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YouLookFab Forum » Topic: Editing and Why https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 17 Apr 2026 19:45:04 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 <![CDATA[Search]]> q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php Bijou on "Editing and Why" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why#post-1966068 Wed, 17 Oct 2018 13:28:40 +0000 Bijou 1966068@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ These edit posts are so valuable - thank you for posting. You have such a wonderful sense of your style, that your mis-steps are very few and make sense.  I do love Stayfit's point that keeping items that are not loved is a burden...very wise to remember and keep editing the unloved items away. As you say, they will find a better home with people that love them. Style Fan on "Editing and Why" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why#post-1966045 Wed, 17 Oct 2018 12:26:12 +0000 Style Fan 1966045@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Wise words Staysfit.  I felt like I needed to wear these pieces but I wasn't.  And you are absolutely right.  They were staring at me.  I want my workhorses staring at me. Staysfit on "Editing and Why" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why#post-1966016 Wed, 17 Oct 2018 10:38:45 +0000 Staysfit 1966016@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I am glad you have a great sense of humor about your fashion mis-steps! I laughed particularly loudly when I read the statement: “when you put a pair of jeans on and take them off multiple times what does that say?” I cannot tell you how many times I have done that with lower rise jeans! :-). The same goes with shoes, some tops, and on occasion a scarf. I culled all those items from my wardrobe and it is so much better. In the past few days it has been easier to find what I want and the burden of all the items I purchased but shouldn’t have isn’t staring me in the face first thing in the morning. Think about it......when you keep the wrong items, the mistakes, the items that have any negative associations, then every single day when you enter your closet, those items are there and subtly influence your psyche. It’s mostly a subconscious effect, but the burden is there for the rest of the day and influences everything else. Out of sight, out of mind really works with the brain. I am not missing anything I removed at all. In fact, I never have missed anything I removed previously either. Gigi on "Editing and Why" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why#post-1965972 Wed, 17 Oct 2018 06:37:05 +0000 Gigi 1965972@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ It sounds like you have done good work on your closet edit! I am doing mine slowly but surely. Facing purchases that were a mistake is tough, but at least we learn things in the process so we can do better going forward. Kate on "Editing and Why" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why#post-1965947 Wed, 17 Oct 2018 04:25:19 +0000 Kate 1965947@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I laughed too, Style Fan, but I feel your pain. I need to make such a list when I do my closet edit (which is coming), and wrap it around my credit card. I have oufitted my neighbor and good friend with my recurrent fashion mistakes—why oh why do I buy stripes when I know I don’t like them on me, or purchase black tops, when I no longer wear black next to my face. Happily, she looks adorable in my mistakes and we get a good laugh out of it. cindysmith on "Editing and Why" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why#post-1965943 Wed, 17 Oct 2018 04:12:46 +0000 cindysmith 1965943@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Now that I have laughed at how much I relate to this post, Well done! So proud of you! Angie on "Editing and Why" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why#post-1965867 Wed, 17 Oct 2018 00:08:59 +0000 Angie 1965867@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ LOVE the big sign in the closet.  Style Fan on "Editing and Why" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why#post-1965851 Tue, 16 Oct 2018 22:23:31 +0000 Style Fan 1965851@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thanks, everyone for cheering me on.  I just have to do it.   Sisi, good idea to make a list of the things you can't wear.  I need to do that.  I am attracted to certain looks but I am not attracted to how they look on me. Jessi, I know!  I look sloppy, not willowy. Unfrumped, I have given up on some items.  On and off they go.  Now they are going out. La Ped, it is sad about the Trippen boots.  They are uncomfortable now.  They were fine when I bought them.  The saddest part is that I also have them in a curry colour as well.  :( Lisa, you are right.  Many of these pieces just don't work for my style.  I need to stick with my "look".  Tried and true. Christina, shoes are so frustrating.  