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YouLookFab Forum » Topic: Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story? https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 03 May 2026 20:29:18 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 <![CDATA[Search]]> q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php Lisa on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story/page/2#post-2366935 Thu, 01 Aug 2024 20:57:22 +0000 Lisa 2366935@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ April, yep it's me! *waves* I'm trying to get back to YLF as time allows.  I hope you are doing well. Jonesy on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story/page/2#post-2366095 Mon, 22 Jul 2024 22:44:58 +0000 Jonesy 2366095@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ My SO shops on his own and is pretty set in his ways :), but he will ask my opinion on stuff and I will be honest. Like several others, I will also get him clothing items for his birthday. Recently I nudged him in the direction of some looser pants/jeans, which took several months but was a success, lol! April on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365879 Sat, 20 Jul 2024 10:09:25 +0000 April 2365879@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I love your strategies, Murph11 and Val! Back in the day when shopping was one of our preferred activities on a weekend visit, Mr. A would actually talk *me* into it by sweetening the pot: "We can have lunch at that place we love." Why did he do this when we were mostly shopping for me? Because I loathe trying on yet he absolutely loved the role of sitting out on a little bench with his iPhone holding my handbag and waiting to give an opinion. Val on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365822 Fri, 19 Jul 2024 20:21:03 +0000 Val 2365822@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Murph11, the snack part is hilarious and very true! I remember shopping with my dad when I was a teen, my strategy was to wander around the mall like I am searching for somethign specific until he is exhausted enougfh and then going straight to the item I wanted but worried was too expensive. My poor farther would go for it just to be done with the whole ordeal. Murph11 on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365816 Fri, 19 Jul 2024 19:44:42 +0000 Murph11 2365816@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thanks for posting this, April, and to all who've shared! I can -- and do -- shop for replacements to Mr. M11's wardrobe, but can only get him to shop in person if we have an event looming to which he thinks he has nothing suitable. He wants my help in these instances (this past Monday for an upcoming beach-side wedding). I remembered to feed him a snack before we left the house and reminded him that try-ons would be mandatory. It was successful! Val on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365757 Fri, 19 Jul 2024 08:26:00 +0000 Val 2365757@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <div>I love shopping with my husband, he makes me look at things I would not pick out myself and I end up wearing it often and for a long time. We haven't done that for 3 years now, as we both are stuck in a professional project that sucks all the energy out of us, we haven't travel or went on a leisure shopping for ages. Hopefully, it comes to an end in 6 months and we can do that again.</div><div>My husband likes made to order stuff, both casual and professional, and I have tons of fun choosing fabrics and some details, his style is on conservative side, so cuts are more or less stable. I do most of the "hunting" for him, like he needs a pair of casual shoes of particular color/model, I find options online and he chooses from them. Sam is a very efficient dresser - his wardrobe is compact and he wears absolutely every item on a regular basis, no impulse buys etc </div> Echo on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365749 Fri, 19 Jul 2024 01:36:13 +0000 Echo 2365749@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Ugh, I am so jealous of those with stylish Dhs! My Dh is a dedicated jeans and tshirt man. We first met in a mall in the 1990s, and he worked in an arcade where he was required to wear black pants, a white shirt and a tie. I still tell him that was false advertising! He works in the dairy industry, and while he flies to all sorts of places and meets with state and government regulators, it is a very casual industry. Nice jeans and polo shirts with company logos on them are about as dressed up as they get.  I have tried to gift him things I'd like to see him wear, but he rarely ever puts them on. On the rare occasion he needs to wear a suit, he is stunning, but our lifestyle typically doesn't involve that sort of dress, so it is rare I get to see him wearing one. Complicating matters further is the fact that he is 6'8" tall, making fit always a challenge. "Big and Tall" sections often have many large waist size pants, but very few average waists with an inseam longer than 34", or lots of 4X and 5X shirts, but few that are actually a standard size, but extra long. On top of all that, he doesn't understand why I need more than a couple pairs of jeans and tshirts myself. Nevermind he was attracted to me in the first place due in no small part to the way I dressed! Anyway, so we carry on looking like the odd couple - me