https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 22 Apr 2026 12:01:19 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread/page/2#post-623760 Sat, 19 May 2012 08:43:01 +0000 goldenpig 623760@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, thanks everyone for chiming in! I definitely do read every post and push buttons and answer any questions, and when I have time try to thank individually. But sometimes I don't get time to sit down and do that every day so it may be a few days later. I've been shy about re-bumping old threads but now I'm just not going to worry about it, and just pipe in whenever I have more time, even if it's a week later! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread/page/2#post-622837 Fri, 18 May 2012 11:48:46 +0000 Janet 622837@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think we all do the best we can with whatever amount of time we have! I always try to use the buttons, and I like to say thanks if I can. I try to always respond to questions, but I fear I may have fallen down on that job a few times. I'm never offended if someone doesn't address my feedback personally. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread/page/2#post-622820 Fri, 18 May 2012 10:42:49 +0000 ManidipaM 622820@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I do try and make sure I push everyone's buttons,LOL! </p> <p>But seriously, I have VC's issue --- I'm so thrilled and grateful when someone takes the time to comment, I feel the need to reply personally, if only to just say 'thanks', but sometimes I do feel like I'm the bumping the thread too much (sometimes I use the edit button to keep adding to the vote of thanks... as long as it doesn't screw up chronology!) I follow my own threads for a week or so, in case I miss someone!</p> <p>That's my own threads. On others, I will admit I love the extra warmth of a personal mention/reply, but I really think it is fine to just acknowledge you've read by pushing a button. Although, I also more than understand sometimes people just get too busy to keep up with their own super-popular thread. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread/page/2#post-622799 Fri, 18 May 2012 07:40:14 +0000 Louise 622799@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If someone has taken the time to comment on one of my threads then the very least I can do is have the courtesy to use the appreciation buttons and post the occassional 'big thanks all' If I have a lot of time I will put together a reply that thanks every poster, more often than not I usually do a 'big thanks all' and respond to individual questions reply x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread/page/2#post-622768 Fri, 18 May 2012 05:36:57 +0000 AJ 622768@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>At the very least, I make sure to use the buttons. If I have time, I do enjoy saying thanks and commenting on the replies. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread#post-622707 Fri, 18 May 2012 03:51:22 +0000 ramya 622707@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>From me it totally depends... if i am in office and logged in to ylf for a break .. i use buttons (which is what normally happens)... if i do have time... i reply to each comment </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread#post-622677 Fri, 18 May 2012 02:58:38 +0000 christy 622677@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great topic and it's interesting to see everyone's responses! When I comment on a thread, especially if it's a relatively general response (i.e., what a great outfit, love that dress, really flattering, etc.), I don't expect a personal reply from the original poster. I do appreciate it when people use the buttons because that way I know that they've at least read the comment and that's thanks enough for me. Part of what's fun about the forum is the back and forth communication so if I've asked a specific question, I do check back for a response, at least for a while. But I don't get bent out of shape if I don't get one. </p> <p>When I post a thread, I do my best to respond to any questions and if someone has made a comment or suggestion that I find particularly helpful I like to address it in the thread. But it's also a matter of time management for me. I don't get to spend much time on the forum and sometimes days can go by when I'm not around. I don't want to bump up my own thread more than a day or so later. Not only that, but if I thank everyone personally for their comments on my own thread, that takes away from the time I have to comment on other people's posts and then I feel like I'm not doing my part. Does that make sense? It's not that I'm ungrateful and don't appreciate the feedback - I read each and every one and appreciate them greatly even if I don't specifically reply to each one. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread#post-622675 Fri, 18 May 2012 02:57:20 +0000 Makrame 622675@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I just think that those buttons a a stroke of genius. I have not seen anything similar on other forums I have participated in. It is nice to have a way to quietly say thank you to everyone who responded, even if I don't want to bump my post up. