https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9 Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 17 May 2026 10:56:10 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9/page/2#post-1940245 Sun, 22 Jul 2018 21:15:17 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 1940245@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Today learned that this must be intentional, at least sometimes. At Bahama Breeze, i saw three women in different parties wearing different versions of the basic idea: a floaty, printed, mesh-like overlay and lining about as long as a tunic. They had slits, so the back floated up to slightly above their knees in the breeze or when they walked. Looked perfectly normal &amp; pretty on two of them. I couldn’t tell exactly where the linings of their dresses ended. The third woman’s dress had a lot of black &amp; red in the overlay, with a black liner that ended just above the bottom curves of her buttcheeks. That was easily apparent, as her skin was a very different shade than the black thong she had on. </p> <p> No way do I think it was unintentional. It all matched far too well for that. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9/page/2#post-1939807 Sat, 21 Jul 2018 07:18:11 +0000 Mel 1939807@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, I guess what I would compare the no-undie situation to would be the no-bra situation. Some women feel comfortable without a bra, but it can be very uncomfortable for the people around them...<br /> My concern with bras and undies showing is that bras and undies have a pretty specific purpose, and since our thoughts are so associative, one image leads to another....so I'd rather not expose underclothing intentionally, and do all I can to prevent accidental exposure. And from what I've heard from my male friends, their thoughts are even more associative. Now, everyone is responsible for their own thoughts, but if I can "help" my friends focus on "me" and not something else while we have a conversation, I would be glad to do it. Clothing is also a language! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9/page/2#post-1939798 Sat, 21 Jul 2018 06:57:02 +0000 Mel 1939798@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for the fashion tape tip! I think I'll try it for my button down v necks: I usually close the gap with a safety pin so I'm not flashing cleavage, but the safety pins put a lot of holes in the fabric after a while. Maybe fashion tape will be gentler on the fabric. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9/page/2#post-1939526 Fri, 20 Jul 2018 19:38:22 +0000 Colette 1939526@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A bit of Fashion Tape will prevent your bra or bra straps from showing and wrap skirts and dresses from flying open. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9/page/2#post-1939466 Fri, 20 Jul 2018 18:07:03 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 1939466@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Once upon a time, we wore slips. They occasionally slipped down and were visible below the hem of a skirt. In those days, it was considered polite/helpful to quietly tell the wearer about it. That’s how I’d handle incidents like the work meeting. </p> <p>A secretary once told our boss that a reason she didn’t want to do things for me was that when I put my feet up to read while wearing a certain coulotte wrap-around thingy, it fell open and revealed my thigh. I told him and her what I said above, and requested quiet notification if something like that happened again, if there was a hole in my pants, etc. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9/page/2#post-1939421 Fri, 20 Jul 2018 16:39:08 +0000 elpgal 1939421@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This happens a lot! Too clingy, too short dresses and sleeveless tops where the sleeves are angled in are terrible to manage at work. I think most people are just oblivious. I am ok with knees, upper arms and collar bones but cleavage and upper thighs are too rad for my workplace.</p> <p>ETA: I am a big fan of fashion tape for slippery bra straps. I stick it to my skin and to the top. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9/page/2#post-1938670 Thu, 19 Jul 2018 00:25:34 +0000 Anonymous 1938670@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Mel</b>'s point about bra straps causes me some consternation. &nbsp;I personally <i><u>would prefer</u></i> to never show my bra straps in a work setting, but I lost some weight and the necklines of my tops now seem to slip around on my body. &nbsp;</p> <p>The bra straps are properly hidden when I face myself in the mirror every morning, but sometimes while slumped in a chair at the office, I'll notice my bra strap is showing. &nbsp;I have to assume this happens more often than I realize. &nbsp;</p> <p>I intend to replace all those tops ... in time. &nbsp;Not yet though, too expensive. &nbsp;I'm making due .... but I am taking notes about necklines. &nbsp;Although I adore boatnecks and U-shaped necklines, evidently they do not love me back. &nbsp;I have bought few new tops in 2018 because I am still trying to get a sense of what works for me right now. I am leaning heavily toward crewnecks and button downs. &nbsp;Weight loss has suddenly made button downs really desirable again. &nbsp;No gaps. &nbsp;They feel so right. &nbsp;</p> <p>Sigh. &nbsp;Visible bra straps are not my best look. &nbsp;</p> <p><b>Everyone</b> ... Make a point of reading <b>Janet</b>'s comment above. &nbsp;It made me smile on a pretty stress-ridden day. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9/page/2#post-1938660 Thu, 19 Jul 2018 00:14:09 +0000 Windchime 1938660@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I wonder if it’s a generational shift, STERLING. I was raised wearing slips under skirts and dresses. I think my mother would have died of shame before revealing the silhouette of her upper thighs under a skirt. I have the same self consciousness, but I see lots of young (20’s and 30’s) women wearing dresses and skirts obviously without slips. </p> <p>A couple weeks ago, I stopped for a red light downtown. Sitting in a very un-ladylike position on a bench was a middle-aged woman who was wearing a skirt and no underwear!!! I’m afraid that was more than a generational shift. