https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Tue, 28 Apr 2026 09:02:57 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616720 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 15:30:24 +0000 catgirl 1616720@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Welcome aboard!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616718 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 15:28:32 +0000 Diana 1616718@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Welcome! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616704 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 14:52:55 +0000 shedev 1616704@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Welcome. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616649 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 10:18:36 +0000 Helen11 1616649@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Welcome! I'm another looking to find my style while being a MOTG. I'm sure you'll enjoy 'meeting' everyone here. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616642 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 09:14:54 +0000 Brooklyn 1616642@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi from me! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616637 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 08:39:16 +0000 goldenpig 1616637@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Welcome Ayesha and waving to a fellow Bay Area mom! I I joined here almost 5 years ago after having my 2nd child and having no style to speak of. I actually had a 3rd child almost 3 years ago and my kids keep me plenty busy. I think mom on the go style is something that is very important as you have to focus on function, comfort, style and fun! I can't wait to see what your MOTG outfits are like! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616569 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 02:56:09 +0000 kerlyn 1616569@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Welcome! &nbsp;Hope you find lots of inspiration here!</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616556 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 02:30:37 +0000 Peri 1616556@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Welcome, you will love it here!</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616520 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 01:20:09 +0000 UmmLila (Lisa) 1616520@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Welcome and be comfortable here, Ayesha. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616515 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 01:03:15 +0000 cheryl 1616515@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Welcome! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616435 Mon, 15 Feb 2016 20:33:03 +0000 Mauvish 1616435@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>April: thank you. Appreciate your authentic reply. I am already feeling lots of gratitude for forum member. I sometime joke and say to my friends that my cup has a hole in it, never fills. So I started practicing meditation regularly to fill AND see my semi-full cup -- </p> <p>Deb: thank you </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616432 Mon, 15 Feb 2016 20:25:14 +0000 Mauvish 1616432@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>ALeigh: thank you -- and I totally get you about getting busy with life and then forgetting password --- i mostly use technology's help to remember password for me. </p> <p>Diane G, sterling, summer and Joyce --thank you! I can see why you all hang out here. Angie has created a beautiful platform with a non judgemental and encouraging environment. </p> <p>Rachylou: yes we definitely have - and something tells me we will keep talking more </p> <p>Gryffin: I am so pleased that I have some me time too and I am mindful of using it on me </p> <p>Roseandjoan:</p> <p>*hugs* thank you for your reaffirmation. It's rewarding, challenging,frustrating, confusing and so many other emotions - just like any parent go through these - but mine are little bit more intense and developmental phases are longer than average child.</p> <p>Inge and style fan: I very much appreciate your comments.</p> <p>Maneera: what a smart one you are. I completely agree with your recommendations and suggestion of making a capsule. Most of my current wardrobe already comprise of such outfits. But I have way too many clothes which were impulse purchases and I get overwhelmed when individually they are all so pretty and fun but hey do not make an outfit ( or may be I don't know how to make an outfit) </p> <p>I intend to talk to my clothes very soon, the way Janet is doing - but this seems very time consuming for me and time is a precious commodity here. May be I should just put everything away from my closet and just make a spring capsule for next three months and show it to you guys --</p> <p>Thanks maneera, </p> <p>Alasse: thank you! </p> <p>Bettycrocker:</p> <p>Thank you and I wish you lots of peace, acceptance and calmness for whatever this diagnostic process brings. </p> <p>Rabbit: exactly!!!! This place has compassion -- and I love it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616421 Mon, 15 Feb 2016 20:04:20 +0000 deb 1616421@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Welcome! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616408 Mon, 15 Feb 2016 19:42:00 +0000 April 1616408@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hello, Ayesha, and welcome! &nbsp;I see that you've already heard from some of our YLF members whose children are, or might be, diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorders. &nbsp;Was hoping that would be the case and that you would feel at home here -- in my experience, this is as generous and supportive a group as you are likely to find on the internet. &nbsp;</p> <p>I'm not the parent of a child with autism, but am a former school psychologist so I'm familiar with the time-consuming challenges that families of children with ASD face. &nbsp; I'm glad you've introduced yourself and will be devoting some time to developing a wardrobe and style you embrace and that embraces you. &nbsp;So hard for the caregivers to make time for themselves, yet so important. &nbsp;As the saying goes, you can't pour from an empty cup. &nbsp;:) &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616388 Mon, 15 Feb 2016 19:10:54 +0000 rabbit 1616388@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Welcome! &nbsp;I found this a great place to rebuild my relationship with myself through clothes. &nbsp;Lot's of wise and compassionate guidance and support. &nbsp;Wishing you the same.