overdressed and him ... not. I still love him to death, but at this point (after 26 years), he isn't magically going to start wearing the things I'd like him to wear. I'm just happy when I can get him to wear dress pants and a sweater out to dinner now and then! Laurie on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365724 Thu, 18 Jul 2024 17:14:48 +0000 Laurie 2365724@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Perhaps my wording was too strong! My husand is a grown up and CAN (and does) dress himself, but he often doesn't do well with coordination of colors. Especially shades of olive / green for some reason. Like, he tries to wear 3 different and not well-blending drab shades of olive together, and not in a fashion-statement way. Because it's all green. I just guide him to things that will go together better....like, you can't go wrong with a white shirt with that.... Again, the biggest challenge is currently fit. It occurs to me that he is having trouble realizing and accepting he's not as robust as he once was. He enjoys looking good.  April on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365709 Thu, 18 Jul 2024 13:58:26 +0000 April 2365709@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Lisa is that really you? [waves madly] I seem to remember this as a fairly perpetual situation; you've come up with a great strategy. Nice work! The whole "wearing something long past its due date" - what IS that? I once took a picture of some boxer briefs I took from the dryer that were so shredded and threadbare I can't even tell you. Texted Mr. A a photo with "Really?" but I accidentally sent it to a mutual friend. Oops. Lisa on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365699 Thu, 18 Jul 2024 13:23:41 +0000 Lisa 2365699@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ My husband has the classic works from home wardrobe, graphic t-shirt and shorts or jeans. He is very minimal and will wear something well past it's due date. My solution is to freshen up his wardrobe twice yearly as birthday/Christmas gifts. This way his wardrobe gets the replacement items he'll never buy on his own, and I get to pick what I'll be seeing him in all the time. April on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365684 Thu, 18 Jul 2024 10:58:32 +0000 April 2365684@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Laurie how is it for you when he "completely defers"? I can imagine it being either a huge relief or another decision to be made by you, when we're all here trying to figure out what to wear - i.e. it's not that easy. Suz too funny! I never know if it's best to stay quiet until ready to scream - my tendency - or to chime in early and kindly. Seems to me option one is the only one that makes the point, is that your experience? CJ tech fabrics have saved many a preppy man from a dull wardrobe. Dee I bet the neighbors wear something equally shocking. JNZ ah, the moments that make up a long relationship. Loved the brown pants story! April on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365627 Wed, 17 Jul 2024 19:36:26 +0000 April 2365627@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ JAileen I would never be able to pull that one over on Mr. A, though he is *so* absentminded I could easily have the uglies go missing one by one and just shrug. I like your solution better though! MM I love both stories about Mr. M. You two may be the coolest couple I know who are in my age bracket! Angie I haven't seen Mr. A light up from a YLF tidbit in quite some time, but your comment did that. c2 I love a mutually agreeable approach! MsMary on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365618 Wed, 17 Jul 2024 18:26:02 +0000 MsMary 2365618@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ A funny story about Mr. Mary that I just thought of: A couple of years ago his suitcase was lost on a flight to Athens, and we ended up having to replace a lot of things. We ended up in a fancy department store (think Athens's equivalent of Bloomingdale's) and got him some lovely linen shirts, some graphic tees, a windbreaker, baseball-style white cap, and rubber beach slides from a fancy Italian brand called Napapijri. His suitcase eventually showed up but he is still wearing those pieces and it really upped his style game for that vacation and beyond! April on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365588 Wed, 17 Jul 2024 13:37:14 +0000 April 2365588@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Janet your husband's style-eye evokes many an envious sigh on YLF. Helena sadly, the Khaki Mocker was quite right. Mr. A has never been a portly man and the pleats plus the leg-shortening cuffs made him look like, what - a penguin perhaps. Mr. A listened, however, because the mocker was quite a stylish Manhattan-dwelling gay man and something in the khaki-wearer wanted a bit of that for himself. I love Mr. H's view that just plain fun/pretty can sometimes beat pragmatic! Bijou you had me at Japanese fashion! LMA is going to Tokyo later this year and I'm sure he'll spend half his time shopping. :) I have a bad habit of losing long drafts so I'll post now and add more later. Jenni NZ on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365551 Wed, 17 Jul 2024 03:20:56 +0000 Jenni NZ 2365551@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ You might all enjoy the “brown trousers” story. When I started dating