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9/page/2#post-1938649 Wed, 18 Jul 2018 23:58:52 +0000 Sal 1938649@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am in two minds here - I do think it is inappropriate/not ideal to be flashing underwear in a work setting.&nbsp; Mostly from the perspective is that it makes it really uncomfortable for others - and is distracting in a very awkward way.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p>I also agree with Jenni that she may have been totally oblivious in an uncomfortable situation.&nbsp; I don't think there is that degree of understanding about "decorum" and boundaries are so vague now it can be hard to know.&nbsp;</p> <p>Aside - one of the most uncomfortable work situations I had to address was a complaint about BO - I handled it to the best of my ability (I was a temporary recruitment consultant- the employee was working for us at a client's site - they wanted to keep her but wanted me to address the issue).&nbsp; She asked to immediately leave the client and did not temp for us again.&nbsp; I was in my mid 20s at the time and now I wonder if I was naive to expect her to keep working with that client.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9/page/2#post-1938632 Wed, 18 Jul 2018 23:19:57 +0000 UmmLila (Lisa) 1938632@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This was a Miss Manners advice column topic recently. <a href="https://www.uexpress.com/miss-manners/2018/6/26/on-proper-sitting-posture" rel="nofollow">https://www.uexpress.com/miss-.....ng-posture</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9/page/2#post-1938622 Wed, 18 Jul 2018 22:49:26 +0000 Janet 1938622@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I dunno, to me bra straps are one thing (I caught my own strap slipping into view with the shirt I’m wearing today a few times) but visible underwear is a whole other thing. If my bra strap weren’t there, you’d see shoulder. But if that underwear weren’t there... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9/page/2#post-1938615 Wed, 18 Jul 2018 22:34:10 +0000 Jenn 1938615@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think many of us are so used to wearing jeans or trousers that we HAVE forgotten how to sit/move modestly in a dress. I usually wear slipshorts under mine to prevent chafing, but I guess they serve a dual purpose. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9#post-1938591 Wed, 18 Jul 2018 21:25:05 +0000 Mel 1938591@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I sometimes wonder if the women who flash underwear are really even concerned about it. The other day I was with several "modestly dressed" women and yet I could see the bras of nearly all of them: bra straps peeking out here and there, slightly sheer blouses with bras visible beneath, low-back dresses exposing bras, thin and clingy blouses showing clear outlines of bras, etc.<br /> Bra visibility has become so common that it doesn't surprise me that underwear could be next on the list. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9#post-1938574 Wed, 18 Jul 2018 20:20:50 +0000 Jenni NZ 1938574@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I actually feel sorry for the woman in the white dress. From what you say about her, I think it must have been a difficult meeting for her and that she would be horrified if she realised she was showing her white undies. But I may be projecting. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9#post-1938559 Wed, 18 Jul 2018 19:42:05 +0000 Janet 1938559@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I find myself sitting with my knees pressed together or my legs crossed even in midi or maxi lengths. But I also am careful to keep wrap skirts closed over my knees too. I think I have been aware of this ever since childhood, even though I don’t specifically remember being taught these things. My mom was quite modest. But even in the era of teeny micro mini skirts, when my sister was a teen, I don’t remember her sitting in a way that showed her underwear. So I think this is all due to how one sits. I just find it rather unbelievable that some people are so oblivious. (And that goes for the men who let their business air out in loose shorts too.) I have so much secondhand embarrassment in situations like that, I would be terribly distracted. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9#post-1938540 Wed, 18 Jul 2018 18:21:22 +0000 Echo 1938540@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I remember my mum instructing me over and over and over again to sit with my legs crossed and to always have my knees together when wearing a dress. I tell my daughter the same. Skirts or dresses with moderate volume and past the knee are a necessity for me now, as I often have to squat near a student to help with something. But what a shame that no one taught these women how to properly behave while wearing a skirt.</p> <p>And I agree that I would not say anything to them unless I were in a direct supervisory position. People do not react well to embarrassing situations, and will definitely "kill the messenger." </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9#post-1938530 Wed, 18 Jul 2018 17:40:03 +0000 delurked 1938530@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This only solidifies my decision toward longer skirts. It’s one thing to accidentally flash a peek wearing a short dress going out to the club (not that I’ve been to a club recently, but still ). It’s another to be in a work or casual situation and do this. Happy again I’ve been moving to longer skirts. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9#post-1938500 Wed, 18 Jul 2018 16:20:17 +0000 Joyce B 1938500@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sterling, I agree that it would be difficult to tell them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9#post-1938483 Wed, 18 Jul 2018 15:18:46 +0000 Toban 1938483@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yikes! That's bad form and hopefully unusual. I have never seen this at work, but if I did, I wouldn't hesitate to try to pull aside the individual for a private comment -- although I'd be mortified to both give and receive this comment, I feel letting it be unsaid is worse. I wear skirts and dresses at work all the time, often with slip shorts which gives even more modesty. Knees together or crossed when sitting. And work skirts no shorter than just above the knee. But don't let this make you hesitate to wear skirts and dresses to work -- the majority of us successfully and regularly wear them to work, modestly. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9#post-1938481 Wed, 18 Jul 2018 15:10:23 +0000 Anonymous 1938481@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Have you ever had the misfortune of seeing yourself sitting in the hairstylists's chair and facing a full-length mirror? &nbsp;Possible the single LEAST flattering sights ever. Cured me of the notion that sitting in a dress that doesn't cover your knees is ok. &nbsp;And who wears a skort to work? And to a professional meeting ? &nbsp;Yuck. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9#post-1938477 Wed, 18 Jul 2018 14:59:47 +0000 Anonymous 1938477@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><div>LOL- I hear comments all the time about man spread but agree that women have no longer been raised with the idea of "sitting like a lady".&nbsp; I think a lot of it has to do with poor posture caused by furniture (over stuffed with little support) and bad habit. Had to laugh at recent reports on news of MM (the new Dutchess of Sussex) being caught "correcting" her sitting posture.</div><div>I do agree that you would be doing these ladies a great service informing them that their posture is "revealing" only be prepared for them to "kill the messenger".</div><div>Oh- and don't let that stop you from wearing dresses.&nbsp; I live in them during summer and I do NOT flash the world. giggle.<br /></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9#post-1938458 Wed, 18 Jul 2018 14:14:40 +0000 Sisi 1938458@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you for the clarification, Sterling. Sitting with one's legs open?! At a meeting?! How weird.&nbsp;At the end of the meeting you could tell&nbsp;the lady, I could not help noticing what pretty panties you are wearing, do&nbsp;you mind to share&nbsp;the brand? Hee-hee. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9#post-1938456 Wed, 18 Jul 2018 14:10:26 +0000 texstyle 1938456@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, this is one of the primary reasons I hesitate to wear dresses! I used to see this all. the. time at work. And it drove me crazy too. I don't think it gained them any respect, that's for sure. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9#post-1938455 Wed, 18 Jul 2018 14:09:38 +0000 Colette 1938455@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh my. It sounds like the infamous scene from the movie Basic Instinct. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9#post-1938454 Wed, 18 Jul 2018 14:07:56 +0000 Bijou 1938454@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sterling, I do feel sorry for these women, as sometimes (as in the case of the woman in the white dress) I am sure she had no idea that she was flashing her underwear and would be mortified to know that.</p> <p>Grooming and deportment are important. My mother made me attend classes in my school holidays as a teen and I remember we were tested on getting in and out of cars and taught how to sit. Whilst it is probably very old fashioned, it is useful to know these techniques. We also learned about skincare and make-up, so I enjoyed attending the lessons. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9#post-1938451 Wed, 18 Jul 2018 13:50:38 +0000 Anonymous 1938451@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sterling, I am glad you brought this up. Are girls no longer taught to sit with knees together, feet flat on the floor? I had a public school teacher when I was 9-10 years old who would carry a long wooden ruler and whack girls on the legs who were not sitting properly. Boys with those loose shorts should learn this too. Too often I have had to see up a male's shorts like the Friend's episode, who was sitting across from me with legs crossed. Yuk. As you said, you are forced to see. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9#post-1938445 Wed, 18 Jul 2018 13:41:16 +0000 Becky 1938445@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ah, yes, I have experienced similar situations before. I hate being forced to see something I don't want to see. I find that it tends to make me more conscious of my own coverage level, so I guess that's one positive outcome . . . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9#post-1938435 Wed, 18 Jul 2018 13:20:11 +0000 Cardiff girl 1938435@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My daughter was telling me about a female teacher at her school,white dress,red thong,not very professional in my view . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9#post-1938432 Wed, 18 Jul 2018 13:18:05 +0000 krishnidoux 1938432@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Or maybe dresses are not cut as well as they used to? Maybe they're not intended for one to be actually doing things in them - for example, moving? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/dresses-9#post-1938430 Wed, 18 Jul 2018 13:16:24 +0000 Elizabeth P 1938430@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><div>I recently walked past a young lady/girl... it may even have been my DD's prom... wearing a beautiful dress (which is why I think it may have been prom, I just don't remember) and she was sitting on some steps, talking on her phone, legs wide open.&nbsp; Clear view up to her nether regions (yes, she was wearing underwear).&nbsp; I was gobsmacked... figured the legging generation has never learned to sit in a skirt.&nbsp; Obviously it's not just them...</div><div><br /></div><div>I will admit, when I'm at the cottage, wearing a running skirt/skort, I behave as if it's shorts and not a skirt.&nbsp; <br /></div><div><br /></div> </p>