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread#post-622672 Fri, 18 May 2012 02:52:50 +0000 Anonymous 622672@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with the consensus here. I do as much thanking as I have time for and always use my buttons. I usually just push the buttons after 24 hours or so. </p> <p>@Vix, your "booty call" comment cracked me up! IKWYM though, it's nice to be acknowledged if you've spent some serious time helping someone with analysis on multiple occasions. </p> <p>@VC, I wouldn't worry at ALL about conversing back and forth when a thread is new and active (within the first day--or longer, if it was a real fire-starter). That's why the button for a new thread says, "start a conversation"! You are a great communicator and really know how to get us thinking and talking! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread#post-622644 Fri, 18 May 2012 02:25:27 +0000 Transcona Shannon 622644@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I always use the boost button and then also try to provide individual thank you's and acknowledgements in my commentary, but that's often dependent on time availability. If I find I don't have the time to say thank you and name each person, I will say a blanket "thank you everyone " instead. Not as personal I know but sometimes that's all I can manage at the time. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread#post-622643 Fri, 18 May 2012 02:24:03 +0000 velvetychocolate 622643@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you so much for saying that Vix - because I do sometimes feel a bit silly replying and replying to people's responses on the occasional threads that I start - but I really *am* thrilled to hear from anyone who writes back that I can't help but reply...and reply :)</p> <p>But I end up feeling a bit silly, and thinking I'm over doing it or something, so I stop..</p> <p>I will try to to find a way to write reponses to people's posts in the threads that I start that doesn't mean I'm constantly writing a new post for every single response. I think maybe I need to wait a bit, and reply back when there's been three or four responses. </p> <p>It is true though, that I'm so pleased to hear back that I write back right away, and again and again...and then I feel a bit silly for posting so much to my own post. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread#post-622639 Fri, 18 May 2012 02:22:39 +0000 Patty 622639@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If I ask a question I hope to be answered--I don't know, I was brought up that way. </p> <p>I don't care if I get a personal shout out for a comment but just hope to be read in a thread is all--a button is just a bonus but not necessary for me. I'd prefer to be told so if I sound whack or told off--I can only guess as to what people mean as no responses in other forums I've attended basically means no one wants to encourage your participation so you will leave---so I feel it from my experience.</p> <p>I try to thank people because I am truely thankful but have few words and try to give props with buttons if not words.</p> <p>I love how this place moves so fast and, to me, it doesn't matter if you keep responding and your threads or responses are at the top--it'll change in a second or two. I personally don't bring *MY* threads to the top once it's on page 2 or 3 coz I figure if it ain;t moving it's dead--no matter the time zone--which brings me back to my second point.<br /> Call me insecure-and you'd be right--why I am here. I wish there was a cheezy smile button! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread#post-622602 Fri, 18 May 2012 01:40:55 +0000 Vix 622602@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ooooh, I just thought of another reason why I and others may like a personal comment vs "just" a button -- </p> <p>social capital aka public acknowledgement that our voice/opinion etc was valued. </p> <p>Over a period of time/multiple threads, I admit sometimes it can feel a little like a booty call if a poster *ONLY* appreciates me privately. /deranged </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread#post-622599 Fri, 18 May 2012 01:39:48 +0000 Lyn D. 622599@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>'...immediate response' - thanks Vix! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread#post-622595 Fri, 18 May 2012 01:37:27 +0000 goldenpig 622595@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks everyone for the replies! I will come back later to respond in more detail.</p> <p>Lyn Dodd, the buttons show up when you start a thread. After everyone's post there are buttons to select: comedy, therapy, wisdom, boost, solution. You select one and when the commenter is logged in, they can see the button. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread#post-622594 Fri, 18 May 2012 01:36:50 +0000 Vix 622594@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi Lyn -- </p> <p>You only see the buttons when you start a thread (they let you give a positive "flag" to a comment you've gotten).</p> <p>VChocolate, you said --</p> <p>&gt;&gt;I tend to immediately respond to comments, and this results in my post being bumped and bumped and half the posts in my thread are from me! I find this kind of embarrassing...but at the same time, I'm so appreciative of the replies I get, I want to respond back right away.</p> <p>As a reader or commenter, I have to admit I kind of loooove the immediate response to my or others' feedback; don't ever change!</p> <p>I'm sure it irritates somebody somewhere, though, ha! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread#post-622589 Fri, 18 May 2012 01:26:06 +0000 Lyn D. 622589@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm embarrassed to have to ask;<br /> but how do these buttons you are talking about work?<br /> If you really love a thread or comment but there are no icons below the name do you press 'Report Post'.<br /> I'm clueless I know!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread#post-622588 Fri, 18 May 2012 01:26:01 +0000 velvetychocolate 622588@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I sometimes have a very hard time keeping up - but I wanted to say that the buttons help a lot. I'm just as happy with a button response as a direct mention in a thread. It feels good to know that someone read my reply and that's all I need, really. I do not feel in the least bit slighted if someone doesn't write something back to whatever it was I said in their thread. The button is very handy. And even if there's no button indicator, signalling (to me) that someone at least read my response - I still feel just fine about writing something in someone's post/thread and not necessarily hearing anything back. I think that's because I have a hard time keeping up around here myself sometimes. </p> <p>I'm kind of curious as to how best to reply/respond when I post the occasional thread myself. I tend to immediately respond to comments, and this results in my post being bumped and bumped and half the posts in my thread are from me! I find this kind of embarrassing...but at the same time, I'm so appreciative of the replies I get, I want to respond back right away. After a little while, I'm *terrible* at keeping up with my own post though...I just realized that I posted a question about black sandals recently and have not gone looking to see if there are more replies. </p> <p>I'm pretty easy going about this stuff, but I hope I haven't offended anyone by replying like crazy to the initial replies to the occasional threads that I post, and then not being the best at checking to see if there are more replies later on. Ack!</p> <p>In the meantime though, I really don't mind if there isn't a direct written response to anything I've said in someone's post, the button is nice enough, and even if there isn't a button indicator - even that's ok with me, because I know it's tough to keep up around here. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread#post-622587 Fri, 18 May 2012 01:25:09 +0000 Tanya 622587@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I also do a combination of buttons and thank you. I generally like to thank everyone who responded, not single out names, unless there is a continuing dialog between us, or an open question. I might sometimes miss someone as my internet time is very unpredictable, but I try my best. As for bumping my own threads up, I try to wait for multiple answers before responding. Usually I let the thread die after 2-3 days when there aren't any new replies that I need to thank people for. </p> <p>Another little rule I have for myself is that I try to comments on at least three other people's threads before my own. It makes me feel better, especially if I have many active threads going on that need my attention. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread#post-622580 Fri, 18 May 2012 01:17:37 +0000 Jaime 622580@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for starting this thread GP! Because of the time difference I often post and then only get responses some time later. I also am self-conscious about bumping up an "old" thread, but I do try to acknowledge the early responses and press the appropriate button for the later ones. I am glad to read that people consider this appropriate! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread#post-622573 Fri, 18 May 2012 01:11:16 +0000 Vix 622573@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The answer to 99% of etiquette questions is, "Yes, someone will be offended or irritated if you do X." Doesn't matter what X is. ;)</p> <p>Off the top of my head YLF members have loved/disliked:</p> <p>* "Week of WIWs"<br /> * too many keep or returns in one post<br /> * too much text<br /> * not enough text<br /> * bad photos<br /> * no photos</p> <p>And now apparently there are preferences over thank yous, ha ha ha!</p> <p><strong>As a very infrequent (~ 5 in 2+ years) thread starter:</strong></p> <p>* I try to thank everyone with a personal comment as well as using the buttons. </p> <p>[Part of that is due to wanting to give "quieter" members attention, because I really appreciate the effort. And part of it is having a fair amount to say about whatever I posted, or I wouldn't have bothered to post it!]</p> <p>*I will bump my thread up to thank people whenever/however for about a week (though I will batch replies vs doing a new post for every comment).</p> <p><strong>As a try-to-be-frequent-commenter:</strong></p> <p>* I don't need a personal comment from anyone. I don't need a "button push" from anyone. But both are appreciated (a general "thanks to all who've responded" works dandy, too!).</p> <p>If I have been back-and-forth with a member due to other threads I find a button push is a nice little shorthand. If it's my first/first few times commenting on a member's thread I do find that I appreciate the extra awwwww a personal reply gives me.