https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 21 May 2026 23:47:32 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable/page/2#post-1929700 Tue, 19 Jun 2018 07:14:27 +0000 anchie 1929700@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><div>Interesting how opinions on this are so divided. It never occurred to me that what I am wearing can make other people uncomfortable. <br /></div><div>What I don't like about v necks is that they require constant attention, checking and adjusting. And when my kids were small there were lot of bending and carrying and little hands grabbing everywhere and crew necks became much more practical and safer choice. Over the time I completely removed v-necks from my wardrobe and have not wear them in years. So maybe it is just question of adjusting my eyes to showing this part of my body again. And regarding unwanted attention - I don't think this will be an issue, I noticed that since having gray hair I became much more invisible. Not that I miss unwanted glares and stares LOL. Any other gray hair ladies noticed that? &nbsp; <br /></div><div> I did wear top yesterday and it was fine, but I will try to find coordinating cami to make it more wearable. <br /></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable/page/2#post-1929698 Tue, 19 Jun 2018 06:24:45 +0000 Scarlet 1929698@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This post is very relevant to me because I have that top too (in a darker blue tulip pattern) and I struggle with it a little bit because it does tend toward being revealing the way the fabric slips open on me. I wear mine at home and not to work, like you said, although I would wear it to work with a cami if I had a dressy bottom that worked well with it. I think you look gorgeous, and I love the way you paired it with that skirt. This is inspiring me to find more ways to wear my top when cooler weather comes back. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable/page/2#post-1929677 Tue, 19 Jun 2018 03:07:36 +0000 Vix 1929677@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi Anchie --&nbsp;</p> <p>You look gorgeous in the top and that'd be my thought if I saw you in a non-work setting. </p> <p>For me personally (wearer) -- what Jules said. </p> <p>If you're comfortable, wear it. If not, I hope you find a solution that lets you wear it!</p> <p>I'm a big fan of the half-cami (aka demi cami) mentioned above and own several colors with necklines in varied heights because: <ul> <li>many people are taller than me and so their view is down vs straight on...and necklines do shift around</li> <li>I like the added sun protection!&nbsp;</li> <li>the demi-cami softens the neckline of the V, which is more flattering with my face shape, and -- if it's a contrasting color -- colorblocks my torso (more flattering on me than a higher neckline)</li> </ul> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable/page/2#post-1929652 Tue, 19 Jun 2018 01:10:55 +0000 Momo 1929652@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It looks beautiful on you but unless you want to push through the discomfort it may not be for you . I struggle with this all the time ! Sometimes I think I need to be braver and other times I think ..nah..I want to be comfy </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable/page/2#post-1929640 Tue, 19 Jun 2018 00:00:35 +0000 jill58 1929640@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anchie, the fact that you titled this post "feeling uncomfortable" says to me that you're not going to feel confident in this look. I don't feel judgmental about people showing cleavage but I'm not comfortable with it for myself. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable/page/2#post-1929625 Mon, 18 Jun 2018 23:26:53 +0000 The Cat 1929625@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nice top, and it looks good on you. However, I wouldn't leave the house in a top like this without wearing either a tank/camisole underneath or a light scarf over the cleavage. Suggested colours: yellow, light blue, navy, white or black </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable/page/2#post-1929600 Mon, 18 Jun 2018 21:43:01 +0000 jussie 1929600@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It looks beautiful on you, and exactly how the designer intended I would imagine. I think it’s totally fine modesty wise. Yes, it shows cleavage, but the skirt is very modest so the overall look is balanced. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable/page/2#post-1929586 Mon, 18 Jun 2018 20:48:33 +0000 Gigi 1929586@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm with&nbsp;<b>Janet.&nbsp;</b>I think it's fine. We all have different body shapes, and having a more prominent bust is just your particular body shape. I'm not a fan of people feeling like they need to hide their bodies because they have a particular shape.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable/page/2#post-1929582 Mon, 18 Jun 2018 20:38:55 +0000 Kate 1929582@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think that top looks GREAT on you, and I wouldn’t hesitate a moment to wear it...if I could fill it out. I think that’s a very modest amount of cleavage on display, and if I passed you on the street my only thought would be how charming you look in your outfit. I do endorse the use of double-sided tape. I often resort to it when wearing lower cut tops since I have small chest and want to ensure that eveything remains where it should be! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable#post-1929578 Mon, 18 Jun 2018 20:33:25 +0000 Anonymous 1929578@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I eased myself into tops like the one you pictured. I started out with a coordinating or contrasting cami or a bra that had a beautiful lace modesty panel. Then I started wearing tops without cami or modesty bra around house. Now I am comfortable with just the top.<br /> Just remember- don’t necessarily judge by looking down- you will always be more self conscious. Look straight ahead in mirror.<br /> I think you look fine in that top but you have to feel comfy and confident </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable#post-1929568 Mon, 18 Jun 2018 19:25:35 +0000 texstyle 1929568@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wear it and enjoy - it's very pretty! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable#post-1929552 Mon, 18 Jun 2018 18:24:46 +0000 3style 1929552@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>anchie, when I suggested wearing for something a little bit more special than everyday, I forgot you were in Europe. In the USA you often see women dressed in shorts, cargo pants, leggings, joggers, etc., and I just meant that those types of items would not make a good pairing, because the top does read to me as looking dressier. </p> <p>Where I live, in summer, you often see women casually wearing tops of that type, but which are several sizes too small. Even a senior manager at my husband’s company does that, (I think she doesn’t make time to shop for specialty sizes) and it starts to get difficult for everyone to not be distracted by that. </p> <p>So, for myself I’d make extra effort to make sure that the rest of my outfit looked put together, just because I’d want to avoid any association with inattentive dressing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable#post-1929548 Mon, 18 Jun 2018 18:09:26 +0000 Jules 1929548@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>For that type of top I personally add a cami for day/work, but I might wear without for say date night or even dinner out with girlfriends. I find evenings loan themselves to barer looks. This is just about my personal comfort level no judgement or rules here!<br /> A navy cami would be low contrast, but yellow or baby blue could also be cute! Think of the cami as an outifit enhancement rather than a problem. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable#post-1929544 Mon, 18 Jun 2018 18:01:47 +0000 Dianna 1929544@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The top is beautiful on you, I&nbsp;don't think it is reavealing at all, specially for summer.&nbsp; The colors are&nbsp;great on you.&nbsp; &nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable#post-1929542 Mon, 18 Jun 2018 18:00:09 +0000 Anonymous 1929542@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Like Smittie, I am jealous of your gorgeous figure. A cami or tank worn under the top might help you to feel more confident. Or add a big bib style necklace to fill the gap. If you are not wearing the top to teach ( bend over desks), nursing ( bend over patients) or waitressing ( bending over tables) but on a day off, enjoy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable#post-1929528 Mon, 18 Jun 2018 17:39:59 +0000 Anonymous 1929528@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, this is a struggle because for ME, I think you look both ladylike and gorgeous and I would not be "shocked" by this at all, especially in hot weather.&nbsp;</p> <p>I have no personal knowledge of the effect of this kind of cleavage in public, except as a viewer, but I'm inclined to think that ANYTHING super eye catching carries a certain risk of unwanted attention.</p> <p>My concern would be only for your comfort. You look beautiful.</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable#post-1929526 Mon, 18 Jun 2018 17:34:54 +0000 Anonymous 1929526@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am jealous! YLF! Perfect for non-work! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable#post-1929506 Mon, 18 Jun 2018 16:41:49 +0000 columbine(erin) 1929506@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm super modest and like to wear bandeaus under tops that I'm concerned about. The top looks very nice on you.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable#post-1929503 Mon, 18 Jun 2018 16:29:41 +0000 Gaylene 1929503@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m in the same camp as Janet, jlpp, and Angie. I’d wear that top without a second thought—and I’m nearing 70. LOL </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable#post-1929496 Mon, 18 Jun 2018 16:11:36 +0000 Angie 1929496@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good heavens. GORGEOUS top. There is nothing indecent about that top AT ALL. Especially in Europe. It fits 100% beautifully. Rock on.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable#post-1929488 Mon, 18 Jun 2018 15:15:26 +0000 Anonymous 1929488@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think it looks great. I have a large chest &amp; would never be allowed to wear a v neck if showing the very top of cleavage is deemed inappropriate at all times. To heck with that!