my DH, we were both 24. He is a very tall man (6 foot 4 or 193 cm for many years, might have lost a couple cm by now) who had got to almost adult height by age 12. Looked so funny in the school photos, way taller than the teachers. So when he was 12 his youngish uncle, only 12 years older than him, got married, and the aforementioned brown trousers were bought to wear to the wedding. When we were dating he was still wearing them- for half his life by then. I think they were that fabric called garbardine? It took me some years of threatening to donate them and then promising not to unless he agreed before he finally did agree, maybe in his 30s? He still occasionally jokes “You gave away my brown trousers!” April on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365547 Wed, 17 Jul 2024 01:18:44 +0000 April 2365547@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Really enjoying all the stories! I will reply to everyone tomorrow but for now: Dee - my dad is a retired pilot too (corporate, not airline) and his "uniform" varied, but the company always told him what to wear. Since retirement, oy. He never fully moved beyond the "dress knee socks and dress shoes with shorts" vibe, though now that he's 87 he does wear sneakers. Dee on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365519 Tue, 16 Jul 2024 21:28:37 +0000 Dee 2365519@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Haha Suz thats too funny. Ever since my husband retired he too has defaulted to some questionable sweatpants around the house but you should see the horrible outfits he wears to mow the grass. What must the neighbors think. ChristelJ on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365518 Tue, 16 Jul 2024 21:24:55 +0000 ChristelJ 2365518@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <div>Fun reading! </div><div>For years, my husband used to let me buy him shirts and jeans and sweaters,which I loved doing, but now he prefers to shop for himself since he discovered technical fabrics and sporty brands. He started working out a couple years ago and is very into fitness now. He looks like a walking ad for REI, wearing their brands from head to toe most days.  A stranger walked  up to him a couple weeks ago and happened to be wearing the same exact pants and shirts, from Kuhl brand, so they bonded over that. </div><div>I miss being able to shop for him but I'm glad he's found clothing and he loves. The one thing he still asks my opinion on is footwear (aside from his running shoes) so I occasionally get a little sway there. Meanwhile, with his encouragement, I have begun to appreciate shirts with SPF protections for summer and leggings in merino wool for winter. </div> Suz on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365516 Tue, 16 Jul 2024 21:10:58 +0000 Suz 2365516@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ These are such great stories -- thanks for sharing! And April -- you and Mr. A. really are YLF royalty! I loved those images of your leggings outfits!  Mr. Suz dresses himself but always wants my input when he makes a new purchase. He is a very preppy dresser -- button down shirts in cotton (or linen in summer), sweaters (in cooler weather), linen pants in summer and cords or wool blend pants in winter. He is adventurous with colour and will wear pink and lilac as well as white, grey, blue, red, burgundy -- all suit him. He has some decent coats, some truly natty hats (and one disgustingly ugly cap that I cannot wrest from his hands.) That's when he leaves the house. However, since we moved to the suburbs, he has left the house less regularly and has become increasingly athleisured, to the point where I want to throw out all polo shirts, sweatshirt type garments, sweatpant type garments and similar. He is even wearing this stuff to the grocery store and having kept my mouth firmly shut for several years I am about ready to scream.  :)  Laurie on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365513 Tue, 16 Jul 2024 20:12:54 +0000 Laurie 2365513@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Great topic! My husband is a sporty sort. Traditional dresser. On our first official date he showed up in khakis and a blue blazer. He enjoys wearing suits, though not much call for that any more. He's not confident about style, and completely defers to me. It's actually cute when he attempts an outfit - 75% of the time I send him back to his overly-stocked closet, with freshly pressed items. After 30 years of marriage, he knows that he should ask! We joke about sewing tags in, like Garanimals, so he can mix and match.  The biggest challenge for me is that he has lost a fair amount of weight - just getting smaller with age weight loss -over the last few years but insists on wearing his clothes way too big. I'm slowly disappearing things that don't fit, and making sure that he has replacements in the right size. (He sneaks up to our younger son's bedroom and gets things out of his drawers! They're 1+ sizes too big, always!) Older son is not interested in fashion. Younger son totally is, and he knows he wears things well. He doesn't want many things, especially since he lives on a boat, and spends a percentage of his work time in uniform, but he'll pay for interesting items he likes. I keep all my guys stocked in ON/Gap/BR-wear and gear, as the sales roll on. My husband is mostly very complimentary of what I wear, but when he