https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Tue, 28 Apr 2026 19:31:43 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all/page/2#post-1024209 Sun, 08 Sep 2013 13:12:02 +0000 Elly 1024209@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks Julie, I'd be delighted to be your buddy! Happy belated birthday! I love your list of good things about our birthdays. Off to sing like Neil . . . </p> <p>Thank you Sona! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1022372 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 01:04:51 +0000 Sona 1022372@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I hope you celebrated yourself and had a fabulous time! Much love and the best of birthday wishes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1022232 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 22:10:06 +0000 JulieJohn 1022232@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Elly, I'm so sorry I missed this, I have been remiss on checking the OT forum lately.</p> <p>I am also a Sept 4th baby!!! May I take a little of the pain and loneliness away by, in some small way, being your new birthday buddy? </p> <p>It is a great day to have a birthday, after all. Here are just some of the perks of 9-4: <ul> <li>far from other big holidays so no excuse for others to buy skimpy presents</li> <li>good weather for ice cream</li> <li>Virgos, so we know what we like and we're not afraid to ask for it</li> <li>our birthday ushers in the season of Fall, and the delights of all the other holidays!</li> </ul> And here's a new tradition from me to you, will you join me?: On my birthday I always sing "September Four" to the tune of Neil Diamond's "September Morn." You have to sing it loud and drag out the "fooouuuurrrrrr" Neil-style. ;)</p> <p>Big hug, birthday buddy.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1020375 Tue, 03 Sep 2013 20:46:12 +0000 Mochi 1020375@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I baked my own birthday cake a few years back. I felt kind of ridiculous doing it, and I'm sure hubs would have bought something, but I wanted a specific type of cake.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1020232 Tue, 03 Sep 2013 17:31:33 +0000 Anonymous 1020232@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Happy birthday Elly! It sounds like the tradition is changing in your family. As much as we like to tell ourselves that they are no big deal, I think our birthdays NEED to be celebrated for our emotional health. Mine does anyway! I threw my own 40th birthday party, in fact. I knew no one in my fam was going to do it, so I did it myself!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1020229 Tue, 03 Sep 2013 17:24:33 +0000 Elly 1020229@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks ladies. No big celebration for me, but I did enjoy the day and getting to talk to a few family members and kept thoughts on joyful things and on happy memories with those who were not able to be there. Maybe this week I will still go do something, either with a friend or just as a treat to myself. </p> <p>Thank you for all of your warm wishes and hugs and for those who related. </p> <p>Birthday foods for all (the traditional one in my family is blueberry pie, so spread that around YLF). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1020170 Tue, 03 Sep 2013 15:48:44 +0000 ManidipaM 1020170@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It may not be a big deal, Elly, but go celebrate anyway. Celebrate life that goes on. And lives lived with joy and achievement before the close.</p> <p>Speaking of Joy, her idea is brilliant. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1020104 Tue, 03 Sep 2013 13:53:30 +0000 texstyle 1020104@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs to you!&nbsp; I think it is natural for us to have these feelings and it shows how special the people were in your life, which is a great way to honor them.&nbsp; I like to have a nice dinner and toast my loved ones memories on their special days.&nbsp; For my own b-day - shopping is usually in order </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1019850 Tue, 03 Sep 2013 00:45:50 +0000 Anonymous 1019850@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You might make a tradition of remembering your loved ones' birthdays by enjoying some of their favorite foods, also a great for you. My mother loved lemon meringue pie. I can no longer enjoy a whole piece of pie for her, but found a cafe known for their lemon meringue pie and have a few bites after eating a lunch salad...a real treat for me.<br /> Also, could you call your mother, even if it is just to chat with her?<br /> Big hugs. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1019799 Mon, 02 Sep 2013 21:11:47 +0000 Isabel 1019799@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am sorry Elly !!! &nbsp;Your dad may only be able to handle this by going away.</p> <p>Treat yourself well. &nbsp;Rent a movie, have ice cream, look in the mirror and wish yourself a Happy Birthday !!!