</p> <p>[Apparently I have random biases about thank yous on here, too!] </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread#post-622552 Fri, 18 May 2012 00:37:21 +0000 Jewell 622552@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>As others have said, I like to know that my post was read and appreciated. I don't mind if the original poster shows that appreciation with a direct thank you or by clicking one of the buttons. I will admit that I am more likely to respond to posters who show some sort of appreciation than I am to posters who give no indication whatsoever that they even read what was written back to them.</p> <p>Personally, I do a combination of thank you responses and pushing buttons. And I always try to answer questions that are directed toward me. I, too, hate to bump a thread with frequent thank you replies. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread#post-622521 Thu, 17 May 2012 23:58:16 +0000 Suz 622521@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nodding at what Ana says...I have been guilty of that many times. And Zapotee, your comments often make me think hard (a good thing) which sometimes mean I have to walk away and can't answer immediately...and then &lt;blushin&gt; I might forget. </p> <p>Love Jonesy's 24 hour rule. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread#post-622515 Thu, 17 May 2012 23:46:38 +0000 Ana 622515@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lol, Zap! I doubt people don't answer because you lack "street cred." It's more likely that they just overlooked your question or something. </p> <p>If people don't respond to my questions, I usually just assume they missed it somehow, or wanted to think about it and then forgot to actually type their response (I know I have composed whole e-mails in my head and then forgotten to actually type them out and send them). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread#post-622503 Thu, 17 May 2012 23:32:54 +0000 HelenInCanada 622503@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ha - I highly doubt anyone here thinks you're a walking felony or that you lack street cred, Zapotee! You usually post helpful, honest, or entertaining responses - and your style is smashing. :)</p> <p>Just wanted to chime in to say Jonesy's 24-hour rule makes a lot of sense! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread#post-622495 Thu, 17 May 2012 22:59:08 +0000 Anonymous 622495@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The only thing I get slightly offended by is when I ask something and it's not addressed. That goes along the lines of what Helen was saying. However, I do realize that I have very little "street cred", in spite of my heavy interaction here. I think it has to do with the fact that I barely post WIWs. I can understand why someone would not put the time and effort in responding or validating something I said, I mean, for all they know, I am a walking felony. </p> <p>Other than that, I don't need to be directly thanked for anything. I think the buttons are sufficient. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread#post-622493 Thu, 17 May 2012 22:47:10 +0000 Ana 622493@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I always use the buttons throughout the post. I usually try to thank everyone once or twice (and try to space those out a little bit), then I use the buttons after that. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread#post-622487 Thu, 17 May 2012 22:25:34 +0000 Jonesy 622487@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Agreeing with Helen and others that it has gotten sooo busy around here! Also agree that the buttons are a must. I never mind if someone doesn't respond directly to something I say in a reply, but I do try to at least acknowledge the replies to a WIW thread I start (hope that makes sense). But this may be because I don't start very many threads, so I have relatively more time (vs. someone who is posting every day or very close to that).</p> <p>ETA: I have a 24-hour rule for my own WIW posts: I will bump and thank people for around 24 hours, then let the thread die. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread#post-622471 Thu, 17 May 2012 21:55:47 +0000 HelenInCanada 622471@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Etiquette-wise, the Boost button (or other appropriate button) is an absolute must. Taking the time to personally thank and respond to each commenter is a cut above, but I don't get offended if that doesn't happen every time. Unanswered questions do move into slightly snubby territory, though. I'd try to follow my own threads to prevent this, and slow down on posting threads if I can't find the time to answer people on my own posts! Lol. This forum is crazy-busy, so I do understand time constraints, and also the desire not to bump up the thread repeatedly, as others have mentioned. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ettiquette-question--using-the-boost-button-vs-thanking-in-thread#post-622468 Thu, 17 May 2012 21:52:38 +0000 Amy 622468@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I enjoy all the comments and try to acknowledge all of them by picking a button. Occasionally, I've been moved to thank each person who responds, but that only happens when I'm feeling loquacious. If someone asks a question, I do my best to answer.</p> <p>I don't want to be annoying by constantly bumping my threads up to the top either, so there's a fine line to walk between being responsive to commenters and an irritating forum hog (not that I've noticed any of you choosing the latter course...it's just my personal hang-up). </p>