occasionally expresses dislike for something - like wide-legged cropped pants/jeans - I know that it must not look very good on me, and take his opinion seriously. cat2 on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365499 Tue, 16 Jul 2024 17:46:47 +0000 cat2 2365499@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ What a fun topic. I buy my husband’s things. We tried some different style directions before we nailed down what he likes. Now, I keep the closet stocked, he is good about coming up with outfits, and if he notices a gap, or wears something out, he tells me. At Christmas I usually toss something fun under the tree from an Italian brand that looks great on him. The rest of the mix is more Americana. Angie on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365497 Tue, 16 Jul 2024 17:40:33 +0000 Angie 2365497@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ LOVE these stories! Fun read. Thanks for sharing,  April, you and Mr. April are YLF royalty - 16 years and counting  :) MsMary on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365491 Tue, 16 Jul 2024 17:03:51 +0000 MsMary 2365491@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ My husband is a (newly retired) lawyer, and when I met him he had a breathtaking wardrobe of custom made suits, shirts, and sportcoats so he was fine in the workwear department. Over our years together I think I've helped him up his casual game to match. One of the first things he did was to sign up for the late, lamented Trunk Club (Nordstrom's fashion-box personal shopping servic, alas now discontinued) and he still wears some of the things he got from them. One of the things he really enjoys is fun printed collared shirts, especially from the French company Coton Doux. (He's an avid cyclist, and one day we were walking down the street in Paris and saw a bicycle-print shirt, and that was the beginning of a great love affair!) In the summer he also likes to wear lightweight sportcoats in fun colors -- he has them in yellow, salmon, light blue, and white. When we retired last year we did a HUGE cleanout of his closet and got shifted things around so that the things he wears most are in the prime closet real estate, and that was a really good project.  JAileen on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365460 Tue, 16 Jul 2024 14:20:36 +0000 JAileen 2365460@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ My husband and I got married in the early 80s.  His work wardrobe consisted of mostly earth toned polyester.  I didn’t mind most of it, but the ties were especially awful.  The pictured tie is very similar to what he wore.  So when he wasn’t paying attention, I collected them all up in a grocery bag and hid them, and he was forced to buy new ties.  We went shopping and picked out a few ties that were acceptable to both of us.  As time went on, I gradually pointed him a direction toward better materials, and better colors.   Bijou on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365439 Tue, 16 Jul 2024 12:15:29 +0000 Bijou 2365439@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ April - such a fun topic! My husband and I have been visiting Japan on holidays on a regular basis for the last 20 years and that has informed his style choices. He buys most of his clothing online from Japan, mainly through second hand stores - Second Street in Japan is very reliable and appropriately grades and measure their merchandise. He is lucky that he slim and not too tall at 180cm. He knows most Japanese designers, their co-labs with different brands and the history of many Japanese street brands. Traveling to Tokyo with him is fun because he takes me to look at lots of small brands where the designer is often serving in store and we usually come back with a unique souvenir from our trip. My style has encouraged DH to be a bit more flamboyant and adventurous in his style. Consequently, he has some fabulous items from Japan with architectural details and amazing fabrics. DH's influence on me is to embrace street wear. My khaki overshirt is something that I own and wear that was influenced by DH. I mainly wear it belted and with dresses or skirts. A typical outfit is in Finds. Our son is bored by us and hates shopping. He wears Uniqlo basics in mono-chromatic colours and likes to maintain a minimal wardrobe with no branding or logos allowed. We figure this is his form of rebelling against his parents. We often watch You-Tube content from Japan. One of my favourites is Reggie Casual, a US expat who has a Japanese wife. He discusses all things related to Tokyo men's street style. Helena on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365435 Tue, 16 Jul 2024 12:07:27 +0000 Helena 2365435@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Aw I love this thread. April, I am so angry at whoever mocked Mr. As khakis, how dare they! I'm glad he took it in stride. My DH is not open to my input on his wardrobe it used to annoy me and now I don't mind; I just stopped trying to get him presents as he never wears them ... If it's not his idea, he doesn't want it *sigh* He dresses well though, and gets a read on what's current through the stylish men at his workplace (one evidently was/is an IG influencer on the side?) I don't know that he's influenced my style mich either! But he does encourage me to be a little less pragmatic sometimes and just get something because I enjoy it, so