</p> <p>And...Happy Birthday ! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1019593 Mon, 02 Sep 2013 14:14:44 +0000 Anonymous 1019593@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Happy birthday, Elly! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1019554 Mon, 02 Sep 2013 12:56:06 +0000 Elly 1019554@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you all! Big smiles here from all the well wishes.</p> <p>I actually have to work today as well, then retire early because I get up at 4 a.m. for the drive down to my grad program. </p> <p>We haven't celebrated my birthday in years, and I swear it is no big deal, although I planned a birthday for each of the people I mentioned in the post last year (we had some big ones) it isn't like I expected a birthday celebration because everyone is so busy and it really is no big deal to me.</p> <p>I've just gotten really used to celebrating with a phone call from my grandma, and it took me for surprise.</p> <p>I will try to do something fun today though, I am already enjoying the beautiful sunrise on the SO's balcony this morning. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1019445 Mon, 02 Sep 2013 03:36:38 +0000 amiable 1019445@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ooh - I second the treat yourself to a spa day idea! &nbsp;And I'm praying you have a terrific birthday anyway. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1019441 Mon, 02 Sep 2013 03:25:53 +0000 Debbie 1019441@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ella-I am sorry. I do agree withe others though. Do something for yourself. Get your nails done or a facial or massage. Whatever would relax you.<br /> I will be thinking about you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1019436 Mon, 02 Sep 2013 03:16:27 +0000 Karie 1019436@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry that this is such an unhappy and stressful time for you. Perhaps taking yourself out to a spa for some relaxation therapy, or out to get your nails done would help. Big hugs to you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1019409 Mon, 02 Sep 2013 02:09:56 +0000 Beth Ann 1019409@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's hard to lose anyone, but to have several gone from the celebration is much more difficult.&nbsp; I think they are transition periods in families, when old traditions begin to fade, and new ones must arise to fill their place.&nbsp; </p> <p>I hope you can begin to make a new tradition for yourself that honors your past, but also looks to your future.&nbsp; And yes, cake is a good place to start! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1019369 Mon, 02 Sep 2013 01:18:14 +0000 Anonymous 1019369@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I second the make your own event idea </p> <p>I have a twin brother and our birthday falls on a major holiday. With in-laws, all the cousins, the holiday itself, our birthday gets pushed further and further off the radar. I used to get really ticked but once I changed my expectation of others and organized my own event, it became fun again.</p> <p>by no means did I plan anything elaborate, but maybe a pedicure, a new coffee shop, a new book, mooch around a new housewares store, whatever I wanted...(and for the record, I'm married with kids and my parents are alive but not much was ever planned lol)</p> <p>Hope you have a lovely day </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1019359 Mon, 02 Sep 2013 00:56:26 +0000 velvetychocolate 1019359@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sending along big hugs and a homemade birthday cheesecake your way! Angie's right - you do have birthday homework - there's got to be a way to make your birthday special even though your SO has to work and things have changed over the years with family celebrations. Time for a new kind of celebration that includes all of the very best memories of the past while still cherishing the now. </p> <p>Sounds silly but one of the very best birthday parties I ever went to was put on by the birthday person himself! It was my Grandma's BF - and when he turned 75, he booked a fancy room at a frou-frou golf course and hosted his own party. It was amazing, and all kinds of people showed up. I'm not suggesting anything quite so elaborate, but what I *am* suggesting is that it is perfectly ok to organize and host your own birthday celebration. Does that sound weird? Truth be told, I haven't done anything like that myself, but personally - I think it's kind of a neat thing to do. </p> <p>Can you arrange to go out for dinner or something with a few friends tomorrow? A nice brunch somewhere? </p> <p>Perfect day to go out for brunch or lunch tomorrow! It's a holiday Doesn't have to be expensive or anything - the main point is that there's no cooking or cleaning and that you get a nice meal out. Also - you *must* have some cake of some kind. Maybe not the whole cake, but be sure to get a slice of something delicious. &lt;--and that's an order! </p> <p>If I were near where you are - I'd totally be up for a nice brunch,<br /> lunch or dinner out - and there *would* be birthday cake involved.