https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/final-update-on-my-brother Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 01 May 2026 18:09:10 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/final-update-on-my-brother#post-2411276 Fri, 24 Apr 2026 15:57:58 +0000 unfrumped 2411276@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss. It is great of you to share such a touching tribute and memories.<br /> I hope you will find peace and healing as you take those first steps of going on in a new way. I can relate though on a much different scale. My FIL died last month at advanced age and a very full independent life, but after nearly a year of decline, and we made many long trips ( in U.S.) to help him and then for his memorial service. So truly a celebration of life, near the best any of us may experience, really, not a life cut short, but still we felt consumed for many months, anxious and sad and not able to think much ahead. So I am just starting to take more joy in spring and re-direct energy to our younger generations and the good memories of my FIL’s life and legacy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/final-update-on-my-brother#post-2411254 Fri, 24 Apr 2026 03:11:42 +0000 Firecracker (Sharan) 2411254@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a hard loss for you, Gail. My heart goes out to you. You've written beautifully and with such love about your brother. You were such a good sister to be there for him. It's good to read that you will have time to be with your SIL this summer and enjoy her company. I imagine it will be a comfort to both of you.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/final-update-on-my-brother#post-2410896 Mon, 20 Apr 2026 10:16:58 +0000 Staysfit 2410896@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Gail, I am so sorry to hear this, may your brother’s life be for a blessing.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/final-update-on-my-brother#post-2410744 Sat, 18 Apr 2026 03:40:57 +0000 Debbie 2410744@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Gail I am so sorry for your loss. I am happy that your SIL will be able to spend some time with you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/final-update-on-my-brother#post-2410654 Fri, 17 Apr 2026 02:46:46 +0000 JAileen 2410654@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m very sorry. &nbsp;He sounded lovely. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/final-update-on-my-brother#post-2410648 Fri, 17 Apr 2026 01:32:54 +0000 Carla 2410648@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m so sorry to learn of this sad event, Gail.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/final-update-on-my-brother#post-2410636 Fri, 17 Apr 2026 00:11:54 +0000 Mary Beth (formerly LBD) 2410636@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Gail, I am sending light, love, and peaceful thoughts to you and to everybody who loved your brother. &nbsp;I am sorry for your loss. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/final-update-on-my-brother#post-2410568 Thu, 16 Apr 2026 11:00:39 +0000 kkards 2410568@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss. Your family sounds amazing and how wonderful that you had time with your brother and family and that connection continues.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/final-update-on-my-brother#post-2410558 Thu, 16 Apr 2026 05:13:34 +0000 Angie 2410558@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My condolences,<b> Gail</b>. Your brother was an amazing person who holds a place in your heart forever. Resting in peace. You were an incredible sister, who was of indispensible support. xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/final-update-on-my-brother#post-2410552 Thu, 16 Apr 2026 04:07:48 +0000 avicennia 2410552@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My condolences on the loss of your brother. I can relate to the sadness of being the last remaining family member and keeper of family heirlooms. My daughter will be the last person with a deep connection to the family. I sometimes wonder about the burden of being the keeper of family memories. It’s a peculiar feeling — the Portuguese has powerful word for this “saudade” which does translate well to English. My best wishes for you and your sister-in-law. It sounds like you were truly there for him, both throughout his illness and at the end. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/final-update-on-my-brother#post-2410536 Wed, 15 Apr 2026 22:24:16 +0000 Jenni NZ 2410536@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Gail so sorry. I just re-read your past posts about him. I understand that it will have hit extra hard now you are back home again.<br /> The last 7 years of his illness will have taken much more of a toll than you realise as you say. I remember when my father finally died at age 87 after his stroke at age 80, where he was by the time of death in private hospital care for over 2 years as a tiny frail man being lifted by a hoist, after a while I began to sleep better than I had for literally years. Feeling for you and sending love across the world. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/final-update-on-my-brother#post-2410532 Wed, 15 Apr 2026 21:27:49 +0000 Style Fan 2410532@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss, Gail.