that's good! Tldr: when two stubborn people get married Janet on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365431 Tue, 16 Jul 2024 11:41:48 +0000 Janet 2365431@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ My husband Jamie actually really likes to shop, and has quite a good eye. He has become way more aware and interested in style in the 27 (!) years we have known each other. He is very tall and hard to fit straight off the rack. He had a number of shirts made for him by a custom designer in Portland many years ago, and a couple are still in the closet. But style has changed, and corporate work style has changed, and our lives have changed. So he’s slowly evolving his wardrobe to “retired but active” mode after having a very bifurcated life and wardrobe — shirts and khakis, plus nicer meeting clothes and sport jackets for his consulting company work, and tees and jeans and boots for cattle ranching. LOL Once or twice a year we go to NYC for some exploring and shopping. It’s easier to find stuff for him there. And he enjoys shopping for me too. I’ve shared many tips and ideas about fit and putting outfits together that I’ve learned here and through my interest in style. It’s been a fun journey with him! Dee on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365428 Tue, 16 Jul 2024 11:31:49 +0000 Dee 2365428@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ My husband is a retired pilot, so he always had a specific uniform to wear daily for work. However, when I first met him he almost always defaulted to wearing mostly browns and beiges for his causal wear. I grew up with a French dad who was quite fashionable and who enjoyed wearing some colour, so I thought it might be fun to add some colour to his wardrobe. He seemed pretty happy with the results  and for the most part he now relies on my choices for his clothing, although occasionally, left to his own devices he can get a little carried away with some of his own bold colour and pattern choices that don’t quite work with the rest of his wardrobe.  April on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365403 Tue, 16 Jul 2024 02:00:14 +0000 April 2365403@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Chapter Two: April Influences Mr. April Mr. A is a widower and he had often found himself wearing things his first wife bought that he didn't particularly care for, e.g. Cosby sweaters. Shortly after her death, he went to a company holiday party and a stylish friend mocked his pleated khakis. He immediately laid in a supply of all-season charcoal wool dress pants to replace the Connecticut khakis. (His job was in Manhattan, where they expect a bit more.) He's a uniform dresser: a tight palette of black, grays, and whites and a formula for most occasions. It works for him and I like it for him too. Now that he works from home he's far more casual. He also began working out in earnest and all the gray dress trousers were donated - too big. My goals for myself in his wardrobe journey were and are 1. not to inflict anything on him that he hates 2. to help him determine what he actually does like 3. to steer him gently from truly dreadful choices if he's going out. At home, I mind my own business. Once he figured out what he did like wearing, I helped him learn where those things could be acquired, often accompanied him there, and introduced him to concepts such as "all trousers need not have pleats and cuffs" and "a belt with jeans is 100% optional" and "other shoes exist besides black dress shoes, boat shoes, and sport sneakers." Lately, as I've mentioned elsewhere, Little Mr. A has been buying him wardrobe gifts and making recommendations. He's a cool dresser himself and has known Mr. A for many years so he knows what to recommend and when the comfort zone is best left alone. Mr. A trusts him implicitly on matters of what looks cool and trusts himself on whether it's comfortable. April on "Dressing one's partner (or vice versa): do you have a story?" https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dressing-ones-partner-or-vice-versa-do-you-have-a-story#post-2365402 Tue, 16 Jul 2024 01:19:44 +0000 April 2365402@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Ok, here's my story on Mr. A. First off, if you haven't been around YLF forever, Mr. A used to be known as "SO" (Significant Other) on this forum. He was very popular on YLF. My budget as a newly single working mom was extremely tight, but SO got sick of seeing me in my overalls, my one black skirt, my one pair of jeans, and a few tees so he gave me his credit card number for a clothing budget and said I should get what I needed as long as I modeled it for him. :) This started in 2005 but I didn't come to YLF until 2009. I was tired of making lots of wardobe mistakes (always buying on deep sale or secondhand) and somehow still could not get dressed for my professional job each morning, so I found YLF. That was Mr. A's influence on *my* wardrobe. I will do a second message on my influence on *his* wardrobe, lest this become a memoir. For fun, here are my first two leggings outfits, from summer 2009: <a rel="nofollow" href="https://i649.photobucket.com/albums/uu218/AprilYLF/Leggings/IMG_0303a.jpg">https://i649.photobucket.com/a....._0303a.jpg</a> <a rel="nofollow" href="https://i649.photobucket.com/albums/uu218/AprilYLF/Leggings/IMG_0304a-1.jpg">https://i649.photobucket.com/a.....304a-1.jpg</a>