Hang in there.</p> <p>The Taylor dress (#3) will work - from the pictures, I can't even tell the top is too big! The dress I wore to my Grandpa's funeral last year hasn't been touched since then.. </p> <p>I love outfit in photo #7! (Just not for the funeral.) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay#post-261002 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 23:47:19 +0000 MsMary 261002@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Team Traci. I'm sorry for your loss, Sarah. Hugs to you and your family. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay#post-260999 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 23:45:58 +0000 Anonymous 260999@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sarah, I'm sorry about your grandfather. About wearing the dress that's a bit too big, could you pad your bra? Silly, I know, but may do the trick. The nude pumps you show look like they would be fine. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay#post-260997 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 23:40:38 +0000 Steph 260997@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sarah, I agree with everything Traci said. The key here is looking appropriate and respectful, and all of these choices work well (and you look good in all of them--really!). I also agree that the nude pumps are a good option and you can definitely wear those. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay#post-260994 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 23:26:33 +0000 Traci 260994@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I honestly think that perfection is not necessary under the circumstances. I would clean up the trench coat, sew on the buttons, wear the slightly big dress and the nude pumps you show in the pictures above. You will look perfectly appropriate. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay#post-260988 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 23:13:43 +0000 Sarah 260988@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Or I can just wear the slightly too big dress and get some black pumps and call it good. I never thought I'd say this, but I'm sick of shopping. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay#post-260987 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 23:12:50 +0000 Sarah 260987@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It will be 60 degrees, so yes, I'd need a trench. I spent about 6 hours today shopping for another dress and came away empty. So I'll put together a few things with what I have and go from there.<br /> I WILL need to purchase some simple black pumps as I do not own any.<br /> I do have a black trench after all, but it is covered in cat hair and needs a few buttons sewn back on. I"ll try to clean it up and sew on the buttons for your approval before I go.<br /> I do not have a simple black top. I DO have an ink blue silk top (pictured below) that I could wear with a black pencil skirt and cardigan. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay#post-260844 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 16:37:20 +0000 Angie 260844@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sarah, is it cold in the Bay Area? You'll need a coat or trench to wear over the dress I think. Nothing flashy. Plain simple hose and classic pumps. You could also wear a black skirt and black top. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay#post-260828 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 16:00:33 +0000 Steph 260828@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sarah, I actually do think that bare legs are okay (and I didn't think fishnets would be appropriate, so take that for what it's worth), but if you want to purchase nude hose I would recommend Calvin Klein, which I find hold up really well. If you would like some extra support, Spanx puts out a great nude hose. Donna Karan's the Nudes line are very sheer and I know a lot of people who are big fans, and I find that Ann Taylor's nude hose have great colors for matching skin tone (although I tend to get runs in them after a few wears, but I can be kind of hard on my hose). Obviously, I have a lot of experience here--as an attorney who would go into court, I have had to become very familiar with the world of nude hose. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay#post-260787 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 14:20:26 +0000 Queen Mum 260787@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'd go with #3 or 7. The first two are really too form fitting to be unquestionably appropriate. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay#post-260784 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 14:14:01 +0000 Kristine 260784@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry for your loss Sarah. </p> <p>I agree with the overall consensus. #2 has potential if you can cover your arms, have you tried the cardigan in #7 over it? I think #7 on its own is a bit too casual, but not too far off. With the right accessories (dressy formal like pearls) it could work. Have you tried another color shell (black, grey or navy) under the cardigan? </p> <p>I think funerals are one of those formal occasions where you should wear stockings, especially with a knee length skirt. Nude fishnet should be fine especially if your outfit is conservative. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay#post-260772 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 13:25:44 +0000 Fran 260772@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Listen, #2 dress looks like you're going to a cocktail party, BUT put a blazer over it and you're good. I think nude fishnets are appropriate anywhere, but I'm weird that way, and some people might think fishnets are inappropriate for a funeral. </p> <p>I like outfit #7, but it's too casual-ish for a funeral. </p> <p>#3-6--- nice collar, but the dress makes you look heavy. There I said it.</p> <p>#1 is OK.</p> <p>So I vote for #2 with a blazer. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay#post-260765 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 13:07:43 +0000 Laura 260765@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I do think #7 is nice enough, and I like the colors. They are soft and muted and would be very suited to a funeral, in my opinion. But I bet you will find something today, and if not, you know you don't need to panic because you have #3. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay#post-260761 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 12:58:40 +0000 Sarah 260761@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If you all think the Taylor dress (#3) looks okay, then I'll just take that (if I don't find something today). Like some of you have said, I doubt I'll be concerned much with my dress the day of to even notice how my top half looks. I just don't want to look strange. Are bare legs a no no? Any advice for bare nude hose? I'm not a fan of sheer black hose. :(<br /> I can try the dress #2 with a cover up, but it's very form fitting. Plus, I like the idea of just packing one dress and not multiple pieces to make it work (which is why I wasn't excited about #7, and I do understand why it isn't nice enough I think). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay#post-260730 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 08:37:35 +0000 Laura 260730@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sarah, I hope you and your family find comfort in each other at the funeral. Like many, I can't see the fit issue with the Taylor dress, but agree with others that a cami and jacket, or even a cardigan - maybe a belted boyfriend cardigan? - could work with dress #2. Have a safe trip, we'll be thinking of you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay#post-260699 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 04:17:31 +0000 Debbie 260699@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss.<br /> I like dress #3. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay#post-260689 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 03:49:16 +0000 Christie 260689@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry for your loss. </p> <p>I do like the third dress. I also like the skirt outfit too. I'd wear a darker hose, rather than nude, and dark shoes too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay#post-260688 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 03:48:34 +0000 Maya 260688@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sarah, I'm so sorry for your loss.</p> <p>When it comes to funerals, I think simple and conservative is the way to go. I'd go for plain sheer hose--nude or black, but probably black just because I think they'd get more use. You want to look nice to show respect, but going to trendy or "wow" makes it seem like you put more thought into the outfit than the circumstances at hand--which is not necessarily true at all, but that's what it conveys. Even in muted colors and with simple pumps, I feel like 7 is too fashion-y and casual.</p> <p>Can you throw a coverup, like a jacket or cardigan over #2? Cami? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay#post-260684 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 03:42:38 +0000 Steph 260684@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sarah, I'm so sorry about your grandfather. </p> <p>I think that either dress 1 or 2 with a cardigan or a jacket would be fine. What did you think was inappropriate about 2? I didn't see any cleavage. </p> <p>Alternatively, do you own a dark suit? That's usually my funeral fallback. </p> <p>If it were me, I would forgo the nude fishnets and either wear nude hose or sheer black hose. It just seems less trendy and more respectful to me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/funeral-attire-is-this-okay#post-260683 Sat, 04 Dec 2010 03:42:37 +0000 anne 260683@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think outfit 7 is okay, but my opinion is not worth much because I am in a different country. (I wore grey/black to my grandmother's, flowery black to my grandfather's and a black top and muted purple to my father's- all Christian funerals)<br /> I like 3-6 too but we really can't see the chest problem in the photos.</p> <p>So sorry about your grandfather Sarah. </p>