https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 09 Apr 2026 16:14:10 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful/page/2#post-369154 Sat, 18 Jun 2011 17:26:34 +0000 Kyle 369154@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes-ish. Because I put too much focus on imperfections and beautiful might be too strong of a word to match how I feel about how I look. So often times yes, and sometimes no.</p> <p>But also, part of me says, "so what?" Who cares about exterior beauty if you are an empty shell of a human being? This is how I perceive certain celebrities, but I have no way of knowing who they really are. </p> <p>My mother used to tell me, "beauty is as beauty does." </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful/page/2#post-369115 Sat, 18 Jun 2011 16:01:43 +0000 Angie 369115@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Judy, Jean and San, I had to chime back in and say that I *always* enjoy your wisdom. I learn a lot from your approach and perspectives on life - for which I am grateful. Thank you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful/page/2#post-368908 Sat, 18 Jun 2011 06:40:13 +0000 san 368908@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>No, I do not think of myself as beautiful, at all, by the standards of classic physical beauty. However, that kind of classic physical beauty is not beautiful unless the heart is beautiful too. I've heard men say things like, so and so is drop dead gorgeous, or a stone cold fox. That is a scary description of beauty in our society. In my eyes, if the outside classic beauty is not matched with a heart of gold, the beauty turns to ugly.<br /> Beauty is making others feel beautiful about themselves. When it is turned the other way and someone goes into the narcissistic pool, to me it erases all of their physical beauty.<br /> I feel beautiful around people who are loving and caring and tender hearted. That is absolutely beautiful to me and I strive to be that, not saying I always achieve it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful/page/2#post-367996 Thu, 16 Jun 2011 16:49:52 +0000 greenglove 367996@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just last night in my figure drawing class we had a model that was what perhaps the objective standard of beauty would define as plain.</p> <p>She was pale, had a very pear shaped body with shortish large legs and a flat chest.</p> <p>She was radiant and beyond beautiful!! She was drawn by students getting accustomed to really seeing. The shapes, the softness of her skin, the regal posture were all extraordinary and I was honored to be in her presence. I would say that everyone in the room appreciated her beauty in a way that perhaps no one else has been able to. </p> <p>I resonate with what Angie said and hope that I can remember this while I am obsessing over the latest flaw I discover on my aging face or body. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful/page/2#post-367978 Thu, 16 Jun 2011 16:02:59 +0000 judy 367978@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I accidentally clicked on "body type" instead of" latest" and found this interesting older thread. I think Stacy and Clinton mean "Do you FEEL beautiful?". I am kind of amazed that some of you that I know are beautiful don't feel it! </p> <p>I agree with Angie, that it's an "In the eye of the beholder" situation. In the movie Bill Cunningham New York, about the street photographer for the NYTimes, he says: "He who seeks beauty shall find it". It made me tear up because it felt so profoundly true.</p> <p>Because beauty is everywhere. And the more beauty I behold and am witness to around me, I notice that I feel happier. It's not a positive thinking thing, more like a different way to experience the world around us. I end up actually FEELing beautiful. LIke looking with a kind lens rather than a critical mind. If I "think" about whether or not I am beautiful, I could talk myself right out of it. So I don't! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful/page/2#post-349190 Fri, 13 May 2011 17:49:26 +0000 Di 349190@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nope. But I have a great personality. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful/page/2#post-349095 Fri, 13 May 2011 15:06:40 +0000 Tessera 349095@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>"Feeling beautiful" and "thinking of oneself as beautiful" seem to me to be two different things. I don't think of myself as beautiful, and I'm perfectly okay with that. Classical physical beauty is (in my opinion) rare and tends to cause people to focus overly much on a person's exterior, to the extent that it often becomes a burden to the beautiful person. I would categorize myself (and virtually everyone here) as "attractive" (more so when I make an effort) and I consider this the best category to be in, as this is what I want people to experience when around me. When I have made an effort to look good, or gone out of my way to help someone, or when someone looks at me with love, I feel beautiful. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful/page/2#post-349060 Fri, 13 May 2011 14:06:45 +0000 Lavinia 349060@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't think of myself as beautiful in terms of my appearance. Although, sometimes when I'm wearing make-up I think of myself as pretty. I also don't think others see me as beautiful (perhaps my BF) due to of my child-like features and petite frame (I'm almost 28 but people assume I'm 16), I think they see me as "cute" or "adorable". </p> <p>However, I do think I am beautiful on the inside </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful/page/2#post-349057 Fri, 13 May 2011 13:56:54 +0000 Cilleena 349057@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>No. Not beautiful. I think that when I put all my make up on, I am "pretty", but not beautiful. Without my make-up on, I am really rather plain looking. I think beautiful implies either a single very attractive, striking feature, or a collection of attractive features. I don't really have either. I am average looking bordering on pretty with my make-up. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful/page/2#post-341314 Fri, 29 Apr 2011 13:33:56 +0000 Barbara 341314@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sometimes! </p> <p>I was a skinny, awkward kid and not very comfortable with myself. As a teen, I did some local modeling, but I still didn't think I was beautiful, although I have always been very confident and positive with my INNER self. </p> <p>Both my hairstylist and husband tell me I'm beautiful, but I don't think of myself as drop-dead gorgeous, just happy, fun and somewhat attractive - on a good day!</p> <p>At 56, I think I look pretty good, but if hubby wants to keep calling me beautiful, he certainly can! Beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful/page/2#post-340814 Thu, 28 Apr 2011 15:57:21 +0000 AGirlWithStyle 340814@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am neither beautiful nor ugly. I am attractive. I have plenty of imperfections, but I'm not a troll. I think very few people are truly beautiful. If you think about it, very few celebrities are truly beautiful. Some clearly are, but if you look at Julia Roberts or Jennifer Aniston, or Reese Witherspoon, for example, they aren't beautiful per se. They are very attractive however and over time, we come to think of them as beautiful. Beauty and attractiveness is closely linked to how you carry yourself and dress yourself. If you look like you care and project confidence, then you can be attractive. My looks are also unusual - I have an olive skin tone (unfortunately, I only have a so so complexion) and very curly hair, neither of which is classically beautiful. So, some people may think I am pretty (or perhaps beautiful) but I don't really have a look that is universally accepted as beautiful. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful/page/2#post-340694 Thu, 28 Apr 2011 13:34:28 +0000 AlexSue 340694@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think there is a difference between subjective beauty ("in the eyes of the beholder") and "objective" beauty (as defined by western standards of beauty). Risking sounding arrogant, I do consider myself to be objectively beautiful (long hair, clear skin, slim toned body, symmetrical features, etc...), but I'm certainly not universally subjectively beautiful (as some people prefer blondes or tan skin or height, etc...). However, I'm only 19, and I think most girls my age do consider themselves beautiful - after the puberty awkwardness and before our bodies start going through the process of aging (not that one shouldn't feel beautiful before or after, it's just that the late teens/twenties seem to be the "ideal" physical age according to the media). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful/page/2#post-332179 Thu, 14 Apr 2011 14:34:05 +0000 rae 332179@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am really surprised at the amount of 'no' answers! From gorgeous laides! I agree with shabbychick: I think I must be beautiful, because people tell me I am. If nothing else, the fact that my mate thinks I'm beautiful means that I'm beautiful. I take the compliments when I can and run with 'em! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful/page/2#post-332134 Thu, 14 Apr 2011 12:25:37 +0000 Anonymous 332134@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think I am because I've heard it a lot from others, but I didn't always think so! I used to hate my freckles and pale white skin (pale as in Nicole Kidman). People tell me that I have a great smile (my teeth are naturally very white) and that I have beautiful eyes (a unique shade of blue-green). I've never cared for my profile, but recently I heard that it's one of the things people envy most about me...go figure! I must add, though, that a lot of beauty really does come from the inside. I may think someone is beautiful initially, but if they are a jerk upon getting to know them, that makes them ugly to me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful/page/2#post-329746 Mon, 11 Apr 2011 00:28:11 +0000 Aziraphale 329746@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh dear. What a loaded question. If you say yes, you sound vain, which is not a character trait anyone aspires to! But one the other hand, you've got to admire a woman who is confident enough that she could describe herself as beautiful.</p> <p>Beauty is a funny thing, because, as I'm sure others have said, it is somewhat subjective. There are some basic beauty standards that appear to be universal, however; for example, facial symmetry is appealing to everyone. Women tend to have proportionally smaller noses and jaws than men, and proportionally bigger eyes; these features work to make a woman's face more attractive, as long as it is not taken to the extreme (i.e. bug eyes and a receding chin). I suppose, if pressed, I would say that while I am not exactly beautiful, most of the time I feel quite pretty. "Cute" is probably the best word. For what it's worth, I'm happy with what I look like. And as we all know, the beauty on the outside is much less important than the beauty within -- and of that, I am no judge. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful/page/2#post-329720 Sun, 10 Apr 2011 23:43:32 +0000 Queen Mum 329720@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't know that I *consider* myself beautiful as much as I *feel* beautiful when I've got my hair, make-up and attire ducks all in a row. Having said that though, I believe that beautiful encompasses more than outer appearance... pretty would be the term I would use to describe visual beauty.<br /> So, when I'm b****ing at my kids, gossiping with friends, nagging my husband, or exhibiting other such unattractive behaviors, I might be looking nice, but I don't feel very beautiful.<br /> Often, a woman becomes more beautiful to me as I get to know her better. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful/page/2#post-329701 Sun, 10 Apr 2011 22:15:17 +0000 Heather 329701@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It is totally relative and in the eye of the beholder. Characteristics of beauty to one person may be repulsive to another.</p> <p>My husband thinks I am beautiful and (for me) that is all that matters. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful/page/2#post-329694 Sun, 10 Apr 2011 22:06:59 +0000 Jenava 329694@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, I think I am beautiful. Like Maya, I think makeup makes a huge difference for me! I don't really think of beautiful as a competition, although there probably is a scale for me of beauty. I wouldn't say I'm on the way far beauuuuuuutiful end of beautiful, but I like the way I look. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful/page/2#post-329690 Sun, 10 Apr 2011 22:00:38 +0000 Anonymous 329690@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Beautiful? No </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful/page/2#post-329680 Sun, 10 Apr 2011 21:46:53 +0000 Katja 329680@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>No.</p> <p>I think the whole inner beauty concept has great merit, but I interpret the original question as using the word "beautiful" in its orthodox, external sense (as both <strong>elpgal</strong> and <strong>Angie</strong> alluded to it).</p> <p>In that sense, I'm pretty sure I'm not beautiful, but at the same time I'm fairly sure that I'm interesting and charismatic, and so my sense of not being beautiful doesn't hold me back in relating to other people.</p> <p>Thanks, <strong>rhubarbgirl</strong>, for a thought-provoking question. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful#post-329665 Sun, 10 Apr 2011 21:39:37 +0000 NancyT 329665@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>No. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful#post-329662 Sun, 10 Apr 2011 21:36:08 +0000 Kristine 329662@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, I feel beautiful. I was a bit of an ugly duckling in my teens, so it was an evolution to feel at ease with how I look. There are some mornings I wake up with bags under my eyes and my face might not look particularly good, but I still think I'm beautiful. Beauty can be so many things- an easy smile, a generous nature, a gleam in your eye, confidence even with your flaws. It can also be more physical- emphasizing your good features while not worrying about the rest. Hopefully everyone can see themselves as beautiful, whatever that means to them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful#post-329596 Sun, 10 Apr 2011 19:05:54 +0000 catgirl 329596@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow. This is a very complex and loaded question for me. My first reaction was a resounding "NO". So I thought about it more, and realized I feel there are at least two sides to the word beautiful, including both Laura and Angie's definitions. </p> <p>I have NEVER felt beautiful objectively, in the sense of being told I was beautiful or meeting the typical standard for beauty where I grew up in the minority. Tall, thin, blonde, blue-eyed, leggy - nope. In fact, I was always and openly told I was the smart one and my sister was the pretty one - not by my parents but by other family and acquaintances. Damaging to both of us, no doubt, especially because my sister is super-smart. Luckily the two of us supported each other instead of becoming rivals as we might have. Think "My Big Fat Greek Wedding" - the main character very much resonated with me. At the same time, I'm glad I couldn't rely on being pretty to get me by in life, as I think some (NOT ALL) people do.</p> <p>Also, at least in my extended family and in the experience of my Indian girlfriends, ideal beauty tends to be parsed in very objective terms: a certain skin tone, a particular face shape or nose or body. You either have those features or you don't, and you're not supposed to feel bad about it. </p> <p>If I put all those angst-filled complexities aside, I would say I feel beautiful and think of myself that way when I am exercising, being a mom, or with my husband who absolutely adores me. And I would also add that as I've gotten older and started caring less whether I will ever turn heads, I feel better about myself than I ever did.