&nbsp; Your brother sounds like a remarkable man.&nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/final-update-on-my-brother#post-2410508 Wed, 15 Apr 2026 13:26:00 +0000 RobinF 2410508@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss! I have lost siblings and know how hard it is.</p> <p>It sounds like a peaceful end which is some consolation.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/final-update-on-my-brother#post-2410506 Wed, 15 Apr 2026 11:33:54 +0000 Sisi 2410506@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Gail, I am very sorry for your loss. Your brother sounds like a fantastic man. Glad to know you have an affectionate sister-in-law. Wishing you peace. Hugs.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/final-update-on-my-brother#post-2410501 Wed, 15 Apr 2026 06:08:02 +0000 Sal 2410501@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That's very hard Gail.&nbsp; I am sorry about your loss.</p> <p>There are some really cruel illnesses - I am pleased you had support from your SIL and can look forward to some good times ahead. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/final-update-on-my-brother#post-2410498 Wed, 15 Apr 2026 02:19:49 +0000 Aquamarine 2410498@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m so sorry for your loss. What a difficult time you’ve all had. I felt your pain through your words, and I hope you are finding peace and joy again. I’m sure that is what our loved ones would want. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/final-update-on-my-brother#post-2410465 Tue, 14 Apr 2026 19:27:09 +0000 Suz 2410465@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Condolences on your loss. What a long, painful time you've all had. It sounds like a wonderful celebration of life, though, and how comforting that he went the way he would have wanted to.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/final-update-on-my-brother#post-2410457 Tue, 14 Apr 2026 18:12:38 +0000 slim cat 2410457@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So much pain, suffering and the same time - bravery, resilience and love. My condolences - I'm glad it was a peaceful passing and you have had a lot of people coming back to celebrate the amazing person.<br />I hope you are feeling a little bit like spring season - when the nature wakes up and starts again new cycle, new life, new beginning. Hugs. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/final-update-on-my-brother#post-2410450 Tue, 14 Apr 2026 17:09:27 +0000 Gail 2410450@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I haven't posted much in quite a long time. Long time fabbers may remember other posts I made about 4 years ago regarding my brother.<br />He passed away in early January after a 8 year struggle with Multiple System Atrophy which is very similar to ALS.<br />I have been heading to Brockenhurst in the UK to see him every 3 months or so since we were able to travel after COVID. We were going &nbsp;January 6th for his birthday on January 9th. Woke up to 4 missed calls from my sister in law so I knew something was up. He had passed away in his sleep in the early hours of that morning. It was actually a shock as I had talked to him a couple of days before and he had been out on his scooter the day prior . He was certainly very weak and I talked to him on the phone very few days as oppose to an actual conversation - he could no longer communicate. We flew that day as planned and celebrated his birthday with his children and their families which was lovely. We stayed for two weeks, came home for 5 days before heading back for the celebration of life. There was over 100 people from all over the world and we played some of his favorite music . I saw some of his friends that I hadn't seen since I was about 17 !<br />&nbsp;Then it hit me hard.<br />I am now the only remaining member of our family . He had a lot of my parents memorabilia and all my grandfathers WW1 medals and information plus my fathers merchant navy papers. It was very sad to know that I am now the sole keeper of all this &nbsp;and what to do with it all.<br />We came home after the funeral and I hibernated until about a month ago when I emerged from the fog . The winter here in PA didn't help either as it was pretty brutal. &nbsp;But I'm here &nbsp;alive and starting to enjoy things again . I really didn't realize how much &nbsp;the last 7 years &nbsp;had affected me.&nbsp;<br />I'm so thankful that he passed away in his sleep which was what he wanted , he was a Dr and knew he didn't want intervention but was also afraid of the end. My brother's absolutely fantastic wife was amazing throughout his illness and I was so lucky, she was so wonderful with the way she cared for him. &nbsp;She is keeping busy and is re-connecting with all the friends and activities that she had to pause . We head over for a wedding in June and I'm so happy that she will come back with us for two weeks and we can have some fun.<br />I miss him so much but watching this active vibrant intelligent man suffer was terrible and &nbsp;I was sad I didn't make it in time but it wasn't going to get better and he left &nbsp;the way he wanted.<br />Thank you for listening </p>