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616386 Mon, 15 Feb 2016 19:09:49 +0000 Anonymous 1616386@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Welcome! My advice to you is to be kind to yourself and buy a capsule of garments that will make you feel good. My 18-year-old DD is going to be tested for Autism Spectrum Disorder next week, and I don't know how we'll proceed after we either confirm or rule out that diagnosis. I don't know what you've been through, but I can imagine it hasn't been easy, and that you need to treat yourself now. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616379 Mon, 15 Feb 2016 18:59:05 +0000 Alassë 1616379@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Welcome! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616349 Mon, 15 Feb 2016 18:06:38 +0000 Maneera 1616349@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Welcome Ayesha. YLF is just what you need! I am sure the last few years have been tough on you...I'm so glad to hear you're ready to re-connect with yourself again and start building a stylish yet comfy wardrobe you can enjoy. I look forward to getting to know you. </p> <p>My first recommendation would be building a capsule wardrobe that could revolve around current style of jeans paired with stretchy but pretty tops, leggings and tunics and simple dresses. All paired with practical footwear and large tote bags? Why don't you give us an idea about what kind of clothes you currently enjoy wearing, and we will take it from there? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616183 Mon, 15 Feb 2016 11:34:41 +0000 Style Fan 1616183@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Welcome.&nbsp; I look forward to getting to know you.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616178 Mon, 15 Feb 2016 11:30:51 +0000 Inge 1616178@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A big welcome to the forum, Mauvish. I'm very much looking forward to getting to know you and your style a little better. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616176 Mon, 15 Feb 2016 11:28:34 +0000 RoseandJoan 1616176@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi Mauvish, I know how challenging and rewarding having a child on the spectrum can be. I am so pleased you're emerging from the vortex and able to spend sometime refinding yourself. It will be lovely to have another world view on the forum.</p> <p>Looking forward to getting to know you more, Jules. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616173 Mon, 15 Feb 2016 11:24:48 +0000 gryffin 1616173@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Welcome!! &nbsp;So glad you are getting some "you" time!! &nbsp;Can't wait to see where the adventure takes you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616170 Mon, 15 Feb 2016 11:03:27 +0000 rachylou 1616170@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>An official welcome, tho of course we have talked! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616168 Mon, 15 Feb 2016 10:38:09 +0000 Joyce B 1616168@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Welcome! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616166 Mon, 15 Feb 2016 10:28:13 +0000 Summer 1616166@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Welcome, Mauvish! &nbsp;I'm so glad that you now have a little more time to have fun with fashion. &nbsp;YLF is a great distraction from everyday challenges. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616160 Mon, 15 Feb 2016 09:45:17 +0000 Anonymous 1616160@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so happy to meet you. &nbsp;You have had a long journey. &nbsp;I welcome the opportunity to join you on the next phase of your journey. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616155 Mon, 15 Feb 2016 09:32:12 +0000 Anonymous 1616155@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Welcome to YLF! It's great to have you on board. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616153 Mon, 15 Feb 2016 09:24:23 +0000 ALeigh 1616153@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Welcome!</p> <p>I've been lurking a while myself. I have a habit of coming here, talking a lot, getting busy then forgetting my login after a few weeks of nonactivity whoops. </p> <p>Good luck with the style change, I'll be keen to see how you go! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/formally-de-lurking#post-1616151 Mon, 15 Feb 2016 09:16:13 +0000 Mauvish 1616151@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi everyone,</p> <p>I am Ayesha and I am a lurker. </p> <p>Well I was. Now I am not. Not so much. </p> <p>I am 35 year old, a stay at home mom of a very special five year old boy and wife of a loving husband. </p> <p>I am a self proclaimed " child of the world" as for first 15 years of my life I lived in South Asia, next 10 in Toronto, Canada and now I call San Francisco Bay Area my home for last 10 years.</p> <p>I am 5' 8" tall -- currently 163lbs with brown eyes and deep dark brown longish hair.</p> <p>Three years ago my child was diagnosed with Autism spectrum Disorder and I forgot myself and that there is world out there apart from therapies/doctor's appointments. I lost my self in this process.</p> <p>In 2015 I intentionally tried to built a relationship with myself again and i realized how much I have missed " playing dress up" . And I have also realized that the notions I held about fashion and beauty are no more mine anymore. </p> <p>I am starting over and I feel like I don't know how to start and how can I learn about this new ayesha's style. </p> <p>Consider me a fashion noob! </p> <p>I would like to have a good grasp on my everyday outfits/style which needs to be practical, but feminine and easy to wash. Bye bye dry cleaner.</p> <p>Words like classic, bohemian but practical, comfortable. Tailored,polished resonate with my current every day lifestyle. But I also need clothes which can bear playground shenanigans, play therapy on floor and other general " mama is my slave now " activities </p> <p>I am also looking to find a style which is true to my current life style and values in general.</p> <p>I look forward to learn from you and with you. </p> <p>Peace,</p> <p>Ayesha </p>