I can't tell if they work for me until wearing them for a while.  I am sticking with my tried and true brands.  Also, boring. Thank you, Angie.  I need it.  But I have a focus.  Earth Tones.  Big sign on the closet. Kathie, I need to do a review of my "written on wallet" items when I go shopping. Barbara Diane, they are all very nice but just not working for me.  Maybe a new home will make them nicer. Suntiger, I might have a picture of the green marshmallow look.  That sealed the hoodie's fate. Janet, I can see you looking so good in blue and blue/green.  Cool tones are so flattering to you. Kkards, duplicating hardly ever works.  I am learning the hard way. Smittie, the little foxes beckoned to me.  So cute.  I could not resist.  Someone else can enjoy them. Suz, I know.  Some things are not going to be repeated.  So sad. Cardiff girl, it is somewhat therapeutic.  Well, not really but helpful. Sal, I need a tattoo.  I keep making the same mistakes.   Jules, exactly.  Rules. Liz, that would be great.  :)       Liz A. on "Editing and Why" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why#post-1965845 Tue, 16 Oct 2018 21:41:01 +0000 Liz A. 1965845@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I'll bet you won't have trouble selling some of these items.  They are all so cute even if they don't work for you. Jules on "Editing and Why" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why#post-1965842 Tue, 16 Oct 2018 21:21:00 +0000 Jules 1965842@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Honestly I feel like ‘don’t try to replace beloved items’ could be a rule for my wallet. It’s never the same. Sal on "Editing and Why" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why#post-1965807 Tue, 16 Oct 2018 19:22:04 +0000 Sal 1965807@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Well written indeed and fascinating!! We all have some of these pieces - and a note in the wallet is a good idea - or a tattoo on our hand! Cardiff girl on "Editing and Why" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why#post-1965786 Tue, 16 Oct 2018 18:24:38 +0000 Cardiff girl 1965786@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I m starting a “don’t want to talk about it “pile immediately! Suz on "Editing and Why" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why#post-1965780 Tue, 16 Oct 2018 18:06:47 +0000 Suz 1965780@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ This is a great read, Style Fan! I laughed out loud. Don't we all have a few of those "don't ask" pieces? Oh, and the "almosts" that are intended to replace beloved items. Those ones are so very hard. You look and look and think you've found the right thing...only to learn...I have trouble letting go of those, also. I keep imagining I'm imagining the problems! Anonymous on "Editing and Why" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why#post-1965770 Tue, 16 Oct 2018 17:40:10 +0000 Anonymous 1965770@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ So funny to hear about your reasons for donating. Yes, I have a few things I would rather not discuss too, ha ha! I definitely think the fox scarf is outside your wheelhouse. I can understand the appeal of the fox though. The fox is orange, brown, and earthy (so you!) but the scarf itself is blue and cute (not you!). kkards on "Editing and Why" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why#post-1965756 Tue, 16 Oct 2018 16:54:50 +0000 kkards 1965756@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ yes...I'm learning the hard way about duplicating, even duplicating much loved items, sometimes its just time to move on....and yes, lets not talk about the jeans that you put on and than take off.... Janet on "Editing and Why" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why#post-1965740 Tue, 16 Oct 2018 16:22:19 +0000 Janet 1965740@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I hear you loud and clear on those "I don't want to talk about it" items. Sigh. I'm taking your lessons to heart. This is making me want to go back to attacking my closet! I think you and I have opposite color palettes -- I need to stick to the blues/greens!  Anonymous on "Editing and Why" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why#post-1965735 Tue, 16 Oct 2018 16:11:16 +0000 Anonymous 1965735@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Ha ha! Im sure you don't look like a green marshmallow:) i need to write similar on my wallet too, especially no blue. Barbara Diane on "Editing and Why" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why#post-1965732 Tue, 16 Oct 2018 16:07:06 +0000 Barbara Diane 1965732@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ All the items look nice in finds but honing what works for us is so important. Good edit. Kathie on "Editing and Why" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why#post-1965720 Tue, 16 Oct 2018 15:33:59 +0000 Kathie 1965720@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ This was a great read! I have a few “written on my wallet” items. Love it! Angie on "Editing and Why" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why#post-1965687 Tue, 16 Oct 2018 14:16:49 +0000 Angie 1965687@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ WELL DONE. I chuckled too :) You are going like a Boeing, Style Fan. I nodded along with every donation, and am patting Queen Earth Tones on the back.  