https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/engagement-party-gift-etiquette Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Tue, 07 Apr 2026 09:07:45 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/engagement-party-gift-etiquette#post-1307608 Sat, 19 Jul 2014 01:35:22 +0000 Tanya 1307608@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ooh, love the idea of a restaurant gift card.&nbsp; And I think I know just the place, as the bride loves chocolate:<br /><a href="http://www.cocosala.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.cocosala.com/</a></p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/engagement-party-gift-etiquette#post-1307585 Sat, 19 Jul 2014 01:16:03 +0000 annagybe 1307585@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Gift card for a restaurant? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/engagement-party-gift-etiquette#post-1307537 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 23:56:24 +0000 lyn* 1307537@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A couple I know just threw an engagement party and they're doing a DIY wedding so I bought them a pair of fountain pens ... they're kinda hippie-dippy-hipster-ish, so they liked them and are planning to do their wedding invitation addresses with them!</p> <p>I'd stick to a lower $$ value especially if you're going to be buying more gifts in the future. I bought the Lamy Safari's for under $20/each online, including shipping;&nbsp;I think our university bookstore is selling them for about $36 or 40. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/engagement-party-gift-etiquette#post-1307514 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 23:17:00 +0000 doubleh 1307514@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Since they are paying/hosting the party, perhaps view it as a gift along the lines of a very nice hostess gift. &nbsp;An orchid, perhaps? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/engagement-party-gift-etiquette#post-1307369 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 20:09:38 +0000 Tanya 1307369@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you all for your wise input!</p> <p>The couple does not have a registry yet. There will be a bridal shower, bachelorette party etc. in the future.<br /> The thing is that the bride is paying for the whole affair - restaurant catered dinner- herself, so I feel that I should bring something. However, since it is the whole couple officially hosting it, I feel that it should be something for both of them, not just for the bride.<br /> I am pretty close with her, she helped me a lot during my nightmarish past year. However, I do not have money to burn for sure. I would feel better buying something, just am clueless what. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/engagement-party-gift-etiquette#post-1307338 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 19:23:11 +0000 Laura (rhubarbgirl) 1307338@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ditto with those who have never given gifts for an engagement, just for the wedding and/or bridal shower. If you are super-close you could come up with a token gift that is personally meaningful to the both of you, but I don't think it's expected. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/engagement-party-gift-etiquette#post-1307306 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 18:46:18 +0000 ironkurtin 1307306@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think the engagement party is a celebration only, not a gift venue. &nbsp;Unless you are VERY close to the bride and have money you'd love to burn. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/engagement-party-gift-etiquette#post-1307285 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 18:25:07 +0000 Emily 1307285@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with Anna.&nbsp; Also, a gift should not be expected at an engagement party.&nbsp; I assume you will also be attending a bridal shower, where a gift WILL be expected, plus the wedding gift.&nbsp; If you feel so inclined, give the couple a nice card congratulating them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/engagement-party-gift-etiquette#post-1307280 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 18:16:57 +0000 rachylou 1307280@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've never been to an engagement party where gifts were given. Except maybe a cheque from your Grand Uncle George. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/engagement-party-gift-etiquette#post-1307268 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 18:08:46 +0000 Neelie 1307268@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Have they set up a gift registry anywhere? &nbsp;I would select something from there if possible, maybe something for the house. &nbsp;I was recently invited to an engagement party and I ordered white towels off their registry for them. &nbsp;I think that one can never have too many of those.</p> <p>If there is a party, I think a gift is appropriate, but you decide how much you want to spend, and certainly&nbsp;considerably less that for the wedding gift.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/engagement-party-gift-etiquette#post-1307232 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 17:42:40 +0000 viva 1307232@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You could also get something fun and Pinterest-able from etsy like these adorable his and hers pillowcases (loved by my 22-year-old DD):</p> <p><a href="https://www.etsy.com/listing/195544413/spooning-pillow-case-set-2-pillow-covers?ref=sr_gallery_1&amp;ga_search_query=spooning+pillows&amp;ga_ship_to=US&amp;ga_search_type=all&amp;ga_view_type=gallery" rel="nofollow">https://www.etsy.com/listing/1.....1&#038;ga_</a></p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/engagement-party-gift-etiquette#post-1307179 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 16:45:40 +0000 kkards 1307179@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>i love AviaMariah's idea. or maybe a gift cerifitcate&nbsp; a massage, with a note saying you know planning a wedding can be stressful. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/engagement-party-gift-etiquette#post-1307164 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 16:31:02 +0000 AviaMariah 1307164@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've never been to an engagement party and I don't even think I would have thought of a gift if I had been invited! &nbsp;Some of the other ideas sound nice though; something small and personal. &nbsp;Maybe a gift card for a pedicure? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/engagement-party-gift-etiquette#post-1307154 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 16:17:45 +0000 minimalist 1307154@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't know! but love any excuse to visit my old-favorite snarkfest:</p> <p>Are engagement parties gift-giving occasions?<br /> <a href="http://www.etiquettehell.com/smf/index.php?topic=133892.0" rel="nofollow">http://www.etiquettehell.com/s.....c=133892.0</a></p> <p>engagement gifts<br /> <a href="http://www.etiquettehell.com/smf/index.php?topic=99444" rel="nofollow">http://www.etiquettehell.com/s.....opic=99444</a></p> <p>engagement gift ideas<br /> <a href="http://www.etiquettehell.com/smf/index.php?topic=86346" rel="nofollow">http://www.etiquettehell.com/s.....opic=86346</a></p> <p>Then there's this novel but not recommended approach to gift sourcing and selection:<br /> <a href="http://www.abadcaseofthedates.com/2011/04/sharp-as-sharp-can-be.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.abadcaseofthedates......an-be.html</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/engagement-party-gift-etiquette#post-1307130 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 15:52:42 +0000 annagybe 1307130@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If you are getting a nice present for the wedding, I would not get an engagement party present. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/engagement-party-gift-etiquette#post-1307126 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 15:43:50 +0000 Glory 1307126@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh this is a tricky one. I am thinking we need an online search for etiquette in this situation. I have never been to one where a gift is required either but it has been quite a few years. Would this be in place of a shower? If there is a maid of honour you could ask her.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/engagement-party-gift-etiquette#post-1307114 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 15:23:19 +0000 texstyle 1307114@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've never been to an engagement party where gifts were expected but sometimes people do bring them. If it's in a restaurant then I guess a nice bottle of wine is kind of out of the question (which is what I might bring if the party were at someone's home). Will everyone be paying for their own dinner? If so, then I might simply buy or create a really pretty art card (frameable, and if you felt the need to go one step further, maybe provide a frame to fit) and write a nice, personal message inside. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/engagement-party-gift-etiquette#post-1307101 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 15:01:08 +0000 Tanya 1307101@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks Viva! The bride is pretty young, 27ish; and the party is a centered dinner party with drinks and dancing later in a nice lounge. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/engagement-party-gift-etiquette#post-1307077 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 14:17:48 +0000 viva 1307077@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I went to an engagement party this spring for one of my best friends who is quite a bit younger than I am (she is 35, I am 50). I had no idea what to do -- so much has changed since I got married. The engagement party was a brunch with a dozen of her closest girl friends, most in their early 30s. The gifts tended to be very personal and not the kinds of things that would be necessarily be given for a wedding or bridal shower. One friend gave her a small wedding etiquette book that had been passed through her family -- the idea being my friend would read it, sign it, and then pass it to someone else. Several friends chipped in on a hotel night in Boston for the couple.&nbsp; One friend gave her crystal champagne flutes to use in the ceremony. I ended up giving her a glass bowl painted by my mother (who was an artist before succumbing to dementia). </p> <p>It would be good to get others' feedback because I think it might vary regionally and/or based on the age of the bride.</p> <p>Good luck! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/engagement-party-gift-etiquette#post-1307072 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 13:59:08 +0000 Tanya 1307072@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>One of my closest friends has just decided to have a little engagement party in couple of weeks. The wedding is next year in May.<br />I have never attended an engagement party in USA before and am curious about the customs/etiquette.&nbsp; Is one supposed to bring a gift and what would be typical and or/recommended? Obviously I am planning to get them a very nice gift for the actual wedding.&nbsp; Thanks! </p>