https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-unfeminine Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 05 Apr 2026 09:58:59 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-unfeminine#post-58510 Fri, 03 Apr 2009 21:24:19 +0000 shiny 58510@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nancy, I missed this earlier but the answer is YES, most definetly, I dress up more for my non-work hours than my work hours. For one thing, I am a full-time telecommuter. I only go in the office twice a month. So nobody sees me during the day working from home in my sweats. I do walk every day, but that's in gear. If I get out of the house at all, it's to taxi my kids to their various appointments, or to run errands, or to go out at night. </p> <p>I have kind of a routine to my week - this will probably sound weird. But since you work part-time, I'm thinking you may get some use out of this:</p> <p>If it's Monday, Tuesday, or Wednesday - I will dress in a smart casual way, as if I *did* work in an office - where smart casual was the dress code (and not the reality of my office, which is very casual - high tech.) </p> <p>If it's Thursday - usually this is when I get the most dressed up, because we tend to go out on Thursday nights. I dress depending on where we are going, and who we are going with (I consider what they may have worn to work, if we are meeting them after work). But almost always, you will find me in heels (after 5 pm at least). This is the day I'm most likely to also wear a skirt or dress instead of jeans. </p> <p>If it's a Friday - I consider that most people dress down on Fridays at their place of employment, therefore I dress still smart casually, but a notch more relaxed. For example, I might wear a knit top instead of a silky blouse. Or choose a cardi instead of a structured blazer. </p> <p>If it's Saturday - if I'm going to the mall, I like to dress up. I find you get better service if you dress nicely. If we're running around town, I dress kinda like I described for Friday. </p> <p>If it's Sunday - we nearly always eat brunch out, then run errands or go for long walks. I dress the most casually on this day, and it's when I'm most likely to pull out a graphic tee or wear cons, and least likely to wear a blazer. </p> <p>Since the reality of my field is that one may be laid off at any moment, I am always dressing for that next step. Even if I don't get laid off, one of these days when the kids are grown, i would love to go into marketing consulting again. So, I dress with that in mind, with the thought that you just never know when you might meet someone who is an important career connection. I strive for a certain look - creative, saavy, talented, someone with good taste, etc. I dress for the job I *want* someday - not really the job I have now. </p> <p>Does that make sense? You can certainly translate this anyway you prefer: dress for the feminine part of you, when you can. </p> <p>Hope that helps!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-unfeminine#post-58505 Fri, 03 Apr 2009 21:01:14 +0000 NancyT 58505@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oooops! double post ;op </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-unfeminine#post-58503 Fri, 03 Apr 2009 20:59:38 +0000 NancyT 58503@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you all for your great responses. I went out last night and bought 3 very pretty tees, especially for work (not expensive either) and this weekend I plan on looking for some shoes...either Converse or Keds.</p> <p>Once I have completed several work outfits, I will post pics.</p> <p>Thanx! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-unfeminine#post-58294 Thu, 02 Apr 2009 23:02:46 +0000 Antje 58294@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nancy, I think it's not unusual to dress up more during non-working hours than during working hours. Go for it! Since you mention skirts and dresses, maybe you can find inspiration in the blog posts on the stylish mom-on-the-go capsules? Those are such great style tips, which have been embraced not just by moms! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-unfeminine#post-58290 Thu, 02 Apr 2009 22:47:40 +0000 Angie 58290@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>How about a sweet pair of Converse for work? </p> <p>I think it’s a fab idea to dress up on the days that you don’t work. Go for it! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-unfeminine#post-58221 Thu, 02 Apr 2009 16:48:53 +0000 merry77 58221@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>And, Nancy, I dress up more for after work than I do for work also. I don't get dirty really at work, I just work in a super-casual place where everyone else gets dirty so nice jeans and a nice shirt is already way above what the others wear and I don't want to look like I think I'm too good for them (which is especially an issue since I'm the boss's daughter). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-unfeminine#post-58220 Thu, 02 Apr 2009 16:46:30 +0000 merry77 58220@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Could you find some inexpensive tees in fun colors like from Target or Old Navy or something so you wouldn't be ruining expensive clothes? Or what about buying some shirts at thrift shops? You maybe could find some nicer-than-what-your-wearing-even-if-they're-not-perfect tops. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-unfeminine#post-58215 Thu, 02 Apr 2009 16:32:45 +0000 NancyT 58215@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I guess that is what I'm saying, Angie. I'm discovering that my work attire is now my casual attire, and vice versa, so dressing the same way day in day out, I'm starting to feel like a drudge..... I need the lift that only a change in clothing can bring!</p> <p>I would like to go with tassajara's suggestion for the fashion sneakers, but I'm just so unsure about investing in nice tops for work...I'm afraid they'll get ruined (I get very dusty and dirty). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-unfeminine#post-58140 Thu, 02 Apr 2009 04:15:40 +0000 Angie 58140@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Do you mean that you'd like to dress up when you're NOT working? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-unfeminine#post-58094 Thu, 02 Apr 2009 00:07:21 +0000 annagybe 58094@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I completely understand.<br /> I wear hospital issued scrubs. I wear jeans to work then change at work. I have gotten pretty lazy and end up wearing jeans on my off days too. Sunday just for a change I wore heels (still with jeans) to the grocery store. I'm hoping when the weather warms up I'll wear more of my skirts. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-unfeminine#post-58088 Wed, 01 Apr 2009 23:45:11 +0000 shana 58088@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have worked in a lab oriented casual office where I was required to wear pants and covered shoes (for lab safety). Most of my colleagues were very casually dressed - jeans and plaid shirts or t-shirts for the guys and most of the women followed suit with jeans or at best khaki pants with t-shirts. I started stepping it up in terms of dressing nicer but it was still always pants single every day. As someone who always enjoyed wearing skirts and dresses, I did feel that this sort of sapped the femininity out of me. I think it's a good idea to keep up that side of yourself and get yourself some "pretty" clothes for non-work wear. Especially in the summer, it's so easy to incorporate casual skirts and dresses without feeling too dressed up. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-unfeminine#post-58055 Wed, 01 Apr 2009 21:02:02 +0000 Dawn 58055@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi Nancy, I used to work in a job as a cleaner during the summer that sounds pretty similar in terms of clothes. We had a uniform of black pants, bright blue tshirts and runners. I found that in the evening and on days off, I would dress up much more than normal because I felt like a slob wearing that uniform. My personal style is quite feminine and we couldn't do anything to improve the look of our uniform- no jewellery, no fitted tees (the tshirts we wore were men's tshirts), etc. The only concession they would make is allowing us to wear converse or vans instead of runners.</p> <p>Is there anything you could do to improve your work clothes as well. I know it needs to be practical but could you wear fashion sneakers instead of runners, or maybe a couple of inexpensive but flattering tops for work? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-unfeminine#post-58042 Wed, 01 Apr 2009 20:32:06 +0000 NancyT 58042@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi everyone:</p> <p>I haven't been around in a long time due to my new part time job, which poses this question.....it's not a job to dress up for.</p> <p>Usually we dress up for work and dress down for casual. I'm doing a job (merchandising) where jeans and any old shirt will do since I am on my hands and knees alot, carrying boxes and wearing my runners since I am on my feet for 3-4 hours at a stretch.</p> <p>Does anyone dress up more for casual time than their job? I am seriously thinking of buying some skirts and pretty clothes, even if it's just to do the grocery shopping....</p> <p>I guess what I'm trying to say is that I'm not feeling very "girly"...</p> <p>Any ideas, comments??</p> <p>Thanks. </p>