https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 10 May 2026 07:21:39 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey/page/2#post-70447 Sat, 06 Jun 2009 23:38:16 +0000 taylor 70447@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ladies,<br /> The key here is to ask your stylist to go subtle with your highlights, just a few shades and not too many:)Stay in the browns, mocha's and AWAY from reds(brass)<br /> Tarzy, my hair is very dark as is yours, and I have lots of highlights around my face... I think you will LOVE it. Your stylist will understand if you tell her/him....It's my first time....go easy:) 99.9% of the time clients say...I wish I had done more.!!<br /> You should not look lighter overall, you will look as if the sun kissed your hair when the light hits it.:) have fun .And lets see the results!!:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey/page/2#post-70443 Sat, 06 Jun 2009 23:22:30 +0000 marianne 70443@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hehe, Angie, I was thinking like one of the older models in that Israeli boutique video in another thread. I thought it would brighten the face and shorter grays would look better than long. I don't know if it would work for my hair type and head shape, but since I *think* I look OK with my hair pulled back, maybe I could pull off this type of cut. I'll probably wait until I get more gray. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey/page/2#post-70432 Sat, 06 Jun 2009 22:59:27 +0000 Angie 70432@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oooh! Go HannaC, CC and Tara. I'm excited! Hopefully Taylor will help you out with what colour highlights to go for. </p> <p>Oooh! Go Marianne! Short hair like me? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey/page/2#post-70431 Sat, 06 Jun 2009 22:52:48 +0000 tarzy 70431@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You guys have seen pictures of my hair color. Do you think I would look good with lighter hair? I'm so used to my dark hair! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey/page/2#post-70426 Sat, 06 Jun 2009 22:21:17 +0000 marianne 70426@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Angie, you're not bossy, you're just authoritative I am just not ready for the whole highlights thing, maybe instead I'll start with cutting my hair really, really short. :)</p> <p>Hannah, I am hoping to see pics! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey/page/2#post-70347 Sat, 06 Jun 2009 16:42:42 +0000 cciele 70347@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I was just reading Charla Krupp's "How Not to Look Old," and she covers the issue of going lighter as you get older (p.23):<br /> "The older you get, the lighter you go ... almost everyone looks better with lightness around her face. Whatever your current shade, go just two shades lighter than your natural base color ... that's because 'hair that's too dark emphasizes the lines on you face by throwing darkness into them' ... You can lighten up the strands that frame your face even more than two shades with highlights, the makeup you never take off. You'll create a halo of warmth -- brightening up your face, illuminating your skin tone, and giving you an all-over glow."</p> <p>Wow, that sounds appealing. I think I need to try that. I haven't changed my hair style for a long time. I used to get highlights in my late-20s/early-30s, then stopped. Lucky for me my next-door-neighbor is a great hair stylist/colorist; she keeps wanting to put highlights in my hair. I'll have to take her up on that! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey/page/2#post-70319 Sat, 06 Jun 2009 13:55:40 +0000 Debbie 70319@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>a hairstylist recently told me a couple interesting things. I was talking to her about how I had just had my hair colored to cover gray and it came out too dark for me. It is now too dark brown.</p> <p>She said recently there was a segment on the Today Show that said highlights can really make us look younger.</p> <p>She also said everybody needs 3 or 4 stylists they can go to to change things up.</p> <p>What do you think about the highlights thing keeping us looking younger? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey/page/2#post-70314 Sat, 06 Jun 2009 12:36:31 +0000 HannahC 70314@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yay, Angie is being bossy! </p> <p>I am going to call for an appointment with my hair stylist tomorrow! I bet he is going to fall from his chair - I had adamantly refused to consider highlights so far, despite his best efforts to convince me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey/page/2#post-70207 Fri, 05 Jun 2009 22:37:53 +0000 taylor 70207@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yaaay, Tarzy!!! you won't be dissapointed!!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey#post-70206 Fri, 05 Jun 2009 22:34:30 +0000 tarzy 70206@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Now I want highlights too! (I'm such a copycat.) