https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 15 Apr 2026 17:52:01 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1852376 Wed, 11 Oct 2017 01:33:28 +0000 DonnaF 1852376@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Gorgeous! I understand what you mean about wearing color, but I wish I had a beautiful top like that to wear with my harems since I'm going to a wedding on Saturday. My only dressy top that will work with the harems is black. Not festive. So I will be wearing my jacquard sheath dress that gets trotted out every year or two for such occasions. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1852351 Tue, 10 Oct 2017 22:47:35 +0000 TraceyLiz65 1852351@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Every time you push just a bit outside your comfort zone, you do a fabulous job of still Rocking your style and I would recognize you immediately!&nbsp; Love it!&nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1852326 Tue, 10 Oct 2017 20:00:19 +0000 Marilyn 1852326@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've said this before, Deborah, but you have the most amazing style.&nbsp; It's quite different from what I wear but I so love it.&nbsp; As a fellow petite, I'm always amazed by what you can pull off and I find it inspirational.</p> <p>On to the outfit.....Fab as always.&nbsp; I share your love for black but you do bits of colour and print very well.&nbsp; The black grounds it and keeps the&nbsp; look chic.&nbsp; </p> <p>Fantastic jewelry!</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1852321 Tue, 10 Oct 2017 19:41:15 +0000 citygirldc 1852321@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You are only 5 foot 2?&nbsp; You look so tall in my eyes and I'm 5 foot 1.&nbsp; Anyway, as one who loves black, your chic outfits are always amazing to me and once in a while a little color or print changes up the whole look.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1852317 Tue, 10 Oct 2017 19:19:34 +0000 Jenni NZ 1852317@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well I also think you look amazing. I had not realised you're 5 foot 2, that is only just taller than me. You must be very good at the proportions so that you appear taller?<br /> My only disappointment here is that you didn't wear the duplicate sapphire blue dress you talked about wearing, earlier? Because I loved that one EVEN more. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1852243 Tue, 10 Oct 2017 13:10:01 +0000 lyn67 1852243@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, that top is a great print and COLOR3 perfect with the harems-and so, makes for a dramatic look you are wearing so very well, killer stunning for the 3D jewelry, too! A real inspiration! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1852147 Tue, 10 Oct 2017 01:03:15 +0000 Deborah 1852147@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Robin, thanks so much, I love my harems :)</p> <p>Ledonna, thank you lovely. I really appreciate that.</p> <p>Elizabeth, you are too kind:)&nbsp; And yes I am only 5ft2 and I purchased the Small/Regular in the harems.&nbsp; I think you could possibly stretch them out when they are wet, won't hurt to try, but I do love how yours sit on you.<br />Here's the link for the top. Full disclosure, I wear quite a bit of her clothing and I do know her and also do some work for her so I am totally biased but I genuinely adore her designs.&nbsp; She makes clothes for grown ups:)&nbsp; Here's the link:&nbsp;&nbsp;<a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.lulumanna.com.au/collections/pretty-racey/products/spring-fling-top">https://www.lulumanna.com.au/c.....-fling-top</a>&nbsp; Her prices are not crazy but they are not cheap, but given the quality of the fabrics, the workmanship and they are made ethically in Australia I think they are well worth the price tag.&nbsp; From the Spring range I also have the On The Fields Dress and the Emerge Pant in Black.&nbsp; Very timeless designs.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p>Amy you are lovely thank you xx</p> <p>Thanks so much Lyn :)&nbsp; Here is the link for you&nbsp;<a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.lulumanna.com.au/collections/pretty-racey/products/spring-fling-top">https://www.lulumanna.com.au/c.....-fling-top</a>&nbsp; beautiful Sydney based independent designer.. see my comments to Elizabeth above.&nbsp; The designs are all just gorgeous.</p> <p>Firecracker, yes you are right they are colours I have worn before but putting them all together was a bit scary ha ha.&nbsp; I tried a few different pairs of shoes but the simple sandal seemed the best.&nbsp; I have the same sandal in cobalt blue but decided it was too 'matchy matchy' for me :)</p> <p>The Cat, thank you, I love the words you use, I think they must be my style descriptors xxx </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1852114 Mon, 09 Oct 2017 21:47:49 +0000 Firecracker (Sharan) 1852114@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is a stunning wedding outfit, Deborah. I love the drama of the long side on the top, and this floral, being abstract, suits your style very well. Plus, you wear these colors well and I've seen you in them before, just not usually all at once, right? The delicate strapped sandals are the perfect dressy touch. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1852101 Mon, 09 Oct 2017 21:33:18 +0000 Lyn D. 1852101@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You looked Fabulous Deborah!<br />Where is the top from?<br />I hear you and others here about wearing dresses due to unwritten expectations, and even the convenience of not having to think too hard about putting together a more formal but true to self outfit.