<br /> Presents and cards too! </p> <p>Take care, and I hope your birthday tomorrow turns out better than you think and that you can do something special somehow, despite the goings-on. </p> <p>I will be there with you in spirit on your birthday tomorrow </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1019325 Sun, 01 Sep 2013 23:53:17 +0000 Deborah 1019325@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Elly it is a privilege that we can be here for you!&nbsp; I am sending you a big hug and lifting you high in my prayers.&nbsp;&nbsp; Try and do something nice for yourself if you can.&nbsp; xxooxx </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1019297 Sun, 01 Sep 2013 22:56:35 +0000 Caro in Oz 1019297@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Big hugs &amp; sending virtual balloons &amp; cake :)</p> <p>If you don't feel like organising anything party-ish&nbsp;what about a treatment treat - spa or pedi or something fun? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1019290 Sun, 01 Sep 2013 22:42:33 +0000 Mona 1019290@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Big hugs to you! I am sorry things are like this.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1019268 Sun, 01 Sep 2013 22:12:16 +0000 Glory 1019268@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs to you. Embrace the European tradition and plan your own festivities!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1019202 Sun, 01 Sep 2013 19:54:15 +0000 Angie 1019202@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>(It's my late Mum's birthday today too. I love Sept birthdays).</p> <p>&nbsp;I'm sorry it's been tough, Elly. I agree with Anna too. You have to organize your own birthdays when you are an adult and MAKE them an occasion to celebrate you. You have birthday homework. Organize something fun for tomorrow and look forward to it. Your birthday buddies will always be in your heart.</p> <p>Lots of hugs and love from us to you. xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1019162 Sun, 01 Sep 2013 18:21:20 +0000 Anonymous 1019162@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Happy Birthday for tomorrow Elly. I'm so sorry you feel so sad and rather alone right now. Your feelings are understandable. I'm sending you a big warm hug! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1019160 Sun, 01 Sep 2013 18:17:13 +0000 Anonymous 1019160@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Happy birthday, Elly! &nbsp;It's tough to miss loved ones on special days. &nbsp;What you're feeling makes total sense to me. &nbsp;Big hugs and best wishes! &nbsp;:)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1019123 Sun, 01 Sep 2013 17:01:59 +0000 rachylou 1019123@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Aww! Well, here's b-day wishes for you now! We'll fill this thread for you </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1019100 Sun, 01 Sep 2013 16:00:43 +0000 Elly 1019100@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks ladies! Sorry for sounding like such a sad sack. The whole holiday weekend thing is no big deal, I just got up today and checked my calendar which had all of my reminders to call my grandmother written in it, since I transfer them over each year when I get a new calendar and I've had this one since October of last year. Kinda took me by surprise, and I'm having a bit of an issue with my father because while I'm trying to be understanding with his mourning, he seems very stuck in being the only one that experienced this loss. </p> <p>The birthday thing is no big deal and hasn't been for years, I just guess I missed not having someone to call and share it with this year. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1019084 Sun, 01 Sep 2013 15:30:33 +0000 annagybe 1019084@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>One thing I've realized as an adult is that you need to start planning and making your own traditions. If I didn't plan my own birthday, nothing will happen. Sorry it's been tough. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1019077 Sun, 01 Sep 2013 15:24:49 +0000 Mochi 1019077@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, big hugs to you, Elly. So sorry you are feeling alone. I wish a bunch of us lived closer; we'd definitely take you out and cheer you up.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/excuse-me-while-i-cry-on-you-all#post-1019076 Sun, 01 Sep 2013 15:24:43 +0000 Suz 1019076@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Elly! Big hugs. That sounds hard, and so sad. I understand. Anniversaries of those we've lost can be so painful. And birthdays can get a little fraught to begin with. And not having companionship on a holiday weekend can be lonely.&nbsp;</p> <p>Is there any way you can do something special to commemorate the ones you love tomorrow -- while also treating yourself?&nbsp; </p>