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey#post-70100 Fri, 05 Jun 2009 16:48:51 +0000 Anonymous 70100@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>HaHa! Angie you are not bossy! You have talent and knowledge and share it! We appreciate you.<br /> I'm glad to hear that you ladies are with me on keeping up the coloring of my hair. I feel 100% sure now. Thankyou. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey#post-70070 Fri, 05 Jun 2009 16:03:23 +0000 Angie 70070@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>San, I'm relieved you've decided to keep colouring too, but I did want to support the going grey experiment if you were into it. That way you would always have the option of re-colouring! I've seen you and you just aren’t ready to go grey. Your look and vibe is too youthful. Something we strive towards. Does that make sense? Let’s see the new do! And soon the new do with new specs! </p> <p>HannaC – get highlights! Marianne, get highlights too! I’m so bossy :0( </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey#post-70007 Fri, 05 Jun 2009 06:30:36 +0000 HannahC 70007@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ladies, thanks so much for your advice! Taylor, we are so lucky to have you on the forum!! It is such a treat to receive advice from a professional!</p> <p>OK, what is left now is to go talk with my hair stylist about highlights I definitely don't want anything red (like Tara, right?), but maybe something a bit lighter than I have now ... I don't have a lot of gray (yet) - maybe 10%, but it is around my face and on my temples, so it is quite noticeable. Chris, my hair is naturally wavy-slightly curly, and I actually don't notice any significant difference in texture between my gray hairs and the ones that still have their natural color. In my experience, on dark hair, gray hair is immediately noticeable even if there is just a small amount of it :(</p> <p>San, phew, I am so glad you decided to keep coloring your hair! I didn't want to say anything earlier as not to inflict a decision you won't be happy with, but you have such a youthful appearance! You are not ready to go gray! You know, about your curls - I think I have a similar hair texture to yours, and I tried the no-shampooing method in the past; I just never succeeded to get past the stage where my hair is too greasy, and went back to shampoo But indeed, my hair became curlier right after washing, and then the curls relaxed a little. Please post pictures! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey#post-69998 Fri, 05 Jun 2009 05:03:27 +0000 marianne 69998@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Heh heh, hijack away, Hannah! I like your current color - it seems to be a cooler shade and I think that's why it works well. I see you're in good hands already so I have nothing constructive to add.</p> <p>Dani, chemicals are also one of my concerns... upkeep too. </p> <p>San, that's great that your stylist is so helpful. Looking forward to a picture! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey#post-69996 Fri, 05 Jun 2009 04:21:17 +0000 Anonymous 69996@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks to all of you who had great advice or opinions here.<br /> I talked to the hair stylist about going grey and she asked, "Are you emotionaly ready for people to look at you as a much older woman?" My answer is, no. Also she advised that I would need to wear more makeup everyday for the lack of hair color, which I am really not likely to do. So for now I will keep it colored and highlighted.<br /> The stylist told me that by looking at the new growth my hair is quite light around the face and about 50-50% in the back. This sounds just like my Mom's hair so I have a good idea of what it would look like and I'm not ready for that just yet.<br /> She also asked my why I was considering going grey, as in finances, time schedule? My answer is, I really just thought it would be fun to be free of the coloring habit, and I don't like sitting in the chair for a long time. All in all though I think I do need the hair color in my life right now.<br /> I did get a cut to enhance the curl, and bought products for that also. So we'll see how I can handle it. My stylist seemed pleased to see me show up with curls and was happy to go with it. However the curls are relaxing as the evening goes on, so we'll see.<br /> I will try to get a picture soon. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey#post-69968 Fri, 05 Jun 2009 02:48:43 +0000 taylor 69968@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks, Angie :)</p> <p> cceile , Glad you can think of your hair in a new and fun way!:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey#post-69964 Fri, 05 Jun 2009 02:46:47 +0000 tarzy 69964@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hannah - if you get highlights, what color do you think you'll get? I have thought about doing that too, but with such dark hair, I'm not sure what color highlights would work best. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey#post-69960 Fri, 05 Jun 2009 02:40:25 +0000 cciele 69960@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>HannahC, what a lovely picture! I think you should go for highlights too. It's fun to experiment with hair, in the right hands :)</p> <p>Taylor, thanks for sharing your expertise. I like your statement: "I tell my client's to think of hair as an ACCESSORY, it is part of a TOTAL look." I had never thought of it that way, but it is so true! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey#post-69954 Fri, 05 Jun 2009 02:33:24 +0000 Chris 69954@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Somehow I missed this thread so chiming in late.<br /> I too have been coloring for about four years. I think I am only 20% gray (have to tell by the roots) and I don't plan on going "natural" for many years.<br /> I dye pretty close to my original color - sometimes a little red or a little golden but always based around a level 5 brunette.<br /> (My dad's mom dyed until nearly her final days - her color was a mahogany red and was so unnatural. Besides at nearly 80, I think it may be time to stop).</p> <p>Most of the women in my family have the salt and pepper look - we are nearly all brunettes - and not the pretty silver or white that can be so stunning with the right cut and care. </p> <p>Regarding the website - the gray is not the best shade for everyone. I suppose "aging" is the conventional term but really it is the lack of color or ashy tones that wash the skin out. </p> <p>Hanna - you have pretty coloring and features. Is your hair naturally curly/wavy? The grays may not show as contrasting with your hair type if so. I get these annoying curvy/textured grays and the rest of my hair is straight so the dye tends to balance it all out if that makes sense. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey#post-69951 Fri, 05 Jun 2009 02:24:37 +0000 taylor 69951@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Go for it!!!:) yes, that is how it works, the grey will be less obvious. If you don't like the highlights she can cover them up:) Bet you'll be hooked!!</p> <p>Hannah , you are a beauty.... you can take some risks with your haircolor!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey#post-69949 Fri, 05 Jun 2009 02:20:49 +0000 Angie 69949@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Taylor! You are fab. We are so lucky to have a professional hair stylist on YLF. </p> <p>(Merry, I read your post)! Have we seen a picture of you yet? </p> <p>Regarding the website, I don’t think any of the younger lasses pull off grey hair. They ALL look better with colour. Of course the older gals look fabulous and San – I think you should try going grey if you feel you are salt and pepper enough. (Sorry I couldn't get to this thread sooner). </p> <p>Wow HannaC! Lovely picture! Taylor – please offer your expertise :0) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey#post-69920 Thu, 04 Jun 2009 22:03:09 +0000 HannahC 69920@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Taylor, thanks for such an insightful explanation!</p> <p>Marianne, I have to think about a lighter shade. Maybe you are right ...</p> <p>OK, I am totally hijacking Angie's thread for Marianne, but here is my close-up photo: <a href="http://picasaweb.google.com/lh/photo/_bHw8EFVgVRm6p4KVJzcWw?authkey=Gv1sRgCNv4p_6wwI23bw&#038;feat=directlink" rel="nofollow">http://picasaweb.google.com/lh.....directlink</a></p> <p>This was taken last year, my hair is longer now, but it is the same shade. What do you say? Should I try highlights? My stylist says that it will eliminate the need for frequent coloring, because the gray will blend in with the highlights and will be less noticeable. It this how it works? I am also afraid that the highlights will not look natural ... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey#post-69911 Thu, 04 Jun 2009 21:03:03 +0000 Dani 69911@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I personally think the older gals on the going grey website look better. I feel that some of the younger ones look prematurely old. I'm not a huge fan of adding color to my hair (too many chemicals for me, personally), but I would do it anyway until I'm in my late 40s and then possibly on into my 50s instead of going grey in my 30's or 40's. </p> <p>San, I'll be anxious to see what you decided to do today! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey#post-69904 Thu, 04 Jun 2009 20:30:32 +0000 taylor 69904@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi Hannahc,</p> <p>Going lighter is something hairstylists do often recommend to our clients who are going grey and are naturally dark.