<br />Great job!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1852009 Mon, 09 Oct 2017 15:44:23 +0000 amiable 1852009@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is stunning - as usual from you :)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1851979 Mon, 09 Oct 2017 13:40:37 +0000 Elizabeth P 1851979@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ouch!&nbsp; My head!&nbsp; I haven't got my crash helmet on yet...</p> <p>This is beyond awesome.&nbsp; I love the outfit, I love that you are being true to you, I love that you had the courtesy to check in with the bride first... all of it.&nbsp; That top is fantastic.&nbsp; Would love more info on it... is there a link??</p> <p>I wish my pants fit like this.&nbsp; Mine are much shorter - I'm taller plus I think they shrunk a couple of inches in the wash.&nbsp; Next time I was them I'm going to do everything in my power to stretch them, but the fabric is the type that goes all stiff when wet so I'm not sure how successful it will be.&nbsp; Every time I put them on I wish they looked like yours do - I still wear them, they are fine, but I think I'd wear them more with more length.</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1851956 Mon, 09 Oct 2017 13:24:04 +0000 Ledonna N. 1851956@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think it's lightweight and airy still beautiful on you and and still speaks of who you are. I love the top is so gorgeous. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1851949 Mon, 09 Oct 2017 13:09:46 +0000 RobinF 1851949@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love this outfit! It looks totally appropriate for a wedding, very festive but in a good way. I do love those harems on you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1851818 Sun, 08 Oct 2017 22:33:10 +0000 Deborah 1851818@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Style Fan, thank you.&nbsp; The Harems were a great investment.&nbsp; I actually wanted them for a long time but the cost and then shipping just stretched my budget too much.&nbsp; I picked them up on sale finally and with shipping ended up paying about AUD130.&nbsp;I was lucky as it seems hard to find a pair these days.</p> <p>Shevia, thanks so much, Im loving the 3D printed jewellery, trying not amass too much of it lol</p> <p>Unfrumped thanks so much.&nbsp; And I will do my best re the colour.&nbsp; I do like colour (a little and only some ha ha) but it is fun to change things up a bit.</p> <p>Momo, thanks so much.</p> <p>Aquamarine, yes the harems are incredibly versatile.&nbsp; I wear them everywhere.</p> <p>Angie, thank you so much.&nbsp; I know I am on the right track when an outfit get a Killer rating from you.</p> <p>Lisa thanks so much.&nbsp;&nbsp;It was a lovely outfit to wear, I felt very ethereal with all the flow and drape.</p> <p>Julie, thank you.</p> <p>Keturah thanks so much lovely.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;It is an adventure isn't it, and a fun one.</p> <p>UmmLila, I agree the harems are so incredibly versatile, enjoy your camping. xx</p> <p>Avicennia, well I feel privileged you delurked for me :)&nbsp; Thank you so much for your kind words. xx</p> <p></p> <p></p> <p></p> <p></p> <p></p> <p></p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1851813 Sun, 08 Oct 2017 22:19:20 +0000 The Cat 1851813@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It looks very YOU. Dramatic, sophisticated, artistic and personal. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1851810 Sun, 08 Oct 2017 22:04:33 +0000 Deborah 1851810@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Karen 13 thanks so much, I have to be honest and say I was struggling a little with the colour.</p> <p>Joy and Barbara Dianne, thank you so much :)</p> <p>Thanks Kari, the Harems are definitely one of my best investments.&nbsp; They work so well with so many things and go anywhere :)</p> <p>Thea, thank you and yes I agree the lovely chiffon fabric means is just lovely and light and not overwhelming.</p> <p>Anne, thank you lovely:)</p> <p>Bijou, thank you and I am glad it looks like a 'me' outfit.&nbsp; Funny but colour always throws me.&nbsp; I love my black SO much.</p> <p>Rachy, Dianna and Adela, thank you so much xx</p> <p>Brooklyn, thanks so much.&nbsp; Yes the shape and asymmetry made me feel reasonably confident but the colour was the big challenge ha ha silly really.</p> <p>Thanks lovely Lucy.</p> <p>Lol Column you are right plenty of black and some drama.. which I love in my clothes (not my life lol)</p> <p>Sterling, we should start a thread on wedding attire.&nbsp; I would say the social norm here is definitely a lovely dress for a wedding.&nbsp; I have NEVER felt right in the type of dresses that most women will wear to a wedding.&nbsp; For some time I just compromised in order to 'fit in' but I am so over that in my life now.&nbsp; If I do wear a dress now it's one of my drapey black numbers but I had this outfit in my mind and I saw the bride a week before the wedding and asked her if she minded me wearing pants and she told me to wear whatever I wanted.&nbsp; I was inspired years ago by an older lady I know who wore a gorgeous almost tux like pant suit to a formal dinner event.&nbsp; I was in a shocker of a dress (for me) that I had borrowed from a friend (long, a little flouncy, skin showing etc) and I felt so uncomfortable. I vowed I would never do that again.&nbsp; I am happy to consider what is appropriate and respectful but I wouldn't ever compromise like that again.&nbsp; &nbsp; Generally speaking tho, almost anything goes at weddings here.