https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/extremely-unsatisfied-with-current-look Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 05 Apr 2026 02:23:18 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/extremely-unsatisfied-with-current-look#post-1155645 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 10:31:01 +0000 ramya 1155645@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I do post an WIW. So yes I have started that step. Thanks for the encouragement ladies </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/extremely-unsatisfied-with-current-look#post-1155558 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 05:02:02 +0000 Lantana 1155558@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You are not on your own out there Ramya. Many of us on the forum have been -or are -exactly in your frustrating spot. You've had fabulous advice already to which I will only add - use the forum (said strongly but not shouting) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/extremely-unsatisfied-with-current-look#post-1155377 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 00:39:25 +0000 Sona 1155377@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ramya one solution might e to post a wiw daily and based on feedback, alter&nbsp;the outfit&nbsp;and post more pictures....</p> <p>I think keeping on doing that really helps.When I started here on YLF I was very timid and afraid. But the ladies gave me great advice in a very welcoming way and I learned to incorporate that as I went along...</p> <p>...and the journey continues!</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/extremely-unsatisfied-with-current-look#post-1155342 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 23:41:27 +0000 rachylou 1155342@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, I know the weather is getting to <i>me</i>. The beanie is tyrannical dictator, and the hot/cold is sapping my strength. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/extremely-unsatisfied-with-current-look#post-1155178 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 19:24:47 +0000 gryffin 1155178@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ramya - I am so sorry you are so down.&nbsp; Your distress just seems to leap off the page.&nbsp; I think when all of us are unhappy its difficult to know where to start.&nbsp; Perhaps, it might make sense to try and address the element that you are most unhappy with.&nbsp; I got that feeling that was hair or is it shoes?&nbsp; Would it be helpful to post photos of those areas maybe with thoughts or ideas of what you might want to do with your "do" or shoe capsule for feedback?&nbsp; Also perhaps you could post the outfits you are not satisfied with for feedback or tweaks.&nbsp; What do you think would be helpful for you?&nbsp; BTW I agree in the outfit posts I have seen I thought you looked wonderful, but no one's opinion counts for anything if you are not happy!!!&nbsp; Hang in there!!&nbsp; Big hugs!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/extremely-unsatisfied-with-current-look#post-1155176 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 19:22:12 +0000 ramya 1155176@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Suz yeah I do but that's because of my swollen ankle:).<br /> Aha there we go I have to wear two size too big shoes to fit in my ankle. Slouchy style booties which is not my favourite.<br /> Suz you are brilliant. But still I am going to take my shoes out and picture them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/extremely-unsatisfied-with-current-look#post-1155173 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 19:17:42 +0000 Suz 1155173@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Show us all you've got, Ramya! And do you find you have to wear the same ones every day now (with the weather)? That may also be part of the problem. I know it drives me crazy.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/extremely-unsatisfied-with-current-look#post-1155171 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 19:15:49 +0000 ramya 1155171@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Many of the above things make sense. Coupled with fact of unruly hair and not being able to wear my shoes I guess I am frustrated.<br /> Do you ladies think that my shoe wardrobe is dated? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/extremely-unsatisfied-with-current-look#post-1155045 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 16:44:56 +0000 Suz 1155045@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs, Ramya!! A lot of us are right there with you in mid-season funk!! It is easy to get bored of the things we have when we have to wear them again and again the same way for weeks on end.&nbsp;</p> <p>As for the other elements, if it's not mid-season funk, for me it can be what Angie said:&nbsp;</p> <p>1. Don't have the "glue" items that make true outfits.&nbsp;</p> <p>These actually take longer than you might expect to discover and implement. What they are will differ from person to person. For me, they are shoes/ footwear, belts, and toppers, although this year I am shockingly short on toppers. But that might be different for you. For some people it might be scarves, or jewellery. Or...sometimes people have a wardrobe of "star" players without enough simple essentials to tie it all together. Or vice versa -- only the simple pieces without enough interest.