</p> <p> Blonde hair tends to look mousey and goes darker before turning to grey. </p> <p>The reason is this,... as you age your hair looses pigment before it turns grey,thus looking washed out, dry and lackluster . Adding highlights does look softer against the skin because more often than not dark coloring products tend to look...well ...artifical and TOO dark, especially on someone in their 40's thru 70's, because hair color(natural) has so many colors going on.Many shades of reds, browns etc. to create YOUR natural color.</p> <p>While I think you are still young enough to wear dark hair(and the 20 something crowd can go very dark), adding some highlights breaks up that solid heavy look and adds dimension ,and some softness because of the changing skin color we go through also as we age.Very dark hair does tend to throw shadows on our face.</p> <p> I tell my client's to think of hair as an ACCESSORY, it is part of a TOTAL look.</p> <p> Marilyn Munroe would not have been the blonde bombshell if she did not have the TOTAL package. That means hair, clothes body,dark eye liner, red lips.etc. Otherwise she would have just been another bleached blonde </p> <p>Your hair is a huge part of your total look, so if you enjoy it dark for now, that is fine, re-evaluate in a couple years about the highlights:)</p> <p>Hope that answeres your question:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey#post-69901 Thu, 04 Jun 2009 20:25:41 +0000 marianne 69901@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I saw this website when we had the discussion that Merry linked to. I'd say results vary - in general, shorter cuts look better, and some people have a wrong shade of color to begin with. People over 45 definitely look better gray. I am also not sure if that is how I see these pictures because I am culturally conditioned that way.<br /> So if I colored my hair for, say, 5 years, then I would have to go through the skunk phase to grow it out... hmm. My mom started coloring around 40, and now she says she shouldn't have done it. Of course she doesn't know what it would have looked like if she had gone through the natural process. </p> <p>Hannah, I haven't seen your close-up in the right lighting, but I think that a lighter shade would look great. </p> <p>Tara, thanks for your input! You look terrific in today's post pictures, by the way!</p> <p>San, I am in no position to give advice, sorry! You could always try it next time </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey#post-69893 Thu, 04 Jun 2009 19:52:10 +0000 Anonymous 69893@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I wonder, wonder, wonder what you think of the ladies on the video who have gone grey Angie?<br /> I am so tempted to tell the stylist today to put in highlights that will make going grey look less startling. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey#post-69845 Thu, 04 Jun 2009 17:31:44 +0000 Anonymous 69845@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've just looked at the going greylookinggreat website that Angie posted above and now I want to try it!!!<br /> The problem is I have a hair appt today at 2:30 so that doesn't give me much time to mull this over.<br /> I wonder what Angie is going to say her opinion of the gals on the website is? I wonder if angie will be back and tell us before I leave for my hair appt?<br /> I am almost 55 so I think I am probably in the age group to try it. What do you think? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey#post-69840 Thu, 04 Jun 2009 16:58:57 +0000 Anonymous 69840@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That is exactly how I feel about salt and pepper hair, it looks best when the salt becomes more prominent. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey#post-69837 Thu, 04 Jun 2009 16:53:18 +0000 tarzy 69837@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I really considered this a few months ago. I get so tired of doing my roots every three weeks. I was seriously considering it, but when I went to that fashion workshop where they discussed color, everyone said exactly the same thing that Angie just said. They felt I looked too young for grey hair. And I have to say, when I really really thought about it, I realized I just wasn't ready yet. I decided to add some warm tones instead, which I think lightened up my look a little bit. (I think really really dark hair can look fake on someone my age.) I still have to deal with the roots, but I'm feeling much better about it now. I'm just not ready to go grey! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/for-marianne-%e2%80%93-going-grey#post-69833 Thu, 04 Jun 2009 16:45:00 +0000 cciele 69833@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That's an interesting website, Angie. My honest opinion? I think the older ladies (they don't list ages for many of them, so I'm not sure of their ages) look good gray, with short spunky haircuts. But for the 30 and 40 year olds, the gray looks aging to me. I'm wondering how much of my opinion is based on societal expectations (gray = old), though.</p> <p>But good for the ladies on the website that want to go au naturel! I think there's something freeing about not having to worry about your roots and highlights. </p>