&nbsp; The couple were quite young and many of their guests very young (compared to me lol) and there were lots of boho style long dresses, very short skimpy dresses, and rompers and a jump suit or two.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p>Thanks Cheryl :)&nbsp; with your beautiful wardrobe, you would always look amazing no matter what you were attending. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding#post-1851804 Sun, 08 Oct 2017 21:37:52 +0000 avicennia 1851804@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Long time lurker here -- too shy to post much. But I have to say that I love your style in general Deborah, and this is a lovely new take for a special event. The outfit is polished and dynamic, just like you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding#post-1851798 Sun, 08 Oct 2017 21:06:44 +0000 UmmLila (Lisa) 1851798@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Gorgeous. I stand by my views that these pants function more as a skirt. They are quite versatile. I shall be wearing mine camping in a week in Wadi Rum, Jordan.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding#post-1851782 Sun, 08 Oct 2017 19:29:42 +0000 Keturah 1851782@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Deb, your use of harem pants always leaves me going za-za-zing!!! I love following your style adventures &lt;3 </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding#post-1851722 Sun, 08 Oct 2017 15:46:25 +0000 Julie 1851722@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look amazing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding#post-1851692 Sun, 08 Oct 2017 14:29:08 +0000 Anonymous 1851692@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with Angie. This is a beautiful choice for a wedding - pretty, celebratory, interesting, and lively. &nbsp;All black would not have been as special. You nailed it here! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding#post-1851676 Sun, 08 Oct 2017 13:35:39 +0000 Angie 1851676@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>KILLER </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding#post-1851667 Sun, 08 Oct 2017 12:50:35 +0000 Aquamarine 1851667@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a dramatic, interesting, and totally appropriate wedding outfit. Those harems are endlessly versatile, it seems. YLF! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding#post-1851656 Sun, 08 Oct 2017 12:21:16 +0000 Momo 1851656@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love this Deborah. The color is lovely And with the cool silhouette it is just you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding#post-1851654 Sun, 08 Oct 2017 12:17:17 +0000 unfrumped 1851654@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, plonk.<br /> I had no idea how these would be styled, but this is perfect. The colorful and gauzy floral hits the festive wedding mark. I love everything about the outfit. You absolutely must wear more color from time to time!</p> <p>Love Sterling’s rant! I also have a new goal of building a “ wedding pants” capsule if possible. For me it’s more necessary for summer, seems odd, but due to things like my actual preference for host, no open toes, so summer legs and shoe comfort are harder. If I could find pieces that work for some “regular “ occasions like church and dinner out it could be worthwhile. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding#post-1851649 Sun, 08 Oct 2017 12:01:54 +0000 Jaime 1851649@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The top looks smashing on you! Love the 3D printed earrings too.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding#post-1851646 Sun, 08 Oct 2017 11:52:07 +0000 Style Fan 1851646@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>As always Deborah you look elegant, edgy and avant guarde.&nbsp; Harem pants are so perfect for your style.&nbsp; The top is lovely with the pants.&nbsp; Great accessories as well.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding#post-1851644 Sun, 08 Oct 2017 11:46:02 +0000 dakotacheryl 1851644@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Fabulous and I'm sure very comfortable.</p> <p>Sterling...where I live there is apparently zero dress codes for weddings or funerals...anything goes, from jeans to fancy dresses or suits...all in the same occasion. It is very disconcerting and I try to dress nicely for both. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding#post-1851640 Sun, 08 Oct 2017 11:25:42 +0000 Anonymous 1851640@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I really love this!! &nbsp;After admitting that seeing you in color is a bit of a surprise, I still adore this whole ensemble. &nbsp;</p> <p>Now I must step on my soap box. &nbsp;</p> <p>Weddings. &nbsp;</p> <p>I don't know about weddings in your country, but this outfit seems perfect to me. &nbsp;You are authentic to yourself and respectful of the wedding party. You wore pants! &nbsp;</p> <p>In contrast, in my country, I am told I <i>must</i> wear a dress (and a fancy dress at that). &nbsp;This rule is not written down but I absolutely assure you it is a rule. &nbsp;I wear a fancy dress. &nbsp;I am not authentic. &nbsp;I am not comfortable and I can't wait to leave the wedding party. &nbsp;</p> <p>Just this year, I resolved to wear pants to a wedding. &nbsp;The police were not called. &nbsp;The sky did not fall down. &nbsp;</p> <p>Sorry if I hijacked your thread. &nbsp;It is the word "wedding" that seems to set me off. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ef-harems-go-to-a-wedding#post-1851637 Sun, 08 Oct 2017 10:20:50 +0000 Column 1851637@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You always work, Deborah. High drama, right proportions, and plenty of black! </p>