https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-intimidated Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Tue, 28 Apr 2026 09:00:22 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-intimidated#post-1086124 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 15:11:39 +0000 Isabel 1086124@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry. &nbsp;I have never understood why people hire others to do the job, but then spend time posturing and playing power struggles.&nbsp;</p> <p>I do want to suggest that you have the two of you write down, very specifically, what the time lines are every week. &nbsp;That way when she comes to you and asks for something 3 days early, you can say that was not the agreement and therefore not the action plan that you executed.&nbsp;</p> <p>Hang in there.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-intimidated#post-1085745 Fri, 15 Nov 2013 02:33:31 +0000 Sveta 1085745@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Some clients are meant to be fired! If they make your work life miserable they rob you of energy which can be channeled into clients who appreciate your talent and experience. I think life is to short to be miserable.<br />If they come back you can always triple your fee you know and scare them away </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-intimidated#post-1084316 Thu, 14 Nov 2013 00:49:50 +0000 celia 1084316@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That sounds stressful and frustrating.<br />Hope that work ends fast. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-intimidated#post-1083685 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 17:03:08 +0000 Angie 1083685@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sending work strength your way. Hang in there and one task at a time. xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-intimidated#post-1083520 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 14:52:46 +0000 viva 1083520@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks everyone. Got through yesterday and ready to get tackle today now. It's just one day at a time on this project.<br />LACeleste, your words are really meaningful, not only because you know the field. My challenge here really is to stay cool while holding my ground, and I'm sorry to say that yesterday staying cool was a real struggle that I did not always win. Today I am feeling a bit more in control, have drawn a line in terms of what I am prepared to do, and am articulating that line professionally. <br />Clients can be trauma, IronKurtin, and it definitely does help to know I can fire them, Rachylou -- if I get the chance (that is, if they come back to me for more work, which I am not sure they will). But I am not too hung up on that at this point, because I really don't want to fight these battles again.<br />Thanks again! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-intimidated#post-1083363 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 08:00:11 +0000 Jeanie 1083363@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Some clients are a pain in the _ _ _! &nbsp;Learn what you can from it and meditate a lot! &nbsp;I had clients I just cringed at every time I saw them on the project list. &nbsp;I learned to try to manage their expectations and tried to laugh at their crazy demands. &nbsp;Hugs.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-intimidated#post-1083062 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 00:47:39 +0000 Kristin L 1083062@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sending you a hug as well! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-intimidated#post-1082878 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 21:59:23 +0000 Dottie 1082878@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just because they're paying you doesn't mean they know better (smile). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-intimidated#post-1082794 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 20:25:04 +0000 ironkurtin 1082794@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Clients are a trauma. &nbsp;I admire you for your patience and professionalism. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-intimidated#post-1082736 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 19:40:59 +0000 rachylou 1082736@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hey, Viva. I don't know what you do. But I will tell you that I've fired a boss before. Yes, I have. When I became diabetic (but didn't know it) and got fly-in-my-eye thin in a couple of weeks, that boss told me to lose 5 more pounds. </p> <p>Yeah. Kiss my you-know-what.</p> <p>...Anyways, I'm just saying. And maybe that will allow you to better judge how bad your current client is. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-intimidated#post-1082726 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 19:33:14 +0000 Alexandra 1082726@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>No advice here either, but good vibes and virtual hugs. Hang in there! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-intimidated#post-1082644 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 18:34:51 +0000 Anonymous 1082644@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>No advice to offer, but sending you a virtual hug! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-intimidated#post-1082625 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 18:18:14 +0000 LACeleste 1082625@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh no! &nbsp;I understand where you are coming from. &nbsp;I worked in MR for 20 years---moderating (you may do a different kind of moderating&nbsp;other&nbsp;than focus groups)&nbsp;is so exhausting. &nbsp;I am sorry a young client is making you miserable--don't let a "mean girl" get to you. &nbsp;Sometimes less experienced people think being super critical makes them seem smart. &nbsp;It does not.</p> <p>Can you try to stay cool while holding your ground? &nbsp;Knowing that you CAN "fire "&nbsp;your client next time&nbsp;if you choose is empowering.</p> <p>If your work style is anything like your fashion style, you are A list.</p> <p>Hold your head up high. &nbsp;Remember--dignity is non negotiable. &nbsp;Only you know when it is too much.</p> <p>I am sure you will manage this client well and make the best decision for YOU.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-intimidated#post-1082616 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 18:11:59 +0000 minimalist 1082616@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>All I can send is good vibes. And this is a good place to vent!</p> <p>Are you able to make time for a massage, or at least a cup of tea? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-intimidated#post-1082603 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 18:02:46 +0000 kkards 1082603@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>no advice, just want to remind you that it's a job, it's not your life. try and remember all the good things that you have, and that this job will be over soon. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-intimidated#post-1082599 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 17:54:42 +0000 JillG 1082599@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The first thing that came to mind was that this client is trying to make their case for disputing/renegotiating your fee.&nbsp;&nbsp;Keep steady and believe in yourself.&nbsp; This too shall pass.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-intimidated#post-1082597 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 17:52:26 +0000 cheryl 1082597@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't have any good advice but just wanted to say keep your chin up and don't let them get you down. Sending big hugs, warm smiles and positive thoughts. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/feeling-intimidated#post-1082581 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 17:28:39 +0000 viva 1082581@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've been working for a new client and it's been a roller coaster of an experience. Ultimately I am not sure if they will come back to me again, which would be unusual (I have a pretty good track record), and although I hate to turn potential work away, the project has been hair-pulling in so many ways it might not be a bad thing for them to look elsewhere next time. (Lots of cooks, micromanagement, clash of styles -- them vs me, etc.). <br />I guess I just needed to vent because this client is causing me so much stress. Every time I turn around, another demand. And the latest is that I have to have this report ready three days before I expected, so that I can walk through it with the young woman who hated my moderating style and was pretty vocal about it. I'm just trying to keep it together and not question everything about myself. I know I am good at what I do but this client really has me chasing my tail in more ways than one. Thanks for listening. </p>