&nbsp;</p> <p>2. Often I feel like this just before a needed style shift, as others have said.&nbsp;</p> <p>Gigi is also right -- I try to have smaller "capsule" wardrobe to prevent boredom. But not in the winter, per se. Winter is such a long season for me, I have all my cold-weather clothing out on view from late October until late March (at minimum). I layer with the lighter weight sweaters at that time. The "capsule" part comes in late winter/ early spring (March/ April for me) when I will switch out some of the darker colours and add a few items in lighter colours and neutrals but still warmer fabrics, and I will put away the really heavier woollens.&nbsp;</p> <p>Hang in there! You'll get sorted!&nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/extremely-unsatisfied-with-current-look#post-1154941 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 13:25:19 +0000 viva 1154941@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am right there with you. Right there. It's mid season funk, I think. I know it will pass for me, and I am sure it will pass for you, so hang in there. </p> <p>I've gotten some great suggestions and reminders for ways to liven up my outfits. Each day I just keep trying to get my groove back. </p> <p>Right now I am finding that I need to stretch a bit to feel good about what I am wearing -- I have to add color, or some layers...there has to be some real visual interest or I am just bored. This is a challenge because often I like a simple look -- but right now, it is not cutting it. Introducing some specific points of visual interest or a less common silhouette has been very helpful and shaken me out of the doldrums, at least for the day.</p> <p>Good luck to us both! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/extremely-unsatisfied-with-current-look#post-1154936 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 13:00:21 +0000 Inge 1154936@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Some great tips from the other ladies. Ramya, perhaps the tips in this blog post might help too?<br /><a rel="nofollow" href="http://youlookfab.com/2011/03/31/how-to-get-out-of-a-style-rut/">http://youlookfab.com/2011/03/.....style-rut/</a></p> <p>I'm thinking that the "experimental shopping trip" might help get your creative juices flowing again and/or help you determine which pieces could help to make the items you already own feel fresh and fun again? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/extremely-unsatisfied-with-current-look#post-1154919 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 10:54:09 +0000 Ornella 1154919@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ramya, which one outfit or formula works for you 100%? What makes you really happy when you wear it? Not ok, not "can pass", but happy?</p> <p>I'd start from that. Wear it and wear it until the cows come home, tune into why it works and what you like about it and then start with small variations - you might soon discover that you are excited by either certain pattern or style or colour. Or what does not work for you at all. Both realisations are equally valuable and important for taking you further.</p> <p>Start analyzing. Post different styles of tops/bottoms/toppers/shoes for us to check them with you. Filter those that DO from those that DON'T&nbsp;work.</p> <p>Then move on to the next aspect -&nbsp;colours, patterns...</p> <p>Then formulas. Nail one or two and you'll feel elated, trust me.</p> <p>And I would say - for now&nbsp;don't buy anything else until you have a fairly clear idea what you need and how that would solve some puzzles.</p> <p>One thing that works is better than a dozen "halfies", if it makes sense.<br />&nbsp;</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/extremely-unsatisfied-with-current-look#post-1154904 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 08:34:38 +0000 ramya 1154904@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Angie you are right. I guess I am missing glue pieces. Would you guide me what I need to get it to 10/10 </p> <p>Una di and others oh yes winter blahs don't help.<br /> Lyn my ffbo aren't working either:(<br /> Beth Ann that's true nothing horrible but not right<br /> Lynn I think my hair is another matter I am not happy about too </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/extremely-unsatisfied-with-current-look#post-1154880 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 07:00:34 +0000 Lyn D. 1154880@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is no good!<br />Would a trip to the hair Salon for some pampering help? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/extremely-unsatisfied-with-current-look#post-1154877 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 06:44:06 +0000 Beth Ann 1154877@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh yes.&nbsp; I'm right there, and I'm restless with my whole life.&nbsp; Nothing horrible, but nothing sits quite right, in my closet, or, say, my job.&nbsp; </p> <p>I feel a purge coming on.&nbsp; And a style realignment.&nbsp; And maybe, some distant day......spring!</p> <p>I think I need to work on a capsule, or at least some remixing of current items.&nbsp; I've purchased a couple of midwinter refreshers, and I may try a couple more, if I find the right items. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/extremely-unsatisfied-with-current-look#post-1154788 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 03:20:29 +0000 Jacky 1154788@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I definitely have this problem - I've actually been feeling this way a lot recently. For me it happens when I get stressed out in general by life, I think. I don't have the time or the energy to think about what I'm wearing, and FFBO don't really work for me because I get tired of wearing them pretty quickly. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/extremely-unsatisfied-with-current-look#post-1154745 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 02:22:33 +0000 Gigi 1154745@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm another one who feels this way before a fashion shift.</p> <p>As for the winter blahs, Suz has a great idea of having various winter capsules so that you don't get bored. I think she might have an early winter capsule, a midwinter capsule, and a late winter capsule. I don't have enough clothes to do this, but I would eventually like to try this idea out. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/extremely-unsatisfied-with-current-look#post-1154741 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 02:17:42 +0000 Sarah A 1154741@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am sorry Ramya. Like Caro mentioned, I have felt like this before my last big fashion shift (which I am still trying to sort out after the better part of a year!) ... the winter blah's dont help much either, I hope you'll find your way to feeling fab again soon </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/extremely-unsatisfied-with-current-look#post-1154739 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 02:12:53 +0000 T 1154739@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>There could be a number of reasons, I can share what is generally my trigger - it is sometimes boredom with having a set way of dressing up that makes one seem predictable - esp if you value being seen as quirky or different&nbsp;- which I do!</p> <p>Sometimes it is changing body proportions that throw the fit off and make one feel frumpy or unhappy.&nbsp;</p> <p>At times like these I resort to Fast Fashion like F21 to infuse some new trends / colors / styles&nbsp;into my style - trends that I know I will not want to sport after a while - to create some freshness about the way I look.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/extremely-unsatisfied-with-current-look#post-1154734 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 01:54:45 +0000 Caro in Oz 1154734@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sympathies I find I feel like this before a style shift. Can you play with your clothes &amp; find something you like - even if it's just one outfit? It may give you some idea of where you want to go. I find Pinterest helpful too - it clarifies the silhouettes, colours &amp; styles&nbsp;I'm leaning towards. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/extremely-unsatisfied-with-current-look#post-1154726 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 01:39:33 +0000 nancylee 1154726@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Feeling the same, Ramya. &nbsp;I'm planning a big closet clean out and try-on session next weekend for just this reason. &nbsp;</p> <p>Maybe it's time to do some purging and playing around in your closet? &nbsp;Or maybe, as Angie suggested, you just need to find a new key piece or two to give you more options. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/extremely-unsatisfied-with-current-look#post-1154724 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 01:35:55 +0000 Mo 1154724@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think it's probably partly mid season blahs. &nbsp;Seems to be going around ;)&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/extremely-unsatisfied-with-current-look#post-1154702 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 00:56:29 +0000 catgirl 1154702@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am feeling similarly recently.&nbsp; Frustrated and frustrating.&nbsp; You look great in your photos if that's any consolation. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/extremely-unsatisfied-with-current-look#post-1154690 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 00:47:14 +0000 lyn* 1154690@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Aww, Ramya.</p> <p>I feel like that on some mornings too - but I usually turn to a FFBO when that happens. Do you have one that you can rely on? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/extremely-unsatisfied-with-current-look#post-1154605 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 22:47:56 +0000 Angie 1154605@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's probably Winter dressing that is getting to you. And you're likely missing some "glue pieces" that take almost 10 outfits to a 10.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/extremely-unsatisfied-with-current-look#post-1154566 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 21:58:41 +0000 ramya 1154566@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's strange. I love my clothes.But I am not able to even come up with single pairing that I love on me. There is this feeling of restlessness.<br /> Nothing feels right.<br /> Did anybody feel this way?<br /> Any suggestions welcome. Fashion is my outlet. So if I am unhappy here it's extremely frustrating. </p>