</p> <p>I ALWAYS make it a point to tell someone when I think they look nice, especially my friends' teenage daughters, only because I know that no matter how shallow it may be, it hurts to feel ugly all the time. But I also think it's important to balance that with the recognition of other qualities, like intelligence, grace, integrity, humor, and strength of character, which ultimately bring peace and happiness to the soul. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful#post-329579 Sun, 10 Apr 2011 18:43:24 +0000 Kate 329579@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>YES! And I think that every single woman on YLF is beautiful too! Since finding YLF I have gained so much confidence in my body and a much more realistic self-image. </p> <p>I highly recommend watching some episodes of How to Look Good Naked: <a href="http://www.mylifetime.com/shows/how-to-look-good-naked/video/" rel="nofollow">http://www.mylifetime.com/show.....ked/video/</a> It's so reaffirming of so many different women and their bodies, and has some great advice mixed in. Life is too short for so many of us to not feel beautiful!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful#post-329558 Sun, 10 Apr 2011 18:16:38 +0000 biscuitsmom 329558@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Never have....in fact, the YLF Birthday greeting was the 1st photo Ive had taken since my wedding nearly 5 yrs ago (and yes, I felt ugly in them too) Years ago, when I was about 50 lbs lighter I felt 'attractive' but kidney and thyroid problems soon put a end to that. DH tells me I am, calls me 'lovely' but Ive never believed it.... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful#post-329554 Sun, 10 Apr 2011 18:07:37 +0000 marianna 329554@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is a hard one for me to answer and makes me uncomfortable to think about. I have low self confidence and I don't necessarily feel beautiful. But... I often receive comments on my appearance... I hear that I am "pretty." I don't feel it but other people see it. So... I suppose I know that I have good facial features but I don't feel beautiful. Yikes! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful#post-329546 Sun, 10 Apr 2011 17:54:01 +0000 Louise 329546@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've been chewing this one over all day! I do think beauty is in the eye of the beholder and most of what we think of ourselves is down to self esteem. I'm happy to say I like what I see when I look in the mirror nowadays thanks to YLF x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful#post-329535 Sun, 10 Apr 2011 17:37:10 +0000 Ornella 329535@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Such a loaded word, as Maya said, and therefore prone to as many interpretations as there are people who'll try to answer this.</p> <p>My answer to the question - YES.</p> <p>This may also have a lot to do with how we use the language. And English is not my first, so I may be wrong. But, here is the breakdown.</p> <p>For physical appearance that is very eye-pleasing I use the words - gorgeous or stunning. To me, these terms sound rather flat, but just right for when I need to use them, as I comment on the physical aspect only. Pretty is also a nice term and gentler, with a bit more character. I am not artistically-literate and have no idea how to interpret face or body proportions in terms of how perfect they are. But I know when my eye doesn't need adjusting to the object and when things look just as they should. I find slight imperfections particularly intriguing as they almost always seem to add another layer to the physical beauty of the person. </p> <p>Beautiful to me is a richer word, reflects the right balance of physical appearance and personality which, when it comes to others, I "read" instinctively, less with my eyes, more with my gut. As the years go buy, personality is becoming the bigger contributor to what constitutes beautiful. Confident (not arrogant) people attract me, people who seem happy in their own skin intrigue me, people who are not falsely modest and are aware of their qualities are my true role models. They are all beautiful <strong>to me</strong>. I very rarely associate this term with physical appearance only. And when I feel that balance within myself, I feel beautiful. When I feel beautiful, I can look gorgeous. There's very slim chance of it working the other way around. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful#post-329514 Sun, 10 Apr 2011 17:00:08 +0000 Mac 329514@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I feel like I have a beautiful heart and mind... but my outsides, not so much, and that's okay. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/do-you-think-of-yourself-as-beautiful#post-329502 Sun, 10 Apr 2011 16:22:40 +0000 dottie 329502@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Beautiful is very subjective. It's a concept and a feeling when it comes to looks. For me, this question has two distinct parts - 'do you feel beautiful' and 'do you look beautiful'? Do I feel beautiful? yes, when I'm helping someone or feeling appreciated, when I witness something beautiful in nature, animals or children - that somehow transfers to me and I feel beautiful too. Do I look beautiful? some days. Do I think of myself as beautiful? I have a good spirit, I'm kind to others, so I guess generally for those reasons, yes. </p>