<br /> I never knew there were so many things other women were possibly judging me on, until I saw fashion forum comments! I can chuckle about it but really, I find nothing indecent about your level of exposure here.<br /> *(Chuckle about all the judgements I never knew existed among women, not at your outfit or concerns!) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable#post-1929486 Mon, 18 Jun 2018 15:05:04 +0000 Janet 1929486@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If this is “borderline indecent” I’m walking around in a state of scandal much of the time. I like my décolletage and it’s one part of me that is defying my age for the moment. I get that we all have our own sensitivities, but I take exception to some of the judgmental attitudes towards showing a modest bit of cleavage. As long as you’re not showing it in an inappropriate setting, I just can’t see why this is a problem. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable#post-1929483 Mon, 18 Jun 2018 14:32:02 +0000 Sal 1929483@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think the top looks gorgeous on you. I would wear it socially and casually with comfort - probably not for work. But it is whether you feel comfortable in it - our norms can be very different. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable#post-1929481 Mon, 18 Jun 2018 14:18:56 +0000 kellygirl 1929481@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think it’s perfect for a day off. I’d love to have cleavage but alas, not so fortunate. In my casual weekend environment, I wouldn’t give it a second thought. I’d just wear it and see how you feel. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable#post-1929480 Mon, 18 Jun 2018 14:09:04 +0000 Christina F. 1929480@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><div>I agree with 3style, who thinks the top and skirt have different vibes. I'd try the top with a more streamlined skirt for an evening event. You may feel more comfortable then.</div><div><br /></div><div>I don't think you're showing too much, but that's such a personal feeling and is so dependent on things like location that I can only say that you should wear it proudly if you're comfortable. <br /></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable#post-1929479 Mon, 18 Jun 2018 14:07:20 +0000 cindysmith 1929479@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I just donated a top for the same reason. It looked fine, but I wasnt emotionally comfortable in it </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable#post-1929472 Mon, 18 Jun 2018 13:56:08 +0000 Becky 1929472@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am rather conservative and don't like to show any cleavage at all. That said, you need to do what feels comfortable for you. If it works for your comfort level and environment, figure out how to make it work. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable#post-1929468 Mon, 18 Jun 2018 13:41:45 +0000 Kathie 1929468@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The feminist in me says, “Go for it!” Certainly, follow your instincts, and environmental norms, but from what you have in your profile, and your other posts, I see no reason not to enjoy wearing it, if you feel confident in the look. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable#post-1929464 Mon, 18 Jun 2018 13:25:21 +0000 anchie 1929464@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>CJ&nbsp; - </b>I have very similar doubts. I was thinking about some kind of cover up but cleavage will still be exposed. But at least body con aspect will be less obvious.&nbsp; </p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-uncomfortable#post-1929460 Mon, 18 Jun 2018 13:16:56 +0000 anchie 1929460@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><div>Ah, LOL, so I was not imaging that it is borderline incident. <br /></div><div><br /></div><div><b>Staysfit</b> - I have never used double sided tape, will have to look into it, hope it is available here. <br /></div><div><br /></div><div><b>RobinF </b>- Tank will probably be too worm to wear currently, but it will be useful in other seasons. Will try that. Not sure what color?</div><div><br /></div><div><b>Liz</b> - that is exactly reason why I am asking.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>Suz</b> - thank you for nice complements. It does not fall forward, but I would prefer if the v is less deep but it does not want to stay like that. <br /></div><div><br /></div><div><b>rachylou </b>- LOL will keep that in mind</div><div><br /></div><div><b>K.M. -</b> I have not washed it yet, this was it's first outing. I love how soft it is. I bought it mostly for the print and colors - I hope I can make it work.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>3style - </b>this is very interesting observation. Maybe that is the issue that&nbsp; is making me uncomfortable - body con with deep v-neck. Since I don't think it is appropriate for work, I was hoping to wear it casually. Unfortunately, don't have many fancy occasions in my life. <br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div></p> <p> </p>