Christina F. on "Editing and Why" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why#post-1965646 Tue, 16 Oct 2018 13:15:57 +0000 Christina F. 1965646@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Oh, brava! This edit is so well considered. Shoes can be so frustrating. I just got some BOC clogs recently that don’t work as well as I thought, but I could only tell after wearing them all day. It’s sad about those silver shoes, but good for you for overcoming the sunk cost fallacy. Anonymous on "Editing and Why" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why#post-1965642 Tue, 16 Oct 2018 12:45:12 +0000 Anonymous 1965642@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ This was great!  I'm sorry to admit I laughed at bit while reading (I have a few of those  " I don't want to talk about it" pieces too ).  Also - just from knowing what and how you wear clothes, I see why these pieces aren't working for you too .   LaPed on "Editing and Why" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why#post-1965634 Tue, 16 Oct 2018 12:21:57 +0000 LaPed 1965634@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Oh, so sad about the beautiful Trippen boots! Have they become uncomfortable?  I can definitely see a pattern emerging with regard to pale/pastel colours... unfrumped on "Editing and Why" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why#post-1965625 Tue, 16 Oct 2018 11:13:57 +0000 unfrumped 1965625@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thanks for sharing your reasoning! Very helpful. “ take on & off” - yes. How many times before it sinks in! Jessikams on "Editing and Why" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why#post-1965619 Tue, 16 Oct 2018 11:08:58 +0000 Jessikams 1965619@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Sob! Things are always falling off my shoulders too. Yet I buy them hoping I will look “willowy.” Another sob. Sisi on "Editing and Why" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why#post-1965617 Tue, 16 Oct 2018 11:05:53 +0000 Sisi 1965617@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ This is very interesting Style Fan! I have recently put on paper the  list of all the wrong clothes I want to edit and the reasons why they are mistakes. We have many points in common. Wrong colour, wrong fit, "I can't wear sloppy things", something you have bought thinking it would be a successful replacement for an old winner unexpectedly does not work ... "I have to write this on my wallet" - haha, right! (I want to put my  "don't buy" list in my wallet from now on when going shopping). And I have learnt the same lessons as you. :) Style Fan on "Editing and Why" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/editing-and-why#post-1965613 Tue, 16 Oct 2018 10:37:57 +0000 Style Fan 1965613@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Some items sit in my closet and don't get worn.  I have decided that certain ones will stay because they have a particular value to me.  Others are not valuable and actually leave me feeling blah or worse. 1/  Black Harem type pants.  I bought these in the summer hoping to replace a beloved pair that had worn out.  They are not the ones.  They are pretty, overly baggy and the material is too hot for our summers. 2/  J. Crew Scarf.  I liked the orange foxes.  So cute.  Never worn.  I don't really wear cute things.  And I never wear blue. 3/  Lululemon hoodie.  Mine is a gorgeous limey grassy green.  But it is too big.  I look like a green marshmallow.   4/  James Perse cream shirt.  No, I can not wear sloppy things.  They fall off my shoulders.  I need to write this on my wallet. 5/  James Perse peach T-shirt.  I don't really like pastels even if they are related to orange.  I need to write this on my wallet. 6/  Silver Fly Sandals.  Sadly, my footwear options are very limited.  I wore these once.  They don't make the cut. 7/  Paige Porter jeans.  Brand new with tags.  Sob. Sob.  I bought off ebay hoping to replace my other ones.  No.  The rise was too low. 8/  Purple Sweater.  Tags are still on a few years later.  No, I am not going to wear purple. 9/  Purple Jeans.  When you put a pair of jeans on and take them off multiple times what does that say?   10/  Blue/black Trippen Combat Boots.  I don't want to talk about it. I am hoping to sell some of these items and some of them I will donate. Lessons learned: 1/  Stick to the tried and true colour palette. 2/  Footwear is for me is very limited.  I know what works now.  Go with it. 3/  Certain silhouettes are working.  Stay with them.